Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Chuck O'Neal, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Evangelism

Is this normal?

I've been out of commission a bit this week, having out-of-town visitors, and a quick trip to Portland for a wedding. I had to drive down Walker Road a few minutes ago to pick up my son, and drove by my old church, Beaverton Grace Bible Church. As I drove by the church, I  noticed… Continue reading Is this normal?

ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Christian Love, Compassion in Action, Emotional Responses, Leaving the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

The Gift of Standing in the Trenches with a Survivor

  https://youtu.be/UIt3dx4an9c   *** “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” ― David Augsburger The other day, a spiritual abuse survivor and friend I met last year in Moscow, Idaho, posted the following quote by Dr. Diane Langberg on her Facebook wall. Please read it… Continue reading The Gift of Standing in the Trenches with a Survivor

Calvinism, Doctrine as Idol, Kevin DeYoung, Uncategorized, Voddie Baucham

So, We’re Collecting Money for a New Documentary to Promote a Specific Doctrine?

*** A blog reader alerted me to a kickstarter, or fundraising effort. Les Lanphere created the kickstarter to raise money for a new documentary on Calvinism called, Calvinist. Les Lanphere describes himself as, "a film maker who has worked in a variety of areas in production and post production on films like Transformers 3, The Smurfs,… Continue reading So, We’re Collecting Money for a New Documentary to Promote a Specific Doctrine?

Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Chuck O'Neal, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Pro-Life Movement, Spiritual Bullies, Street Evangelism

Pastor Chuck O’Neal Badgers and Berates an Abortion Clinic Escort about His Manhood

Pastor Chuck O'Neal, Manhood, Street Evangelism, Abortion, Bully, Spiritual Abuse, Beaverton Grace Bible Church   Someone alerted me to the following video just yesterday. Last month, Pastor Chuck O'Neal of Beaverton Grace Bible Church went to the Lovejoy Surgicenter in Portland, Oregon. O'Neal and members from his church are frequent visitors outside the clinic "evangelizing."… Continue reading Pastor Chuck O’Neal Badgers and Berates an Abortion Clinic Escort about His Manhood

Clergy Sex Abuse, Divorce, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Tullian Tchividjian

Tullian Tchividjian and Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church Discussion: “He demanded that people be loyal to him.”

Pastor Tullian Tchividjian, Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church, Willow Creek, Liberate Network, Clergy Sex Abuse, Spiritual Abuse, Repentance, Grace     Hey friends (and welcome to new readers), I am going to do something a little bit different. I suspect many are chomping at the bit to discuss the situation regarding Tullian Tchividjian, so I am… Continue reading Tullian Tchividjian and Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church Discussion: “He demanded that people be loyal to him.”

Doctrine as Idol, Leaving the Church, Spiritual Abuse

New commenter: having difficulty with religious “systems” and wants advice

*** A first-time commenter left a great comment that I'd like to open up for discussion: Hi everyone This is my first time posting on this site and I apologize in advance for its being off topic. I could use some help from some of you who have been through what I’m going through right… Continue reading New commenter: having difficulty with religious “systems” and wants advice

Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Mental Health and the Church, Narcissistic Pastors, Saeed Abedini, Women and the Church

Pastor Saeed Abedini Unwilling to Seek Abuse Counseling

Naghmeh Abedini, statement, Pastor Saeed Abedini, Domestic Violence, Counseling   A short while ago, Naghmeh released a public statement on her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/NaghmehAbedini/posts/10153907080785767 IMPORTANT UPDATE: Dearest friends and prayer warriors, Many of you have been concerned about and have asked about updates on Saeed and our situation. At this point Saeed has not been… Continue reading Pastor Saeed Abedini Unwilling to Seek Abuse Counseling

Christian Marriage, It's All About the Image, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Tullian Tchividjian

Tullian Tchividjian is Back, Fully Endorsed by His Pastor, Kevin Labby

Tullian Tchividjian, Pastor Kevin Labby, Liberate Network, Repentance, Clergy Sex Abuse, Restoration *** The word of the Lord came to me: 2 “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy and say to them: ‘This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Woe to you shepherds of Israel who only take care of yourselves! Should… Continue reading Tullian Tchividjian is Back, Fully Endorsed by His Pastor, Kevin Labby

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, Feminist Agenda, It's All About the Image, Legalism, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence is NOT a Marriage Issue, but an Abuse Issue

Domestic Violence, Naghmeh and Saeed Abedini, Divorce, Marriage, Abuse, Church Response to Abuse   Earlier today, I participated in a discussion at  SharperIron.org. The discussion is about Saeed and Naghmeh Abedini and domestic violence. A commenter, dmyers, is having trouble with Naghmeh's earlier statements, challenging her claims of abuse, etc. I have an assignment due in… Continue reading Domestic Violence is NOT a Marriage Issue, but an Abuse Issue

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE, C.J. Mahaney, Failure to Report Crimes, Mandatory Reporting, Narcissistic Pastors, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Together for the Gospel

Attorney Plans to File Another Sex Abuse Lawsuit against CJ Mahaney and Sovereign Grace Ministries

C.J. Mahaney, Sex Abuse, Failure to Report, Statute of Limitations, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Lawsuit, Pedophiles, T4G       The Washingtonian released a new article after spending many months investigating Sovereign Grace Ministries, CJ Mahaney, and the many cases of alleged sex abuse named in the lawsuit brought on by victims (named and anonymous). The… Continue reading Attorney Plans to File Another Sex Abuse Lawsuit against CJ Mahaney and Sovereign Grace Ministries

Authoritative Preaching, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, BGBC Lawsuit, Chuck O'Neal, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Legalism, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD, SURVIVOR STORIES

The Fallout of Spiritual Abuse on Our Children

Children Harmed by Spiritual Abuse   Yesterday, I was talking with my programming language tutor and mentioned that I had a blog. He asked what my blog was about and I told him the long story. He was absolutely dumbfounded by what he was hearing and kept shaking his head, not wanting to believe it, even… Continue reading The Fallout of Spiritual Abuse on Our Children

Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, It's All About the Image, Marriage, Women and the Church

Saeed and Naghmeh Abedini — Two Kinds of Violence, Both Still a Prison

Pastor Saeed Abedini, #FreeSaeed, Released from Prison, Domestic Violence, Naghmeh   It has been reported by the wife of Pastor Saeed Abedini and in many news sources that Pastor Saeed has been released from Iranian prison. Many Christians have been faithfully praying for Pastor Saeed's release, some even changing their Facebook profile pictures on Wednesdays to… Continue reading Saeed and Naghmeh Abedini — Two Kinds of Violence, Both Still a Prison

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Bill Gothard, Failure to Report Crimes, IBLP and ATI, LAWSUITS, Mental Health and the Church, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

While the Board of Bill Gothard’s Former Ministry, IBLP, Claims Judge Dismissed Lawsuit, Attorney for Plaintiffs Says Four New Plaintiffs Have Come Forward

Bill Gothard, Sexual Grooming, Lawsuit, IBLP Board, 4 New Plaintiffs, Lawsuit Not Dismissed   It's been a while since we've had an update on the lawsuit brought on by former volunteers/workers at Bill Gothard's former ministry who were allegedly sexually groomed by Bill Gothard. In November, Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) published a statement regarding the lawsuit… Continue reading While the Board of Bill Gothard’s Former Ministry, IBLP, Claims Judge Dismissed Lawsuit, Attorney for Plaintiffs Says Four New Plaintiffs Have Come Forward

Church Bandwagon

Wheaton College Professor Larycia Hawkins: Standing in Religious Solidarity with Muslims?

  I am pleased to offer this article by Brenda Campbell, who blogs at A Solitary Journey. Brenda, a Wheaton College alum, wanted to share her thoughts on the recent news of Wheaton's Professor Larycia Hawkins being placed on administrative leave due to her remarks about "religious solidarity with Muslims." These words have left a… Continue reading Wheaton College Professor Larycia Hawkins: Standing in Religious Solidarity with Muslims?

ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Leaving the Church, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Recovery Process, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies

Four Primary Conditions that Result in People Leaving Abusive Churches and Cults

Spiritual Abuse: Leaving Abusive Cults and High-Controlling Churches   I have been very moved by many of your stories of abuse in the recent article, Spiritual Abuse: What Was the Last Straw That Caused You to Leave Your Abusive Church? Spiritual abuse is obviously not isolated. It's happening all over and crosses denominational lines. Several people have said… Continue reading Four Primary Conditions that Result in People Leaving Abusive Churches and Cults

Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, J.D. Hall, Narcissistic Pastors, Phil Johnson, Spiritual Bullies, Troubling Tweets, Voddie Baucham

J.D. Hall Has Not Learned His Lesson on Twitter: Bully Behavior

JD Hall and his Bully Behavior on Twitter   It seems Jordan (JD) Hall is showing his true colors today. He got all worked up after someone appropriately gave him some corrective criticism. Apparently, from the Twitter conversation that I read, JD Hall did not clearly cite an author's works on his recent blog article .… Continue reading J.D. Hall Has Not Learned His Lesson on Twitter: Bully Behavior

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Calvary Chapel Lawsuit, Doug Wilson, Failure to Report Crimes, Mandatory Reporting, Mental Health and the Church, Misuse of Scripture, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Narcissistic Pastors, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Bullies, Statute of Limitations, Word of Faith Movement

A Spotlight on Abuse and Death of VCY America Founder Vic Eliason

  *** Here are some interesting articles that have been making the rounds: If you have not seen Spotlight, I urge you to see it. It is about "Spotlight" a specific group of investigative reporters from the Boston Globe who uncovered the systemic sex abuse and cover-up in the Catholic Church. This movie is very… Continue reading A Spotlight on Abuse and Death of VCY America Founder Vic Eliason

ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE, Authoritative Preaching, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Chuck O'Neal, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Leaving the Church, Legalism, Meetings with the Pastor, Misuse of Scripture, Narcissistic Pastors, Personal Stories, Spiritual Bullies, SURVIVOR STORIES

Spiritual Abuse: What Was the Last Straw That Caused You to Leave Your Abusive Church?

Spiritual Abuse - What finally made you realize you had to leave your church? *** *** I had already told my husband that I had to leave BGBC, with or without him, but I was hoping that he would come to the same conclusion without my influence. That finally happened after our close friend who was… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: What Was the Last Straw That Caused You to Leave Your Abusive Church?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Church Bandwagon, Dr. Albert Mohler, Failure to Report Crimes, It's All About the Image, Kevin DeYoung, Mandatory Reporting, Mark Dever, Misuse of Scripture, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Shunning, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Statute of Limitations, The Gospel Coalition, Together for the Gospel

After The Gospel Coalition Staunchly Defended CJ Mahaney in Sovereign Grace Ministries Sex Abuse Scandal, They Now Promote the Movie Spotlight (Sex Abuse Coverup)

The Gospel Coalition (TGC), Sovereign Grace Ministries Sex Abuse Scandal, CJ Mahaney, Spotlight Movie   If you haven't seen the movie, Spotlight, it is a must-see, and I will likely be posting some of my thoughts on the movie in the upcoming weeks after more people have a chance to see it. However . .… Continue reading After The Gospel Coalition Staunchly Defended CJ Mahaney in Sovereign Grace Ministries Sex Abuse Scandal, They Now Promote the Movie Spotlight (Sex Abuse Coverup)

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Discussion: Thoughts on Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual Abuse, Church, Understanding "You have not strengthened the weak or healed the sick or bound up the injured. You have not brought back the strays or searched for the lost. You have ruled them harshly and brutally." Ezekiel 34:4   I was thinking last night about spiritual abuse. Do you think we are making any… Continue reading Discussion: Thoughts on Spiritual Abuse