Need to talk now? Safe Sharing Spot

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9 comments on “Need to talk now? Safe Sharing Spot

  1. I’m kind of obsessed with The Keepers at the moment, and reading many articles on it and this article brought some things up for me that I’ve always wondered about related to being a child of a mother who was abused. My experience is different from the one expressed, but that’s not something I think I’ve seen many articles or studies about. How that affects a relationship between particularly mother and daughter.

    http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/opinion/oped/bs-ed-keepers-children-20170527-story.html

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  2. Lea, I just started watching the series and finished the 3rd episode last night. It is heart-wrenching to watch. – unbelievable abuse that is difficult to even imagine.

    I think the key to the relationship with abused parent and child is, where is the parent now? Have they dealt with the issues resulting from the abuse? Have they been to therapy?

    In the movie, it seems that Jean was able to compartmentalize the abuse as she raised her children, and then once confronted with it, was pretty much forced to deal with it.

    I’ve read before that if you are abused, your life can get stuck emotionally. Many people today are functioning adults, but when it comes to vulnerability, intimacy (both sexually and relationally), there are holes – they are broken, until they are able to put the pieces together again. This would obviously have an affect on children and they will have difficulty sharing with others on that kind of level if they are not seeing it modeled from their parent.

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  3. Lea, I just started watching the series and finished the 3rd episode last night. It is heart-wrenching to watch. – unbelievable abuse that is difficult to even imagine.

    So many parallels with spotlight and things discussed here! Awful, but in a now sadly familiar way. I have some thoughts about later in the series but I won’t comment now.

    they are broken, until they are able to put the pieces together again

    But even with a lot of healing, maybe the pieces never fit exactly. There are just a lot of things I wonder about now that I didn’t really as a kid.

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  4. I’ve just finished episode 4 of The Keepers. What struck me at the end was just how long it’s taken for this story to finally be told. Decades. I think there are multiple reasons for this beyond the intimidation of the Church’s authority and power. But one of the women said something about people finally beginning to process this in their 40s and 50s now that they’re parents and even grandparents. It struck a chord with me, since I only really began to delve into my own dysfunctional family dynamics (not sexual abuse, but physical and emotional) since my 40s. The Statute of Limitations for sexual abuse really needs to be revisited in many states. I mean, just as the SGM lawsuit was dismissed on a technicality, so was Jane Roe’s and Jane Doe’s lawsuit. The parallel was glaring.

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  5. BTDT, yes, the statute of limitations is definitely problematic. I knew about my own child abuse all along, but I didn’t see the full impact of it until my daughter was about the same age I was (this was about 30 years ago). So, I can see how awareness about one’s abuse can take a while for a survivor.

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  6. Julie Anne, I hate to pry but did your kids know as a kid about the abuse?

    My mom talked about hers when I was a kid, so I knew, but we have never discussed it as an adult, so I think I’m sort of hazy on what actually happened.

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  7. Thanks.

    BTDT, I agree about the SoLs but knowing this, I wonder why they didn’t search for other victims who might still be within the legal time frame when Maskell was still living. It seems like they only focused on their school.

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