I love reading your comments – they are the life of the blog. From time to time, I have been asked to remove a comment a reader regrets posting. The general policy is once a comment is published, it will not be removed – especially if it is part of a conversation in which others are responding. If the decision is made to remove a comment, that does not guarantee that the comment will disappear from the internet record (via screenshot, etc). If a comment is removed, I will indicate that it is removed at the same comment site.
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Q: Why do you allow people to come to your blog who act like my former abuser to engage in the discussion? Is this a safe place or not?
A: That is such a good question! A Mom responded in a great comment and I think I will let her speak for me:
There are many who have been deeply wounded and scarred by similar words and beliefs from fellow Christian brothers and sisters, like B4B. They are looking for answers, does the Bible really say that? They are looking for healing, & may be having a hard time finding it. They need to be loved.
While B4B’s words may hurt, it is very important to hear them. I would dare say, even in their unedited, unmoderated tone. Why?
Well, sitting around preaching to the choir is no good. This internet blog environment is a great medium to engage in discussion with people like B4B. And it’s important for those that have been wounded to be able to safely observe and heal. They need to know God’s will is that they are not to suffer alone but to have an abundant life. They are not stepchildren in the kingdom of God. It also strengthens my own faith.
This forum gives dear, precious people an opportunity to see that, while these types of damaging views may never go away, there are other Christian brothers & sisters who will stand up and say these view are damaging. We care. Because we believe what the whole counsel of the Bible says. By speaking up, and against these hurtful views, we defend the hurting. They may have experienced ambiguity, contradictions, unfair expectations. They may feel confused. They need us to be clear on where we stand. They are the ones I have in mind when I comment & I wish I could do better.
This forum is safe. Discussions are not face to face (which may be too painful) but at a safe distance. These discussions may help restore faith. They may long for another Christian to understand or accept them and are able to find that here. They watch and see and learn how to speak up and defend themselves. And learn what the Bible actually has to say. There are many wise, knowledgeable commenters here that understand the Bible quite well. Praise God.
I haven’t seen another blog like it. That’s a credit to Julie Anne & the commenters here.