Wives, please don't hold on to the destructive teaching that God has a purpose and plan for abuse that happens to you.
Category: Christian Marriage
Blaming Abuse on Satan is Not Enough
It's time for Focus on the Family to start acknowledging abuse happens in Christian marriages.
Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Sixteen – Watch Your Words
This chapter is full of conflicting important points and is a reminder that verbal and emotional abuse is not appropriate.
Can a Spouse Love God, and at the Same Time Choose to Not Love Their Wife?
Just because a husband loves God does not mean he will pass on that love to his wife. And, if a couple does not believe in God, that does not mean they will have a loveless marriage.
Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Fifteen – One Long, Unmotivating List
In this chapter, the author provides a list of ways wives are motivated to honor Christ in submission to their husbands. I'm motivated to cut out as much from the list as possible. ~Kathi
Guest Post from Sheila Gregoire: Sex and Marriage
And a few months ago I had a revelation. All of these same problems keep cropping up, over and over again. Being a church-going Christian does not keep people from having sex problems in their marriage.
Domestic Violence Survivor Responds to Wayne Grudem's Change of Opinion on "Allowing" Divorce for Abuse in Marriage
Next time you meet a divorced survivor, look in her eyes with kindness and ask yourself how bad it had to be to risk all she did.
Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Fourteen – A Wife's Orderly Way to Respond to Her Husband's Evil Responses
How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Thirteen – Submission Provides Protection?
It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Twelve – Setting the Stage for Submission
This book has already focused so much on submission, but for some reason Peace has at least two more chapters left on this topic. It makes me wonder if she is trying to convince herself that her theology is that good by saying it over and over and over.
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Eleven – Mutual Sex or Sex on Demand?
In so many of the godly wife books we see that the wife's duty is to provide sex for her husband whenever he wants it. At least she identifies that a wife has a desire and need for sex.
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Ten – R.E.S.P.E.C.T., Find Out What it Means to MP
Peace likens the wife's position to her husband as a soldier to his superior officer, which leads to the biggest problem I have with this chapter: the husband being viewed as the position of authority and the wife respecting her husband because of that position.
SGM Survivor Speaks Out about Josh Harris
I can't imagine the level of psychological trauma, pain & horror as Joshua (and Shannon) began to discover a lot of their framework for their life was built on religion & false fears & manipulated, pseudo acts of "love."
My Thoughts on Josh Harris as a “Fallen Christian”
"Many people tell me that there is a different way to practice faith and I want to remain open to this, but I’m not there now."
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Nine – Putting on Love
A Christian wife should not be led to believe that she is undeserving of living in a healthy, harm-free relationship.
My Thoughts: Josh Harris (I Kissed Dating Good-bye) and His Wife, Shannon, Announce Marital Separation
But it makes me once again question those ideologies that led up to this point. It makes me think about spiritual abuse. It makes me think about Patriarchy. What significant changes were made in their journey? What ideologies did each one keep, and each one ditch?
Hey, Who Stuck the Header Between Ephesians 5 Verse 21 and Verse 22? That Shouldn’t be There!!
One of the key passages used to justify male hierarchy is Eph 5:22 (to the neglect of 5:21 which ironically states that we are to submit to each other!!). Which one is it?? Women submit to men, or we all submit to each other? Why is this so confusing?
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Eight – Home: The Major Biblical Emphasis of the Wife
If the "major biblical emphasis" of a wife's ministry is to be the keeper of the home, I would think that it would be discussed more in the Bible.
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Seven – False Idols and Faking Joy
I honestly don't understand how a wife expecting her husband to treat her with respect, kindness, and love is an idol.
Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Six – Perfect in Image, Lacking in Glory
Because only men can bring glory to God, the husband will always be the head of the wife.
