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What was it like in my Patriarchal home, you ask? Let’s discuss hymens.

When our eldest daughter was 13 and before she started her period, my then husband told me he did not want her to use tampons because it would break her hymen and it was important for her future husband to do so.

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The Who’s Who and What’s What of Poisonous Patriarchy in Contemporary Christianity: Introducing Brian SauvĂ©

This power-over structure is harmful, demeaning, and depersonalizes women who were made in the Image of God.

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, emotional abuse, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, God's Design for the Family, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Religious Power and Control, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

The Who’s Who and What’s What of Poisonous Patriarchy in Contemporary Christianity

"I’ve decided to document pastors and individuals who promote patriarchy here on my blog. I will post screenshots of their tweets or social media posts, and name them and their churches as a public record."

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Thirteen – Submission Provides Protection?

It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.

Grace Community Church, John MacArthur, Master's University / Master's Seminary, Phil Johnson, Todd Friel, Women and the Church

In Which “Dr.” John MacArthur Shows His True Colors about Beth Moore

There's nothing wrong with having babies and sex, but to reduce women to only those functions is devaluing and depersonalizing women. Women were given gifts by God to be used for His glory.

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, CHRISTIAN LEADERS, Christian Marriage, Church Bandwagon, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, God's Design for the Family, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Women and the Church

Hey, Who Stuck the Header Between Ephesians 5 Verse 21 and Verse 22? That Shouldn’t be There!!

One of the key passages used to justify male hierarchy is Eph 5:22 (to the neglect of 5:21 which ironically states that we are to submit to each other!!). Which one is it?? Women submit to men, or we all submit to each other? Why is this so confusing?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

Pastor Gabriel Hughes’ Tweet on a Wife Taking Her Husband’s Last Name Because She Now “Belongs” to Him

"Because now belonging to her husband as the head of a new household, she's exchanged her father's last name, which she had before, for her husband's last name." ~Pastor Gabriel Hughes

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 3: For the Love of Sin

It's easy to tell a wife to forgive her abusing husband if the underlying sentiment is that all sin, and all are to forgive just as Christ forgave.

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

Book Review Series, The Excellent Wife, Martha Peace, Complementarianism -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you’d like to catch up. Chapter One **** Chapter Two - A Wife's Understanding of God: God's Protective Authority Peace… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

Bill Gothard, Christian Marriage, Failure to Report Crimes, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

Josh and Anna Duggar Announce New Pregnancy After His Sex Scandal

Josh Duggar, Sex Scandal, ATI, Ashley Madison   *** The eldest son of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar of TLC's popular TV show, 19 Kids and Counting is in the news again. Josh and his wife Anna Duggar made an announcement on their family's website. This announcement comes two years after accusations of: alleged sexual abuse… Continue reading Josh and Anna Duggar Announce New Pregnancy After His Sex Scandal

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A Young Woman’s Personal Story: The Residual Effects of the Teachings by Doug Philips, Bill Gothard, and Patriarchy

Doug Phillips, Patriarchy, Vision Forum, Stay-at-home daughters, Courtship, Quiverfull, Bill Gothard It's been a while since I've posted anything about Doug Phillips, Vision Forum, Bill Gothard, or Patriarchy teachings. A young woman who identified as "Done Running" posted her personal story and it deserves its own post. Done Running describes the residual effects of patriarchal… Continue reading A Young Woman’s Personal Story: The Residual Effects of the Teachings by Doug Philips, Bill Gothard, and Patriarchy

Christian Marriage, Courtship, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Women and the Church

Capturing the Minds of Daughters via Reconstructionism, Gary DeMar, The American Vision, and the Homeschool Movement

The American Vision, Gary DeMar, Rushdoony, Gary North, Reconstructionism, Dominionism, Homeschool Movement, Quiverfull, Patriarchy, Doug Phillips, Daughters With the demise of the ministry of Doug Phillips, and now the negative connotations of the word patriarchy, I've wondered what would be happening in Reconstructionist/Dominionist circles. It's been a while since I've written about Reconstructionism/Dominionism and how… Continue reading Capturing the Minds of Daughters via Reconstructionism, Gary DeMar, The American Vision, and the Homeschool Movement

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

A Challenge to Abused Christian Women Regarding Teachings on Divorce

*** Divorce, domestic violence, church teachings on Biblical divorce, David Instone-Brewer, abuse, Patriarchy, submission ***   For years and years, I was taught that the only reasons Christians could get divorced were for adultery, abandonment, and if an unbelieving spouse wanted a divorce. I believed this wholeheartedly. Sadly, I looked down on people who divorced outside of… Continue reading A Challenge to Abused Christian Women Regarding Teachings on Divorce

Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Feminist Agenda, Gender Roles, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Women and the Church

Pastor Doug Wilson on Rape, Submission, Feminists, and Boobs

Pastor Doug Wilson, CREC, New Saint Andrews, Christ Church, Moscow Idaho, Breasts, Feminists Rape, Submission     "Respected" Pastor Doug Wilson, pastor of Christ Church in Moscow Idaho, head of CREC churches, prominent leader in Classical Education circles (both homeschooling and private Christian schools), Canon Press publishing, two-time suspected plagiarizing author has written some very crude… Continue reading Pastor Doug Wilson on Rape, Submission, Feminists, and Boobs

Bill Gothard & IBLP Lawsuit, Failure to Report Crimes, IBLP and ATI, LAWSUITS, Mandatory Reporting, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Bill Gothard & IBLP Sex Abuse Lawsuit Update

    Today, I received a note from David C. Gibbs III giving an update on the lawsuit. Gibbs is representing 14 survivors who claim Bill Gothard sexually groomed and/or abused them, and the Board of Institutes in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) failed to respond appropriately to the claims. Today in DuPage County, Illinois, Attorney… Continue reading Bill Gothard & IBLP Sex Abuse Lawsuit Update

Full-Quiver, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

Jill and Jessa (Duggar) are back on TLC

Jill Dillard and Jessa Seewald of the 19 Kids and Counting Duggar family has new series on TLC   The Duggars of TLC's 19 Kids and Counting are back on TLC in a 3-part series called,  Jill & Jessa: Counting On.  Looking through the preview below and a couple of others, it doesn't seem to be… Continue reading Jill and Jessa (Duggar) are back on TLC

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE, Bill Gothard, Failure to Report Crimes, IBLP and ATI, It's All About the Image, LAWSUITS, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Mandatory Reporting, Misuse of Scripture, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations, Women and the Church

Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), Bill Gothard, lawsuit, David Gibbs III Many are probably aware of the recent news that five very brave women have come forward and have filed a lawsuit against Bill Gothard's former ministry, Institute in Basic Life Principles, Inc. (IBLP), and six men who serve as Directors of IBLP: John Stancil, Anthony… Continue reading Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Gender Roles, Marriage, Misuse of Scripture, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Women and the Church

The Blogger at “Biblical Gender Roles” is Taken To Task Proving that His Discipline Advice is Really Domestic Violence

How Biblical Gender Role's Discipline Advice is Actually Abuse by Kathi This past weekend I may have caused some fine folks' blood pressure to rise by sharing blogger, Biblical Gender Role's "7 Ways to Discipline Your Wife" on the SSB Facebook page. I apologized for getting everyone's Saturday mojo ruined, but I think we had… Continue reading The Blogger at “Biblical Gender Roles” is Taken To Task Proving that His Discipline Advice is Really Domestic Violence

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Sex Abuse Victim Natalie Rose Greenfield, the Timeline, Doug Wilson’s Attempt to Shift Focus off the Real Story

Doug Wilson, Christ Church, CREC, Sex Abuse, Natalie Rose Greenfield, Timeline, Jamin Wight With Natalie's permission, I am once again cross-posting her most recent article which gives further clarification on her sex abuse case. Why? Because Pastor Doug Wilson is trying to push his narrative using his public platform which has a larger following than Natalie.… Continue reading Sex Abuse Victim Natalie Rose Greenfield, the Timeline, Doug Wilson’s Attempt to Shift Focus off the Real Story

Biblical Counseling, Calvinism, Christian Marriage, Dictators, Doug Wilson, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

Doug Wilson Series: Introduction, Christ Church Celebrates 40 years and Background

Doug Wilson, Christ Church, CREC, Greyfriars Hall, Association of Classical & Christian Schools, Canon Press, New Saint Andrews, Steven Sitler, Jamin Wight ** To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it. ~G.K. Chesterton Last night, I returned home after a 1-1/2 day trip… Continue reading Doug Wilson Series: Introduction, Christ Church Celebrates 40 years and Background