Bill Hybels, Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Marriage, Narcissistic Pastors, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association

Book Review – “Christians in A Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 1 – Identifying the One Who is Sex Crazed

During a later anniversary celebration Bill and Lynne [Hybels] stayed in a hotel room described as: "Socially, it was positively scandalous; morally, it was absolutely decadent; theologically, it was totally depraved."

Biblical Manhood, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Desiring God, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, John Piper, Marriage, Women and the Church

Greg Morse Thinks We All Misunderstood

"Some women of the world tempt our daughters to see the cultivation of the home as a career failure, motherhood as a backup plan, and submission to a husband as unquestionably intolerable."

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Five: Wives, if You Experience Abuse, Acknowledge Your Sin

"A wife who is a victim of abuse should not be forced to think about how her "sinful actions" contributed to abuse. This constant reminder of sin can keep a victim trapped in an abusive marriage longer than she should be."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, It's All About the Image, Narcissistic Pastors, RC Sproul Jr., SMH (Shake My Head), Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Tullian Tchividjian

Estranged Adult Child of Disgraced Former Pastor R.C. Sproul, Jr., Urges People to NOT Purchase Father’s New Book; Foreword by Tullian Tchividjian

“Myself and RC Jr’s other adult children are estranged from him. We do not support this book or his return to public ministry.”

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

Pastor Gabriel Hughes’ Tweet on a Wife Taking Her Husband’s Last Name Because She Now “Belongs” to Him

"Because now belonging to her husband as the head of a new household, she's exchanged her father's last name, which she had before, for her husband's last name." ~Pastor Gabriel Hughes

Complementarianism, Desiring God, Doctrine as Idol, Feminist Agenda, Gender Roles, John Piper

Greg Morse at Desiring God Laments Strong Women

To end, I would like to suggest to Mr. Morse that he stop using language such as "our women" and "their women" in his writing. Women are not property of men.

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Gender Roles, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 4: Doing Your Minimal Duty to God

"You may be thinking, "I'm willing to work at having a close relationship with my husband, but he is not." If he is unwilling to communicate or is cruel and yet you respond in a godly manner, you will be suffering for righteousness sake and God will meet your needs." ~Martha Peace

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Doctrine as Idol, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Martha Peace, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 3: For the Love of Sin

It's easy to tell a wife to forgive her abusing husband if the underlying sentiment is that all sin, and all are to forgive just as Christ forgave.

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

Book Review Series, The Excellent Wife, Martha Peace, Complementarianism -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you’d like to catch up. Chapter One **** Chapter Two - A Wife's Understanding of God: God's Protective Authority Peace… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

Addressing Abuse, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander Shares Thoughts on Verbal Abuse

"Verbal abuse needs to be taken as seriously as physical abuse. Just because you can't see the effects of verbal abuse doesn't mean that it's not as damaging."

Addressing Abuse, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, The Transformed Wife

In Which Ken Gaslights and Lori Thinks Women can Avoid Marrying Abusers

"Lori could stand to learn about abusers before placing the onus of marrying one on a woman."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Calvinism, Doctrine as Idol, Going Back to Church Again, John Piper, Mental Health and the Church, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse

Caution: Children and Predestination

Predestination and Children My friend, Ryan Stollar, posted this on his Facebook wall, and I was struck at how damaging Predestination can be to children, especially vulnerable children. Shoot, I think it could scare adults, too! Special thanks to Ryan for writing about this and giving me permission to share it.  ~ja First off, what… Continue reading Caution: Children and Predestination

Christianity and Politics, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Misuse of Scripture, SMH (Shake My Head), Todd Friel, Troubling Tweets

Todd Friel Claims There’s “Not a Word” in the Bible about Fighting Injustice for the Oppressed

He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.    And what does the Lord require of you?To act justly and to love mercy    and to walk humbly with your God.Micah 6:8 Admin note: WordPress is the service I use for this blog. They have a new formatting feature I'm using on this post. Because the post is predominantly tweets, I have… Continue reading Todd Friel Claims There’s “Not a Word” in the Bible about Fighting Injustice for the Oppressed

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Saeed Abedini, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse

Naghmeh Panahi, Ex-Wife of Former Iranian Prisoner, “Pastor” Saeed Abedini, Posts Public Statement on Facebook

It's been a while since I have posted about Saeed Abedini or his ex-wife, Naghmeh. Naghmeh Panahi posted a public note on Facebook yesterday. You may recall that after Saeed Abedini was released from prison in Iran, Naghmeh filed for separation because Saeed would not get help for his abusive behavior in the marriage. Saeed… Continue reading Naghmeh Panahi, Ex-Wife of Former Iranian Prisoner, “Pastor” Saeed Abedini, Posts Public Statement on Facebook

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Emotional Responses, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, The Transformed Wife

Spiritual Abuse: Lori Alexander Says Working Women with Disabled Husbands Should Know Where They Belong

-by Kathi We haven't looked at Lori Alexander's "older woman" teachings for a while because not much has changed. Yesterday's doodle stood out to me, though, and offered another prime example of how Lori continues to pile on spiritual abuse. Text reads: Many women want to continually discredit God's clear commands to them. "My husband… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Lori Alexander Says Working Women with Disabled Husbands Should Know Where They Belong

Bill Gothard, Christianity and Politics, Disturbing Trends, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement

Rep. Matt Shea: When Politics is Fueled by Religion that Harms

Rep. Matt Shea, Biblical Basis for War, Politics, Religion, Dominionism *** I intentionally do not delve into politics much on this blog because politics is divisive and conversation can deteriorate quickly. However, today I want to mention one candidate whose religion is interfering with his politics in a way that could harm. I found about… Continue reading Rep. Matt Shea: When Politics is Fueled by Religion that Harms

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Industrial Complex, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Emergent/Progressive Movement

Tony Jones Book Update, Christian Industrial Complex, and Domestic Violence

Tony Jones, Emergent, THE NEW CHRISTIANS: DISPATCHES FROM THE EMERGENT FRONTIER, Anniversary, Christian Industrial Complex ***   October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month in the US, and so this article is timely. The last time I wrote about popular emergent leader, Tony Jones, was in 2015 in this article, A Spider Web of Emergent Leader… Continue reading Tony Jones Book Update, Christian Industrial Complex, and Domestic Violence

Christian Marriage, Courtship, Homeschool Movement

Josh Harris Discontinues the Publication of ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’

Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Courtship, Dating *** Josh Harris, former senior pastor at Covenant Life Church - the flagship church of then Sovereign Grace Ministries church - has posted a statement  at his website (statement follows). After considerable thought has decided to cease publishing his very influential book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye.  I… Continue reading Josh Harris Discontinues the Publication of ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Chuck O'Neal, JULIE ANNE'S CASE, Leaving the Church, Legalism, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Negative Google Reviews are Still Keeping People Away from My Spiritually Abusive Church 6 Years after Lawsuit

Chuck O'Neal, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Spiritual Abuse, Negative Google Reviews, Defamation Lawsuit     The other day, I got a call from my good friend, Michelle, who used to attend the cult/church we attended. Her husband used to be on staff at the church (Beaverton Grace Bible Church) and was fired. That led to… Continue reading Negative Google Reviews are Still Keeping People Away from My Spiritually Abusive Church 6 Years after Lawsuit