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We Now See the Fruit of Doug Wilson’s Teachings on Marital Sex: Personal Accounts of Marital Rape

Let me be blunt: I believe Douglas Wilson has given the green light for all “Christian” men to sexually violate or rape their wives. Men penetrate, conquer, colonize, plant; women must receive, surrender, and accept.

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Clergy Sexual Misconduct: Why Victims Should Not be Blamed

My blog broke the story on two high-profile cases of clergy sexual misconduct. These are very difficult stories to report on, especially as I get to know the survivors and the ongoing emotional and spiritual trauma they endured with these highly influential church leaders. One common misconception I see repeatedly debated in comments on news… Continue reading Clergy Sexual Misconduct: Why Victims Should Not be Blamed

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To Mark Gungor: There is Nothing Inspiring about using “Humor” to Publicly Degrade Women; and Please Do Better on Sex Abuse Cases

There should be no place in Christian evangelicalism for Mark Gungor's behavior which devalues, disrespects, and demoralizes women. If Gungor is allowed to continue having platforms, then it is a clear picture that Christian evangelicalism is not, and probably has never been, a safe place for women.

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How Pastor Steve Swartz uses Scripture to Elevate His Position as Pastor and His Response to an Abusive Marriage #Blech

Ok, popping in here for a quickie post for discussion. Notice this dude is a Master's Seminary Alum. This does not surprise me with the kind of pompous attitudes I have witnessed and encountered from John MacArthur's camp. Case in point, Bill Shannon reached out to me during my lawsuit case. I'll never forget how… Continue reading How Pastor Steve Swartz uses Scripture to Elevate His Position as Pastor and His Response to an Abusive Marriage #Blech

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The Who’s Who and What’s What of Poisonous Patriarchy in Contemporary Christianity: Introducing Brian Sauvé

This power-over structure is harmful, demeaning, and depersonalizes women who were made in the Image of God.

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The Who’s Who and What’s What of Poisonous Patriarchy in Contemporary Christianity

"I’ve decided to document pastors and individuals who promote patriarchy here on my blog. I will post screenshots of their tweets or social media posts, and name them and their churches as a public record."

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We are Image Bearers of Christ in Our Marriages and in Our Singlehood

" . . . unless the church treats all individuals as image bearers of Christ, we will not be the Body of Christ as the church was intended to be."

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John Piper Questions Whether Wives Should Share Their Wisdom with Their Husbands

John Piper could have stopped with "I don't know" in his response to a listener about wife submission. Instead, he gives a round about answer which ultimately adds an extra emotional and spiritual toll on the wife.

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A personal update from Julie Anne:

Today is my birthday. This morning I woke up happy, smiling, and very excited to be alive and well with a great home, a great job, and great family and friends. But I’d like to give you a window into what it was like this time last year. I was not well.

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What is in a Name: When Your Spouse Refuses to Call You By Name

...Yet into the third decade of our marriage, he chose to call me by a name I despised, yet forgot my given name. Or did he really forget?

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John Piper on Complementarianism and Abuse – #T4G20

What is up with John Piper's erratic response on Complementarianism and abuse?

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Christian Music Artist and Pastor Steve Camp Puts God to the Test with #COVID-19

But the people who went to the church may or may not have been infected with the virus. Why was this necessary? Oh yea, it wasn’t.

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Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Twenty-One – Who Knew Sorrow and Grief Could be Sinful

This chapter is supposed to help a wife who is grieving over her husband's sinful actions. Interestingly, nothing specifically points to how a wife can manage her grief or sorrow.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Twenty – When Desiring Intimacy is Idolatrous

In this chapter, Martha Peace lets wives know it's their problem if they feel lonely when their husbands isolate them.

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Owen Strachan’s Logical Conclusion: Jesus Must Have Been Buff

But still - what a bunch of malarkey. And what in the heck does it mean for a man to be "willfully soft physically?" Does this mean that anyone who doesn't work out is not spiritual?

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Nineteen – Never Fear, the Lord is Near

In this chapter wives are told that fear is associated is sinful and indicates a lack of trust in God.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Eighteen – Only Gentle Responses Allowed

Anger, an emotion which on its own is not bad, is viewed as sinful and should not be a part of a Christian marriage.