9Marks, ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Complementarianism, Failure to Report Crimes, Fred Butler, It's All About the Image, John MacArthur, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Fred Butler, #MeToo and the Worldly Culture

***   Who is Fred Butler? I saw this tweet the other day. Long-time blog readers will recognize the name, Fred Butler, an employee of Grace to You, the radio ministry of Pastor John MacArthur. Butler's tweet references another tweet from the @9Marks Twitter account which quotes from an article recently posted on their site.… Continue reading Fred Butler, #MeToo and the Worldly Culture

It's All About the Image, Mandatory Reporting, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

How Safe is Your Church?

  * * * Have you met Boz Tchividjian of GRACE - Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment? This would be a good video to post on Facebook or send to church leaders. Until churches have safe policies in place and survivors feel safe to share their trauma to others in the church,… Continue reading How Safe is Your Church?

Domestic Violence, Mental Health and the Church, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Would your church be able to help someone in the midst of a crisis? How equipped are they?

***   Before we get into today's article, we've passed an important milestone here. Today, I noticed in my Facebook's "On This Day" feature, that it is the 4th year anniversary date of the judge's decision on the defamation lawsuit brought on by my former pastor, Chuck O'Neal of Beaverton Grace Bible Church (BGBC) vs.… Continue reading Would your church be able to help someone in the midst of a crisis? How equipped are they?

Authoritative Preaching, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, BGBC Lawsuit, Chuck O'Neal, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Legalism, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD, SURVIVOR STORIES

The Fallout of Spiritual Abuse on Our Children

Children Harmed by Spiritual Abuse   Yesterday, I was talking with my programming language tutor and mentioned that I had a blog. He asked what my blog was about and I told him the long story. He was absolutely dumbfounded by what he was hearing and kept shaking his head, not wanting to believe it, even… Continue reading The Fallout of Spiritual Abuse on Our Children

Learn to Discern, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY

“Do Good and Do No Harm” Project by Brad Sargent aka FuturistGuy

  Spiritual Sounding Board and The Wartburg Watch are supporting a Go Fund Me Campaign to help Brad Sargent finish the first stage of  developing resources that will assist survivors of church abuse. Most of my long-time readers know Brad aka "FuturistGuy." I met Brad after spiritual abuse author Barb Orlowski pooled people together she… Continue reading “Do Good and Do No Harm” Project by Brad Sargent aka FuturistGuy

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Going Back to Church Again, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse

Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse

Do individuals suffer harm when they remain in verbally or emotionally abusive relationships?  Cindy Kunsman illustrates the effects through an account of spiritual abuse.     By Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com After reading Julie Anne's post questioning whether divorce from an abusive spouse is actually a “sin,” I found myself thinking of the loss of perspective and… Continue reading Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse

Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Going Back to Church Again, Homeschool Movement, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Vision Forum

Crumbling Foundation: How Do We Move on after Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard, our Spiritual Leaders, Have Failed Us?

*** How do we move on spiritually when we have based our lives around the teachings of spiritual leaders like Doug Phillips or Bill Gothard who have fallen? ***   With the recent scandals involving Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard, it is as if the spiritual rug has been pulled for some families. These men were so… Continue reading Crumbling Foundation: How Do We Move on after Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard, our Spiritual Leaders, Have Failed Us?

Disturbing Trends, Failure to Report Crimes, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Meaning of Spiritual Sounding Board, Media Interviews with Julie Anne, Narcissistic Pastors, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD

Spiritual Abuse: Interview with Doug Bursch

*** *** Yesterday I did an interview with Doug Bursch from Seattle's KGNW radio station.  Doug describes himself in his bio as "a speaker, writer, pastor, teacher and evangelist."  We spoke about spiritual abuse, healthy and unhealthy churches.  I've done quite a few interviews since the lawsuit, but this one is my new favorite.  If… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Interview with Doug Bursch

Personal Stories, Safe Churches, Women and the Church

Guest Post: Why I Love My Church

*** It's difficult to find a safe and healthy church "system" with appropriate checks and balances.  Lisa of Lisa's Leben shares what has worked well in her church and why she loves her church. *** *** Lisa has been blogging for about a month now and writes at Lisa's Leben.  After getting tagged on the… Continue reading Guest Post: Why I Love My Church

Church Governance or Policy Issues, Learn to Discern, Safe Churches

Learn to Discern: Church Membership Accountability and Discipline of Children

*     *     * Learn to discern church websites, church discipline procedures, membership rules and accountability, attendance, and tithe requirements before joining a new church.  A lot of information can be found on church websites. *     *     * *     *     * The other day,… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Church Membership Accountability and Discipline of Children

Christian Love, Going Back to Church Again, Recovery Process, Safe Churches

Finding Refuge from Religion: Forever

*     *     * Many people who have been hurt by religion want to escape from it.   We'll take a look at an organization that is offering a refuge from religion, Recovering from Religion.    Is this the answer? *     *     * *     *  … Continue reading Finding Refuge from Religion: Forever

Recovery Process, Safe Churches, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Encouragement, Stories of Hope

Spiritual Edification: What has worked for you?

*     *     * In our spiritual journey, many of us have had mountain-top experiences and maybe some valleys, too.  Mountain-top experiences are pretty exciting and can fuel us for a while, but I'm not convinced that our spiritual journey should be based on one great experience.   But in those times… Continue reading Spiritual Edification: What has worked for you?

Church Governance or Policy Issues, Going Back to Church Again, Safe Churches, Tithing

What Does Non-Institutionalized Church Look Like?

*     *     *   We've spent the last several days discussing a variety of issues stemmed from Brenda's very important topic of institutional churches failing to meet the real needs of their people who are suffering abuse.  Quite a bit of the conversation shifted to the subject that church as an institution… Continue reading What Does Non-Institutionalized Church Look Like?

Going Back to Church Again, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY

Why Do People Get Involved in Unhealthy Churches or Cults?

Stephen Smith from Liberty for Captives blog quoted comments from some of you and added more of his own insight. It’s excellent. Let’s keep talking! This is good stuff!!

~ja

Liberty for Captives

Cults are bad even when they lead you to Jesus.

I came to know God in a church which turned out to be a Bible cult.

I was raised in this church and I stayed until I was thirty years old. Early on, I had no other experience of what church could or should be like. By the time I visited other churches in college, my worldview was steeped in the teachings of this particular group. In this unhealthy church I had a genuine conversion experience and was taught the Bible. In this church, the pastor sometimes acted with apparent patience, kindness, and love. He rose early and stayed up late in order to conduct the affairs of the church. He forsook vacations and seemed to eschew worldly praise. He gave money to congregants who were down and out. His words sounded spiritual—they seemed to float in calm, sanctimonious sunbeams…

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Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Dr. Wayne Grudem, Ken Ham, Parenting, Safe Churches, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Young Earth Creation

Ken Ham, Young Earth Creationism, Young People AbandoningTheir Faith: My Daughter’s Story

* * * This next story pains me. It's a personal one. Parenting is very challenging. Homeschooling children has also been a challenge. When we began homeschooling our children, we chose to do so for a number of reasons. We wanted to have better oversight over the curricula our children were taught because we wanted… Continue reading Ken Ham, Young Earth Creationism, Young People AbandoningTheir Faith: My Daughter’s Story

Going Back to Church Again, Safe Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY

Commenter Asks: Is Church Safe Anymore?

A few admin notes first: When I first was served the subpoena, I reached out to people on the internet who had dealt with spiritual abuse for help.  One person was Barb Orlowski who reads and comments here.  Barb put me in contact with a group of people, some who have gone through tragic stories… Continue reading Commenter Asks: Is Church Safe Anymore?