ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, child abuse, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Doctrine as Idol, Failure to Report Crimes, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Pulpit & Pen blog, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, SMH (Shake My Head), Spiritual Bullies, Troubling Tweets, Women and the Church

Seth Dunn Tweets that a Woman Pastor is Just as Bad as a Sex Offender Who is Hired as a Pastor

It is people like Seth, who refuse to take sex abuse of children seriously, why we have had very little positive change in how child sex abuse cases have been handled.

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

Book Review Series, The Excellent Wife, Martha Peace, Complementarianism -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you’d like to catch up. Chapter One **** Chapter Two - A Wife's Understanding of God: God's Protective Authority Peace… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Dale Partridge, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Marriage, Women and the Church

Husbands Who Don’t Spiritually Lead are a Problem

Dale Partridge, Complementarianism, Male Headship -by Kathi The above post by Dale Partridge was shared on the SSB Facebook page a few days ago. Text reads: Christian husbands, if another man is teaching your wife more about God than you are, you have a problem. It is not your pastor's job to be your wife's… Continue reading Husbands Who Don’t Spiritually Lead are a Problem

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Gender Roles, God's Design for the Family, Marriage, Misuse of Scripture, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Almost Heretical: Women in the Church and Gender Roles

Almost Heretical, Women in the Church, Gender Roles in the Church *** If you believe that God designed hierarchy between husband and wife, that husbands are "over" women, and only women submit to men, not the other way around. I encourage you to listen to this podcast series. The above used to be what I… Continue reading Almost Heretical: Women in the Church and Gender Roles

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Egalitarianism, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Feminist Agenda, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Women and the Church

Feminism: Is it a rebellion against God?

*** I'm just going to plop this video link into this post and see what happens. It's only 2 minutes, 36 seconds. That's it. Below is my attempt at transcribing someone speaking off the cuff (a little challenging on the punctuation, just sayin').  ~ja       https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-q9ClRc8lw   Are you a feminist? Are you… Continue reading Feminism: Is it a rebellion against God?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Manhood, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Desiring God, Domestic Violence, Gender Roles, John Piper, Marriage, Women and the Church

Are Complementarians Tough on Abuse?

Complementarianism, Desiring God, Domestic Abuse -by Kathi Desiring God featured a guest article by Rebecca McLaughlin titled, "Complementarians Should Be Toughest on Abuse." I appreciate Dr. McLaughlin's words and I think her intent is honorable. She addresses pastors and men to call out abuse, warns Christians to not be naive about abusers, and emphasizes that… Continue reading Are Complementarians Tough on Abuse?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Bill Hybels, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, It's All About the Image, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association, Women and the Church

Bill Hybels, the Willow Creek “System,” and Why the Women Needed to Speak Publicly

Bill Hybels, Clergy Sexual Misconduct, Willow Creek Church *** Scot McKnight at Jesus Creed wrote a very important article about the Bill Hybels/Willow Creek sexual misconduct scandal. This is a very important article that summarizes the system that was in place which allowed Bill Hybels to not only go unchecked, but to be protected and… Continue reading Bill Hybels, the Willow Creek “System,” and Why the Women Needed to Speak Publicly

Bill Hybels, Clergy Misconduct, Spiritual Abuse, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association, Women and the Church

Theologian Scot McKnight Responds, “About Willow Creek: What Do I Think?”

  Theologian and Jesus Creed blogger Scot McKnight was part of Willow Creek Church for nearly a decade. He has been asked repeatedly what he thinks about the situation with Bill Hybels. He responded today (June 27th) with, "About Willow Creek: What Do I Think?" This is an extensive article -- almost 3,000 words --… Continue reading Theologian Scot McKnight Responds, “About Willow Creek: What Do I Think?”

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Clergy Misconduct, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Failure to Report Crimes, Legalism, Mandatory Reporting, Misuse of Scripture, Narcissistic Pastors, Paige Patterson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Southern Baptist Convention, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

BREAKING NEWS: Dr. Paige Patterson Terminated, Effective Immediately: No Title, No Housing, No Ongoing Compensation

Paige Patterson, Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, SBC, #Churchtoo, #ChurchToo, #MeToo   *** A new statement was just released at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary: During the May 30, 2018, Executive Committee meeting of the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (SWBTS) Board of Trustees, new information confirmed this morning was presented regarding the handling of an allegation of… Continue reading BREAKING NEWS: Dr. Paige Patterson Terminated, Effective Immediately: No Title, No Housing, No Ongoing Compensation

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Paige Patterson, Women and the Church

Analysis: Paige Patterson’s Teachings on Domestic Violence Keep Victims in Harm’s Way

Paige Patterson, Domestic Violence, SBC, Divorce *** Over the weekend, an old recording of an interview from 2000 with Paige Patterson resurfaced, causing an uproar because of his response regarding domestic violence. Paige Patterson is a prominent Southern Baptist leader and president of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (SWBTS). I have been familiar with this recording for several… Continue reading Analysis: Paige Patterson’s Teachings on Domestic Violence Keep Victims in Harm’s Way

9Marks, ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Complementarianism, Failure to Report Crimes, Fred Butler, It's All About the Image, John MacArthur, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Fred Butler, #MeToo and the Worldly Culture

***   Who is Fred Butler? I saw this tweet the other day. Long-time blog readers will recognize the name, Fred Butler, an employee of Grace to You, the radio ministry of Pastor John MacArthur. Butler's tweet references another tweet from the @9Marks Twitter account which quotes from an article recently posted on their site.… Continue reading Fred Butler, #MeToo and the Worldly Culture

Gender Roles, Women and the Church

Women and Ministry: What Have You Been Taught?

  ***   Does this 7-minute video match up with what you've been taught about women and ministry? In my church background, when the topic of women came up, it was about what they were supposed to do at home, raising children, and how to treat their husband.   When it came to ministry work, there… Continue reading Women and Ministry: What Have You Been Taught?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Calvinism, Christian Marriage, Clergy Sex Abuse, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Failure to Report Crimes, James Dobson, John MacArthur, Legalism, Mandatory Reporting, Mental Health and the Church, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Spiritual Abuse, SURVIVOR STORIES, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Personal Story: What Did the Church Teach You about Yourself?

Spiritual abuse, sex abuse, patriarchy, domestic violence, Sovereign Grace, Desiring God, CJ Mahaney, John Piper, Mental Health *** *** Part of recovery from abusive churches is coming to grips with what you were taught and how it affected you. Sometimes, and very appropriately, the ability to see this clearly results in anger. Jennifer Michelle posted… Continue reading Personal Story: What Did the Church Teach You about Yourself?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Frank Page, President of SBC’s Executive Committee, Resigns and Later Discloses Moral Failure

Southern Baptist Convention, Frank Page, Sexual Misconduct *** Today, Frank S. Page, President of the SBC Executive Committee, announced his retirement on Twitter: https://twitter.com/frankpagesbc/status/978624415452880896 https://twitter.com/frankpagesbc/status/978624415452880896 https://twitter.com/jdgreear/status/978628734059196416   Many people thanked him for his good service to the Lord, along with ordinary  sentiments, but he left out something that was kind of important - that he was… Continue reading Frank Page, President of SBC’s Executive Committee, Resigns and Later Discloses Moral Failure

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, Leaving the Church, Marriage, Meetings with the Pastor, Personal Stories, Women and the Church

A Personal Story and a Sad Conclusion When Pastors Failed to Respond Appropriately to Domestic Violence

Domestic violence, Church response, Rob Porter *** You may have heard in the news recently about Rob Porter who worked for President Trump in the White House. Porter recently resigned his position as White House Staff Secretary after allegations of domestic violence from his two ex-wives surfaced in the media. It was disheartening to hear… Continue reading A Personal Story and a Sad Conclusion When Pastors Failed to Respond Appropriately to Domestic Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Church Discipline Process, Complementarianism, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

Mike Lawyer, Counseling, Abuse in Marriage, Abuse of Authority I have been in contact with a woman named Gen, who has agreed to let me post this letter she received from Mike Lawyer, "on behalf of Christ Church Session." Christ Church is Doug Wilson's church in Moscow, Idaho. If you would like to learn more… Continue reading BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Marriage, Personal Stories, Women and the Church

Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages

*** I am posting a comment that came in on yesterday's post Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful by someone who used the name, Auislucky. Auislucky mentioned at the bottom of her comment that she didn't want me to post her comment if it would hurt someone.… Continue reading Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Church Discipline Process, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Leaving the Church, Marriage, Meetings with the Pastor, Personal Stories, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

Bethlehem Baptist Church Excommunicates Victim of Domestic Violence

Bethlehem Baptist Church, Domestic Violence, Emotional Abuse, Excommunication, Spiritual Abuse *** Over a year ago (November 1, 2016), I posted the article, 1-1/2 years Later, Bethlehem Baptist Church Doesn’t Seem to get Domestic Violence: A Personal Story. I have a followup to that article. For those who have never read the story, I will repost most of the… Continue reading Bethlehem Baptist Church Excommunicates Victim of Domestic Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Lyvonne Picou’s Research on Black Christian Women Survivors of Male Sexual Violence

by Brad Sargent, aka brad/futuristguy, and cross-posted at futuristguy website. *     *     *     *     *     *     * “I am fiercely committed to addressing the taboo and stigma attached to childhood sexual abuse (CSA) in the Black community.” ~ Lyvonne Proverbs Picou *     *     *     *     *     *     * Occasionally, I find out about surveys or… Continue reading Lyvonne Picou’s Research on Black Christian Women Survivors of Male Sexual Violence

Book Review Series, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Legalism, Lori Alexander, Modesty and Purity Teachings, The Transformed Wife, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Repeat Five Times: Yoga Pants Are Not Modest!

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Modesty -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter 3   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Repeat Five Times: Yoga Pants Are Not Modest!