While I was reporting on abuse in the church in 2012 on this blog, this is what I was living in my home. And while I was sharing stories of domestic violence, including emotional abuse and spiritual abuse here, I was connecting with these stories in a personal way, weeping, and knowing one day, I'd be telling my own story here. The time is now.
. . we can't change the culture of an abusive church, because while an abusive leader is in power, there is a system of abuse involved. We cannot change an abusive system. But what we survivors can do is provide a safe place where personal stories are told, heard, believed.
Could the real reason for this podcast be that ACBC counselors are finding something useful from an outside source when talking to victims of domestic violence?
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This post lists several resources for churches and pastors to use when thinking about responding to domestic abuse.
This power-over structure is harmful, demeaning, and depersonalizes women who were made in the Image of God.
"I’ve decided to document pastors and individuals who promote patriarchy here on my blog. I will post screenshots of their tweets or social media posts, and name them and their churches as a public record."
What is up with John Piper's erratic response on Complementarianism and abuse?
This chapter is supposed to help a wife who is grieving over her husband's sinful actions. Interestingly, nothing specifically points to how a wife can manage her grief or sorrow.
In this chapter, Martha Peace lets wives know it's their problem if they feel lonely when their husbands isolate them.
In this chapter wives are told that fear is associated is sinful and indicates a lack of trust in God.
Requesting stories for a training opportunity for victim advocates.
Wives, please don't hold on to the destructive teaching that God has a purpose and plan for abuse that happens to you.
It's time for Focus on the Family to start acknowledging abuse happens in Christian marriages.
This chapter is full of conflicting important points and is a reminder that verbal and emotional abuse is not appropriate.
In this chapter, the author provides a list of ways wives are motivated to honor Christ in submission to their husbands. I'm motivated to cut out as much from the list as possible. ~Kathi
Next time you meet a divorced survivor, look in her eyes with kindness and ask yourself how bad it had to be to risk all she did.
How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.
Please preach and communicate as if one in three women listening in your audience are victims of domestic violence.
It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.
Safety plans are helpful for victims/survivors at different points of time. Safety plans help victims/survivors to think through ways to stay safe while in a harmful situation or navigate after leaving an abusive relationship. One thing that I have learned from listening to people is that survivors always have to be on the offensive. It's… Continue reading Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Safety Planning