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Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Seventeen – Conflicts and Lists

Wives, please don't hold on to the destructive teaching that God has a purpose and plan for abuse that happens to you.

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Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Sixteen – Watch Your Words

This chapter is full of conflicting important points and is a reminder that verbal and emotional abuse is not appropriate.

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Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Fifteen – One Long, Unmotivating List

In this chapter, the author provides a list of ways wives are motivated to honor Christ in submission to their husbands. I'm motivated to cut out as much from the list as possible. ~Kathi

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Domestic Violence Survivor Responds to Wayne Grudem's Change of Opinion on "Allowing" Divorce for Abuse in Marriage

Next time you meet a divorced survivor, look in her eyes with kindness and ask yourself how bad it had to be to risk all she did.

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Book Review Series – "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Fourteen – A Wife's Orderly Way to Respond to Her Husband's Evil Responses

How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.

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Pastors and Church Leaders: do you know who is in your audience? Well-intentioned sermons may be harmful to survivors.

Please preach and communicate as if one in three women listening in your audience are victims of domestic violence.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Thirteen – Submission Provides Protection?

It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Safety Planning

Safety plans are helpful for victims/survivors at different points of time. Safety plans help victims/survivors to think through ways to stay safe while in a harmful situation or navigate after leaving an abusive relationship. One thing that I have learned from listening to people is that survivors always have to be on the offensive. It's… Continue reading Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Safety Planning

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Twelve – Setting the Stage for Submission

This book has already focused so much on submission, but for some reason Peace has at least two more chapters left on this topic. It makes me wonder if she is trying to convince herself that her theology is that good by saying it over and over and over.

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Pastor Neil Schori Urges Pastors and Church Leaders to Get it Right about Domestic Violence

If church leaders are counseling abused spouses to go back to their abusive partners because they don't meet the church-approved "divorce criteria," they are contributing to the abuse by placing survivors in harm's way.

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Domestic Violence: A Call to Pastors – Documentation to Help Domestic Violence Victims

This is one practical way that a pastor can help a domestic violence victim - by providing a letter stating that she is needing time off work or a safety accommodation to deal with domestic violence-related issues.

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Twitter Twaddles and Truths

Sometimes there are tweets that really need to be seen wider than the Twitterverse. I will be compiling tweets to highlight here.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Eleven – Mutual Sex or Sex on Demand?

In so many of the godly wife books we see that the wife's duty is to provide sex for her husband whenever he wants it. At least she identifies that a wife has a desire and need for sex.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Ten – R.E.S.P.E.C.T., Find Out What it Means to MP

Peace likens the wife's position to her husband as a soldier to his superior officer, which leads to the biggest problem I have with this chapter: the husband being viewed as the position of authority and the wife respecting her husband because of that position.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Nine – Putting on Love

A Christian wife should not be led to believe that she is undeserving of living in a healthy, harm-free relationship.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Seven – False Idols and Faking Joy

I honestly don't understand how a wife expecting her husband to treat her with respect, kindness, and love is an idol.

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Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Five: Wives, if You Experience Abuse, Acknowledge Your Sin

"A wife who is a victim of abuse should not be forced to think about how her "sinful actions" contributed to abuse. This constant reminder of sin can keep a victim trapped in an abusive marriage longer than she should be."