It's time for Focus on the Family to start acknowledging abuse happens in Christian marriages.
This chapter is full of conflicting important points and is a reminder that verbal and emotional abuse is not appropriate.
Just because a husband loves God does not mean he will pass on that love to his wife. And, if a couple does not believe in God, that does not mean they will have a loveless marriage.
In this chapter, the author provides a list of ways wives are motivated to honor Christ in submission to their husbands. I'm motivated to cut out as much from the list as possible. ~Kathi
And a few months ago I had a revelation. All of these same problems keep cropping up, over and over again. Being a church-going Christian does not keep people from having sex problems in their marriage.
Next time you meet a divorced survivor, look in her eyes with kindness and ask yourself how bad it had to be to risk all she did.
How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.
It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.
This is one practical way that a pastor can help a domestic violence victim - by providing a letter stating that she is needing time off work or a safety accommodation to deal with domestic violence-related issues.
In so many of the godly wife books we see that the wife's duty is to provide sex for her husband whenever he wants it. At least she identifies that a wife has a desire and need for sex.
Peace likens the wife's position to her husband as a soldier to his superior officer, which leads to the biggest problem I have with this chapter: the husband being viewed as the position of authority and the wife respecting her husband because of that position.
"Many people tell me that there is a different way to practice faith and I want to remain open to this, but I’m not there now."
A Christian wife should not be led to believe that she is undeserving of living in a healthy, harm-free relationship.
But it makes me once again question those ideologies that led up to this point. It makes me think about spiritual abuse. It makes me think about Patriarchy. What significant changes were made in their journey? What ideologies did each one keep, and each one ditch?
One of the key passages used to justify male hierarchy is Eph 5:22 (to the neglect of 5:21 which ironically states that we are to submit to each other!!). Which one is it?? Women submit to men, or we all submit to each other? Why is this so confusing?
If the "major biblical emphasis" of a wife's ministry is to be the keeper of the home, I would think that it would be discussed more in the Bible.
During a later anniversary celebration Bill and Lynne [Hybels] stayed in a hotel room described as: "Socially, it was positively scandalous; morally, it was absolutely decadent; theologically, it was totally depraved."
"Some women of the world tempt our daughters to see the cultivation of the home as a career failure, motherhood as a backup plan, and submission to a husband as unquestionably intolerable."
"A wife who is a victim of abuse should not be forced to think about how her "sinful actions" contributed to abuse. This constant reminder of sin can keep a victim trapped in an abusive marriage longer than she should be."
"Because now belonging to her husband as the head of a new household, she's exchanged her father's last name, which she had before, for her husband's last name." ~Pastor Gabriel Hughes