Bill Hybels, Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Marriage, Narcissistic Pastors, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association

Book Review – “Christians in A Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 1 – Identifying the One Who is Sex Crazed

During a later anniversary celebration Bill and Lynne [Hybels] stayed in a hotel room described as: "Socially, it was positively scandalous; morally, it was absolutely decadent; theologically, it was totally depraved."

Biblical Manhood, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Desiring God, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, John Piper, Marriage, Women and the Church

Greg Morse Thinks We All Misunderstood

"Some women of the world tempt our daughters to see the cultivation of the home as a career failure, motherhood as a backup plan, and submission to a husband as unquestionably intolerable."

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Five: Wives, if You Experience Abuse, Acknowledge Your Sin

"A wife who is a victim of abuse should not be forced to think about how her "sinful actions" contributed to abuse. This constant reminder of sin can keep a victim trapped in an abusive marriage longer than she should be."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

Pastor Gabriel Hughes’ Tweet on a Wife Taking Her Husband’s Last Name Because She Now “Belongs” to Him

"Because now belonging to her husband as the head of a new household, she's exchanged her father's last name, which she had before, for her husband's last name." ~Pastor Gabriel Hughes

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Gender Roles, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 4: Doing Your Minimal Duty to God

"You may be thinking, "I'm willing to work at having a close relationship with my husband, but he is not." If he is unwilling to communicate or is cruel and yet you respond in a godly manner, you will be suffering for righteousness sake and God will meet your needs." ~Martha Peace

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Doctrine as Idol, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Martha Peace, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 3: For the Love of Sin

It's easy to tell a wife to forgive her abusing husband if the underlying sentiment is that all sin, and all are to forgive just as Christ forgave.

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

Book Review Series, The Excellent Wife, Martha Peace, Complementarianism -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you’d like to catch up. Chapter One **** Chapter Two - A Wife's Understanding of God: God's Protective Authority Peace… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 2: Carefully Placing Wives in a Box

Addressing Abuse, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander Shares Thoughts on Verbal Abuse

"Verbal abuse needs to be taken as seriously as physical abuse. Just because you can't see the effects of verbal abuse doesn't mean that it's not as damaging."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Dale Partridge, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Marriage, Women and the Church

Husbands Who Don’t Spiritually Lead are a Problem

Dale Partridge, Complementarianism, Male Headship -by Kathi The above post by Dale Partridge was shared on the SSB Facebook page a few days ago. Text reads: Christian husbands, if another man is teaching your wife more about God than you are, you have a problem. It is not your pastor's job to be your wife's… Continue reading Husbands Who Don’t Spiritually Lead are a Problem

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Gender Roles, God's Design for the Family, Marriage, Misuse of Scripture, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Almost Heretical: Women in the Church and Gender Roles

Almost Heretical, Women in the Church, Gender Roles in the Church *** If you believe that God designed hierarchy between husband and wife, that husbands are "over" women, and only women submit to men, not the other way around. I encourage you to listen to this podcast series. The above used to be what I… Continue reading Almost Heretical: Women in the Church and Gender Roles

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Egalitarianism, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Feminist Agenda, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Women and the Church

Feminism: Is it a rebellion against God?

*** I'm just going to plop this video link into this post and see what happens. It's only 2 minutes, 36 seconds. That's it. Below is my attempt at transcribing someone speaking off the cuff (a little challenging on the punctuation, just sayin').  ~ja       https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-q9ClRc8lw   Are you a feminist? Are you… Continue reading Feminism: Is it a rebellion against God?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Manhood, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Desiring God, Domestic Violence, Gender Roles, John Piper, Marriage, Women and the Church

Are Complementarians Tough on Abuse?

Complementarianism, Desiring God, Domestic Abuse -by Kathi Desiring God featured a guest article by Rebecca McLaughlin titled, "Complementarians Should Be Toughest on Abuse." I appreciate Dr. McLaughlin's words and I think her intent is honorable. She addresses pastors and men to call out abuse, warns Christians to not be naive about abusers, and emphasizes that… Continue reading Are Complementarians Tough on Abuse?

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, K.B. Davies, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse

K.B. Davies Says Domestic Violence is No Excuse for Divorce Even in Case of Death

-by Kathi *** K.B. Davies frequently comments on Lori Alexander's Facebook page, The Transformed Wife. Lori allows his comments to stay and doesn't challenge them. Why Lori leaves comments from men like K.B. and Trey unchallenged is mind boggling. Personally, I would distance myself as far away as possible from someone who uses the Bible to… Continue reading K.B. Davies Says Domestic Violence is No Excuse for Divorce Even in Case of Death

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Paige Patterson, Women and the Church

Analysis: Paige Patterson’s Teachings on Domestic Violence Keep Victims in Harm’s Way

Paige Patterson, Domestic Violence, SBC, Divorce *** Over the weekend, an old recording of an interview from 2000 with Paige Patterson resurfaced, causing an uproar because of his response regarding domestic violence. Paige Patterson is a prominent Southern Baptist leader and president of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (SWBTS). I have been familiar with this recording for several… Continue reading Analysis: Paige Patterson’s Teachings on Domestic Violence Keep Victims in Harm’s Way

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, John Piper, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife, Uncategorized

God Loves Victims More Than Saving an Abusive Marriage

Lori Alexander, John Piper, Christian Marriage, Divorce -By Kathi It is no surprise that Lori Alexander at The Transformed Wife is pushing John Piper's words on marriage and divorce. Lori continues to show that there is no room for divorce when a woman is in an abusive marriage. Women in abusive marriages who go to Lori… Continue reading God Loves Victims More Than Saving an Abusive Marriage

Christian Marriage, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse

The Dynamics of Spiritual Abuse Within Domestic Abuse

Lori Alexander, Domestic Abuse, Spiritual Abuse     -by Kathi I have the privilege of volunteering with a local police department as a victim advocate. I consider it an honor to work with the officers at this department because I find them to be kind and compassionate toward victims of domestic abuse. During my training,… Continue reading The Dynamics of Spiritual Abuse Within Domestic Abuse

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, Leaving the Church, Marriage, Meetings with the Pastor, Personal Stories, Women and the Church

A Personal Story and a Sad Conclusion When Pastors Failed to Respond Appropriately to Domestic Violence

Domestic violence, Church response, Rob Porter *** You may have heard in the news recently about Rob Porter who worked for President Trump in the White House. Porter recently resigned his position as White House Staff Secretary after allegations of domestic violence from his two ex-wives surfaced in the media. It was disheartening to hear… Continue reading A Personal Story and a Sad Conclusion When Pastors Failed to Respond Appropriately to Domestic Violence

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Marriage, Rick Thomas

Rick Thomas Wants Husbands to Rate Their Wives

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Marriage Advice, Rick Thomas -by Kathi There are things in life we rate. Customer service ratings help companies know how to improve their services. If you want to see a movie, you may visit Rotten Tomatoes to read the ratings. When you see a doctor, you might be asked to rate your… Continue reading Rick Thomas Wants Husbands to Rate Their Wives

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Marriage, Personal Stories, Women and the Church

Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages

*** I am posting a comment that came in on yesterday's post Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful by someone who used the name, Auislucky. Auislucky mentioned at the bottom of her comment that she didn't want me to post her comment if it would hurt someone.… Continue reading Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages