Who is the Fairest in the Land? Lessons for Young Men on Attraction is Greg Morse’s latest attempt to tell men they’re missing out on what godly women have to offer. I give him credit for telling men that they will not find the fantasy woman they see in pornography. I also give him credit for challenging men to love their wives with all their heart during all of life’s moments together.
The problem is that instead of telling young Christian men to not view women as sex objects, but as actual human beings, he tells them they’re missing out on the loveliness of possession.
They pass, like I once did, on the three-course meal of possessing, belonging, and enjoying a creature fit for them within the safety of commitment.
Greg Morse views a wife as a possession. “My wife.” “She belongs to me.” A wife is not seen as a partner with different values and strengths that make the relationship together better and unique.
He then goes on to view a wife as an enjoyable creature for the pleasure of a husband. A creature – not even a person. How is this any different than sexually objectifying a woman through the use of pornography? It’s not; Morse’s view objectifies the wife in the context of marriage with “God-ordained gender roles.”
This one sentence speaks volumes of Greg Morse’s view of wives from a complementarian perspective. Is this the direction that John Piper’s website, Desiring God, wants their readers to adhere to as well? It’s really not all that surprising considering they still have content from Doug Wilson and Mark Driscoll available. Desiring God may want to rethink their position on this content as I would hope this isn’t very appealing to women. Which, come to think of it, may be the real reason these single men are having trouble finding the “right woman.”