When our eldest daughter was 13 and before she started her period, my then husband told me he did not want her to use tampons because it would break her hymen and it was important for her future husband to do so.
Why would a caring mother tell a wounded child that they are no better than the one who caused the harm? This tells the child that they played a role in the harm done to them. It also implies that the harm done to the child is insignificant due to the equal status as a sinner.
*** NOTE: This is part of a series that began with these earlier posts: Classical Conversations #1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly Classical Conversations #2: What Led You to Join a Classical Conversations Homeschool Community? #ClassicalConvMadeKnown Classical Conversations #3: Leaders Delete Comments and Block Commenters Who Don’t Toe the Line Classical Conversations #4: A CC… Continue reading Classical Conversations #7: Business or a Non-Profit; Cult or a Christian Homeschool Group?
Tedd Tripp, Tom Chantry, Failure to Report, Mandatory Reporter, Spanking, Shepherding a Child's Heart *** *** In the late 1990s, I attended a parenting seminar by Tedd Tripp. It may or may not be significant to note that the seminar was held at a Sovereign Grace Ministries church in Chesapeake, Virginia. Shepherding a Child's Heart… Continue reading Tedd Tripp and Tom Chantry: Shepherding a Child’s Heart … or Not
*** -by Kathi *** Tim Bayly is the pastor at Clearnote Church in Bloomington, Indiana, and president of Clearnote Pastors College. He received his M.Div. from Gordon-Cornwell Theological Seminary and is the author of the book, "Daddy Tried: Overcoming the Failures of Fatherhood." Tim writes with Joe Bayly at Warhorn - Out of Our Minds.… Continue reading Pastor Tim Bayly Pities Senator Tammy Duckworth’s Newborn Child
Sex Abuse, Jimmy Hinton, Pedophiles, Illusionists, Magicians, Dr. Larry Nassar *** *** April is sexual abuse awareness month. It is very important for parents to know that nearly 90% of perpetrators are known by their victims. It is also important to understand that a pedophile can abuse a child while you are in the same… Continue reading Sexual Perpetrators and Magicians – How Both Trick People with Illusions
The Power of a Transformed Wife: Lori Alexander, Healthy Living -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1 Chapter 2 Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – “Healthy,” One of Lori’s Favorite Buzz Words
David and Louise Turpin, Homeschool, Cult, Abuse, Torture *** Most likely you have heard the news about the large homeschooling family, the Turpins, from California. The parents, David, 57, and Louise, 49, Turpin who were arrested for torture and child endangerment, with bail set at $9 million each. Here are some of the key facts:… Continue reading The David and Louise Turpin Family Homeschool Cult
The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Child Training, Submission -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1 Chapter 2 Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Parents Rule, Children Drool
John Piper, Christian Parenting, Glorious, Hell, Anxiety At John Piper's Desiring God website, they feature Ask John series in which listeners send their questions to John Piper for response. The following question came from a dad named Michael who asked John Piper the following: A question from Michael: “Pastor John, how can I talk to my… Continue reading John Piper Responds to Dad’s Question Regarding His Child’s Extreme Anxiety about Hell
Doug Phillips, Patriarchy, Vision Forum, Stay-at-home daughters, Courtship, Quiverfull, Bill Gothard It's been a while since I've posted anything about Doug Phillips, Vision Forum, Bill Gothard, or Patriarchy teachings. A young woman who identified as "Done Running" posted her personal story and it deserves its own post. Done Running describes the residual effects of patriarchal… Continue reading A Young Woman’s Personal Story: The Residual Effects of the Teachings by Doug Philips, Bill Gothard, and Patriarchy
The American Vision, Gary DeMar, Rushdoony, Gary North, Reconstructionism, Dominionism, Homeschool Movement, Quiverfull, Patriarchy, Doug Phillips, Daughters With the demise of the mministry of Doug Phillips, and now the negative connotations of the word patriarchy, I've wondered what would be happening in Reconstructionist/Dominionist circles. It's been a while since I've written about Reconstructionism/Dominionism and… Continue reading Capturing the Minds of Daughters via Reconstructionism, Gary DeMar, The American Vision, and the Homeschool Movement
Children Harmed by Spiritual Abuse Yesterday, I was talking with my programming language tutor and mentioned that I had a blog. He asked what my blog was about and I told him the long story. He was absolutely dumbfounded by what he was hearing and kept shaking his head, not wanting to believe it, even… Continue reading The Fallout of Spiritual Abuse on Our Children
Culture, Spanking, Bible, Lori Alexander, Abortion, Feminism, Divorce Do we Have a Culture of Death? In a recent article, Children Need a Bible and a Belt, blogger Lori Alexander complains about today's children, our politically correct culture, and our culture of death which she concludes is caused by abortion, and feminism, which she claims leads to the… Continue reading Blogger Claims Because of our Culture of Death, Our Children Need a Belt and the Bible
Patriarchy, Purity Pledge, Hymen, "Let's Make Jesus Famous" Virginity, Abstinence So much ado about a little flap of skin. For realz, people? The idea of this just disgusts me. Read the bottom of the Instagram picture: I like what this author wrote in, The Sexist Patriarchy of a Certificate of Purity: If you grew up… Continue reading Let’s Make Jesus Famous: Hype about Her Hymen
** Sex abuse, identification abuse, social isolation, food deprivation - Is there a common denominator? ** A 21-yr old female has come forward with her personal story of abuse. At the age of 13, her mother died and she was sent to live with her mother's cousin, Rob Johnson, and his wife, Marie. The young teen… Continue reading Is homeschooling the vehicle by which abuse can be more easily facilitated?
*** Tools to Help Protect Children from Pedophiles and Sex Abuse *** After reading, A Betrayal at Home, an article on incest and child sex abuse, I became angry - angry about trusted individuals who should have been loving and protecting precious children, but instead silenced and victimized children by abusing them sexually, sometimes destroying their lives emotionally… Continue reading There is a Pedophile in My Family: The Tools I Gave My Children to Protect Them from Harm
*** This past week has been a whirlwind with the Josh Duggar sex abuse allegations from 12 years that recently surfaced. Josh Duggar is the eldest child of Patriarchical family and model ATI (Bill Gothard's homeschool curricula) family. Josh Duggar and his family star in the popular reality show on TLC, 19 Kids and Counting. As this… Continue reading How I Would Have Responded as a Parent to the Josh Duggar Sexual Abuse Scenario
*** Personal Story of Abuse following the teachings of Bill Gothard, ATI, IBLP The following is Part 2 of Dash sharing how the teachings of Bill Gothard influenced his parents to "spank" his siblings. Although I know Dash's identity, he has asked to remain anonymous. Dash's account shows that they were not spankings, but abuse:… Continue reading Man Shares Personal Testimony of How Bill Gothard Used Bible Verses Which Led to the Abuse of Children, Part 2
Personal Story of Abuse following the teachings of Bill Gothard, ATI, IBLP Last month, "Dash" commented on an older SSB article, Bill Gothard's New Program/Ministry: Total Success Power Teams. He used some strong words to describe his experience: I am a survivor of Gothard’s cult. I experienced unspeakable physical, sexual, and emotional abuse from my… Continue reading Man Shares Personal Testimony of How Bill Gothard Used Bible Verses Which Led to the Abuse of Children