Culture, Spanking, Bible, Lori Alexander, Abortion, Feminism, Divorce
Do we Have a Culture of Death?
In a recent article, Children Need a Bible and a Belt, blogger Lori Alexander complains about today’s children, our politically correct culture, and our culture of death which she concludes is caused by abortion, and feminism, which she claims leads to the death of marriage. She also mentions the death of hard-working men who used to provide for their families (not sure where she thinks they went). Getting rid of Bibles, she asserts, has led to the death of morality; and parents who fail to discipline their children have contributed “to the death of obedient and self-controlled children.” Woe R us!
Children used to be obedient, had self-control and knew right from wrong. Now, they have no moral compass and have no clue what is right from wrong. They need to be taught to be obedient, respect authority and the value of life from conception through old age.
While I do concur that not everyone values life, I disagree with her blanket statement about kids not having a moral compass or knowing right from wrong. The public school students I work with are, for the most part, respectful and obedient.
They need to be taught to work hard and be responsible. They need to be taught God’s ordained role for them as a male or female. They need to be taught to be covenant keepers until “death do they part.”
Covenant keepers? What does she mean? God’s ordained role? I’ve never taught my kids how to be a boy or a girl. What does that mean? My boys and girls played with the same toys from dolls to Legos, bows and arrows, Lincoln Logs, train sets, climbed trees, you name it. My boys probably cook just as much if not more than my girls. I didn’t know this was something that people taught. Maybe I’m a bad mom. Sorry, kids.
She then recommends a song by a couple in which the title refers to a belt and a Bible. Out of respect for this family who is going through their own challenges with cancer, I will not be passing along the link.
But if that was not enough, at the conclusion of the article, Ms. Alexander recommends Mike and Debi Pearl’s well-known “parenting” book, To Train Up a Child.
For further guidance on raising children to be obedient and trained in the ways of the Lord, I highly recommend the Pearl’s book To Train Up a Child. If you’ve read my posts for very long, you know I have no desire to be politically correct. My only desire is to be biblically correct in everything.
This is what the book looked like when I read it years ago (on the left).
I remember families who bought this book by the case and handed them out. If you bought them by the case, they were around $2.00 a book, so they were given out at church, homeschool co-ops, etc. It seems most everybody had this book in its prime, and parents swore by it. It’s interesting because the kids who once were raised by this book are now some of the very same ones who are speaking out on Homeschoolers Anonymous or other online forums about the harsh, abusive, and controlling parenting influenced by the Pearls.
On the right, is the newer updated version.
Interestingly, Ms. Alexander claims the world is a culture of death, yet recommends a book that has reportedly contributed to the deaths of at least a couple of children (see recommended links below).
While she claims feminism has caused divorces, I wonder if she has considered that Patriarchy (condoned by both the Pearls and the Alexanders) has caused emotional, physical, and spiritual death of women. We are just now reaping the repercussions of Patriarchy and harsh, abusive parenting by Christian families who followed these teachings. I think many adult children who were raised in this culture would say they experienced emotional and spiritual death, too.
But nope, according to Ms. Alexander, the bad stuff only happens because of the world and its culture, certainly not because of us, Christians. Right!
- Another couple found guilty of murder for parenting by “To Train Up a Child”
- Quotes from To Train Up a Child
- Child ‘training’ book triggers backlash, BBC News
- Did the Disturbing Philosophy of To Train Up a Child Lead to Hana Williams’ Death?, Slate.com
- Link on Homeschoolers Anonymous related to the tag, “To Train Up a Child”