ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Calvinism, Christian Marriage, Courtship, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Homeschool Movement, Leaving the Church, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Narcissistic Pastors, Recovery Process, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit

SGM Survivor Speaks Out about Josh Harris

I can't imagine the level of psychological trauma, pain & horror as Joshua (and Shannon) began to discover a lot of their framework for their life was built on religion & false fears & manipulated, pseudo acts of "love."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, C.J. Mahaney, Christian Marriage, Courtship, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Homeschool Movement, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Leaving the Church, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Authority

My Thoughts: Josh Harris (I Kissed Dating Good-bye) and His Wife, Shannon, Announce Marital Separation

But it makes me once again question those ideologies that led up to this point. It makes me think about spiritual abuse. It makes me think about Patriarchy. What significant changes were made in their journey? What ideologies did each one keep, and each one ditch?

Bill Gothard, Christianity and Politics, Disturbing Trends, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement

Rep. Matt Shea: When Politics is Fueled by Religion that Harms

Rep. Matt Shea, Biblical Basis for War, Politics, Religion, Dominionism *** I intentionally do not delve into politics much on this blog because politics is divisive and conversation can deteriorate quickly. However, today I want to mention one candidate whose religion is interfering with his politics in a way that could harm. I found about… Continue reading Rep. Matt Shea: When Politics is Fueled by Religion that Harms

Christian Marriage, Courtship, Homeschool Movement

Josh Harris Discontinues the Publication of ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’

Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Courtship, Dating *** Josh Harris, former senior pastor at Covenant Life Church - the flagship church of then Sovereign Grace Ministries church - has posted a statement  at his website (statement follows). After considerable thought has decided to cease publishing his very influential book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye.  I… Continue reading Josh Harris Discontinues the Publication of ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Bill Gothard, Calvinism, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Homeschool Movement, Personal Stories

Woman Feels Spiritually Trapped after Having Grown up in a Conservative Reformed Christian Homeschool Family

I found Ann's comment (below) in moderation, but felt it deserved a wider audience than where it was intended to be posted. Ann's story most certainly is not unique. Her struggle goes along with the previous two posts on abuse in marriage, but is compounded with a childhood of teachings that have been harmful to… Continue reading Woman Feels Spiritually Trapped after Having Grown up in a Conservative Reformed Christian Homeschool Family

Classical Conversations, Homeschool Movement

Classical Conversations #2: What Led You to Join a Classical Conversations Homeschool Community? #ClassicalConvMadeKnown

  Classical Conversations, #ClassicalConvMadeKnown   * * * NOTE: This is part of a series that began with this post: Classical Conversations: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly Please take a seat and join the conversation, even if you aren't a homeschool parent. I think you might find it interesting. When I encountered the family… Continue reading Classical Conversations #2: What Led You to Join a Classical Conversations Homeschool Community? #ClassicalConvMadeKnown

Classical Conversations, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Failure to Report Crimes, Homeschool Movement, It's All About the Image, Legalism, Mandatory Reporting, No-Talk Rule, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Vision Forum

Classical Conversations #1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

Classical Conversations, Homeschool, Classical Education, #ClassicalConvMadeKnown ***   About 10 years ago, I was at a homeschool family camp with my family in Washington state, and it was talent-show night. Previous years at the talent show, children and families sang, kids performed skits, or danced a routine. However, this year, there were a couple of… Continue reading Classical Conversations #1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Domestic Violence, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Legal Defense Association, Homeschool Movement, Legalism, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Recovery Process

The David and Louise Turpin Family Homeschool Cult

David and Louise Turpin, Homeschool, Cult, Abuse, Torture *** Most likely you have heard the news about the large homeschooling family, the Turpins, from California. The parents, David, 57, and Louise, 49, Turpin who were arrested for torture and child endangerment, with bail set at $9 million each. Here are some of the key facts:… Continue reading The David and Louise Turpin Family Homeschool Cult

Beaverton Grace Bible Church, BGBC Lawsuit, Chuck O'Neal, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Doug Wilson, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, JULIE ANNE'S CASE, Media Interviews with Julie Anne, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Spiritual Bullies, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD, Stories of Hope, SURVIVOR STORIES

Christian Blogger Invited to Speak at Free Thinkers’ Meeting about Abuse in Christian Churches

Free Thinker, Atheist, Christian Blogger, Thought Reform, Patriarchy, Spiritual Abuse, Cults Last Sunday, I had the privilege of speaking at a Free Thinkers group. Privilege, some might ask? You bet. I will take any opportunity afforded to share the truth, set the record straight, and especially let people know that I, as a Christian, am displeased by the… Continue reading Christian Blogger Invited to Speak at Free Thinkers’ Meeting about Abuse in Christian Churches

Bill Gothard, Christian Marriage, Failure to Report Crimes, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

Josh and Anna Duggar Announce New Pregnancy After His Sex Scandal

Josh Duggar, Sex Scandal, ATI, Ashley Madison   *** The eldest son of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar of TLC's popular TV show, 19 Kids and Counting is in the news again. Josh and his wife Anna Duggar made an announcement on their family's website. This announcement comes two years after accusations of: alleged sexual abuse… Continue reading Josh and Anna Duggar Announce New Pregnancy After His Sex Scandal

Bill Gothard, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Media Interviews with Julie Anne

Bill Gothard Documentary

Bill Gothard, Advanced Training Institute (ATI), Institutes in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) **** When I was in Chicago visiting my daughter in the fall, I met with Jake Youngman who had contacted me weeks earlier about the cult of Bill Gothard, Institutes in Basic Life Principles and ATI. He wanted to interview me based on… Continue reading Bill Gothard Documentary

Bill Gothard, Courtship, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Full-Quiver, God's Design for the Family, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Vision Forum

A Young Woman’s Personal Story: The Residual Effects of the Teachings by Doug Philips, Bill Gothard, and Patriarchy

Doug Phillips, Patriarchy, Vision Forum, Stay-at-home daughters, Courtship, Quiverfull, Bill Gothard It's been a while since I've posted anything about Doug Phillips, Vision Forum, Bill Gothard, or Patriarchy teachings. A young woman who identified as "Done Running" posted her personal story and it deserves its own post. Done Running describes the residual effects of patriarchal… Continue reading A Young Woman’s Personal Story: The Residual Effects of the Teachings by Doug Philips, Bill Gothard, and Patriarchy

Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Family Integrated Churches, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Vision Forum, Women and the Church

Doug Phillips: The Sex Abuse Lawsuit Conclusion and Epilogue of His Vision Forum Shipwreck

*** Doug Phillips Lawsuit, Lourdes Torres, Sex Abuse, Vision Forum, Spiritual Abuse   *** It's been a long while since there have been any updates on the Lourdes Torres vs Douglas Phillips lawsuit. Normally, I received updates from Attorney David C. Gibbs III, who represented Lourdes Torres. Either he would e-mail or text me, or… Continue reading Doug Phillips: The Sex Abuse Lawsuit Conclusion and Epilogue of His Vision Forum Shipwreck

Christian Marriage, Courtship, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Women and the Church

Capturing the Minds of Daughters via Reconstructionism, Gary DeMar, The American Vision, and the Homeschool Movement

The American Vision, Gary DeMar, Rushdoony, Gary North, Reconstructionism, Dominionism, Homeschool Movement, Quiverfull, Patriarchy, Doug Phillips, Daughters   With the demise of the mministry of Doug Phillips, and now the negative connotations of the word patriarchy, I've wondered what would be happening in Reconstructionist/Dominionist circles. It's been a while since I've written about Reconstructionism/Dominionism and… Continue reading Capturing the Minds of Daughters via Reconstructionism, Gary DeMar, The American Vision, and the Homeschool Movement

Courtship, Homeschool Movement, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Single and Christian, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit

Has Josh Harris Kissed His Book Against Dating Good-Bye?

Josh Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Courtship vs. Dating   Yesterday, this happened on Twitter:   https://twitter.com/elizabethesther/status/730233972404322304 https://twitter.com/HarrisJosh/status/730239252978491392 https://twitter.com/HarrisJosh/status/730241156622123008   Many are probably familiar with Josh Harris. He was mentored by C.J. Mahaney and took Mahaney's position as senior pastor at Covenant Life Church (Sovereign Grace Ministries flagship church) in 2004 until 2015, when he resigned. Michelle… Continue reading Has Josh Harris Kissed His Book Against Dating Good-Bye?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Bill Gothard & IBLP Lawsuit, Failure to Report Crimes, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Mandatory Reporting, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations

Second Amended Complaint Filed in Bill Gothard & IBLP Sex Abuse Lawsuit: 18 Victims in Lawsuit

Bill Gothard, Lawsuit, IBLP, Institute in Basic Life Principles, David C. Gibbs III, Sex Abuse, Sexual Grooming, ALERT     Yesterday, I received the following summary from the office of Attorney David Gibbs III. While it would have been easy to pull only specific highlights, the reality is that for each individual named, either by… Continue reading Second Amended Complaint Filed in Bill Gothard & IBLP Sex Abuse Lawsuit: 18 Victims in Lawsuit

Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Emotional Responses, Feminist Agenda, Gender Roles, God's Design for the Family, Homeschool Movement, Homeschoolers Anonymous, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Mental Health and the Church, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

Blogger Claims Because of our Culture of Death, Our Children Need a Belt and the Bible

Culture, Spanking, Bible, Lori Alexander, Abortion, Feminism, Divorce Do we Have a Culture of Death? In a recent article, Children Need a Bible and a Belt, blogger Lori Alexander complains about today's children, our politically correct culture, and our culture of death which she concludes is caused by abortion, and feminism, which she claims leads to the… Continue reading Blogger Claims Because of our Culture of Death, Our Children Need a Belt and the Bible

Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Homeschool Movement

Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents: Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing

Second Generation Adult, Cynthia Jeub, Gaslighting, Homeschool Movement Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents:  Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing By Cindy Kunsman Think for a moment about the manner in which children learn. We teach basic distinctions to keep them safe – such as hot and cold – sensations which are rarely ambiguous. Fire… Continue reading Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents: Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing

Bill Gothard, Christian Marriage, Courtship, Divorce, Full-Quiver, Gender Roles, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Legalism, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

How has the Josh Duggar Scandal affected you? Are you experiencing painful reminders?

Josh Duggar, sex scandal, painful reminders, homeschool movement, patriarchy, purity and modesty culture, Bill Gothard *** *** With the recent disclosure of sexual infidelity by Josh Duggar, I have been noticing a lot of people who have been influenced by Patriarchy, Quiverfull, Bill Gothard, Homeschool Movement, etc, trying to make sense of what is going… Continue reading How has the Josh Duggar Scandal affected you? Are you experiencing painful reminders?

Christian Marriage, Full-Quiver, Gender Roles, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and Their Son, Josh Duggar Release Statement Regarding Josh’s Marital Unfaithfulness, and Poof, it’s Gone!

** Jim Bob and Michelle and Josh Duggar release statements related to reports of Josh's sexual infidelity ** This is a followup post to this article: Josh Duggar Reportedly Had Account at Ashley Madison, the Site Used to Help Married People Find Someone with Whom to Have an Extramarital Affair Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, along with… Continue reading Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and Their Son, Josh Duggar Release Statement Regarding Josh’s Marital Unfaithfulness, and Poof, it’s Gone!