Authoritative Preaching, Doctrine as Idol, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Legalism, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies

Christ Saved the World through Redemption, Not Condemnation

What's interesting is if you address these people and question the way they are attack you and your beliefs, they quip they are telling you this in love and they are being Biblical. It never feels like love. It's rude. It seems like a clanging cymbal to me. Love is patient and kind, right?

Doctrine as Idol, J.D. Hall, Pulpit & Pen blog, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

Response to Pulpit and Pen and the Death of Rachel Held Evans

My heart remains heavy for those wounded by leaders whose arrogance use the Bible as a weapon to harm instead of to heal. I've been on the receiving end of that arrogance and it is not pleasant.

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Media Interviews with Julie Anne, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD

Spiritual Brewpub Podcast: Michael Camp Interviews Julie Anne Smith on Spiritual Abuse in the Church

Julie Anne Smith shares with Michael how she got slapped with a $500,000 lawsuit, uncovered abuse in her church and among evangelicals, and how patriarchal theology harms women. Hear this lively conversation as they discuss the prevalence and roots of spiritual abuse . . .

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, Addressing Abuse, Clergy Sex Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY

Spiritual Abuse: Is This Worth Dividing the Church Over?

Spiritual Abuse, Jonathan Hollingsworth This is the sixth and final blog post referencing an article by Jonathan Hollingsworth, What Not to Say to Someone Who’s Been Hurt by the Church. The article resonated with a lot of people, so I thought it might be a good idea to discuss these unhelpful statements one by one here,… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Is This Worth Dividing the Church Over?

Bill Hybels, Book Review Series, child abuse, Clergy Sex Abuse, Homosexuality, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association, Women and the Church

Book Review – “Christians in a Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 3 – The Unrepentant Confidant

All in all, this book suggests that Bill, from a young age, had a problem with sex and how he sexualized women. The writing seems to be a self-fulling prophecy.

Addressing Abuse, child abuse, Desiring God, Parenting, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Spiritual Abuse

When Desiring God Misses an Opportunity to Address Child Abuse

Why would a caring mother tell a wounded child that they are no better than the one who caused the harm? This tells the child that they played a role in the harm done to them. It also implies that the harm done to the child is insignificant due to the equal status as a sinner.

Bill Hybels, child abuse, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, James Dobson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association

Book Review – “Christians in a Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 2 – Bill’s Problem with Porn

[James] Dobson tells Hybels to "get educated firsthand" about pornography? Does Dobson actually mean to say, "Bill [Hybels], get yourself some porn?" There is the implication behind the instruction. So, what does Bill do?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY

Good Friday, Notre Dame, and Resurrection

The spiritual abuse I experienced will only be a blip in my life's story, and it doesn't define who I am, just as Notre Dame's 2019 fire does not define it. Abuse is part of my story and has shaped me, and has produced life-changing fruit.

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christianity Today International, Ed Stetzer, James MacDonald, Mark Galli, Spiritual Abuse

Open Letter from Two Abuse Survivors to the Board of Directors, Christianity Today International

This open letter is to CT's Board of Directors because we believe the public situation of reportedly questionable ethics and abusive behaviors by CT representatives Mark Galli and Ed Stetzer has escalated to where it can only be resolved at the board level.

Bill Hybels, Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Marriage, Narcissistic Pastors, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association

Book Review – “Christians in A Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 1 – Identifying the One Who is Sex Crazed

During a later anniversary celebration Bill and Lynne [Hybels] stayed in a hotel room described as: "Socially, it was positively scandalous; morally, it was absolutely decadent; theologically, it was totally depraved."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Blog Series - Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery, Chuck O'Neal, Leaving the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Spiritual Abuse: How Unsanctioned Friendships Can Enable People to Leave High-Controlling Churches

"They taught me that sometimes the exit door of an abusive church is held open by the gracious hands of friends who have nothing to do with church, or even with Christianity, but who simply would never turn their back on a friend."

Biblical Manhood, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Desiring God, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, John Piper, Marriage, Women and the Church

Greg Morse Thinks We All Misunderstood

"Some women of the world tempt our daughters to see the cultivation of the home as a career failure, motherhood as a backup plan, and submission to a husband as unquestionably intolerable."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, It's All About the Image, John MacArthur, Master's University / Master's Seminary, No-Talk Rule

John MacArthur Demonstrates Expertise in the Destructive and Self-Preservation Tools of Ingratiation and Gaslighting

John MacArthur on his schools' accreditation probation status: "What had happened in the three days is a rather orchestrated attack, if not by any human source, certainly by Satan himself. There was an attack directly on me, and it came in all kinds of forms." 

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Five: Wives, if You Experience Abuse, Acknowledge Your Sin

"A wife who is a victim of abuse should not be forced to think about how her "sinful actions" contributed to abuse. This constant reminder of sin can keep a victim trapped in an abusive marriage longer than she should be."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, It's All About the Image, Narcissistic Pastors, RC Sproul Jr., SMH (Shake My Head), Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Tullian Tchividjian

Estranged Adult Child of Disgraced Former Pastor R.C. Sproul, Jr., Urges People to NOT Purchase Father’s New Book; Foreword by Tullian Tchividjian

“Myself and RC Jr’s other adult children are estranged from him. We do not support this book or his return to public ministry.”

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Authoritative Preaching, Clergy Misconduct, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Dictators, Harvest Bible Chapel, James MacDonald, Narcissistic Pastors, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Pastor James MacDonald: Video and Transcript of MacDonald Bullying a Harvest Christian Academy High School Student in Front of His Peers

"I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or dehumanized."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

Pastor Gabriel Hughes’ Tweet on a Wife Taking Her Husband’s Last Name Because She Now “Belongs” to Him

"Because now belonging to her husband as the head of a new household, she's exchanged her father's last name, which she had before, for her husband's last name." ~Pastor Gabriel Hughes