ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Calvinism, Doctrine as Idol, Going Back to Church Again, John Piper, Mental Health and the Church, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse

Caution: Children and Predestination

Predestination and Children My friend, Ryan Stollar, posted this on his Facebook wall, and I was struck at how damaging Predestination can be to children, especially vulnerable children. Shoot, I think it could scare adults, too! Special thanks to Ryan for writing about this and giving me permission to share it.  ~ja First off, what… Continue reading Caution: Children and Predestination

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Saeed Abedini, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse

Naghmeh Panahi, Ex-Wife of Former Iranian Prisoner, “Pastor” Saeed Abedini, Posts Public Statement on Facebook

It's been a while since I have posted about Saeed Abedini or his ex-wife, Naghmeh. Naghmeh Panahi posted a public note on Facebook yesterday. You may recall that after Saeed Abedini was released from prison in Iran, Naghmeh filed for separation because Saeed would not get help for his abusive behavior in the marriage. Saeed… Continue reading Naghmeh Panahi, Ex-Wife of Former Iranian Prisoner, “Pastor” Saeed Abedini, Posts Public Statement on Facebook

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH

Spiritual Abuse: It’s Not Gossip to Talk about Abuse!

Spiritual Abuse, Gossip, Jonathan Hollingsworth   This is the third blog post referring to an article by Jonathan Hollingsworth, What Not to Say to Someone Who’s Been Hurt by the Church. The article resonated with a lot of people, so I thought it might be a good idea to discuss these unhelpful statements one by one here,… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: It’s Not Gossip to Talk about Abuse!

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Need a Good Laugh?

Creative Exegesis on Social Media

There's a bit of fun "exegesis" happening on Twitter.  What is exegesis? It started when my East Coast gal pal blogger, Dee, posted a link to an article on John Piper: https://twitter.com/wartwatch/status/1060540779112861696?s=21 And then what Tim and David added really cracked me up! I copied those 2 tweets together in an image so people could… Continue reading Creative Exegesis on Social Media

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Recovery Process, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Bullies

Spiritual Abuse: When People Ask You, “Are You Working Toward Reconciliation?”

Spiritual Abuse, What Not to Say, Jonathan Hollingsworth, Reconciliation   This is the second blog post referring to an article by Jonathan Hollingsworth, What Not to Say to Someone Who’s Been Hurt by the Church. The article resonated with a lot of people, so I thought it might be a good idea to discuss these unhelpful statements… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: When People Ask You, “Are You Working Toward Reconciliation?”

Addressing Abuse, Failure to Report Crimes, John MacArthur, Mandatory Reporting, Master's University / Master's Seminary

Does the WASC Commission Letter Address Reports of Sexual Assault at The Master’s University?

"In 2015 The Department of Education cited The Master's University for violating compliance regulations around several areas, including the Clery Act and VAWA for calendar year 2012. TMU was fined $29,000 in 2017 for its non-compliance."

Bill Gothard, Christianity and Politics, Disturbing Trends, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement

Rep. Matt Shea: When Politics is Fueled by Religion that Harms

Rep. Matt Shea, Biblical Basis for War, Politics, Religion, Dominionism *** I intentionally do not delve into politics much on this blog because politics is divisive and conversation can deteriorate quickly. However, today I want to mention one candidate whose religion is interfering with his politics in a way that could harm. I found about… Continue reading Rep. Matt Shea: When Politics is Fueled by Religion that Harms

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, child abuse, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles

Stephen Kilpatrick: While Teaching at Liberty University and Bible to Small Children, He Also Solicited Sex with a Minor

Stephen Kilpatrick, Liberty University, Bible Study Teacher, Alleged Child Sex Criminal A former Liberty University professor has been charged with soliciting sex from a minor. Stephen James Kilpatrick, 63, "was arrested and charged with three counts each of taking indecent liberties with a child younger than 15 years old and soliciting sex from a child… Continue reading Stephen Kilpatrick: While Teaching at Liberty University and Bible to Small Children, He Also Solicited Sex with a Minor

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Addressing Abuse, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Spiritual Abuse: When People Tell You, “No Church is Perfect”

Spiritual Abuse, What Not to Say, Jonathan Hollingsworth   Being hurt at church is tough, and sometimes it's a lonely journey. You may have experienced something that other congregants have not experienced. Some people may have good intentions, but say things that are not helpful, and in fact, may be hurtful. This can lead to… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: When People Tell You, “No Church is Perfect”

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Industrial Complex, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Emergent/Progressive Movement

Tony Jones Book Update, Christian Industrial Complex, and Domestic Violence

Tony Jones, Emergent, THE NEW CHRISTIANS: DISPATCHES FROM THE EMERGENT FRONTIER, Anniversary, Christian Industrial Complex ***   October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month in the US, and so this article is timely. The last time I wrote about popular emergent leader, Tony Jones, was in 2015 in this article, A Spider Web of Emergent Leader… Continue reading Tony Jones Book Update, Christian Industrial Complex, and Domestic Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Chuck O'Neal, JULIE ANNE'S CASE, Leaving the Church, Legalism, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Negative Google Reviews are Still Keeping People Away from My Spiritually Abusive Church 6 Years after Lawsuit

Chuck O'Neal, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Spiritual Abuse, Negative Google Reviews, Defamation Lawsuit     The other day, I got a call from my good friend, Michelle, who used to attend the cult/church we attended. Her husband used to be on staff at the church (Beaverton Grace Bible Church) and was fired. That led to… Continue reading Negative Google Reviews are Still Keeping People Away from My Spiritually Abusive Church 6 Years after Lawsuit

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, No-Talk Rule, Spiritual Bullies

“Someone Offends Me Chart” is Too Black and White; Can Be Used to Control

  *** Have you seen this? It's been spreading around on Facebook. The first time I saw it, someone shared that their pastor had sent it to her. She was livid. He was trying to control her in a personal situation. She felt she was being squelched by this. Do you see how she could… Continue reading “Someone Offends Me Chart” is Too Black and White; Can Be Used to Control

Disturbing Trends, Franklin Graham, It's All About the Image, SMH (Shake My Head)

Franklin Graham’s Nonprofit Charities, Samaritan Purse and Operation Christmas Child, Cancel Advertisement Account with Relevant Magazine after Quoting Graham’s Own Words

  *** Franklin Graham's non-profit organizations, Samaritan's Purse and Operation Christmas Child, will no longer use Relevant magazine for advertising. What was Relevant's crime?  They printed Franklin Graham's own words! On September 19, 2018, Relevant magazine reported a quote from Franklin Graham which were originally said during a CBN news interview. Here are Relevant's two paragraphs.… Continue reading Franklin Graham’s Nonprofit Charities, Samaritan Purse and Operation Christmas Child, Cancel Advertisement Account with Relevant Magazine after Quoting Graham’s Own Words

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Leaving the Church, Personal Stories, Recovery Process

Another Sad Church Story

  This story is not over yet, but I figure I better check in before people start wondering what's happening with me. If you follow me on Twitter, you may have read about my pastor and church. It's a long story, and one I hope to tell one day, but for now, I am grieving… Continue reading Another Sad Church Story

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Dale Partridge, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Marriage, Women and the Church

Husbands Who Don’t Spiritually Lead are a Problem

Dale Partridge, Complementarianism, Male Headship -by Kathi The above post by Dale Partridge was shared on the SSB Facebook page a few days ago. Text reads: Christian husbands, if another man is teaching your wife more about God than you are, you have a problem. It is not your pastor's job to be your wife's… Continue reading Husbands Who Don’t Spiritually Lead are a Problem

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, child abuse, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Failure to Report Crimes, Mandatory Reporting, Mark Driscoll, Phil Johnson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Tom Chantry

Tom Chantry: Update on His Molestation, Child Abuse, and Assault Charges; and Looking Back

Tom Chantry, Molestation, Child Abuse, and Assault Charges, ARBCA *** Back in his heyday, Pastor Tom Chantry was a highly respected commenter at Pyromaniacs blog hosted by various Calvinist dude-bros such as Phil Johnson, Dan Phillips, Frank Turk, et al. We know he has been on trial for child abuse, molestation, and assault charges. Today,… Continue reading Tom Chantry: Update on His Molestation, Child Abuse, and Assault Charges; and Looking Back

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Ravi Zacharias

Does it matter to you that Ravi Zacharias has been a chronic liar for decades?

Ravi Zacharias, Lies, Deception, RZIM, Ravi Zacharias International Ministries *** I care about the truth. Does it bother me that the video below was produced by an atheist? You bet. I have spoken with Steve Baughman, the producer, at length a number of times. I understand his angst against Ravi. Steve is a life-long student… Continue reading Does it matter to you that Ravi Zacharias has been a chronic liar for decades?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Addressing Abuse, child abuse, Debi Pearl, Doctrine as Idol, Forgiveness, Lori Alexander, Michael Pearl, Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander: Children Should Visit Their Incarcerated Molesting Fathers

Lori Alexander, Child Sex Abuse, Spiritual Abuse -by Kathi We've seen the type of advice Lori Alexander gives to wives experiencing domestic abuse. Just when you think she couldn't stoop lower, she addresses children visiting their incarcerated fathers who sexually abused them. It all starts when she defends Michael and Debi Pearl's teachings which leads… Continue reading Lori Alexander: Children Should Visit Their Incarcerated Molesting Fathers