ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Blog Series - Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery, Chuck O'Neal, Leaving the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Spiritual Abuse: How Unsanctioned Friendships Can Enable People to Leave High-Controlling Churches

"They taught me that sometimes the exit door of an abusive church is held open by the gracious hands of friends who have nothing to do with church, or even with Christianity, but who simply would never turn their back on a friend."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Saeed Abedini, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse

Naghmeh Panahi, Ex-Wife of Former Iranian Prisoner, “Pastor” Saeed Abedini, Posts Public Statement on Facebook

It's been a while since I have posted about Saeed Abedini or his ex-wife, Naghmeh. Naghmeh Panahi posted a public note on Facebook yesterday. You may recall that after Saeed Abedini was released from prison in Iran, Naghmeh filed for separation because Saeed would not get help for his abusive behavior in the marriage. Saeed… Continue reading Naghmeh Panahi, Ex-Wife of Former Iranian Prisoner, “Pastor” Saeed Abedini, Posts Public Statement on Facebook

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Classical Conversations, Dictators, It's All About the Image, Legalism, Misuse of Scripture, No-Talk Rule, Parenting, Personal Stories, Spiritual Bullies

Classical Conversations #7: Business or a Non-Profit; Cult or a Christian Homeschool Group?

*** NOTE: This is part of a series that began with these earlier posts: Classical Conversations #1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly Classical Conversations #2: What Led You to Join a Classical Conversations Homeschool Community? #ClassicalConvMadeKnown Classical Conversations #3: Leaders Delete Comments and Block Commenters Who Don’t Toe the Line Classical Conversations #4: A CC… Continue reading Classical Conversations #7: Business or a Non-Profit; Cult or a Christian Homeschool Group?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Calvinism, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Complementarianism, Debi Pearl, Doctrine as Idol, Failure to Report Crimes, It's All About the Image, John MacArthur, Legalism, Mandatory Reporting, Mark Driscoll, Michael Pearl, Parenting, Phil Johnson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Tom Chantry

Tedd Tripp and Tom Chantry: Shepherding a Child’s Heart … or Not

Tedd Tripp, Tom Chantry, Failure to Report, Mandatory Reporter, Spanking, Shepherding a Child's Heart *** *** In the late 1990s, I attended a parenting seminar by Tedd Tripp. It may or may not be significant to note that the seminar was held at a Sovereign Grace Ministries church in Chesapeake, Virginia. Shepherding a Child's Heart… Continue reading Tedd Tripp and Tom Chantry: Shepherding a Child’s Heart … or Not

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Bill Hybels, the Willow Creek “System,” and Why the Women Needed to Speak Publicly

Bill Hybels, Clergy Sexual Misconduct, Willow Creek Church *** Scot McKnight at Jesus Creed wrote a very important article about the Bill Hybels/Willow Creek sexual misconduct scandal. This is a very important article that summarizes the system that was in place which allowed Bill Hybels to not only go unchecked, but to be protected and… Continue reading Bill Hybels, the Willow Creek “System,” and Why the Women Needed to Speak Publicly

Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Classical Conversations, No-Talk Rule

Classical Conversations #3: Leaders Delete Comments and Block Commenters Who Don’t Toe the Line

Classical Conversations, High-Controlling Groups, Deleted Comments, Blocked Commenters, Noble Gibbens *** NOTE: This is part of a series that began with these earlier posts: Classical Conversations #1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly Classical Conversations #2: What Led You to Join a Classical Conversations Homeschool Community? #ClassicalConvMadeKnown Please take a seat and join the conversation,… Continue reading Classical Conversations #3: Leaders Delete Comments and Block Commenters Who Don’t Toe the Line

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Clergy Misconduct, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Failure to Report Crimes, Legalism, Mandatory Reporting, Misuse of Scripture, Narcissistic Pastors, Paige Patterson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Southern Baptist Convention, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

BREAKING NEWS: Dr. Paige Patterson Terminated, Effective Immediately: No Title, No Housing, No Ongoing Compensation

Paige Patterson, Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, SBC, #Churchtoo, #ChurchToo, #MeToo   *** A new statement was just released at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary: During the May 30, 2018, Executive Committee meeting of the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (SWBTS) Board of Trustees, new information confirmed this morning was presented regarding the handling of an allegation of… Continue reading BREAKING NEWS: Dr. Paige Patterson Terminated, Effective Immediately: No Title, No Housing, No Ongoing Compensation

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Lyvonne Picou’s Research on Black Christian Women Survivors of Male Sexual Violence

by Brad Sargent, aka brad/futuristguy, and cross-posted at futuristguy website. *     *     *     *     *     *     * “I am fiercely committed to addressing the taboo and stigma attached to childhood sexual abuse (CSA) in the Black community.” ~ Lyvonne Proverbs Picou *     *     *     *     *     *     * Occasionally, I find out about surveys or… Continue reading Lyvonne Picou’s Research on Black Christian Women Survivors of Male Sexual Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Mandatory Reporting, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

A “Systems Approach” and Some Historical Background on Dealing with Abuse and Violence

To deal with "systemic abuse," we must understand systems, victimization, and what makes individuals and institutions vulnerable. Guest post by Brad Sargent, with input from Julie Anne Smith. Cross-posted at futuristguy. *     *     *     *     *     *     * How will our church serve those who’ve suffered the harm of childhood sexual abuse, and seek to… Continue reading A “Systems Approach” and Some Historical Background on Dealing with Abuse and Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Mandatory Reporting, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

Book Review: The Child Safeguarding Policy Guide, by Boz Tchividjian and Shira Berkovits

Key component in a system of resources on child sexual abuse for policy makers, survivors, educators, and advocates. Guest post by Brad Sargent, with input from Julie Anne Smith. Cross-posted at futuristguy. *     *     *     *     *     *     * Spiritual Sounding Board was invited to participate in the Litfuse "blog tour" for the recently released… Continue reading Book Review: The Child Safeguarding Policy Guide, by Boz Tchividjian and Shira Berkovits

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Blog Series: Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery by Pastor Ken Garrett, Wk 2

Spiritual Abuse, Pastor Ken Garrett, Spiritual Abuse in the church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery *** Ok, here we go, plowing through Pastor Ken Garret's dissertation about spiritual abuse. I used the word plowing intentionally. For some of us, it will be work. It is not enjoyable to be reminded about difficult experiences. However,… Continue reading Blog Series: Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery by Pastor Ken Garrett, Wk 2

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, Blog Series - Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery, Leaving the Church

New Blog Series: Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery by Pastor Ken Garrett

Spiritual Abuse, Pastor Ken Garrett, Spiritual Abuse in the church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery *** As I was reading through Ken Garrett's dissertation, I had to stop and soak up what I had just read. It took time to process and I felt like if I continued reading, I might miss something. It… Continue reading New Blog Series: Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery by Pastor Ken Garrett

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Help! My Family Member or Close Friend is Trapped in a High-Controlling Church or Cult. How Can I Encourage Them to Leave?

How to help a family member or friend leave a high-controlling church group or cult: spiritual abuse, trapped, thought reform, mind control, freedom   “Mind control is the process by which individual or collective freedom of choice and action is compromised by agents or agencies that modify or distort perception, motivation, affect, cognition and/or behavioral… Continue reading Help! My Family Member or Close Friend is Trapped in a High-Controlling Church or Cult. How Can I Encourage Them to Leave?

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Four Primary Conditions that Result in People Leaving Abusive Churches and Cults

Spiritual Abuse: Leaving Abusive Cults and High-Controlling Churches   I have been very moved by many of your stories of abuse in the recent article, Spiritual Abuse: What Was the Last Straw That Caused You to Leave Your Abusive Church? Spiritual abuse is obviously not isolated. It's happening all over and crosses denominational lines. Several people have said… Continue reading Four Primary Conditions that Result in People Leaving Abusive Churches and Cults

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Calvary Chapel Lawsuit, Doug Wilson, Failure to Report Crimes, Mandatory Reporting, Mental Health and the Church, Misuse of Scripture, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Narcissistic Pastors, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Bullies, Statute of Limitations, Word of Faith Movement

A Spotlight on Abuse and Death of VCY America Founder Vic Eliason

  *** Here are some interesting articles that have been making the rounds: If you have not seen Spotlight, I urge you to see it. It is about "Spotlight" a specific group of investigative reporters from the Boston Globe who uncovered the systemic sex abuse and cover-up in the Catholic Church. This movie is very… Continue reading A Spotlight on Abuse and Death of VCY America Founder Vic Eliason

Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Homeschool Movement

Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents: Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing

Second Generation Adult, Cynthia Jeub, Gaslighting, Homeschool Movement Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents:  Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing By Cindy Kunsman Think for a moment about the manner in which children learn. We teach basic distinctions to keep them safe – such as hot and cold – sensations which are rarely ambiguous. Fire… Continue reading Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents: Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing

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Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), Bill Gothard, lawsuit, David Gibbs III Many are probably aware of the recent news that five very brave women have come forward and have filed a lawsuit against Bill Gothard's former ministry, Institute in Basic Life Principles, Inc. (IBLP), and six men who serve as Directors of IBLP: John Stancil, Anthony… Continue reading Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Bill Gothard, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Failure to Report Crimes, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Mandatory Reporting, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Statute of Limitations

Victim of Bill Gothard’s Teachings Speaks out about Josh Duggar Scandal, Mike Huckabee: Bill Gothard’s Dangerous Agenda and Influence in Political Arena and Society at Large

*** Bill Gothard, Mike Huckabee, Sex Abuse Coverup, Political and Social Influence, and an Agenda *** *** Some may remember Dash's (pseudonym) personal story I posted a while back. Dash was raised with parents who adhered to Bill Gothard's teachings and suffered severe emotional, physical, and spiritual abuse. I covered his story in two articles: Man… Continue reading Victim of Bill Gothard’s Teachings Speaks out about Josh Duggar Scandal, Mike Huckabee: Bill Gothard’s Dangerous Agenda and Influence in Political Arena and Society at Large

Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Homeschool Movement, Homeschoolers Anonymous, It's All About the Image, Reader's Prose, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement

Elephants and SGA’s Everywhere! Coming to Terms with Homeschooling’s Pitfalls

The need of parents to both deal with the pitfalls and understand their Second Generation Adults of homeschooling (those who suffered in a high demand Christian homeschooling culture).     A post by Cindy Kunsman of UnderMuchGrace.com In the Spiritual Sounding Board series about the Second Generation Adult who grows up in high demand religion… Continue reading Elephants and SGA’s Everywhere! Coming to Terms with Homeschooling’s Pitfalls