Wives, please don't hold on to the destructive teaching that God has a purpose and plan for abuse that happens to you.
It's time for Focus on the Family to start acknowledging abuse happens in Christian marriages.
This chapter is full of conflicting important points and is a reminder that verbal and emotional abuse is not appropriate.
In this chapter, the author provides a list of ways wives are motivated to honor Christ in submission to their husbands. I'm motivated to cut out as much from the list as possible. ~Kathi
How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.
Do you fall on the good church member list or the bad church member list?
It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.
Is J.D. opening up his home if Beth Moore is in the area and needs a place to stay, or is he opening the pulpit to her?
This book has already focused so much on submission, but for some reason Peace has at least two more chapters left on this topic. It makes me wonder if she is trying to convince herself that her theology is that good by saying it over and over and over.
In black/white churches, you have two choices: follow along with the pastor, or you are immediately castigated as someone who has made the wrong choice. If people know of your "bad" choice, you may be called a sinner or rebellious.
Peace likens the wife's position to her husband as a soldier to his superior officer, which leads to the biggest problem I have with this chapter: the husband being viewed as the position of authority and the wife respecting her husband because of that position.
I can't imagine the level of psychological trauma, pain & horror as Joshua (and Shannon) began to discover a lot of their framework for their life was built on religion & false fears & manipulated, pseudo acts of "love."
A Christian wife should not be led to believe that she is undeserving of living in a healthy, harm-free relationship.
But it makes me once again question those ideologies that led up to this point. It makes me think about spiritual abuse. It makes me think about Patriarchy. What significant changes were made in their journey? What ideologies did each one keep, and each one ditch?
If the "major biblical emphasis" of a wife's ministry is to be the keeper of the home, I would think that it would be discussed more in the Bible.
I honestly don't understand how a wife expecting her husband to treat her with respect, kindness, and love is an idol.
What's interesting is if you address these people and question the way they are attack you and your beliefs, they quip they are telling you this in love and they are being Biblical. It never feels like love. It's rude. It seems like a clanging cymbal to me. Love is patient and kind, right?
Because only men can bring glory to God, the husband will always be the head of the wife.
My heart remains heavy for those wounded by leaders whose arrogance use the Bible as a weapon to harm instead of to heal. I've been on the receiving end of that arrogance and it is not pleasant.
"Some women of the world tempt our daughters to see the cultivation of the home as a career failure, motherhood as a backup plan, and submission to a husband as unquestionably intolerable."