This chapter is supposed to help a wife who is grieving over her husband's sinful actions. Interestingly, nothing specifically points to how a wife can manage her grief or sorrow.
Greg Morse at Desiring God has a problem with nice guys.
In this chapter, Martha Peace lets wives know it's their problem if they feel lonely when their husbands isolate them.
In this chapter wives are told that fear is associated is sinful and indicates a lack of trust in God.
Anger, an emotion which on its own is not bad, is viewed as sinful and should not be a part of a Christian marriage.
Wives, please don't hold on to the destructive teaching that God has a purpose and plan for abuse that happens to you.
It's time for Focus on the Family to start acknowledging abuse happens in Christian marriages.
This chapter is full of conflicting important points and is a reminder that verbal and emotional abuse is not appropriate.
In this chapter, the author provides a list of ways wives are motivated to honor Christ in submission to their husbands. I'm motivated to cut out as much from the list as possible. ~Kathi
How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.
Do you fall on the good church member list or the bad church member list?
It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.
Is J.D. opening up his home if Beth Moore is in the area and needs a place to stay, or is he opening the pulpit to her?
This book has already focused so much on submission, but for some reason Peace has at least two more chapters left on this topic. It makes me wonder if she is trying to convince herself that her theology is that good by saying it over and over and over.
In black/white churches, you have two choices: follow along with the pastor, or you are immediately castigated as someone who has made the wrong choice. If people know of your "bad" choice, you may be called a sinner or rebellious.
Peace likens the wife's position to her husband as a soldier to his superior officer, which leads to the biggest problem I have with this chapter: the husband being viewed as the position of authority and the wife respecting her husband because of that position.
I can't imagine the level of psychological trauma, pain & horror as Joshua (and Shannon) began to discover a lot of their framework for their life was built on religion & false fears & manipulated, pseudo acts of "love."
A Christian wife should not be led to believe that she is undeserving of living in a healthy, harm-free relationship.
But it makes me once again question those ideologies that led up to this point. It makes me think about spiritual abuse. It makes me think about Patriarchy. What significant changes were made in their journey? What ideologies did each one keep, and each one ditch?
If the "major biblical emphasis" of a wife's ministry is to be the keeper of the home, I would think that it would be discussed more in the Bible.