This chapter is supposed to help a wife who is grieving over her husband's sinful actions. Interestingly, nothing specifically points to how a wife can manage her grief or sorrow.
In this chapter, Martha Peace lets wives know it's their problem if they feel lonely when their husbands isolate them.
In this chapter wives are told that fear is associated is sinful and indicates a lack of trust in God.
Anger, an emotion which on its own is not bad, is viewed as sinful and should not be a part of a Christian marriage.
Wives, please don't hold on to the destructive teaching that God has a purpose and plan for abuse that happens to you.
This chapter is full of conflicting important points and is a reminder that verbal and emotional abuse is not appropriate.
In this chapter, the author provides a list of ways wives are motivated to honor Christ in submission to their husbands. I'm motivated to cut out as much from the list as possible. ~Kathi
How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.
It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.
This book has already focused so much on submission, but for some reason Peace has at least two more chapters left on this topic. It makes me wonder if she is trying to convince herself that her theology is that good by saying it over and over and over.
In so many of the godly wife books we see that the wife's duty is to provide sex for her husband whenever he wants it. At least she identifies that a wife has a desire and need for sex.
Peace likens the wife's position to her husband as a soldier to his superior officer, which leads to the biggest problem I have with this chapter: the husband being viewed as the position of authority and the wife respecting her husband because of that position.
A Christian wife should not be led to believe that she is undeserving of living in a healthy, harm-free relationship.
If the "major biblical emphasis" of a wife's ministry is to be the keeper of the home, I would think that it would be discussed more in the Bible.
I honestly don't understand how a wife expecting her husband to treat her with respect, kindness, and love is an idol.
Because only men can bring glory to God, the husband will always be the head of the wife.
All in all, this book suggests that Bill, from a young age, had a problem with sex and how he sexualized women. The writing seems to be a self-fulling prophecy.
During a later anniversary celebration Bill and Lynne [Hybels] stayed in a hotel room described as: "Socially, it was positively scandalous; morally, it was absolutely decadent; theologically, it was totally depraved."
"A wife who is a victim of abuse should not be forced to think about how her "sinful actions" contributed to abuse. This constant reminder of sin can keep a victim trapped in an abusive marriage longer than she should be."
"You may be thinking, "I'm willing to work at having a close relationship with my husband, but he is not." If he is unwilling to communicate or is cruel and yet you respond in a godly manner, you will be suffering for righteousness sake and God will meet your needs." ~Martha Peace