Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Homeschool Movement

Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents: Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing

Second Generation Adult, Cynthia Jeub, Gaslighting, Homeschool Movement Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents:  Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing By Cindy Kunsman Think for a moment about the manner in which children learn. We teach basic distinctions to keep them safe – such as hot and cold – sensations which are rarely ambiguous. Fire… Continue reading Breaking the Pattern of Idealizing Parents: Cynthia Jeub and the Trap of All-or-Nothing

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, IBLP and ATI, Marriage, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles

Will Anna Duggar be offered as the next live sacrifice to save the Duggar Family Brand? Scapegoating, “Spread Your Legs Theology” and the Modern Molech

Toward understanding the blame borne by wives in Duggar Family religion in the wake of Josh Duggar's involvement in the Ashley Madison scandal . . . . . . by Cindy Kunsman Originally posted on 22Aug15 at UnderMuchGrace.com . . . I’ve tried for more than 48 hours to write this, but having watched this… Continue reading Will Anna Duggar be offered as the next live sacrifice to save the Duggar Family Brand? Scapegoating, “Spread Your Legs Theology” and the Modern Molech

Spiritual Abuse

A Glimpse into the Heart of Spiritual Abuse

  What can #TakeDownThatPost teach us about the nature of spiritual abuse?  Thoughts from Boz Tchividjian and Patricia Evans.   by Cindy Kunsman I don't know what the publishers of the Leadership Journal at Christianity Today hoped to accomplish when they published the article that initiated the #TakeDownThisPost campaign. In the wake of the problems,… Continue reading A Glimpse into the Heart of Spiritual Abuse

Bill Gothard, Courtship, Disturbing Trends, Doug Wilson, John Piper, Owen Strachan, Parenting, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement

Desiring God and Daddies Dating…Their Daughters’ Boyfriends? Is John Piper Promoting Patriarchy?

Are Desiring God & John Piper shifting to "Biblical Patriarchy" over complementarianism, following Gregg Harris', Bill Gothard's, Scott Brown's, Doug Phillips' and Doug Wilson's courtship model?     by Cindy Kunsman The champions of patriarchy worked hard last week, busy on the front lines by saving the world through their insight and wisdom. On June 11,… Continue reading Desiring God and Daddies Dating…Their Daughters’ Boyfriends? Is John Piper Promoting Patriarchy?

Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Homeschool Movement, Homeschoolers Anonymous, It's All About the Image, Reader's Prose, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement

Elephants and SGA’s Everywhere! Coming to Terms with Homeschooling’s Pitfalls

The need of parents to both deal with the pitfalls and understand their Second Generation Adults of homeschooling (those who suffered in a high demand Christian homeschooling culture).     A post by Cindy Kunsman of UnderMuchGrace.com In the Spiritual Sounding Board series about the Second Generation Adult who grows up in high demand religion… Continue reading Elephants and SGA’s Everywhere! Coming to Terms with Homeschooling’s Pitfalls

Bounded Choice, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Psychology of Totalism, Totalist Institution

Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part IV (The Complicated Process of Exiting Totalist Groups)

*** Obstacles that Second Generation Adults like Lourdes Torres-Manteufel must overcome when exiting threatening, high demand situations and groups like Doug Phillips' Vision Forum *** Part IV in a Series Link to Part I Link to Part II Link to Part III by Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com   "When we leave, we actually don’t have what… Continue reading Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part IV (The Complicated Process of Exiting Totalist Groups)

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Going Back to Church Again, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse

Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse

Do individuals suffer harm when they remain in verbally or emotionally abusive relationships?  Cindy Kunsman illustrates the effects through an account of spiritual abuse.     By Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com After reading Julie Anne's post questioning whether divorce from an abusive spouse is actually a “sin,” I found myself thinking of the loss of perspective and… Continue reading Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse

Bounded Choice, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Homeschool Movement, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Psychology of Totalism, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Totalist Institution, Vision Forum, Women and the Church

Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part III (Raised in a Totalist Institution)

*** Using Katie Botkin's lifeboat analogy, Cindy Kunsman explores the “Second Generation Adult” and Lourdes Torres-Mantefeuel's alleged sex abuse by Vision Forum's Doug Phillips ***   Part III in a Series Link to Part I Link to Part II By Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com On the same day that Lourdes Torres-Manteufel's petition was filed, the first cousin… Continue reading Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part III (Raised in a Totalist Institution)

BGBC Lawsuit, Phil Johnson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Anyone with a Burning Desire to Go to PyroCon?

  Thoughts about the Reformed Baptist bloggers known as the Pyromaniacs, a Pyro-Conference, and opining about the pain. At least third-degree burns don't hurt.   A post by Cindy Kunsman Long, long ago in internet time in a cyber place far, far away, a fellow started a blog. His name was Phil Johnson. I first… Continue reading Anyone with a Burning Desire to Go to PyroCon?

Bounded Choice, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Psychology of Totalism, Totalist Institution

Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part II (No Choice in Totalist Institutions)

  *** Cindy Kunsman explains how Doug Phillips relegated Vision Forum acolytes to bounded choice – a dynamic only intensified for Lourdes Torres-Manteufel by alleged sex abuse. *** Note from Julie Anne:  This is Part 2 of Cindy Kunsman's series on Bounded Choice.  In this series she is helping us to understand the process people go… Continue reading Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part II (No Choice in Totalist Institutions)

Bounded Choice, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Personal Stories, Psychology of Totalism, Recovery Process, Totalist Institution

Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part I (An Illustration)

*** After reading the account of the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel abuse by Vision Forum founder, Doug Phillips, Cindy Kunsman reflects on her own sex abuse story. *** Note from Julie Anne:  I remember talking to Cindy Kunsman around the time the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel lawsuit was made public. Lourdes' story greatly affected her in a personal way, reminding her… Continue reading Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part I (An Illustration)

Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Homeschool Movement, It's All About the Image, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Vision Forum, Women and the Church

Doug Phillips’ Vision Forum Revisionist (Art) History

*** Did Vision Forum revise ("photochopped," as opposed to Photoshopped) art history to promote their Patriarchal agenda? *** Note from Julie Anne: Cindy Kunsman and I were corresponding by e-mail about her upcoming series which will be hosted here at SSB and she sent me a link to an old post as a side comment.   Check out… Continue reading Doug Phillips’ Vision Forum Revisionist (Art) History

Bruce Ware, Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, Owen Strachan

Does the Christian Newswire Support the Subjugation of Women? The Freedom for Christian Women Coalition Censored by the Agency

*     *     * Cindy Kunsman responds to the censorship of the FreeCWC's petition demanding an apology from the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. *     *     *   Note from Julie Anne:  This article, by Cindy Kunsman was originally posted at her blog,  Under Much Grace, and she has given… Continue reading Does the Christian Newswire Support the Subjugation of Women? The Freedom for Christian Women Coalition Censored by the Agency