Patriarchy, Purity Pledge, Hymen, “Let’s Make Jesus Famous” Virginity, Abstinence
So much ado about a little flap of skin. For realz, people?
The idea of this just disgusts me. Read the bottom of the Instagram picture:
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Another one of my favs! Dancing with my first love! ❤️ I was able to present a certificate of purity to him signed by my doctor that my hymen was still intact. Also the covenant he gave me when I was 13. When you honor God, your life will automatically honor others! I love you daddy @drmikefreeman
I like what this author wrote in, The Sexist Patriarchy of a Certificate of Purity:
If you grew up anywhere near a church, you know sex before marriage as a Christian is a big no-no, and you’ve likely also heard of teen and pre-teen girls being given chastity belts, purity rings, and the like as a pledge to remain pure until they walk down the aisle. It’s like a literal manifestation of Ephesians’ call to put on the full armor of God, and given the Christian call to keep others on the straight and narrow, one should give young sojourners all the tools they need to do so. However two things about this practice have always rubbed me wrong:
- The exclusion of the young boys waiting to deflower these girls from these purity pledges
- The pledging of a girl’s virginity to her father
Though the story in the Bowman’s case is that both the bride and groom were virgins when they jumped the broom, as far as one can tell from social media Tim didn’t present a certificate of purity to anyone. Sure, there’s no way to prove his virginity, medically speaking, the way his new bride did, but if she’s making her declaration so public, why should he not do the same? (Source)
Beyond all of the above, I believe this is like hymen worship.Most people know that a girl’s hymen can be broken by playing sports, riding a bike, horseback riding, using a tampon, or a young girl may never have had a hymen to begin with. Virginity has to do with sexual intercourse, not a flap of skin. I am disgusted that this young lady felt the need to go to a doctor to get a note from him to prove her virginity. Would her father not take her at her word?
The other issue that comes to mind is rape and sexual abuse. What happens when a girl is raped before marriage? What kind of shame she must feel when she feels she is damaged goods!
I know of a Patriarchal father who did not allow his daughters to wear tampons because he wanted to make sure his daughters’ hymens were intact for their future husbands. What about girls with a heavy flow and must wear tampons and pads? So they aren’t “proven” virgins anymore? Nonsense! This is absolutely ridiculous and Christians need to put the hymen test to rest.
On Bowman’s (brefree) honeymoon, she posted another Instagram photo. Seems she thinks this is going to make Jesus famous:nbsp;
brefreeStill enjoying my amazing honeymoon, but just saw this! Only the beginning! Thanks for all your support on social media over the last couple of days! We will continue to push & celebrate our decision. Thank you for helping us push a positive message! If one person has made a decision to wait until marriage or decide to stop & wait we have done our job! Let’s make Jesus famous! -Mrs. B #meetthebowmans#purity #livingmybestdays
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Still enjoying my amazing honeymoon, but just saw this! Only the beginning! Thanks for all your support on social media over the last couple of days! We will continue to push & celebrate our decision. Thank you for helping us push a positive message! If one person has made a decision to wait until marriage or decide to stop & wait we have done our job! Let's make Jesus famous! -Mrs. B #meetthebowmans #purity #livingmybestdays