ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Disturbing Trends, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Dr. Albert Mohler, Failure to Report Crimes, John MacArthur, John Piper, Justin Taylor, Mandatory Reporting, Mark Dever, Mark Driscoll, Owen Strachan, Phil Johnson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Tullian Tchividjian, Voddie Baucham

Will Those in the Real Gospel-Centered Churches Please Stand?

Gospel-Centered Movement, TGC, YRR, Calvinists, Jared Wilson *** Over at The Gospel Coalition website, Jared Wilson has published the Top 125 Influences of the Gospel-Centered Movement. Now, I admit at first, I had assumed that he was talking about all influential Christians. As I read more of his intro, I saw that he was really… Continue reading Will Those in the Real Gospel-Centered Churches Please Stand?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Church Discipline Process, Complementarianism, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

Mike Lawyer, Counseling, Abuse in Marriage, Abuse of Authority I have been in contact with a woman named Gen, who has agreed to let me post this letter she received from Mike Lawyer, "on behalf of Christ Church Session." Christ Church is Doug Wilson's church in Moscow, Idaho. If you would like to learn more… Continue reading BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Domestic Violence, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Legal Defense Association, Homeschool Movement, Legalism, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Recovery Process

The David and Louise Turpin Family Homeschool Cult

David and Louise Turpin, Homeschool, Cult, Abuse, Torture *** Most likely you have heard the news about the large homeschooling family, the Turpins, from California. The parents, David, 57, and Louise, 49, Turpin who were arrested for torture and child endangerment, with bail set at $9 million each. Here are some of the key facts:… Continue reading The David and Louise Turpin Family Homeschool Cult

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Marriage, Personal Stories, Women and the Church

Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages

*** I am posting a comment that came in on yesterday's post Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful by someone who used the name, Auislucky. Auislucky mentioned at the bottom of her comment that she didn't want me to post her comment if it would hurt someone.… Continue reading Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages

ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Egalitarianism, Lori Alexander, The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful

The Power of a Transformed Wife: Lori Alexander, Trusting God, Emotions -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Church Discipline Process, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Leaving the Church, Marriage, Meetings with the Pastor, Personal Stories, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

Bethlehem Baptist Church Excommunicates Victim of Domestic Violence

Bethlehem Baptist Church, Domestic Violence, Emotional Abuse, Excommunication, Spiritual Abuse *** Over a year ago (November 1, 2016), I posted the article, 1-1/2 years Later, Bethlehem Baptist Church Doesn’t Seem to get Domestic Violence: A Personal Story. I have a followup to that article. For those who have never read the story, I will repost most of the… Continue reading Bethlehem Baptist Church Excommunicates Victim of Domestic Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Meetings with the Pastor, Mental Health and the Church, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Statute of Limitations

First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

#MeToo, #ChurchToo, Sexual Abuse, Harassment, Church *** The hashtag #MeToo has been trending for quite some time on Twitter. Women who have been sexually harassed or abused have been identifying themselves as survivors of sexual harm, indicating it with the hashtag, #MeToo. But now, there is a new trending hashtag, #ChurchToo. The stories that you… Continue reading First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander Refuses to Talk About Abuse

Lori Alexander, Domestic Violence, Biblical Submission -by Kathi There is nothing new under Lori Alexander's sun. She still writes about submission, and I'm sure she always will. Every once in a while she will write a post that gives us an extra glimpse about how her teachings may keep women in abusive relationships. In "Sweating… Continue reading Lori Alexander Refuses to Talk About Abuse

Divorce, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Personal Stories, Single and Christian

Single (Divorced) Woman Asks About Her Friendship with a Married Man from Church

Single Christians, Divorced Christians, Cross-Gender Relationships, Church Response *** A woman found SSB and sent me an e-mail about her situation. The e-mail is from a single/divorced woman and the friendship she has with the praise and worship leader at her church. She, too, is on the praise and worship team. This kind of situation… Continue reading Single (Divorced) Woman Asks About Her Friendship with a Married Man from Church

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: Know Your Resources

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Resources -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. This month I have asked the church to become educated about… Continue reading Domestic Violence: Know Your Resources

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Marriage

Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church for Action

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Action -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims… Continue reading Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church for Action

Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Desiring God, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Beliefs -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence.   The church can be incredibly helpful to victims of domestic… Continue reading Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

Desiring God, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, John Piper, Lori Alexander, Mark Driscoll, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: Education is the Key to Better Church Response

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Education -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. The first time I was educated about domestic violence was in… Continue reading Domestic Violence: Education is the Key to Better Church Response

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet, Part 2

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Submission -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter 3   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet, Part 2

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Authority, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles, Women and the Church

“Taking marriage seriously” – what does that mean for a Christian?

Christian Marriage, divorce, domestic violence, abuse, marital counseling, extramarital affairs *** *** My friend, Valerie Jacobsen posted this statement on her Facebook page and I asked permission to share it. I found it powerful, and yet, so contrary to the way marriage is handled in the church - especially when abuse is involved. I'm sick… Continue reading “Taking marriage seriously” – what does that mean for a Christian?

Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Lori Alexander, Mental Health and the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Suicide, Women and the Church

The Dangerous Teachings of Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander, Depression, Suicide -by Julie Anne and Kathi Lori Alexander runs a blog and Facebook page called The Transformed Wife. Her Facebook page has over 21,000 followers! She models her ministry using the Titus 2 idea of older women teaching younger women. After 23 years of a difficult marriage, she claims her marriage improved after she… Continue reading The Dangerous Teachings of Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife

Domestic Violence, Lori Alexander, Mental Health and the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Suicide

Lori Alexander’s Damaging Advice Regarding Depression

Lori Alexander, Depression, Counseling -by Kathi Lori Alexander recently posted a YouTube video on her channel titled, "Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself." ***   I have to ask this first: Why are people still making videos of themselves in their cars? I guess Lori was driving somewhere, had an inspirational moment about self-pity, and just… Continue reading Lori Alexander’s Damaging Advice Regarding Depression

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Domestic Violence, Egalitarianism, Feminist Agenda, Gender Roles, God's Design for the Family, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse

How Lori Alexander’s Teaching May Keep Women in Abusive Relationships

Lori Alexander, Emotional Abuse, Headship, Submission -by Kathi I've been reading Lori Alexander's blogs for quite a while now. Just when I think her writing is the same old boring rhetoric she always blathers on about, she ups her game. Her recent post, "How Not to Get Married" is one that actually should be titled,… Continue reading How Lori Alexander’s Teaching May Keep Women in Abusive Relationships

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Grace Community Church, John MacArthur, Phil Johnson, Troubling Tweets, Women and the Church

Pastor Phil Johnson Shows His Heart toward Domestic Violence Victim

Domestic Violence, Phil Johnson, Grace Community Church, John MacArthur *** This post needs little commentary. Pastor Phil Johnson is Pastor John MacArthur's right-hand man at Grace Community Church. I am sad that a man in his position would so carelessly tweet this insensitive, uncaring tweet. I fear for women at Grace Community or any church connected… Continue reading Pastor Phil Johnson Shows His Heart toward Domestic Violence Victim

Christian Domestic Discipline, Domestic Violence, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, RC Sproul Jr., Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

R.C. Sproul, Jr. Steps Down from Ligonier Ministries and Reformation Bible College

R.C. Sproul, Jr., Ligonier Ministries, Abuse, Reformation Bible College     Ligonier Ministries has reported that RC Sproul, Jr. is stepping down from Ligonier Ministries & Reformation Bible College citing personal reasons: December 12, 2016 Last Friday, the board of directors of Ligonier Ministries and Reformation Bible College received and affirmed the resignation of Dr.… Continue reading R.C. Sproul, Jr. Steps Down from Ligonier Ministries and Reformation Bible College