ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, C.J. Mahaney, Christian Marriage, Courtship, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Homeschool Movement, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Leaving the Church, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Authority

My Thoughts: Josh Harris (I Kissed Dating Good-bye) and His Wife, Shannon, Announce Marital Separation

But it makes me once again question those ideologies that led up to this point. It makes me think about spiritual abuse. It makes me think about Patriarchy. What significant changes were made in their journey? What ideologies did each one keep, and each one ditch?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, CHRISTIAN LEADERS, Christian Marriage, Church Bandwagon, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, God's Design for the Family, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Women and the Church

Hey, Who Stuck the Header Between Ephesians 5 Verse 21 and Verse 22? That Shouldn’t be There!!

One of the key passages used to justify male hierarchy is Eph 5:22 (to the neglect of 5:21 which ironically states that we are to submit to each other!!). Which one is it?? Women submit to men, or we all submit to each other? Why is this so confusing?

Addressing Abuse, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Forgiveness, Franklin Graham, It's All About the Image, Misuse of Scripture, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Cissie Graham Lynch – Publicly Criticizing Pastors or Ministries Destroys the Gospel

If we do not publicly call out abusive or neglectful church leaders or ministries then abuse thrives. Silence and privacy is not an option.

Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Ravi Zacharias, Spiritual Authority

As a New Christian and Missionary Alliance Minister, Ravi Zacharias Pressured His Brother’s 16-yr old Girlfriend to Have Illegal Abortion

"Ramesh explained briefly the situation to Ravi. I remember Ravi was very angry. More at Ramesh than me it seemed. He was not speaking in kind terms. Only pointing out that this news would ‘kill our parents’ and ‘end your future as a doctor.'"

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Eight – Home: The Major Biblical Emphasis of the Wife

If the "major biblical emphasis" of a wife's ministry is to be the keeper of the home, I would think that it would be discussed more in the Bible.

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Tullian Tchividjian

WARNING: Tullian Tchividjian Attempts a Ministry Comeback by Faking True Restoration and Repentance with His Victims; AND He’s Starting a New Church???

Everybody wants to believe a transformation story. But you are believing a lie if you are allowing Tullian Tchividjian to convince you that he is transformed. I have done the due-diligence work to find out. I have asked the questions to his victims.

Clergy Sex Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Voddie Baucham, Well Done, Church Leaders!, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles

Well Done, Church Leaders: Grace Family Baptist Church Pastors Handle Sex Abuse Case of Alleged Pedophile Pastor Stephen Bratton Appropriately

"The elders have called upon Stephen Bratton to accept the full responsibility for his actions and to place himself at the mercy of the criminal justice system."

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Seven – False Idols and Faking Joy

I honestly don't understand how a wife expecting her husband to treat her with respect, kindness, and love is an idol.

Harvest Bible Chapel, James MacDonald, Learn to Discern, Meetings with the Pastor, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Learn to Discern: Pastor from Harvest Bible Chapel Speaks at Church Meeting – What Do His Words Really Say?

"No ONE should tell EVERYONE anything. That's the role of your leaders. We are entrusted, and we're going to give an account."

Doctrine as Idol, J.D. Hall, Pulpit & Pen blog, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

Response to Pulpit and Pen and the Death of Rachel Held Evans

My heart remains heavy for those wounded by leaders whose arrogance use the Bible as a weapon to harm instead of to heal. I've been on the receiving end of that arrogance and it is not pleasant.

Bill Hybels, Book Review Series, child abuse, Clergy Sex Abuse, Homosexuality, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association, Women and the Church

Book Review – “Christians in a Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 3 – The Unrepentant Confidant

All in all, this book suggests that Bill, from a young age, had a problem with sex and how he sexualized women. The writing seems to be a self-fulling prophecy.

Bill Hybels, child abuse, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, James Dobson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association

Book Review – “Christians in a Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 2 – Bill’s Problem with Porn

[James] Dobson tells Hybels to "get educated firsthand" about pornography? Does Dobson actually mean to say, "Bill [Hybels], get yourself some porn?" There is the implication behind the instruction. So, what does Bill do?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christianity Today International, Ed Stetzer, James MacDonald, Mark Galli, Spiritual Abuse

Open Letter from Two Abuse Survivors to the Board of Directors, Christianity Today International

This open letter is to CT's Board of Directors because we believe the public situation of reportedly questionable ethics and abusive behaviors by CT representatives Mark Galli and Ed Stetzer has escalated to where it can only be resolved at the board level.

Bill Hybels, Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Marriage, Narcissistic Pastors, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association

Book Review – “Christians in A Sex-Crazed Culture” by Bill Hybels – Part 1 – Identifying the One Who is Sex Crazed

During a later anniversary celebration Bill and Lynne [Hybels] stayed in a hotel room described as: "Socially, it was positively scandalous; morally, it was absolutely decadent; theologically, it was totally depraved."

Biblical Manhood, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Desiring God, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, John Piper, Marriage, Women and the Church

Greg Morse Thinks We All Misunderstood

"Some women of the world tempt our daughters to see the cultivation of the home as a career failure, motherhood as a backup plan, and submission to a husband as unquestionably intolerable."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, It's All About the Image, John MacArthur, Master's University / Master's Seminary, No-Talk Rule

John MacArthur Demonstrates Expertise in the Destructive and Self-Preservation Tools of Ingratiation and Gaslighting

John MacArthur on his schools' accreditation probation status: "What had happened in the three days is a rather orchestrated attack, if not by any human source, certainly by Satan himself. There was an attack directly on me, and it came in all kinds of forms." 

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Marriage, Martha Peace, Spiritual Abuse

Book Review Series – “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Five: Wives, if You Experience Abuse, Acknowledge Your Sin

"A wife who is a victim of abuse should not be forced to think about how her "sinful actions" contributed to abuse. This constant reminder of sin can keep a victim trapped in an abusive marriage longer than she should be."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Divorce, It's All About the Image, Narcissistic Pastors, RC Sproul Jr., SMH (Shake My Head), Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Tullian Tchividjian

Estranged Adult Child of Disgraced Former Pastor R.C. Sproul, Jr., Urges People to NOT Purchase Father’s New Book; Foreword by Tullian Tchividjian

“Myself and RC Jr’s other adult children are estranged from him. We do not support this book or his return to public ministry.”