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Personal Story: What Did the Church Teach You about Yourself?

Spiritual abuse, sex abuse, patriarchy, domestic violence, Sovereign Grace, Desiring God, CJ Mahaney, John Piper, Mental Health *** *** Part of recovery from abusive churches is coming to grips with what you were taught and how it affected you. Sometimes, and very appropriately, the ability to see this clearly results in anger. Jennifer Michelle posted… Continue reading Personal Story: What Did the Church Teach You about Yourself?

Christian Marriage, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse

The Dynamics of Spiritual Abuse Within Domestic Abuse

Lori Alexander, Domestic Abuse, Spiritual Abuse     -by Kathi I have the privilege of volunteering with a local police department as a victim advocate. I consider it an honor to work with the officers at this department because I find them to be kind and compassionate toward victims of domestic abuse. During my training,… Continue reading The Dynamics of Spiritual Abuse Within Domestic Abuse

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Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Ken Alexander has the Final Word

The Power of a Transformed Wife: Lori Alexander, Submission, Control, Godly Marriage -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2 … Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Ken Alexander has the Final Word

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A Personal Story and a Sad Conclusion When Pastors Failed to Respond Appropriately to Domestic Violence

Domestic violence, Church response, Rob Porter *** You may have heard in the news recently about Rob Porter who worked for President Trump in the White House. Porter recently resigned his position as White House Staff Secretary after allegations of domestic violence from his two ex-wives surfaced in the media. It was disheartening to hear… Continue reading A Personal Story and a Sad Conclusion When Pastors Failed to Respond Appropriately to Domestic Violence

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Debi Pearl, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Parenting

Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – “Healthy,” One of Lori’s Favorite Buzz Words

The Power of a Transformed Wife: Lori Alexander, Healthy Living   -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – “Healthy,” One of Lori’s Favorite Buzz Words

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Church Discipline Process, Complementarianism, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

Mike Lawyer, Counseling, Abuse in Marriage, Abuse of Authority I have been in contact with a woman named Gen, who has agreed to let me post this letter she received from Mike Lawyer, "on behalf of Christ Church Session." Christ Church is Doug Wilson's church in Moscow, Idaho. If you would like to learn more… Continue reading BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

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Rick Thomas Wants Husbands to Rate Their Wives

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Marriage Advice, Rick Thomas -by Kathi There are things in life we rate. Customer service ratings help companies know how to improve their services. If you want to see a movie, you may visit Rotten Tomatoes to read the ratings. When you see a doctor, you might be asked to rate your… Continue reading Rick Thomas Wants Husbands to Rate Their Wives

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Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages

*** I am posting a comment that came in on yesterday's post Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful by someone who used the name, Auislucky. Auislucky mentioned at the bottom of her comment that she didn't want me to post her comment if it would hurt someone.… Continue reading Trite, Unhelpful, and Demoralizing Responses to Wives in Harmful Marriages

ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Egalitarianism, Lori Alexander, The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful

The Power of a Transformed Wife: Lori Alexander, Trusting God, Emotions -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Stuffing Feelings and Pretending to Be Joyful

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – The Penny Pincher

The Power of a Transformed Wife; Lori Alexander; Financial Teaching -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter 3 … Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – The Penny Pincher

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Meetings with the Pastor, Mental Health and the Church, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Statute of Limitations

First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

#MeToo, #ChurchToo, Sexual Abuse, Harassment, Church *** The hashtag #MeToo has been trending for quite some time on Twitter. Women who have been sexually harassed or abused have been identifying themselves as survivors of sexual harm, indicating it with the hashtag, #MeToo. But now, there is a new trending hashtag, #ChurchToo. The stories that you… Continue reading First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander Refuses to Talk About Abuse

Lori Alexander, Domestic Violence, Biblical Submission -by Kathi There is nothing new under Lori Alexander's sun. She still writes about submission, and I'm sure she always will. Every once in a while she will write a post that gives us an extra glimpse about how her teachings may keep women in abusive relationships. In "Sweating… Continue reading Lori Alexander Refuses to Talk About Abuse

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Marriage

Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church for Action

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Action -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims… Continue reading Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church for Action

Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Desiring God, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Beliefs -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence.   The church can be incredibly helpful to victims of domestic… Continue reading Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

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Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – The Chapter that Doesn’t Belong

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Dating, Sexual Purity -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – The Chapter that Doesn’t Belong

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Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Birth Control and a “Funny Story”

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Birth Control, Submission -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Birth Control and a “Funny Story”

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet, Part 2

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Submission -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter 3   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet, Part 2

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Submission -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter 3   Chapter 4   Chapter 5 … Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Authority, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles, Women and the Church

“Taking marriage seriously” – what does that mean for a Christian?

Christian Marriage, divorce, domestic violence, abuse, marital counseling, extramarital affairs *** *** My friend, Valerie Jacobsen posted this statement on her Facebook page and I asked permission to share it. I found it powerful, and yet, so contrary to the way marriage is handled in the church - especially when abuse is involved. I'm sick… Continue reading “Taking marriage seriously” – what does that mean for a Christian?

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Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Wives Give Sex. All the Time.

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Sex in Marriage, Submission -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter 3   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Wives Give Sex. All the Time.