ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Authoritative Preaching, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Blog Series - Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery, Chuck O'Neal, Church Bandwagon, CHURCH GOVERNANCE & POLICIES, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Leaving the Church, Legalism, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies

Blog Series: Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery by Pastor Ken Garrett, Wk 2

Spiritual Abuse, Pastor Ken Garrett, Spiritual Abuse in the church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery *** Ok, here we go, plowing through Pastor Ken Garret's dissertation about spiritual abuse. I used the word plowing intentionally. For some of us, it will be work. It is not enjoyable to be reminded about difficult experiences. However,… Continue reading Blog Series: Spiritual Abuse in the Church: A Guide to Recognition and Recovery by Pastor Ken Garrett, Wk 2

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Sex Abuse, Failure to Report Crimes, Mandatory Reporting, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations, Suicide, Women and the Church

Let’s Discuss: The Keepers, Netflix Documentary Series about the Murder of Sister Cathy Cesnik and Systemic Sexual Abuse

The Keepers, Netflix, Cathy Cesnik, Systemic Sexual Abuse, Catholic Church, Spiritual Abuse, Clergy Sexual Abuse https://youtu.be/Khr7dbuBjuE *** The Keepers is a new documentary series airing on Netflix. I have watched 5 of the episodes and it is excellent. If you have seen Spotlight, it is similar, however, the investigative reporters in this case are two… Continue reading Let’s Discuss: The Keepers, Netflix Documentary Series about the Murder of Sister Cathy Cesnik and Systemic Sexual Abuse

9Marks, Church Discipline Process, CHURCH GOVERNANCE & POLICIES, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, John MacArthur, Spiritual Authority

Church Member Responsibility and Church Discipline at Pastor Eric Davis’ Church

Church membership, church discipline, Pastor Eric Davis, Cornerstone Church *** Church Member Responsibility and Church Discipline According to the Cornerstone Church By-laws -by Kathi I recently wrote about how Julie Anne and I dared to comment on an article at The Cripplegate which subsequently caused our comments to be deleted and comments to be closed.… Continue reading Church Member Responsibility and Church Discipline at Pastor Eric Davis’ Church

Clergy Sex Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Tullian Tchividjian, Women and the Church

Issues of Language: Removing Neutrality Toward Abusers and Negativity Toward Survivors

  by Brad Sargent aka brad/futuristguy *     *     *     *     *     *     * Introduction: Changing Our Language to Remove Neutrality Toward Abusers and Negativity Toward Survivors Who typically gets trusted or distrusted by default -- the reported perpetrator, or the victim who reports? That is especially important in understanding the realities faced by survivors of… Continue reading Issues of Language: Removing Neutrality Toward Abusers and Negativity Toward Survivors

Authoritative Preaching, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, C.J. Mahaney, Chuck O'Neal, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Legalism, Misuse of Scripture, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Troubling Tweets

How our Pastor’s Biblical Interpretation Can Affect Our Understanding of Scripture and God

*** This is a very insightful statement from C.J. Mahaney.   https://twitter.com/CJMahaney/status/739414015546404864 When a pastor preaches,  he is leading his congregation in his interpretation of Scripture. It may or may not be correct. I know from reading many personal stories of those who were Mahaney's church that his teachings caused spiritual harm. I don't think… Continue reading How our Pastor’s Biblical Interpretation Can Affect Our Understanding of Scripture and God

Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Authoritative Preaching, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Chuck O'Neal, Dictators, Doctrine as Idol, Doug Wilson, Grace Community Church, Harvest Bible Chapel, James MacDonald, John MacArthur, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Leaving the Church, Legalism, Recovery Process, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies

Help! My Family Member or Close Friend is Trapped in a High-Controlling Church or Cult. How Can I Encourage Them to Leave?

How to help a family member or friend leave a high-controlling church group or cult: spiritual abuse, trapped, thought reform, mind control, freedom   “Mind control is the process by which individual or collective freedom of choice and action is compromised by agents or agencies that modify or distort perception, motivation, affect, cognition and/or behavioral… Continue reading Help! My Family Member or Close Friend is Trapped in a High-Controlling Church or Cult. How Can I Encourage Them to Leave?

Christian Marriage, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, Gender Roles, Spiritual Authority, Women and the Church

Practical Guidelines for Teaching Complementarity

Ligon Duncan, CBMW, Complementarianism, Egalitarian, headship   Practical Guidelines for Teaching Complementarity by Kathi   Ligon Duncan stresses that if pastors do not regularly teach complementarity, then "we lose on this issue."       In April, Ligon Duncan addressed pastors at the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW) pre-conference of the 2016 T4G… Continue reading Practical Guidelines for Teaching Complementarity

Emotional Responses, Leaving the Church, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Personal Story: Feeling Stuck after Spiritual Abuse

*** Mark is new to the blog and left a comment on another post yesterday and I have decided to make it into its own post so we can focus on these issues. Maybe some of you have experienced some of what he is going through and can share how you dealt with these issues.… Continue reading Personal Story: Feeling Stuck after Spiritual Abuse

Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Going Back to Church Again, Learn to Discern, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Learn to Discern: Pastor John Raymond, in His Own Words

Pastor John Raymond, New Horizon Calvary Chapel Church, Slidell, Louisiana, Steven Angle, Spiritual Abuse   Yesterday on Facebook, journalist Ashley Rodrigue of WWLTV posted the following press release from the Tangipahoa Parish Sheriff in Louisiana (typed and screenshot below): by Ashley Rodrigue WWLTV  (PRESS RELEASE) HAMMOND, LA - Tangipahoa Parish Sheriff Daniel Edwards is asking… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Pastor John Raymond, in His Own Words

Clergy Sex Abuse, Divorce, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Tullian Tchividjian

Tullian Tchividjian and Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church Discussion: “He demanded that people be loyal to him.”

Pastor Tullian Tchividjian, Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church, Willow Creek, Liberate Network, Clergy Sex Abuse, Spiritual Abuse, Repentance, Grace     Hey friends (and welcome to new readers), I am going to do something a little bit different. I suspect many are chomping at the bit to discuss the situation regarding Tullian Tchividjian, so I am… Continue reading Tullian Tchividjian and Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church Discussion: “He demanded that people be loyal to him.”

Christian Marriage, It's All About the Image, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Tullian Tchividjian

Tullian Tchividjian is Back, Fully Endorsed by His Pastor, Kevin Labby

Tullian Tchividjian, Pastor Kevin Labby, Liberate Network, Repentance, Clergy Sex Abuse, Restoration *** The word of the Lord came to me: 2 “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy and say to them: ‘This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Woe to you shepherds of Israel who only take care of yourselves! Should… Continue reading Tullian Tchividjian is Back, Fully Endorsed by His Pastor, Kevin Labby

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Bill Gothard & IBLP Lawsuit, Failure to Report Crimes, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Mandatory Reporting, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations

Second Amended Complaint Filed in Bill Gothard & IBLP Sex Abuse Lawsuit: 18 Victims in Lawsuit

Bill Gothard, Lawsuit, IBLP, Institute in Basic Life Principles, David C. Gibbs III, Sex Abuse, Sexual Grooming, ALERT     Yesterday, I received the following summary from the office of Attorney David Gibbs III. While it would have been easy to pull only specific highlights, the reality is that for each individual named, either by… Continue reading Second Amended Complaint Filed in Bill Gothard & IBLP Sex Abuse Lawsuit: 18 Victims in Lawsuit

Authoritative Preaching, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, BGBC Lawsuit, Chuck O'Neal, Doctrine as Idol, Gender Roles, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Legalism, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD, SURVIVOR STORIES

The Fallout of Spiritual Abuse on Our Children

Children Harmed by Spiritual Abuse   Yesterday, I was talking with my programming language tutor and mentioned that I had a blog. He asked what my blog was about and I told him the long story. He was absolutely dumbfounded by what he was hearing and kept shaking his head, not wanting to believe it, even… Continue reading The Fallout of Spiritual Abuse on Our Children

Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Feminist Agenda, Gender Roles, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Women and the Church

Pastor Doug Wilson on Rape, Submission, Feminists, and Boobs

Pastor Doug Wilson, CREC, New Saint Andrews, Christ Church, Moscow Idaho, Breasts, Feminists Rape, Submission     "Respected" Pastor Doug Wilson, pastor of Christ Church in Moscow Idaho, head of CREC churches, prominent leader in Classical Education circles (both homeschooling and private Christian schools), Canon Press publishing, two-time suspected plagiarizing author has written some very crude… Continue reading Pastor Doug Wilson on Rape, Submission, Feminists, and Boobs

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Bill Gothard, Failure to Report Crimes, IBLP and ATI, LAWSUITS, Mental Health and the Church, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

While the Board of Bill Gothard’s Former Ministry, IBLP, Claims Judge Dismissed Lawsuit, Attorney for Plaintiffs Says Four New Plaintiffs Have Come Forward

Bill Gothard, Sexual Grooming, Lawsuit, IBLP Board, 4 New Plaintiffs, Lawsuit Not Dismissed   It's been a while since we've had an update on the lawsuit brought on by former volunteers/workers at Bill Gothard's former ministry who were allegedly sexually groomed by Bill Gothard. In November, Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) published a statement regarding the lawsuit… Continue reading While the Board of Bill Gothard’s Former Ministry, IBLP, Claims Judge Dismissed Lawsuit, Attorney for Plaintiffs Says Four New Plaintiffs Have Come Forward

ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Leaving the Church, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Recovery Process, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL ABUSE RECOVERY, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies

Four Primary Conditions that Result in People Leaving Abusive Churches and Cults

Spiritual Abuse: Leaving Abusive Cults and High-Controlling Churches   I have been very moved by many of your stories of abuse in the recent article, Spiritual Abuse: What Was the Last Straw That Caused You to Leave Your Abusive Church? Spiritual abuse is obviously not isolated. It's happening all over and crosses denominational lines. Several people have said… Continue reading Four Primary Conditions that Result in People Leaving Abusive Churches and Cults

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Women and the Church

Three Pastors Challenge Dr. James Dobson’s Advice on Domestic Violence Which Could Put Victims in Harm’s Way

Dr. James Dobson, Love Must Be Tough, Domestic Violence, Spousal Abuse, Church, Jeff Crippen, Mike Sloan, Neil Schori ** Recently, an article was posted at Dr. James Dobson's website and Facebook page.  The Facebook post received a lot of push back, and interestingly (but not surprisingly), the article, along with all of the comments, has since… Continue reading Three Pastors Challenge Dr. James Dobson’s Advice on Domestic Violence Which Could Put Victims in Harm’s Way

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE, Bill Gothard, Failure to Report Crimes, IBLP and ATI, It's All About the Image, LAWSUITS, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Mandatory Reporting, Misuse of Scripture, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations, Women and the Church

Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), Bill Gothard, lawsuit, David Gibbs III Many are probably aware of the recent news that five very brave women have come forward and have filed a lawsuit against Bill Gothard's former ministry, Institute in Basic Life Principles, Inc. (IBLP), and six men who serve as Directors of IBLP: John Stancil, Anthony… Continue reading Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, The Gospel Coalition

Social Media is Presenting a Challenge to God-Given Authorities aka Pastors

Michael Kruger, The Gospel Coalition, Social Media, Spiritual Authority, Pastors, Criticism The Gospel Coalition published an article, 5 Warning Signs for the Church in a ‘Facebook Culture,’ by Michael J. Kruger, president of Reformed Theological Seminary's Charlotte, North Carolina, campus. He is concerned about the influence of social media, specifically: What effect does “social media” technology have on… Continue reading Social Media is Presenting a Challenge to God-Given Authorities aka Pastors

Failure to Report Crimes, Homeschool Legal Defense Association, Homeschool Movement, It's All About the Image, Mandatory Reporting, Mike Farris, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations

From Silence to Exposure: Why did Homeschool Leader Michael Farris Speak Out Now?

*** Michael Farris speaks out against teachings of two fallen Homeschool Movement leaders, Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard, but why now? *** ** Michael Farris, one of the pillars of the modern Homeschool Movement and founders of Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) and founding president of Patrick Henry College, released an article addressing abuses within the… Continue reading From Silence to Exposure: Why did Homeschool Leader Michael Farris Speak Out Now?