* * * Kandace has an affair with her pastor. She and her husband, Nathan, talk about their reconciliation process and grace, but leave out something very important. * * * Video: Liberate JA note: Sorry, I've been unable to embed the video. Please click on "Liberate"… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Wife Has Affair with Pastor . . . and Reconciles?
Category: SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD
Thanksgiving Wishes
* Â Â * Â Â * Wishing A Very Happy Thanksgiving to SSB readers! I'm so thankful for all the kindness and support you've shown me and the other participants here. Â For some, it is life changing. Â Thank you! Â I found a little something to share: * Â Â * Â Â … Continue reading Thanksgiving Wishes
In the Wake of the Doug Phillips Affair, a Mother Grieves and Seeks Our Prayers
* Â Â * Â Â * The Doug Phillips affair has touched many lives. Â Read as a mother cries out for prayer as she "fostered some pretty difficult beliefs" on her children by adhering to teachings in the Homeschool Movement and Doug Phillips and Vision Forum. * Â Â * Â Â * Â Hear… Continue reading In the Wake of the Doug Phillips Affair, a Mother Grieves and Seeks Our Prayers
Did Mark Driscoll really hang up on Janet Mefferd?
* Â Â * Â Â * There's been a bunch of talk in social media about an interview Janet Mefferd conducted with Pastor Mark Driscoll. Here is where I first heard the interview: * Â Â * Â Â * The interview begins with Ms. Mefferd asking about Driscoll's appearance at John MacArthur's Strange… Continue reading Did Mark Driscoll really hang up on Janet Mefferd?
Tony Miano’s Wise Words for Women on Speaking and Blogging
*** Manly man and open-air evangelist Tony Miano, shares words of wisdom to women on blogging, speaking, preaching, and teaching. *** Christian Women Bloggers: Maintaining God-Intended Femininity http://t.co/k9L2bjlCn1 Addressing the question of women and #evangelism online — Tony Miano (@TonyMiano) November 7, 2013 *** Open-air street evangelist, Tony Miano, has been the recipient of correspondence… Continue reading Tony Miano’s Wise Words for Women on Speaking and Blogging
When Sharing Concerns or Asking Pastors Questions Leads to Spiritual Abuse
* Â Â * Â Â * Questioning authority or raising concerns can be the litmus test to see if your pastor is spiritually abusive or not. * Â Â * Â Â * * Â Â * Â Â * Oh boy, is this a biggie. Â I was really moved when this topic come… Continue reading When Sharing Concerns or Asking Pastors Questions Leads to Spiritual Abuse
When Your Pastor Speaks Humility, but Shows Pride Instead
* Â Â * Â Â * Spiritual abusers are often self-absorbed, preaching humility, but exhibiting pride. Â Pastors who draw attention to themselves and their accomplishments and self-importance are not servant leaders. * Â Â * Â Â * Being familiar with a pastor's personality and charm can sometimes conceal warning signs which might seem… Continue reading When Your Pastor Speaks Humility, but Shows Pride Instead
Learn to Discern: Doctrinal Statements and Spiritual Authority
* Â Â * Â Â * We can learn a lot about the spiritual health of a church and how they function by reading their church governance bylaws and doctrinal statements of faith. * Â Â * Â Â * There were many people, after my lawsuit became very public, who went to my… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Doctrinal Statements and Spiritual Authority
Question for Tony Miano: Did Joni Preach?
* Â Â * Â Â * Tony Miano, author of Should She Preach?, attended John MacArthur's Strange Fire conference at Grace Community Church, along with Pastor Chuck O'Neal (suing pastor who had minister's license revoked and currently in discipline), Phil Johnson, Dr. Steve Lawson, all of whom contributed to Miano's book. * Â Â … Continue reading Question for Tony Miano: Did Joni Preach?
Twitter Add-a-Word-Ruin-a-Christian-Book Bandwagon and Christian Unity
Scores of people tweeted the hashtag #AddaWordRuinaChristianBook Bandwagon and had fun tweeting modified Christian book titles, entirely changing the intent of the title, and making it Twitter's #1 US trend.
How to Respond to a Someone in a Crisis: A Dad who Understands the Gift of Listening
* Â Â * Â Â * If you ever wanted to see love, empathy, compassion during a crisis, excellent listening skills, support, encouragement wrapped up in one package without ever having to take a class or read a book, I think I found it right here in this short video. Â This video encapsulates what… Continue reading How to Respond to a Someone in a Crisis: A Dad who Understands the Gift of Listening
Spiritual Edification: What has worked for you?
* Â Â * Â Â * In our spiritual journey, many of us have had mountain-top experiences and maybe some valleys, too. Â Mountain-top experiences are pretty exciting and can fuel us for a while, but I'm not convinced that our spiritual journey should be based on one great experience. Â But in those times… Continue reading Spiritual Edification: What has worked for you?
Can our Faith and Love Co-Exist with Extremism?
* Â Â * Â Â * Having been spoon-fed by my former pastor a form of extremism, or rigid, legalistic, black/white rules and practices, I have pressed myself to re-evaluate those rules and ideas and measure them with scripture using my own eyes and discernment. Â What freedom! The following article is by Brenda, a… Continue reading Can our Faith and Love Co-Exist with Extremism?
Learn and Discern: Harvest Bible Chapel – Church Discipline and Excommunication
* * * If you've been following the Elephant Room 2 spectacle with Pastor James MacDonald of Harvest Bible Chapel, you know there has been some shakeup within the elder ranks. More drama recently unfolded. Below, you will find the link to the video of MacDonald and four of the elders… Continue reading Learn and Discern: Harvest Bible Chapel – Church Discipline and Excommunication
Financial Ramifications of Abuse: What’s a Church to Do?
* Â Â * Â Â * Survivors of abuse have to climb many mountains. Â The first mountain is acknowledging the fact that they are being abused. Â Then they have to decide what to do. Â They are left emotionally reeling and yet, have to survive, take care of their children, put food on the table,… Continue reading Financial Ramifications of Abuse: What’s a Church to Do?
Moved by Compassion: The Story of Cherith
* Â Â * Â Â * The following is a guest post by my long-time friend, Maryl Smith. Â In Maryl's work, she has the opportunity to get acquainted with people in a more personal setting. Â She is very sensitive and a big support to people who have endured all kinds of abuse, including spiritual… Continue reading Moved by Compassion: The Story of Cherith
Announcement: New Spiritual Sounding Board Forum
* Â Â * Â Â * Announcing New Private Spiritual Abuse Forum Blogging is great for introducing a variety of topics, but sometimes it's awkward to break the conversation to share a personal need or concern. Â Over the past year, there have been times when I have wished there was a private place to… Continue reading Announcement: New Spiritual Sounding Board Forum
Pastor Chuck O’Neal Tries to Save His Reputation by Using Twitter and His BFFs
* Â Â * Â Â * I don't have time to put together a "real" post today, so this is just off the top of my head. Â I'll come back in later and add links and add a picture later, I'm in a hurry. The Twitter battle has been raging with Chuck O'Neal upon… Continue reading Pastor Chuck O’Neal Tries to Save His Reputation by Using Twitter and His BFFs
Tony Miano: Tweeting from the Heart
* Â Â * Â Â * I'm in the middle of working on an article about street evangelist Tony Miano and the recent evangelism conference sponsored by my former pastor, but just ran across this tweet and decided to post it for a quickie Sunday evening post. Tony, Tony, Tony!! Â SMH! * Â … Continue reading Tony Miano: Tweeting from the Heart
Why Does Calvin’s God Feel Abusive to Me? I Didn’t Choose This!
* Â Â * Â Â * The Lord works righteousness and justice for all who are oppressed. Â Psalm 103:6 I have never, ever connected so deeply with someone else's spiritual experience as I have recently with reader, Oasis. Â The tears . . . . oh, the tears. Â This deep, gut-wrenching, sobbing pain is… Continue reading Why Does Calvin’s God Feel Abusive to Me? I Didn’t Choose This!
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