** I'm opening this thread for discussion on the recent article by D. Scott Meadows, Addenda, Part 2: Clarification of “A Christian Wife’s Marriage Catechism” posted at Reformed Baptist Fellowship blog. D. Scott Meadows has had quite a response on social media about his recent article, "A Christian Wife's Catechism." The first article received a lot of… Continue reading SSB Readers Discuss D. Scott Meadows’ “A Christian Wife’s Catechism” and Addendums
Category: ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE
Blogger/Mother Who Posted Public Article about Her Daughter’s “Disobedience” Has Changed Her Mind and Removed Post
** There's a positive update to share on an earlier article I covered. Last month, I posted an article, Christian Parental Response to Teenagers or Adult Children in Rebellion, a sad story about a popular homeschool blogger and mother who claimed her daughter left home in disobedience. Here is one sentence from the blogger/mother from her… Continue reading Blogger/Mother Who Posted Public Article about Her Daughter’s “Disobedience” Has Changed Her Mind and Removed Post
A Pastor is Challenged after Releasing a Disturbing and Potentially Dangerous Article Directed to Wives of “Difficult” Husbands
Article by Pastor D. Scott Meadows' article, A Christian Wife's Marriage Catechism, creates a stir among the survivor community. I've been watching an important sequence of events unfolding in the blogosphere. Pastor D. Scott Meadows of Calvary Baptist Church (Reformed) in New Hampshire wrote an article, A Christian Wife’s Marriage Catechism. The catechism is a list… Continue reading A Pastor is Challenged after Releasing a Disturbing and Potentially Dangerous Article Directed to Wives of “Difficult” Husbands
Open Letter to Editors of Christianity Today from Ex-Wife of Pedophile: “Predators in Our Midst”
Ex-wife of convicted pedophile writes open letter to Editors of Christianity Today after they published and then removed an article written by a former youth pastor and convicted pedophile. Sometimes when people go through a horrific experience, they become an expert in their "field" from what they learn and are able to benefit so many… Continue reading Open Letter to Editors of Christianity Today from Ex-Wife of Pedophile: “Predators in Our Midst”
Can High-Controlling Pastors Lead Their Members into Depression and Even Suicide?
Commenters share about high-controlling pastors who leave a path of mental health destruction, even suicide, because they cannot get appropriate help. A while back, I found a comment at SGMSurvivor.com blog that cut like a knife. Sovereign Grace Ministries (SGM) is in the news a good bit because of the sex abuse lawsuits, but the subject… Continue reading Can High-Controlling Pastors Lead Their Members into Depression and Even Suicide?
Post-Spiritual Abuse Change of Perspective: Buffer Zones and Abortion Clinics
Post-Spiritual Abuse Change of Perspective: Buffer Zones and Abortion Clinics Don't call yourself pro-life if you value only certain lives. Author Unknown I find it interesting that my perspective on things have changed after having experienced spiritual abuse. Five years ago, I would have been rejoicing about this news: The Supreme Court on Thursday unanimously… Continue reading Post-Spiritual Abuse Change of Perspective: Buffer Zones and Abortion Clinics
Pat Robertson: Getting a Tattoo is Heathen Practice, Even If Your Tattoo Depicts Jesus Christ
Pat Robertson has flapped his tongue with nonsense again, this time about tattoos. A false teacher gives extra-biblical teachings. Do not dismiss these as simply foolish words, they are wrong and can be harmful to blind followers. I get really annoyed when people in a position of Christian leadership or expertise utter nonsense from their mouths, throw… Continue reading Pat Robertson: Getting a Tattoo is Heathen Practice, Even If Your Tattoo Depicts Jesus Christ
Desiring God and Daddies Dating…Their Daughters’ Boyfriends? Is John Piper Promoting Patriarchy?
Are Desiring God & John Piper shifting to "Biblical Patriarchy" over complementarianism, following Gregg Harris', Bill Gothard's, Scott Brown's, Doug Phillips' and Doug Wilson's courtship model? by Cindy Kunsman The champions of patriarchy worked hard last week, busy on the front lines by saving the world through their insight and wisdom. On June 11,… Continue reading Desiring God and Daddies Dating…Their Daughters’ Boyfriends? Is John Piper Promoting Patriarchy?
Christian Parental Response to Teenagers or Adult Children in Rebellion
*** What is the appropriate response for Christian parents when our teenagers or adult children rebel? Do we intervene? Let them go? Do we shun? *** ADMIN NOTE: I have scrubbed the original article of links to the original article, removed names, except for first initials. H = mother/blogger E =… Continue reading Christian Parental Response to Teenagers or Adult Children in Rebellion
To Train up a Child: Who Decides if it is Biblical or Not? When is it Abuse?
*** Johann and Kimery Jorg Abuse Case: HSLDA has given us homeschool liberties, but at what cost? A closer look at homeschool freedoms and parenting and safety of children *** Homeschoolers have fought for years to have the freedom to legally homeschool their children. Homeschool Legal Defense Association has worked to ensure that parents in… Continue reading To Train up a Child: Who Decides if it is Biblical or Not? When is it Abuse?
Elephants and SGA’s Everywhere! Coming to Terms with Homeschooling’s Pitfalls
The need of parents to both deal with the pitfalls and understand their Second Generation Adults of homeschooling (those who suffered in a high demand Christian homeschooling culture). A post by Cindy Kunsman of UnderMuchGrace.com In the Spiritual Sounding Board series about the Second Generation Adult who grows up in high demand religion… Continue reading Elephants and SGA’s Everywhere! Coming to Terms with Homeschooling’s Pitfalls
Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part IV (The Complicated Process of Exiting Totalist Groups)
*** Obstacles that Second Generation Adults like Lourdes Torres-Manteufel must overcome when exiting threatening, high demand situations and groups like Doug Phillips' Vision Forum *** Part IV in a Series Link to Part I Link to Part II Link to Part III by Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com "When we leave, we actually don’t have what… Continue reading Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part IV (The Complicated Process of Exiting Totalist Groups)
Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse
Do individuals suffer harm when they remain in verbally or emotionally abusive relationships? Cindy Kunsman illustrates the effects through an account of spiritual abuse. By Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com After reading Julie Anne's post questioning whether divorce from an abusive spouse is actually a “sin,” I found myself thinking of the loss of perspective and… Continue reading Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse
The Children of Divorce and Abuse in Marriage
Divorce: Do children bear the sins of their parents' divorce? Is it better to remain married even with abuse? What is the church teaching us about divorce and abuse by their silence on the subject? Russell Moore is President of the Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission. "In this role, he leads the organization in all its… Continue reading The Children of Divorce and Abuse in Marriage
The Marginalization of Singles in Church – What is the Solution to This?
*** Singles seem to be getting the short end of the stick in Christian churches and are often marginalized, shamed, and literally left alone. The Marginalization of Singles in Church - What is the Solution to This? *** Becky, found SSB through someone's link and responded to an old article on singles: Singles in the… Continue reading The Marginalization of Singles in Church – What is the Solution to This?
The Gospel Coalition Shake-Up – Tullian Tchividjian and Too Much Grace for The Gospel Coalition?
*** Tullian Tchividjian is booted from The Gospel Coalition (TGC) website while C.J. Mahaney and Josh Harris quietly leave TGC council amidst ongoing sex abuse lawsuits in which a former Sovereign Grace Ministries volunteer is found guilty of sex abuse charges. *** Confirmation bias regarding one's friends can become a powerful weapon against the… Continue reading The Gospel Coalition Shake-Up – Tullian Tchividjian and Too Much Grace for The Gospel Coalition?
Scott Brown Discusses: Jackson Brothers Alleged Sex Abuse, Brother Responds to Preaching, and Love Your Wives Webinar
*** Scott Brown on the Jackson brothers sex abuse case, the gospel message, and Husbands Love Your Wives webinar *** Scott Brown, Director of the National Center for Family-Integrated Churches (NCFIC), is also a pastor of 2 of the 6 Jackson brothers who were recently arrested for allegedly sexually assaulting their younger sister for approximately 10 years (Six… Continue reading Scott Brown Discusses: Jackson Brothers Alleged Sex Abuse, Brother Responds to Preaching, and Love Your Wives Webinar
Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part III (Raised in a Totalist Institution)
*** Using Katie Botkin's lifeboat analogy, Cindy Kunsman explores the “Second Generation Adult” and Lourdes Torres-Mantefeuel's alleged sex abuse by Vision Forum's Doug Phillips *** Part III in a Series Link to Part I Link to Part II By Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com On the same day that Lourdes Torres-Manteufel's petition was filed, the first cousin… Continue reading Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part III (Raised in a Totalist Institution)
Did Stacy McDonald and Kelly Crawford Pass the Duck Test on Patriarchy?
*** Patriarchy or not Patriarchy - Stacy McDonald and Kelly Crawford respond to my recent article and reveal their true colors. Does it walk like a duck? Quack like a Duck? *** Suppose you see a bird walking around in a farm yard. This bird has no label that says 'duck'. But the bird… Continue reading Did Stacy McDonald and Kelly Crawford Pass the Duck Test on Patriarchy?
Spiritual Recovery and Leaving a High-Controlling Church: Free to Plant, Free to Bloom, Free to Be
*** What does freedom feel like for those who have left a high-controlling or spiritually abusive church? *** ** About a month ago, I was sent beautiful pictures by SSB's friend, BeenThereDoneThat (BTDT). At first I was drawn to them because cobalt blue is my favorite color. Cobalt blue exudes a soothing peace and tranquility for… Continue reading Spiritual Recovery and Leaving a High-Controlling Church: Free to Plant, Free to Bloom, Free to Be
Spiritual Sounding Board 