There’s a positive update to share on an earlier article I covered. Last month, I posted an article, Christian Parental Response to Teenagers or Adult Children in Rebellion, a sad story about a popular homeschool blogger and mother who claimed her daughter left home in disobedience.
Here is one sentence from the blogger/mother from her original article:
E chose to leave home rather than obey, and more and more indiscretions, as well as outright acts of deception surface daily. Honestly, it’s as though our daughter has lived a dual life for a couple of years now; one for us, and one for herself.
In my article, it wasn’t about the daughter, but the mother’s response to the daughter that concerned me. The 17-yr old daughter’s personal family struggles were disclosed publicly. The blogger received mostly positive responses to her article, but there were a few negative ones strongly encouraging her to remove her post. The blogger defended her actions in the comments.
A couple of weeks later, I received an e-mail from the blogger/mother asking me to remove my article as she had removed hers. Because I was right in the midst of getting our home ready for week-long visitors and didn’t have time to really think it through, I told her I would “hide” the post and would come back to it later with a decision. Keep in mind, instead of using the daughter’s full name on my article, I elected to use only her first initial, “E” both in this post, the original post, and also ensured that all of the comments did not reveal the minor daughter’s identity.
Now here comes the very sticky part for me as a blogger. The purpose of my blog post was certainly not to go after either mother/blogger, or to shame them, but to discuss a particular way of parenting I have seen in certain circles, especially fundamentalist Christian circles. It is very important to discuss these issues, to challenge one another, to search scripture for answers because frankly, parenting is tough, and we’ve seen a lot of tragic results coming from the personal stories of Second Generation Adults.
While thinking very seriously about removing the article permanently, I realized that it is not considerate to you, my readers, who used your voices to share your comments and concerns. One of the biggest themes at SSB is that you get to have a voice. Removing the blog article and corresponding comments would mean that all the time and thought you took to interact with each other, construct and articulate your comments, would be wasted. That did not sit right with me, especially with my strong feelings about people have the right to freedom of expression.
So, I think I’ve hit a middle ground that will hopefully serve the goals we have here, try to respect privacy of the family involved, and ensure no loss to the great comments that were on the original article. Here’s what I have done: I have removed all links to the blogger’s original article. Additionally, I removed all names except for initials.
Here is the title to the article written by the mother/blogger to explain why she took down her article entitled, “Have a seat. It’ll only take a sec.”
I am very grateful for those who commented on the original article and shared your concerns. In the e-mail I received from the blogger/mother, she told me that both she and her daughter read my article and the comments. I’m thankful for that. I’m grateful that this mother and daughter are communicating. That is great news all around. I hope and pray for continued open communication, love, and grace as this precious family gets over this hurdle.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.