*** Owen Strachan speaks against Fifty Shades of Grey and attempts to show how complementarians do not abuse their wives, and says that Christianity disciplines abusive men *** Owen Strachan, President and Editor-in-Chief of Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW) released an article last night, How “50 Shades of Grey” Harms Women & Jesus Saves Them, after… Continue reading Owen Strachan Speaks out against Fifty Shades of Grey and Says that Christianity Disciplines Abusive Men
Category: Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab.
Pastor and Homeschool Leader Scott Brown Empathizes with Turkish President who says Birth Control is Treason
*** Scott Brown, the Christian Patriarchy Movement, Muslims, Women and Birth Control *** Since the fall of Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard, voices in the Homeschool Movement have been quiet about some of their pet topics, perhaps trying to let the dust settle on the aftermath of the Christian Patriarchy Movement and the alleged sex abuse… Continue reading Pastor and Homeschool Leader Scott Brown Empathizes with Turkish President who says Birth Control is Treason
Husbands Who Want to Correct Their Rebellious Wives
Husbands who want to correct their "rebellious" wives
Christian Domestic Discipline (Wife Spanking): A Personal Story, and a Closer Look at Patterns Connected with this Abusive Practice
Christian Domestic Discipline, "wife spanking," Christian Patriarchy Movement, Spanking of Adult Children, Denominational Practices and teachings *** Two summers ago, I received a phone call from a pastor who shared his growing concern about wife-spanking in his family of churches. Months later, I finally reported on the topic of wife spanking in this article: The Christian… Continue reading Christian Domestic Discipline (Wife Spanking): A Personal Story, and a Closer Look at Patterns Connected with this Abusive Practice
Reformed Complementarians Take on the Patriarchy Movement and Errant Ideologies
*** The errant Patriarchy Movement is getting some well-deserved attention by voices in Reformed Christianity *** Vyckie Garrison wrote an article which has been spread around quite a bit. If you haven't read, it please be sure to do so. In the article, How Playing Good Christian Housewife Almost Killed Me, she discusses her life in… Continue reading Reformed Complementarians Take on the Patriarchy Movement and Errant Ideologies
A Pastor is Challenged after Releasing a Disturbing and Potentially Dangerous Article Directed to Wives of “Difficult” Husbands
Article by Pastor D. Scott Meadows' article, A Christian Wife's Marriage Catechism, creates a stir among the survivor community. I've been watching an important sequence of events unfolding in the blogosphere. Pastor D. Scott Meadows of Calvary Baptist Church (Reformed) in New Hampshire wrote an article, A Christian Wife’s Marriage Catechism. The catechism is a list… Continue reading A Pastor is Challenged after Releasing a Disturbing and Potentially Dangerous Article Directed to Wives of “Difficult” Husbands
Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse
Do individuals suffer harm when they remain in verbally or emotionally abusive relationships? Cindy Kunsman illustrates the effects through an account of spiritual abuse. By Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com After reading Julie Anne's post questioning whether divorce from an abusive spouse is actually a “sin,” I found myself thinking of the loss of perspective and… Continue reading Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse
The Children of Divorce and Abuse in Marriage
Divorce: Do children bear the sins of their parents' divorce? Is it better to remain married even with abuse? What is the church teaching us about divorce and abuse by their silence on the subject? Russell Moore is President of the Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission. "In this role, he leads the organization in all its… Continue reading The Children of Divorce and Abuse in Marriage
Patriarchy: Doug Phillips, Bill Gothard, Doug Wilson and Damage Control
** Media and blogosphere are abuzz with sex abuse stories coming from Patriarchy proponents, Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips. Gothard releases a statement, other Christian leaders defend Patriarchy. ** I tell you what, my head is spinning this week with so many items of news regarding scandals by Christian leaders, especially within Christian Patriarchy. But… Continue reading Patriarchy: Doug Phillips, Bill Gothard, Doug Wilson and Damage Control
How do you warn someone about a dangerous spiritual group? What if that person is your spouse?
*** How do you warn someone about a dangerous or spiritually abusive leader or group? What if that someone is your spouse? *** Commenter, TIA, responded to my comment with a couple of key questions that were left unanswered. I think would be helpful to discuss these important questions, especially in light of the second… Continue reading How do you warn someone about a dangerous spiritual group? What if that person is your spouse?
Christian Marriage: For Better or for Worse – No Recourse for Spouse’s Bad Behavior?
* * * What is a spouse to do in a Christian marriage when a spouse is behaving badly or even abusing? "For better or for worse" can keep a spouse captive in a very unhealthy relationship. * * * Two are better than one because… Continue reading Christian Marriage: For Better or for Worse – No Recourse for Spouse’s Bad Behavior?
The Christian Patriarchy Movement’s Dark Secret of Wife Spanking
* * * As Doug Phillips and his Vision Forum ministry is sinking, stories of abuse among Christian Patriarchy are surfacing: domestic violence, wife spanking, etc, among other well-known circles such as RC Sproul Jr., etc. * * * Warning: this is a heavy and disturbing article.… Continue reading The Christian Patriarchy Movement’s Dark Secret of Wife Spanking
Learn to Discern: Wife Has Affair with Pastor . . . and Reconciles?
* * * Kandace has an affair with her pastor. She and her husband, Nathan, talk about their reconciliation process and grace, but leave out something very important. * * * Video: Liberate JA note: Sorry, I've been unable to embed the video. Please click on "Liberate"… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Wife Has Affair with Pastor . . . and Reconciles?
Doug Phillips: Question about Pastoral Position, Timeline of Events, and Understanding True Repentance
* * * Doug Phillips: a timeline of events, understanding true repentance and question about Phillips' teaching elder position at Boerne Christian Assembly * * * “Over the years, my sensitivity to these problems has only heightened, until several years ago, I set about to align with… Continue reading Doug Phillips: Question about Pastoral Position, Timeline of Events, and Understanding True Repentance
When Sharing Concerns or Asking Pastors Questions Leads to Spiritual Abuse
* * * Questioning authority or raising concerns can be the litmus test to see if your pastor is spiritually abusive or not. * * * * * * Oh boy, is this a biggie. I was really moved when this topic come… Continue reading When Sharing Concerns or Asking Pastors Questions Leads to Spiritual Abuse
Are Daughters the Biggest Threat to the Christian Patriarchy Movement and Reconstructionism?
* * * It is my belief that Christian leaders in the Reconstructionist and Homeschool Movements view their adult daughters as the biggest threat to their agenda in furthering their ideologies. In this video trailer of The Return of the Daughters, you can hear the urgency of this movement, the fear-mongering blaming the feminists as… Continue reading Are Daughters the Biggest Threat to the Christian Patriarchy Movement and Reconstructionism?
Discernment: You, Some Woman, or Phil Johnson?
* * * I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. Abraham Lincoln Today I read a comment on a blog that absolutely floored me. Early on in my lawsuit case, I contacted a couple of pastors from a well-known church. As I tried… Continue reading Discernment: You, Some Woman, or Phil Johnson?
10 Most Popular Articles of the Year at BGBC Survivors Blog
It's always fun to watch which blog posts are popular, so I thought it would be interesting to recap the ten most popular blog posts since the inception of the blog late February of 2012. So, here ya go: 1. Buh-Bye Pastor Edwin Young This was a huge surprise to me. I took a… Continue reading 10 Most Popular Articles of the Year at BGBC Survivors Blog
John Piper and the Church on Domestic Violence
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed. 9 Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice. Proverbs 31:8-9 In an earlier post, Domestic Violence: Do Pastors Know Best?, I posted a video of a question and answer… Continue reading John Piper and the Church on Domestic Violence
A Pastor Speaks Out: The Church and Abused Women
The church, domestic violence, women, pastors, spousal abuse A couple days ago, I was informed about a note a pastor had written to another pastor regarding spiritual abuse. This spiritual abuse is specifically regarding women and how their role as women is regarded in the church - or perhaps I should… Continue reading A Pastor Speaks Out: The Church and Abused Women
Spiritual Sounding Board 