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Admin note: This post is not part of Kathi's ongoing series reviewing Lori Alexander's book, The Transformed Wife, but is a "special report," if you will. The following was brought to our attention, and Kathi and I feel strongly that this kind of "counseling" needs to be addressed publicly. This advise can cause great harm… Continue reading Lori Alexander Dishes Out Heartless Advice to Wife Who Was Sexually Abused
*** I promised an update on me and so here goes. It seems that my generation and older seems to squirm about personal issues, but frankly, I'm tired of that. So, I'm posting what's been happening with me because more often than not, when I do post on something personal, several people will usually e-mail… Continue reading Julie Anne’s Intruder, Softball, and Issues
*** Last week, I went to a memorial service in Portland and met someone I've been wanting to meet for a long time, Brad Sargent. As long-time readers know, Brad has been a great help to me during my defamation lawsuit and on the blog for quite some time. Brad spent hundreds of hours writing… Continue reading What Happened Last Week?
Update from Julie Anne Well, I didn't intend to be away for so long or I would have posted something. Truth be told, every day I planned on posting something "tomorrow," but as I followed my gut, that "tomorrow" didn't happen, so obviously it wasn't meant to be. I guess I needed the down time.… Continue reading A Brief Blog Respite and JA’s Back
*** I've been kind of out of blogging commission lately, except for commenting and moderating for the last few days. On Friday, I took my boys to the Oregon Coast and then spent Sunday through Tuesday in Portland and stayed at the parsonage of the 2nd oldest church in Portland - my friend, Pastor… Continue reading JA’s Spring Break Happenings
Spiritual Abuse, Recovery Process, Tangled Lives, Support It must be that time of year. I had a rough day the last two days and had to call a support person to help me get on track. And it's not that I didn't know what my issues were, or how to fix them. I knew what… Continue reading Tangled Lives of Spiritual Abuse Survivors
*** Early this morning, I posted an article (now removed) sent by a guest poster regarding the ongoing situation at The Bridge Fellowship. The article implicated a popular Christian country radio station, HLE. After the article was published, I received an e-mail from Hunter Logan of HLE who said they (HLE) have never had any affiliation… Continue reading Public Apology
Participants Needed for Research Work on Spiritual Abuse I received an e-mail from Kathryn Keller Lamar with whom I have corresponded with and networked in spiritual abuse and survivor communities. She is finishing up her doctoral dissertation to complete her studies and I told her I'd be happy to pass along the information. Spiritual abuse… Continue reading Introducing Kathi, Spiritual Abuse Survey, and Free Domestic Violence Book for Ministry Groups/Organizations
*** *** Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 *** I wanted to let you all know… Continue reading Spiritual Sounding Board Update
*** *** Yesterday I did an interview with Doug Bursch from Seattle's KGNW radio station. Doug describes himself in his bio as "a speaker, writer, pastor, teacher and evangelist." We spoke about spiritual abuse, healthy and unhealthy churches. I've done quite a few interviews since the lawsuit, but this one is my new favorite. If… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Interview with Doug Bursch
** Two years of blogging, two years of growth, hope for those hurt by church abuse ** ** In Joel, God talks about restoring what the locusts had eaten. Today marks exactly two years since I began blogging. As I reflect on the 2-year anniversary date of my initial blog and begin my 3rd year of… Continue reading Restoring What the Locust Has Eaten: Two Years of Blogging Milestone Today and Gratefulness
I was part of a team effort with Julie Anne Smith to write a recent post on Spiritual Sounding Board, A Warning to Commenters: Be Aware of Potential Blog Owner/Moderator Intrusiveness. This post created a significant amount of heat about spiritual abuse survivor blogs. But the controversy also potentially brought forth an important amount of… Continue reading Creating and Sustaining a Safer Blogging Environment – A Guest Post by Brad/Futuristguy
When we go to church and listen to a pastor preach, there may be a “type” of sounding board: A sounding board (also known as a tester) is a structure placed above or behind a pulpit or other speaking platform which helps to project the sound of the speaker. The structure may be specially shaped to assist the projection, for… Continue reading Challenging Pastors Publicly: Good or Bad?
Hey, I've got new digs. Welcome to the new abode! There ain't no housewarming party just yet, and there's much work to do (hanging pictures, painting, interior decorating, widgets, and all that sort of stuff), but I wanted to start the year with a fresh start on the first day of the year and… Continue reading Just Moving In: Welcome!
It's always fun to watch which blog posts are popular, so I thought it would be interesting to recap the ten most popular blog posts since the inception of the blog late February of 2012. So, here ya go: 1. Buh-Bye Pastor Edwin Young This was a huge surprise to me. I took a… Continue reading 10 Most Popular Articles of the Year at BGBC Survivors Blog
Thus, I heal therefore I blog; I blog therefore I heal. ~Brad SargentA new milestone: 300,000 blog hitsThank you for reading, for walking this journey with me, for learning along with me, for spreading the word about spiritual abuse. It's not a pleasant topic, but it needs to be discussed. I could never have imagined… Continue reading Who’da Thunk It?
You may have noticed that I changed the name of the blog to BGBC Survivors. Previously, I spelled out the name of my former church and added Survivors with it. You also may have noticed that I write "former church" and "former pastor" an awful lot. I am purposefully not naming names. I'm ready… Continue reading Need Help with New Blog Name
Last week, Fred Butler issued a public apology to the Smith Family on his own blog per my husband's request. Comments on the post were closed, so I have copied Steve's words here (and sent Fred an e-mail):Fred, Concerning what you wrote about Hannah - your apology is accepted and I forgive you. Thank you for… Continue reading Response to Apology – Trolls and Spiritual Abuse
I'm at camp now and typing this Sunday morning. The counselors will eat breakfast soon, have a Communion service and then we will have training for the counselors. Campers come in around 5 or 6PM. I am in a cabin with 12 beds. Nine young ladies will be in our cabin. My friend who was… Continue reading I’d Love to Know