ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Disturbing Trends, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Dr. Albert Mohler, Failure to Report Crimes, John MacArthur, John Piper, Justin Taylor, Mandatory Reporting, Mark Dever, Mark Driscoll, Owen Strachan, Phil Johnson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Tullian Tchividjian, Voddie Baucham

Will Those in the Real Gospel-Centered Churches Please Stand?

Gospel-Centered Movement, TGC, YRR, Calvinists, Jared Wilson *** Over at The Gospel Coalition website, Jared Wilson has published the Top 125 Influences of the Gospel-Centered Movement. Now, I admit at first, I had assumed that he was talking about all influential Christians. As I read more of his intro, I saw that he was really… Continue reading Will Those in the Real Gospel-Centered Churches Please Stand?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Meetings with the Pastor, Mental Health and the Church, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Statute of Limitations

First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

#MeToo, #ChurchToo, Sexual Abuse, Harassment, Church *** The hashtag #MeToo has been trending for quite some time on Twitter. Women who have been sexually harassed or abused have been identifying themselves as survivors of sexual harm, indicating it with the hashtag, #MeToo. But now, there is a new trending hashtag, #ChurchToo. The stories that you… Continue reading First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Lyvonne Picou’s Research on Black Christian Women Survivors of Male Sexual Violence

by Brad Sargent, aka brad/futuristguy, and cross-posted at futuristguy website. *     *     *     *     *     *     * “I am fiercely committed to addressing the taboo and stigma attached to childhood sexual abuse (CSA) in the Black community.” ~ Lyvonne Proverbs Picou *     *     *     *     *     *     * Occasionally, I find out about surveys or… Continue reading Lyvonne Picou’s Research on Black Christian Women Survivors of Male Sexual Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Grace Community Church, John MacArthur, Master's University / Master's Seminary, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

Jane’s Account of Rape, Response of Master’s University to Her Claims, and a Breaking Development Confirming Details #DoYouSeeUs

The Master's University, The Master's Seminary, Grace Community Church, John MacArthur, Sexual Assault, Sexual Abuse, Jane's Story, #DoYouSeeUs *** Introducing the Account of Master's University Student "Jane" Being Raped Earlier this week (September 18), blogger Marci Preheim shared the story of Jane (pseudonym), a Master's University student who was drugged, then raped. The horrific story… Continue reading Jane’s Account of Rape, Response of Master’s University to Her Claims, and a Breaking Development Confirming Details #DoYouSeeUs

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Lori Alexander, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, SMH (Shake My Head), The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – The Chapter that Doesn’t Belong

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Dating, Sexual Purity -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – The Chapter that Doesn’t Belong

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Mandatory Reporting, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

A “Systems Approach” and Some Historical Background on Dealing with Abuse and Violence

To deal with "systemic abuse," we must understand systems, victimization, and what makes individuals and institutions vulnerable. Guest post by Brad Sargent, with input from Julie Anne Smith. Cross-posted at futuristguy. *     *     *     *     *     *     * How will our church serve those who’ve suffered the harm of childhood sexual abuse, and seek to… Continue reading A “Systems Approach” and Some Historical Background on Dealing with Abuse and Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Mandatory Reporting, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

Book Review: The Child Safeguarding Policy Guide, by Boz Tchividjian and Shira Berkovits

Key component in a system of resources on child sexual abuse for policy makers, survivors, educators, and advocates. Guest post by Brad Sargent, with input from Julie Anne Smith. Cross-posted at futuristguy. *     *     *     *     *     *     * Spiritual Sounding Board was invited to participate in the Litfuse "blog tour" for the recently released… Continue reading Book Review: The Child Safeguarding Policy Guide, by Boz Tchividjian and Shira Berkovits

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Failure to Report Crimes, Forgiveness, Going Back to Church Again, LAWSUITS, Mandatory Reporting, Narcissistic Pastors, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Kari Benton Shares: Spiritual Recovery after a Lawsuit and Spiritual Abuse

*** Some may recall the story of Titus and Kari Benton who were in a defamation lawsuit by their former pastor, Steve Wingfield, of First Christian Church of Florissant. The case was later dismissed, but when you are sued by your former employer and pastor, your long-term church home, and experience spiritual abuse, it takes… Continue reading Kari Benton Shares: Spiritual Recovery after a Lawsuit and Spiritual Abuse

Doctrine as Idol, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Lori Alexander, Meaning of Spiritual Sounding Board, Misuse of Scripture, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander Dishes Out Heartless Advice to Wife Who Was Sexually Abused

Admin note: This post is not part of Kathi's ongoing series reviewing Lori Alexander's book, The Transformed Wife, but is a "special report," if you will. The following was brought to our attention, and Kathi and I feel strongly that this kind of "counseling" needs to be addressed publicly. This advise can cause great harm… Continue reading Lori Alexander Dishes Out Heartless Advice to Wife Who Was Sexually Abused

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Sex Abuse, Failure to Report Crimes, Mandatory Reporting, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations, Suicide, Women and the Church

Let’s Discuss: The Keepers, Netflix Documentary Series about the Murder of Sister Cathy Cesnik and Systemic Sexual Abuse

The Keepers, Netflix, Cathy Cesnik, Systemic Sexual Abuse, Catholic Church, Spiritual Abuse, Clergy Sexual Abuse https://youtu.be/Khr7dbuBjuE *** The Keepers is a new documentary series airing on Netflix. I have watched 5 of the episodes and it is excellent. If you have seen Spotlight, it is similar, however, the investigative reporters in this case are two… Continue reading Let’s Discuss: The Keepers, Netflix Documentary Series about the Murder of Sister Cathy Cesnik and Systemic Sexual Abuse

Calvinism, Compassion in Action, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Grace Community Church, Misuse of Scripture, Personal Stories, Phil Johnson, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, SURVIVOR STORIES, Troubling Tweets, Women and the Church

An Abuse Survivor’s Response to Pastor Phil Johnson’s Insensitive Tweet on Domestic Violence

Phil Johnson, Grace Community Church, Sex Abuse, Domestic Violence, Twitter *** Blog reader, Christina, left an important comment on yesterday's post regarding an insensitive and callous tweet Pastor Phil Johnson sent out regarding domestic violence. His tweet created quite an uproar on Twitter. Because Christina's comment is addressed to Phil Johnson, I didn't want it to get lost… Continue reading An Abuse Survivor’s Response to Pastor Phil Johnson’s Insensitive Tweet on Domestic Violence

It's All About the Image, Mandatory Reporting, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

How Safe is Your Church?

  * * * Have you met Boz Tchividjian of GRACE - Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment? This would be a good video to post on Facebook or send to church leaders. Until churches have safe policies in place and survivors feel safe to share their trauma to others in the church,… Continue reading How Safe is Your Church?

Bill Gothard, Christian Marriage, Failure to Report Crimes, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

Josh and Anna Duggar Announce New Pregnancy After His Sex Scandal

Josh Duggar, Sex Scandal, ATI, Ashley Madison   *** The eldest son of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar of TLC's popular TV show, 19 Kids and Counting is in the news again. Josh and his wife Anna Duggar made an announcement on their family's website. This announcement comes two years after accusations of: alleged sexual abuse… Continue reading Josh and Anna Duggar Announce New Pregnancy After His Sex Scandal

Clergy Sex Abuse, It's All About the Image, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Mental Health and the Church, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Tullian Tchividjian

4. An Appeal to Publisher David C Cook, and Others Promoting Tullian Tchividjian

Part #4 of 4, by Julie Anne Smith   SUMMARY The public ministry platforms of Tullian Tchividjian — including his books — have become an issue of public concern and debate, in light of his various degrees of involvement with multiple women. Part #1 introduced the third woman reportedly seduced by Tullian Tchividjian into a… Continue reading 4. An Appeal to Publisher David C Cook, and Others Promoting Tullian Tchividjian

Clergy Sex Abuse, It's All About the Image, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Mental Health and the Church, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Tullian Tchividjian

3. Research Findings on Publishers of Books by Tullian Tchividjian

Part #3 of 4, by Brad Sargent SUMMARY. The public ministry platforms of Tullian Tchividjian -- including his books -- have become an issue of public concern and debate, in light of his various degrees of involvement with multiple women. Part #1 introduced the third woman reportedly seduced by Tullian Tchividjian into a sexual relationship. Her… Continue reading 3. Research Findings on Publishers of Books by Tullian Tchividjian

Clergy Sex Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Tullian Tchividjian, Women and the Church

Issues of Language: Removing Neutrality Toward Abusers and Negativity Toward Survivors

  by Brad Sargent aka brad/futuristguy *     *     *     *     *     *     * Introduction: Changing Our Language to Remove Neutrality Toward Abusers and Negativity Toward Survivors Who typically gets trusted or distrusted by default -- the reported perpetrator, or the victim who reports? That is especially important in understanding the realities faced by survivors of… Continue reading Issues of Language: Removing Neutrality Toward Abusers and Negativity Toward Survivors

Christian Industrial Complex, Clergy Sex Abuse, It's All About the Image, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Mental Health and the Church, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Tullian Tchividjian

2. An Infographic on Tullian Tchividjian’s Pursuit of Women and a Public/Publication Platform

Part #2 of 4, by Julie Anne Smith and Brad Sargent Part #1 introduced the third woman reportedly seduced by Tullian Tchividjian into a sexual relationship. Her story extends his womanizing behaviors back into 2013. This post shows an infographic on what Tullian Tchividjian's pursuit of these women looks like, when it is layered over… Continue reading 2. An Infographic on Tullian Tchividjian’s Pursuit of Women and a Public/Publication Platform

Christian Industrial Complex, Clergy Sex Abuse, It's All About the Image, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Mental Health and the Church, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Tullian Tchividjian

1. Third Woman Victim of Tullian Tchividjian’s Seduction Gives Details; She Reportedly Extends Timeline of His Adulteries Back into 2013

Introduction to Four-Part Series: Tullian Tchividjian Situation Update We (Julie Anne and Brad) were planning a two-part series to update the situation on Tullian Tchividjian, focusing on what has been happening with his current and former publishers, and individuals who'd been promoting him over the years.  However, we are now able to share related breaking… Continue reading 1. Third Woman Victim of Tullian Tchividjian’s Seduction Gives Details; She Reportedly Extends Timeline of His Adulteries Back into 2013

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Clergy Sex Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Tullian Tchividjian

GRACE Releases Statement Regarding Tullian Tchividjian – Supports Victims, Challenges Churches with Constructive Changes

This morning, GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment) released a thoughtful, clear statement of empathetic support for victims and constructive solutions for changing Church systems that perpetuate abuse. The five-page statement from the Board of Directors addresses key systemic needs in four areas: Seminary education of pastors about maintaining appropriate boundaries. Rigorous… Continue reading GRACE Releases Statement Regarding Tullian Tchividjian – Supports Victims, Challenges Churches with Constructive Changes

Domestic Violence, Mental Health and the Church, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Would your church be able to help someone in the midst of a crisis? How equipped are they?

***   Before we get into today's article, we've passed an important milestone here. Today, I noticed in my Facebook's "On This Day" feature, that it is the 4th year anniversary date of the judge's decision on the defamation lawsuit brought on by my former pastor, Chuck O'Neal of Beaverton Grace Bible Church (BGBC) vs.… Continue reading Would your church be able to help someone in the midst of a crisis? How equipped are they?