ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE, Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, CHURCH GOVERNANCE & POLICIES, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Leaving the Church, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence, Jim and Doug Wilson, and Damaging Pastoral Response to Abuse in Marriages

Christ Church's Pastor Doug Wilson, Jim Wilson, Domestic Violence, Pastoral Response to Abuse, Marriage October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month, is wrapping up. In my research on Pastor Doug Wilson and the abuses connected with Christ Church and New Saint Andrews College, I ran across a video with Doug Wilson and his father, Jim Wilson, discussing marriage.… Continue reading Domestic Violence, Jim and Doug Wilson, and Damaging Pastoral Response to Abuse in Marriages

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE, Bill Gothard, Failure to Report Crimes, IBLP and ATI, It's All About the Image, LAWSUITS, Lourdes Torres vs Doug Phillips lawsuit, Mandatory Reporting, Misuse of Scripture, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Statute of Limitations, Women and the Church

Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), Bill Gothard, lawsuit, David Gibbs III Many are probably aware of the recent news that five very brave women have come forward and have filed a lawsuit against Bill Gothard's former ministry, Institute in Basic Life Principles, Inc. (IBLP), and six men who serve as Directors of IBLP: John Stancil, Anthony… Continue reading Attorney David Gibbs III Discusses the IBLP Lawsuit and Answers Important Questions

Disturbing Trends, Marriage, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Parenting, Women and the Church

Let’s Make Jesus Famous: Hype about Her Hymen

Patriarchy, Purity Pledge, Hymen, "Let's Make Jesus Famous" Virginity, Abstinence   So much ado about a little flap of skin. For realz, people? The idea of this just disgusts me.  Read the bottom of the Instagram picture: I like what this author wrote in, The Sexist Patriarchy of a Certificate of Purity: If you grew up… Continue reading Let’s Make Jesus Famous: Hype about Her Hymen

Beaverton Grace Bible Church, BGBCSurvivors Imposter Blog, Biblical Counseling, Chuck O'Neal, Leaving the Church, Meetings with the Pastor, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Pastor Chuck O’Neal of Beaverton Grace Bible Church Taught Parents to Spank Adult Children

Pastor Chuck O'Neal of Beaverton Grace Bible Church Taught Parents to Spank Adult Children     One of the more challenging aspects about abuse is the recurring triggers, even years after abuse. In the strictest sense of the term, trigger is used to refer to experiences that “re-trigger” trauma in the form of flashbacks or… Continue reading Pastor Chuck O’Neal of Beaverton Grace Bible Church Taught Parents to Spank Adult Children

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Courtship, Doug Wilson, Failure to Report Crimes, Mandatory Reporting, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles

My Meeting with Heather Wilson to Discuss Doug Wilson & Sex Abuse Scandals

"Now where is the scandal in this?" ~Doug Wilson Steven Sitler, Christ Church, Moscow ID, New Saint Andrews, Pedophile When I was tweeting about my upcoming visit to Moscow, I received a tweet from Heather Wilson. At the time, I didn’t realize she was related to Doug Wilson, but later I received an e-mail from… Continue reading My Meeting with Heather Wilson to Discuss Doug Wilson & Sex Abuse Scandals

Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Gender Roles, Marriage, Misuse of Scripture, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Women and the Church

The Blogger at “Biblical Gender Roles” is Taken To Task Proving that His Discipline Advice is Really Domestic Violence

How Biblical Gender Role's Discipline Advice is Actually Abuse by Kathi This past weekend I may have caused some fine folks' blood pressure to rise by sharing blogger, Biblical Gender Role's "7 Ways to Discipline Your Wife" on the SSB Facebook page. I apologized for getting everyone's Saturday mojo ruined, but I think we had… Continue reading The Blogger at “Biblical Gender Roles” is Taken To Task Proving that His Discipline Advice is Really Domestic Violence

John MacArthur, Street Evangelism, Tony Miano

Street Preacher Tony Miano Yells to Woman, “You’re Acting Like a Man. STOP IT!!!”

Street Preacher, Tony Miano, member of John MacArthur's church, Grace Community Church thinks this is how to stop abortions and win people to Christ. Tony Miano yells at two women outside an abortion clinic. They are not happy and use colorful language in response. How should a Christian respond? But the fruit of the Spirit… Continue reading Street Preacher Tony Miano Yells to Woman, “You’re Acting Like a Man. STOP IT!!!”

Biblical Counseling, Calvinism, Christian Marriage, Dictators, Doug Wilson, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

Doug Wilson Series: Introduction, Christ Church Celebrates 40 years and Background

Doug Wilson, Christ Church, CREC, Greyfriars Hall, Association of Classical & Christian Schools, Canon Press, New Saint Andrews, Steven Sitler, Jamin Wight ** To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it. ~G.K. Chesterton Last night, I returned home after a 1-1/2 day trip… Continue reading Doug Wilson Series: Introduction, Christ Church Celebrates 40 years and Background

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Dictators, Doug Wilson, Mandatory Reporting, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles, Women and the Church

A Note to Doug Wilson and Friends and Foes of Doug Wilson

** I have two things to share, first the following invitation. Some may have seen this on Twitter or Facebook, but I want to make it more public here so more eyes can see and have an opportunity to meet: ** ** Okay, now the second issue. For the last two weeks I have shared publicly… Continue reading A Note to Doug Wilson and Friends and Foes of Doug Wilson

Christian Marriage, Courtship, Doug Wilson, Failure to Report Crimes, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches

Pastor Doug Wilson, A Serial Pedophile, and the Real Victims

Pastor Doug Wilson and Ed Iverson encourage marriage of Pedophile Steven Sitler, Christ Church Sins are like grapes; they come in bunches. ~Doug Wilson I read a disturbing article yesterday that sent me reeling. I think we always want to hope for the best in people, but after having seen this pattern taken place so… Continue reading Pastor Doug Wilson, A Serial Pedophile, and the Real Victims

Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Disturbing Trends, Divorce, It's All About the Image, Narcissistic Pastors, Tullian Tchividjian

Concerns about Tullian Tchividjian’s Ministry Comeback as Director of Ministry Development at Willow Creek Church

** Tullian Tchividjian has a new pastor, Kevin Labby at Willow Creek Church, and a new job there as Director of Ministry Development only weeks after stripped of minister credentials   Tullian Tchividjian has a new job at Willow Creek Church. While some are applauding this new development, many are not. Here is his new job listing… Continue reading Concerns about Tullian Tchividjian’s Ministry Comeback as Director of Ministry Development at Willow Creek Church

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Personal Stories, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

A Wife’s Personal Story: So, Let’s Actually Talk about What “Extramarital Affairs” Really Look Like

*** Josh Duggar, A Wife's Personal Story, Extramarital affairs and the church *** The topic of adultery has been in the news a lot lately. The Ashley Madison hack revealed that Josh Duggar of TLC's 19 Kids and Counting show had two paid memberships. Duggar is now in some treatment program (Inside Josh Duggar’s rehab facility for sinners)… Continue reading A Wife’s Personal Story: So, Let’s Actually Talk about What “Extramarital Affairs” Really Look Like

Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Narcissistic Pastors, Spiritual Abuse, Tullian Tchividjian

Is Paul Tripp Violating Counseling Code of Ethics by Releasing Statement about Tullian Tchividjian?

Paul Tripp, Tullian Tchividjian, Code of Ethics Violations, Divorce, Christian Counseling ** Paul Tripp Releases Statement about Tullian Tchividjian and Divorce ** Recently, I posted about Tullian Tchividjian, former senior pastor at Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church (CRPC) who recently filed for divorce from his wife, Kimberly, of 21 years: Tullian Tchividjian Files for Dissolution of Marriage and Timeline.… Continue reading Is Paul Tripp Violating Counseling Code of Ethics by Releasing Statement about Tullian Tchividjian?

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, IBLP and ATI, Marriage, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles

Will Anna Duggar be offered as the next live sacrifice to save the Duggar Family Brand? Scapegoating, “Spread Your Legs Theology” and the Modern Molech

Toward understanding the blame borne by wives in Duggar Family religion in the wake of Josh Duggar's involvement in the Ashley Madison scandal . . . . . . by Cindy Kunsman Originally posted on 22Aug15 at UnderMuchGrace.com . . . I’ve tried for more than 48 hours to write this, but having watched this… Continue reading Will Anna Duggar be offered as the next live sacrifice to save the Duggar Family Brand? Scapegoating, “Spread Your Legs Theology” and the Modern Molech

Divorce, Tullian Tchividjian

Tullian Tchividjian Files for Dissolution of Marriage and Timeline

*** Public records from Florida courts show that former pastor of Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church (CRPC), Tullian Tchividjian, has filed for dissolution of marriage from his wife, Kimberly, on August 20, 2015. This filing comes only two months after Tchividjian released a public statement to the Washington Post: “I resigned from my position at Coral… Continue reading Tullian Tchividjian Files for Dissolution of Marriage and Timeline

Bill Gothard, Christian Marriage, Courtship, Divorce, Full-Quiver, Gender Roles, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Legalism, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

How has the Josh Duggar Scandal affected you? Are you experiencing painful reminders?

Josh Duggar, sex scandal, painful reminders, homeschool movement, patriarchy, purity and modesty culture, Bill Gothard *** *** With the recent disclosure of sexual infidelity by Josh Duggar, I have been noticing a lot of people who have been influenced by Patriarchy, Quiverfull, Bill Gothard, Homeschool Movement, etc, trying to make sense of what is going… Continue reading How has the Josh Duggar Scandal affected you? Are you experiencing painful reminders?

Christian Marriage, Full-Quiver, Gender Roles, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and Their Son, Josh Duggar Release Statement Regarding Josh’s Marital Unfaithfulness, and Poof, it’s Gone!

** Jim Bob and Michelle and Josh Duggar release statements related to reports of Josh's sexual infidelity ** This is a followup post to this article: Josh Duggar Reportedly Had Account at Ashley Madison, the Site Used to Help Married People Find Someone with Whom to Have an Extramarital Affair Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, along with… Continue reading Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and Their Son, Josh Duggar Release Statement Regarding Josh’s Marital Unfaithfulness, and Poof, it’s Gone!

Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Modesty and Purity Teachings

Josh Duggar Reportedly Had Account at Ashley Madison, the Site Used to Help Married People Find Someone with Whom to Have an Extramarital Affair

** Josh Duggar reportedly had accounts at Ashley Madison for the intention of connecting with  people who want to have extramarital affairs. *** *** The Josh Duggar story is not over. Josh Duggar, of 19 Kids and Counting fame, is buzzing all over social media with a new sex scandal.  Because of lack of time,… Continue reading Josh Duggar Reportedly Had Account at Ashley Madison, the Site Used to Help Married People Find Someone with Whom to Have an Extramarital Affair

ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, Domestic Violence, Failure to Report Crimes, Homeschool Legal Defense Association, Homeschool Movement, Misuse of Scripture, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement

Is homeschooling the vehicle by which abuse can be more easily facilitated?

** Sex abuse, identification abuse, social isolation, food deprivation - Is there a common denominator? ** A 21-yr old female has come forward with her personal story of abuse. At the age of 13, her mother died and she was sent to live with her mother's cousin, Rob Johnson, and his wife, Marie. The young teen… Continue reading Is homeschooling the vehicle by which abuse can be more easily facilitated?

Courtship, Homeschool Movement, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Single and Christian, Todd Friel

Pastor Matt Chandler on Couples Who are Courting: “How Far is Too Far?”

*** Pastor Matt Chandler gives advice on couples who are courting: "how far can we go?" *** On the Wretched show, Todd Friel read a viewer's question, "Once I start courting somebody, are we allowed to do anything?" Friel showed a video clip of Pastor Matt Chandler of The Village Church with his wife sitting… Continue reading Pastor Matt Chandler on Couples Who are Courting: “How Far is Too Far?”