Category: Domestic Violence and Churches

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, John Piper, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Mental Health and the Church, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Encouraging Shift from Bethlehem Baptist Church Regarding Domestic Abuse and Care for Abused Women

Julie Anne

 *** Pastor Jason Meyer of Bethlehem Baptist Church Preaches on Domestic Abuse and Care for Abused Women, Marking a Change in Direction from John Piper's Teachings *** *** Yesterday, I received an e-mail from reader, Ben, about a sermon preached at Bethlehem Baptist Church last Sunday concerning domestic violence. This is significant coming from John Piper's former church and… Continue reading Encouraging Shift from Bethlehem Baptist Church Regarding Domestic Abuse and Care for Abused Women

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Introducing Kathi, Spiritual Abuse Survey, and Free Domestic Violence Book for Ministry Groups/Organizations

Julie Anne

  Participants Needed for Research Work on Spiritual Abuse I received an e-mail from Kathryn Keller Lamar with whom I have corresponded with and networked in spiritual abuse and survivor communities. She is finishing up her doctoral dissertation to complete her studies and I told her I'd be happy to pass along the information. Spiritual abuse… Continue reading Introducing Kathi, Spiritual Abuse Survey, and Free Domestic Violence Book for Ministry Groups/Organizations

Christian Marriage, Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Failure to Report Crimes, Feminist Agenda, Mandatory Reporting, Mark Driscoll, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Owen Strachan, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Statute of Limitations, Women and the Church

Owen Strachan Speaks out against Fifty Shades of Grey and Says that Christianity Disciplines Abusive Men

Julie Anne

*** Owen Strachan speaks against Fifty Shades of Grey and attempts to show how complementarians do not abuse their wives, and says that Christianity disciplines abusive men ***   Owen Strachan, President and Editor-in-Chief of Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW) released an article last night, How “50 Shades of Grey” Harms Women & Jesus Saves Them, after… Continue reading Owen Strachan Speaks out against Fifty Shades of Grey and Says that Christianity Disciplines Abusive Men

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Love, Domestic Violence and Churches, Going Back to Church Again, Leaving the Church, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse

Why Don’t Young People go to Church?

Julie Anne

  *** My friend, Pastor Jeff Crippen, who blogs about domestic violence at A Cry for Justice posted the following note on the A Cry for Justice Facebook page and I asked pretty please if I could share it with you. Yes, I really did say, "pretty please."  LOL Sadly, at Spiritual Sounding Board, we do often… Continue reading Why Don’t Young People go to Church?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Domestic Discipline, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse, Stories of Hope, Women and the Church

Christian Domestic Discipline (Wife Spanking): A Personal Story, and a Closer Look at Patterns Connected with this Abusive Practice

Julie Anne

Christian Domestic Discipline, "wife spanking," Christian Patriarchy Movement, Spanking of Adult Children, Denominational Practices and teachings ***   Two summers ago, I received a phone call from a pastor who shared his growing concern about wife-spanking in his family of churches. Months later, I finally reported on the topic of wife spanking in this article: The Christian… Continue reading Christian Domestic Discipline (Wife Spanking): A Personal Story, and a Closer Look at Patterns Connected with this Abusive Practice

Domestic Violence and Churches, Personal Stories, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Women and the Church

When Christian Fathers Own Their Daughters, A Personal Story: I was a Female Slave in Training

Julie Anne

*** A personal story of a father who used Christianity and the Bible as a weapon as he controlled his daughter and allowed her to be abused. *** In my recent article, So, what does John MacArthur really think about young women going to college?  "Guest" made a comment that is too important to be buried in the… Continue reading When Christian Fathers Own Their Daughters, A Personal Story: I was a Female Slave in Training

Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage

SSB Readers Discuss D. Scott Meadows’ “A Christian Wife’s Catechism” and Addendums

Julie Anne

** I'm opening this thread for discussion on the recent article by D. Scott Meadows, Addenda, Part 2: Clarification of “A Christian Wife’s Marriage Catechism” posted at Reformed Baptist Fellowship blog.   D. Scott Meadows has had quite a response on social media about his recent article, "A Christian Wife's Catechism."  The first article received a lot of… Continue reading SSB Readers Discuss D. Scott Meadows’ “A Christian Wife’s Catechism” and Addendums

C.J. Mahaney, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

A Pastor is Challenged after Releasing a Disturbing and Potentially Dangerous Article Directed to Wives of “Difficult” Husbands

Julie Anne

Article by Pastor D. Scott Meadows' article, A Christian Wife's Marriage Catechism, creates a stir among the survivor community.   I've been watching an important sequence of events unfolding in the blogosphere. Pastor D. Scott Meadows of Calvary Baptist Church (Reformed) in New Hampshire wrote an article,  A Christian Wife’s Marriage Catechism.  The catechism is a list… Continue reading A Pastor is Challenged after Releasing a Disturbing and Potentially Dangerous Article Directed to Wives of “Difficult” Husbands

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Domestic Violence and Churches, Homeschool Legal Defense Association, Homeschool Movement, Homeschoolers Anonymous, Mike Farris, Parenting, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

To Train up a Child: Who Decides if it is Biblical or Not? When is it Abuse?

Julie Anne

*** Johann and Kimery Jorg Abuse Case: HSLDA has given us homeschool liberties, but at what cost? A closer look at homeschool freedoms and parenting and safety of children   *** Homeschoolers have fought for years to have the freedom to legally homeschool their children. Homeschool Legal Defense Association has worked to ensure that parents in… Continue reading To Train up a Child: Who Decides if it is Biblical or Not? When is it Abuse?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, LAWSUITS, Mandatory Reporting, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Statute of Limitations, Tullian Tchividjian

Sovereign Grace Ministries Sex Abuse Lawsuit and Tullian Tchividjian

Julie Anne

Update on the Sovereign Grace Ministries sex abuse court case and Tullian Tchividjian's clarification of his related statements concerning his “breakup” with The Gospel Coalition.   After recently posting this article in which I expressed concern that Tullian Tchividjian failed to make any mention of the SGM sex abuse survivors in his apology,  An Open Letter… Continue reading Sovereign Grace Ministries Sex Abuse Lawsuit and Tullian Tchividjian

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, ABUSE RECOVERY PROCESS-PROBLEMS, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Going Back to Church Again, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Safe Churches, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse

Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse

Cindy K

Do individuals suffer harm when they remain in verbally or emotionally abusive relationships?  Cindy Kunsman illustrates the effects through an account of spiritual abuse.     By Cindy Kunsman, UnderMuchGrace.com After reading Julie Anne's post questioning whether divorce from an abusive spouse is actually a “sin,” I found myself thinking of the loss of perspective and… Continue reading Loss of Perspective: The Cost of Enduring Abuse

Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Failure to Report Crimes, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Learn to Discern, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Vision Forum

Learn to Discern: Response to the Doug Phillips Sex Abuse Scandal

Julie Anne

 *     *     * Learn to discern - taking a closer look at a response to the Doug Phillips sex abuse scandal *     *     * Not long ago, I found a comment on a public Facebook page by a man named Paul Dorr. He was responding to a… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Response to the Doug Phillips Sex Abuse Scandal

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab.

Christian Marriage: For Better or for Worse – No Recourse for Spouse’s Bad Behavior?

Julie Anne

*     *     * What is a spouse to do in a Christian marriage when a spouse is behaving badly or even abusing?  "For better or for worse" can keep a spouse captive in a very unhealthy relationship. *     *     *   Two are better than one because… Continue reading Christian Marriage: For Better or for Worse – No Recourse for Spouse’s Bad Behavior?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Domestic Discipline, Christian Marriage, Courtship, Disturbing Trends, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Failure to Report Crimes, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Spiritual Bullies, Vision Forum, Women and the Church

The Christian Patriarchy Movement’s Dark Secret of Wife Spanking

Julie Anne

*     *     * As Doug Phillips and his Vision Forum ministry is sinking, stories of abuse among Christian Patriarchy are surfacing:  domestic violence, wife spanking, etc, among other well-known circles such as RC Sproul Jr., etc. *     *     * Warning:  this is a heavy and disturbing article.… Continue reading The Christian Patriarchy Movement’s Dark Secret of Wife Spanking

Courtship, Disturbing Trends, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Feminist Agenda, God's Design for the Family, Homeschool Movement, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Voddie Baucham, Women and the Church

Are Daughters the Biggest Threat to the Christian Patriarchy Movement and Reconstructionism?

Julie Anne

* * * It is my belief that Christian leaders in the Reconstructionist and Homeschool Movements view their adult daughters as the biggest threat to their agenda in furthering their ideologies. In this video trailer of The Return of the Daughters, you can hear the urgency of this movement, the fear-mongering blaming the feminists as… Continue reading Are Daughters the Biggest Threat to the Christian Patriarchy Movement and Reconstructionism?

Christian Domestic Discipline, Christian Marriage, Disturbing Trends, Divorce, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Women and the Church

Wife Undermines Her Husband’s Authority in Front of Children, He Disciplines Her

Julie Anne

*     *     * The Christian community has done a very poor job of treating women with respect.  Some husbands have resorted to treating their wives as objects and even practice "domestic discipline" or wife spanking.  This is wrong. *     *     * Men treating women/wives as objects they… Continue reading Wife Undermines Her Husband’s Authority in Front of Children, He Disciplines Her

Christian Love, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence and Churches, Personal Stories, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SURVIVOR STORIES, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles, Women and the Church

Financial Ramifications of Abuse: What’s a Church to Do?

Julie Anne

*     *     * Survivors of abuse have to climb many mountains.  The first mountain is acknowledging the fact that they are being abused.  Then they have to decide what to do.  They are left emotionally reeling and yet, have to survive, take care of their children, put food on the table,… Continue reading Financial Ramifications of Abuse: What’s a Church to Do?

Divorce, Domestic Violence and Churches, John Piper, Russell Moore, Voddie Baucham

Divorce Dilemmas in the Church

Julie Anne

*     *     * I read this excerpt by Dr. Russell Moore recently.  He was asked what to do if someone is in a miserable marriage: Does God want you to be miserable? Long-term, no. And that’s why God has designed marriage as a life-long covenant signaling the gospel of Jesus Christ.… Continue reading Divorce Dilemmas in the Church

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, BGBC Lawsuit, Domestic Violence and Churches, Leaving the Church, Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual Abuse: Who is to Blame? The Pastor or the Congregant?

Julie Anne

*     *     * Wicked shepherds have been around for a long, long time.  This passage is from the Old Testament: The word of the Lord came to me:  “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy, and say to them, even to the shepherds, Thus says the Lord God: Ah, shepherds of Israel who have… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Who is to Blame? The Pastor or the Congregant?

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Motherhood and Failure

Julie Anne

*     *     * I read a really good article this morning and it is timely for Mother's Day tomorrow. Are Women Really Saved through Childbearing?   During the anguished time when a woman from my church was trying to conceive, she asked for prayer from a Christian coworker. "She flat out… Continue reading Motherhood and Failure