A personal story of a father who used Christianity and the Bible as a weapon as he controlled his daughter and allowed her to be abused.
In my recent article, So, what does John MacArthur really think about young women going to college? “Guest” made a comment that is too important to be buried in the comments. “Guest” has posted at SSB 16 times, beginning in July. Although she does not post frequently, she has commented before on similar topics. I am honored and grateful that she would trust us with such a painful story, but one that needs to be shared.
Now, I want to say something else, too, before the naysayers come out. Am I saying that any father who doesn’t allow his daughter to go away to college will also abuse or allow abuse to their daughters? Absolutely not.
But I think it is important to say that when a father uses his position of authority and does not allow his daughter to think for herself, make decisions for herself, he is denying her personhood. God did not give parents their children to own as objects.
Guest, I was shaking when I read your comment. First off, I believe you. I believe your story. When reading your comment, I wanted to scream from the rooftop. I’m so sorry you have endured such a painful life. No one should have to go through what you went through.
Thank you for sharing here, Guest. I hope your personal story will be a wake-up call for those in Christianity who are questioning Patriarchy, questioning headship, questioning what fatherhood looks like biblically. I am really disgusted that some parts of Christianity are closely resembling the stories I hear about women in the Middle East.
I’m issuing a trigger alert (sex abuse) for the following story. The personal story is very disturbing.
I was a female slave in training, by “Guest”
I was a female slave in training.
I was raised in a family like this. It HURT me so much as a little girl and teenager.
My father did NOT care how I felt physically, emotionally, or what I thought.
This is what I thought about him and god but never told him, my father is breeding me to be a self hating female slave for one of his friends loser son. I have to get married against my will, in marriage I have to have sex against my will, I have to be pregnant and give birth against my will. Does daddy or god care that this causes me great emotional and vaginal pain? No! they love it.
I was sexually terrorized as a child, the Christian man who did it loved to rub misogynistic bible verses in my face. As a little girl I was desperate for the right to say, no! I want to escape my misogynistic, bible loving, head of the house father. I wanted to never see my (women are to be bottom kissing female slaves for men) father again.
My father did not have to live with another man, my father did not have to be penetrated by a man, my father did not have to be submissive like a dog/slave to a man, my father did not have to be pregnant, my father did not have to give birth. But my selfish, heartless, misogynistic father loved sitting on his bottom rooting that women and little girls have to do these things.
My mother’s father saw to it that she got married the moment she graduated high school, she was seventeen and married a twenty-two year old, six-foot three, southern Baptist preachers son. My mother was ignorant, had the knowledge and power of a seven year old little girl. My father gloated and bragged to me as a little girl, that he, was the boss of my mother, that he married my mother because she had large breast, that the pain I caused her when she gave birth to me amused and pleasured him. My father spent my teenage years trying to convince me that “rape was not that big of a deal”, his words. My father did NOT love me, my father did NOT love my mother, he wanted us to kiss his bottom, she was his self hating, powerless, uninformed, little girl slave, and he wanted me to be a powerless slave for another Christian mans loser son.
My father was like my pimp, he was not a father, he was looking out for some boy he did not even know yet, never looking out for me, if it caused me pain but pleasured my father and future husband, so be it, it is my job to live in physical and emotional pain to pleasure my Christian father and Christian husband.
Empowered, informed women would not marry or stay married to these vile Ariel Castro centric men, that is why they use the bible, brainwashing, and lack of resources and education to get themselves and their loser sons female slaves. I grew up like this, me and my mother were demeaned, exploited, abused, and totally TRAPPED. Christian fathers are pimps.