Category: Domestic Violence

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Marriage

Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church for Action

Kathi

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Action -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims… Continue reading Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church for Action

Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Desiring God, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

Kathi

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Beliefs -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence.   The church can be incredibly helpful to victims of domestic… Continue reading Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

Desiring God, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, John Piper, Lori Alexander, Mark Driscoll, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: Education is the Key to Better Church Response

Kathi

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Education -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. The first time I was educated about domestic violence was in… Continue reading Domestic Violence: Education is the Key to Better Church Response

Book Review Series, Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife

Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet, Part 2

Kathi

The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Submission -by Kathi This is a book review series of The Power of a Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander. If you are just joining us, you may click on previous chapter reviews if you'd like to catch up. Introduction & Chapter 1   Chapter 2   Chapter 3   Chapter… Continue reading Book Review Series – Lori Alexander’s “The Power of a Transformed Wife” – Shhhh…Be Very, Very Quiet, Part 2

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Authority, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles, Women and the Church

“Taking marriage seriously” – what does that mean for a Christian?

Julie Anne

Christian Marriage, divorce, domestic violence, abuse, marital counseling, extramarital affairs *** *** My friend, Valerie Jacobsen posted this statement on her Facebook page and I asked permission to share it. I found it powerful, and yet, so contrary to the way marriage is handled in the church - especially when abuse is involved. I'm sick… Continue reading “Taking marriage seriously” – what does that mean for a Christian?

Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Lori Alexander, Mental Health and the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Suicide, Women and the Church

The Dangerous Teachings of Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife

Kathi

Lori Alexander, Depression, Suicide -by Julie Anne and Kathi Lori Alexander runs a blog and Facebook page called The Transformed Wife. Her Facebook page has over 21,000 followers! She models her ministry using the Titus 2 idea of older women teaching younger women. After 23 years of a difficult marriage, she claims her marriage improved after she… Continue reading The Dangerous Teachings of Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife

Domestic Violence, Lori Alexander, Mental Health and the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Suicide

Lori Alexander’s Damaging Advice Regarding Depression

Kathi

Lori Alexander, Depression, Counseling -by Kathi Lori Alexander recently posted a YouTube video on her channel titled, "Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself." ***   I have to ask this first: Why are people still making videos of themselves in their cars? I guess Lori was driving somewhere, had an inspirational moment about self-pity, and just… Continue reading Lori Alexander’s Damaging Advice Regarding Depression

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Domestic Violence, Egalitarianism, Feminist Agenda, Gender Roles, God's Design for the Family, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse

How Lori Alexander’s Teaching May Keep Women in Abusive Relationships

Kathi

Lori Alexander, Emotional Abuse, Headship, Submission -by Kathi I've been reading Lori Alexander's blogs for quite a while now. Just when I think her writing is the same old boring rhetoric she always blathers on about, she ups her game. Her recent post, "How Not to Get Married" is one that actually should be titled,… Continue reading How Lori Alexander’s Teaching May Keep Women in Abusive Relationships

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Grace Community Church, John MacArthur, Phil Johnson, Troubling Tweets, Women and the Church

Pastor Phil Johnson Shows His Heart toward Domestic Violence Victim

Julie Anne

Domestic Violence, Phil Johnson, Grace Community Church, John MacArthur *** This post needs little commentary. Pastor Phil Johnson is Pastor John MacArthur's right-hand man at Grace Community Church. I am sad that a man in his position would so carelessly tweet this insensitive, uncaring tweet. I fear for women at Grace Community or any church connected… Continue reading Pastor Phil Johnson Shows His Heart toward Domestic Violence Victim

Christian Domestic Discipline, Domestic Violence, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, RC Sproul Jr., Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

R.C. Sproul, Jr. Steps Down from Ligonier Ministries and Reformation Bible College

Julie Anne

R.C. Sproul, Jr., Ligonier Ministries, Abuse, Reformation Bible College     Ligonier Ministries has reported that RC Sproul, Jr. is stepping down from Ligonier Ministries & Reformation Bible College citing personal reasons: December 12, 2016 Last Friday, the board of directors of Ligonier Ministries and Reformation Bible College received and affirmed the resignation of Dr.… Continue reading R.C. Sproul, Jr. Steps Down from Ligonier Ministries and Reformation Bible College

Biblical Counseling, Complementarianism, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, It's All About the Image, John Piper, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories

1-1/2 years Later, Bethlehem Baptist Church Doesn’t Seem to get Domestic Violence: A Personal Story

Julie Anne

Bethlehem Baptist Church, Pastor Jason Meyer, Domestic Violence, Emotional Abuse, Spiritual Abuse Almost 1-1/2 years ago, I wrote an article about John Piper's former church, Bethlehem Baptist Church (BBC) regarding domestic violence, Encouraging Shift from Bethlehem Baptist Church Regarding Domestic Abuse and Care for Abused Women. Around that time, BBC pastor, Jason Meyer, preached a sermon and… Continue reading 1-1/2 years Later, Bethlehem Baptist Church Doesn’t Seem to get Domestic Violence: A Personal Story

Domestic Violence, Saeed Abedini, Women and the Church

Saeed Abedini: Files for Divorce, Seeks Money for New Ministry, and Recently Arrested for Violating Restraining Order

Julie Anne

Saeed Abedini, Naghmeh, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Arrest for Violating Restraining Order, Seeks Money for New Ministry Yesterday, Naghmeh Abedini, wife of Saeed Abedini, reported on Facebook that her husband had filed for divorce. It is with a heavy and broken heart that I inform all of you who have prayed and wept with our family… Continue reading Saeed Abedini: Files for Divorce, Seeks Money for New Ministry, and Recently Arrested for Violating Restraining Order

Domestic Violence, Mental Health and the Church, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Would your church be able to help someone in the midst of a crisis? How equipped are they?

Julie Anne

***   Before we get into today's article, we've passed an important milestone here. Today, I noticed in my Facebook's "On This Day" feature, that it is the 4th year anniversary date of the judge's decision on the defamation lawsuit brought on by my former pastor, Chuck O'Neal of Beaverton Grace Bible Church (BGBC) vs.… Continue reading Would your church be able to help someone in the midst of a crisis? How equipped are they?

Christian Domestic Discipline, Domestic Violence, Personal Stories

Wife Asks for Input Regarding Her Husband Who Paddles Her

Julie Anne

Wife Spanking, Christian Domestic Discipline, Domestic Violence *** You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7… Continue reading Wife Asks for Input Regarding Her Husband Who Paddles Her

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Misuse of Scripture, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

A Challenge to Abused Christian Women Regarding Teachings on Divorce

Julie Anne

*** Divorce, domestic violence, church teachings on Biblical divorce, David Instone-Brewer, abuse, Patriarchy, submission ***   For years and years, I was taught that the only reasons Christians could get divorced were for adultery, abandonment, and if an unbelieving spouse wanted a divorce. I believed this wholeheartedly. Sadly, I looked down on people who divorced outside of… Continue reading A Challenge to Abused Christian Women Regarding Teachings on Divorce

Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Going Back to Church Again, Learn to Discern, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Learn to Discern: Pastor John Raymond, in His Own Words

Julie Anne

Pastor John Raymond, New Horizon Calvary Chapel Church, Slidell, Louisiana, Steven Angle, Spiritual Abuse   Yesterday on Facebook, journalist Ashley Rodrigue of WWLTV posted the following press release from the Tangipahoa Parish Sheriff in Louisiana (typed and screenshot below): by Ashley Rodrigue WWLTV  (PRESS RELEASE) HAMMOND, LA - Tangipahoa Parish Sheriff Daniel Edwards is asking… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Pastor John Raymond, in His Own Words

Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Mental Health and the Church, Narcissistic Pastors, Saeed Abedini, Women and the Church

Pastor Saeed Abedini Unwilling to Seek Abuse Counseling

Julie Anne

Naghmeh Abedini, statement, Pastor Saeed Abedini, Domestic Violence, Counseling   A short while ago, Naghmeh released a public statement on her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/NaghmehAbedini/posts/10153907080785767 IMPORTANT UPDATE: Dearest friends and prayer warriors, Many of you have been concerned about and have asked about updates on Saeed and our situation. At this point Saeed has not been… Continue reading Pastor Saeed Abedini Unwilling to Seek Abuse Counseling

Domestic Violence, Saeed Abedini

Saeed Abedini and Franklin Graham Promote “Couples Counseling” to Reconcile the Abedinis. Because of Saeed’s Abuse, is This Counterproductive?

Julie Anne

Experts on the dynamics of abuse strongly recommend separate, individual counseling for abuser and victim, not couples counseling. If abusers refuse to work through individual counseling on their personal issues, that creates a stumbling block to relational reconciliation. This blog post was written by Julie Anne Smith, with contributions by Brad Sargent. The post was… Continue reading Saeed Abedini and Franklin Graham Promote “Couples Counseling” to Reconcile the Abedinis. Because of Saeed’s Abuse, is This Counterproductive?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, Feminist Agenda, It's All About the Image, Legalism, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence is NOT a Marriage Issue, but an Abuse Issue

Julie Anne

Domestic Violence, Naghmeh and Saeed Abedini, Divorce, Marriage, Abuse, Church Response to Abuse   Earlier today, I participated in a discussion at  SharperIron.org. The discussion is about Saeed and Naghmeh Abedini and domestic violence. A commenter, dmyers, is having trouble with Naghmeh's earlier statements, challenging her claims of abuse, etc. I have an assignment due in… Continue reading Domestic Violence is NOT a Marriage Issue, but an Abuse Issue

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Marriage, Saeed Abedini

Pastor Saeed Abedini Releases a Public Statement Denying Abuse Allegations Against His Wife

Julie Anne

Pastor Saeed Abedini,Nagmeh, Domestic Violence, Public Statement Idaho Statesman has issued a public statement by Saeed Abedini as follows:   Two weeks ago today I was released from an Iranian prison after being held captive for three-and-a-half years. My crime? Being a Christian and refusing to renounce my faith in Jesus Christ. Throughout my imprisonment… Continue reading Pastor Saeed Abedini Releases a Public Statement Denying Abuse Allegations Against His Wife