Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Homeschool Movement, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Vision Forum

Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Part 1 – The Puzzle of Control

*     *     * Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight:  The Puzzle, Types of Control by Church Leaders, Vision Forum, Boerne Christian Assembly, and a Characterization of Phillips *     *     * BEFORE WE BEGIN: In this series of articles on Doug Phillips and Vision Forum, I will… Continue reading Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Part 1 – The Puzzle of Control

Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, Owen Strachan, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood Removes Article about Complementarian Roles in New Creation

*** Did they change their minds?  Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood removes Article about complementarian roles in new creation *** Do not add to his words, lest he rebuke you and you be found a liar.   Proverbs 30:6 *** Congratulations, friends!  The last blog article, Is the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood… Continue reading Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood Removes Article about Complementarian Roles in New Creation

Christian Marriage, Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Women and the Church

Is the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood Drinking Mormon-Flavored Koolaid?

*** Will there be Complementarian or Egalitarian marriages in heaven?  What about Biblical gender roles in heaven?  What in the world is Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW) talking about? *** A link to an article was posted in the comments today.  I don't have time to flesh it out (trying to get another… Continue reading Is the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood Drinking Mormon-Flavored Koolaid?

Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Homeschool Movement, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Vision Forum

Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Introduction

*** Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight:  Introduction *** My perspective on his life is different —appreciation, gratitude, disagreement, sadness.  His life is a reminder that whether your name is Alexander the Great, Leonardo da Vinci, or Steve Jobs, in the end, your physical body becomes food for worms.  More importantly, your eternal… Continue reading Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Introduction

Christian Marriage, Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Doug Wilson, Marriage

What is a Husband’s Role in His Wife’s Spirituality?

** What is a husband's role in his wife's spirituality?  Is he responsible for sanctifying her? ** ** I need help with this one.  David Sons has an article that was posted at Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW), Pursuing Your Wife (Part 3): The Goal of Dating is Not Marriage.  I like a lot… Continue reading What is a Husband’s Role in His Wife’s Spirituality?

Disturbing Trends, Failure to Report Crimes, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Meaning of Spiritual Sounding Board, Media Interviews with Julie Anne, Narcissistic Pastors, Safe Churches, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD

Spiritual Abuse: Interview with Doug Bursch

*** *** Yesterday I did an interview with Doug Bursch from Seattle's KGNW radio station.  Doug describes himself in his bio as "a speaker, writer, pastor, teacher and evangelist."  We spoke about spiritual abuse, healthy and unhealthy churches.  I've done quite a few interviews since the lawsuit, but this one is my new favorite.  If… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Interview with Doug Bursch

Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Family Integrated Churches, Homeschool Movement, Scott Brown, Vision Forum

How Influential Was Doug Phillips and His Teachings?

*** Taking a look at Doug Phillips' strong influence in the Homeschool Movement and Family-Integrated Church movement *** For people outside of the Homeschool Movement or Christian Patriarchy, they may wonder how Doug Phillips could be so influential.  It's not just about Phillips, the head of an organization/business/pastor, it's about Phillips who pushed an agenda… Continue reading How Influential Was Doug Phillips and His Teachings?

Spiritual Encouragement, Stories of Hope

Brave: A Song of Hope for Survivors of Abuse

*** Brave:  A Song of Hope for Survivors of Abuse *** Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,  and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or… Continue reading Brave: A Song of Hope for Survivors of Abuse

Personal Stories, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, SURVIVOR STORIES, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles

Ex-Wife of Pedophile Shares Update about Court Sentencing and Her New Reality

*** Ex-wife of pedophile shares how she and her family are dealing with their new reality after his conviction and sentencing. *** One of our own, Brenda, had a difficult week last week.  You may recall, months ago, while searching the topic "wives of pedophiles" on the internet, Brenda found the article, Being Married to a Pedophile:… Continue reading Ex-Wife of Pedophile Shares Update about Court Sentencing and Her New Reality

Courtship, Doug Wilson, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

David Bayly’s Ideas on Courtship and Marriage as a Battle until His Bride Surrenders

*** David Bayly's ideas on courtship and marriage as a battle and raging war of a man against his virgin bride to be conquered until she surrenders, similar to Doug Wilson *** This men-conquering-women-thang really gets my goat.  What is up with that?  Ok, thanks to Cindy, I found an old blog post by Bayly… Continue reading David Bayly’s Ideas on Courtship and Marriage as a Battle until His Bride Surrenders

Fred Butler, Grace Community Church, Phil Johnson, Street Evangelism, Tony Miano

Tony Miano’s New Digs: Grace Community Church

*     *     * Street Evangelist Tony Miano announced he's leaving Faith Community Church and will be attending Grace Community Church. *     *     * ** Thanks to those who have sent me updates on Tony Miano, I have a bit of information to pass along.  One thing Miano is… Continue reading Tony Miano’s New Digs: Grace Community Church

Bill Gothard, BLOG INFORMATION, Divorce, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Homeschool Movement, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Media Interviews with Julie Anne, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Recovery Process, Spiritual Abuse, Stories of Hope, Vision Forum, Wives or (ex) of Pedophiles, Women and the Church

Restoring What the Locust Has Eaten: Two Years of Blogging Milestone Today and Gratefulness

** Two years of blogging, two years of growth, hope for those hurt by church abuse ** ** In Joel, God talks about restoring what the locusts had eaten.  Today marks exactly two years since I began blogging. As I reflect on the 2-year anniversary date of my initial blog and begin my 3rd year of… Continue reading Restoring What the Locust Has Eaten: Two Years of Blogging Milestone Today and Gratefulness

Bill Gothard, Homeschool Movement, IBLP and ATI, Kevin Swanson, Modesty and Purity Teachings, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Women and the Church

Kevin Swanson Defends Bill Gothard’s Sexual Harassment Charges While Publicly Trash Talks Blogs

*     *     * Kevin Swanson defends his friend, Bill Gothard against accusations of sexual harassment, while accusing Spiritual Sounding Board and Patheos.com blogs of dancing on the grave of Christian fundamentalism and Biblical Christianity. *     *     * Last week, I was notified by a Twitter friend/follower that… Continue reading Kevin Swanson Defends Bill Gothard’s Sexual Harassment Charges While Publicly Trash Talks Blogs

Need a Good Laugh?, Spiritual Encouragement, Stories of Hope

Who Will Take Care of Your Beloved Pets after the Rapture?

*** Who Will Take Care of Your Beloved Pets after the Rapture? *** I'm sure this has been a great concern to my readers, so having you, my dear friends in mind, I am passing along this helpful information.  ~ja Here is a brief excerpt from After the Rapture Pet Care, the great folks who… Continue reading Who Will Take Care of Your Beloved Pets after the Rapture?

Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Failure to Report Crimes, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, Learn to Discern, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Vision Forum

Learn to Discern: Response to the Doug Phillips Sex Abuse Scandal

 *     *     * Learn to discern - taking a closer look at a response to the Doug Phillips sex abuse scandal *     *     * Not long ago, I found a comment on a public Facebook page by a man named Paul Dorr. He was responding to a… Continue reading Learn to Discern: Response to the Doug Phillips Sex Abuse Scandal

Recovery Process, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Encouragement

When we are spiritually abused, are we partly responsible?

*** Quick note:  Last weekend, I went to the Oregon Coast to a ladies retreat.  Knitting is my constant companion at retreats - - especially in case the speaker disappoints.  However, I did not get one stitch of knitting done.  The message was very good, convicting, refreshing, and motivating.  And you cannot put a price… Continue reading When we are spiritually abused, are we partly responsible?

Christian Marriage, Divorce

Church Leaders and the Church: Responding to Christians Who Are Divorced

*** Many times the church has not been a safe place for Christians who are divorced. They have been marginalized, judged negatively, ignored, and not cared for by church leaders and the church. *** *** This is probably not the kind of blog post you'd expect on Valentine's Day, but for many, Valentines Day is… Continue reading Church Leaders and the Church: Responding to Christians Who Are Divorced

Personal Stories, Safe Churches, Women and the Church

Guest Post: Why I Love My Church

*** It's difficult to find a safe and healthy church "system" with appropriate checks and balances.  Lisa of Lisa's Leben shares what has worked well in her church and why she loves her church. *** *** Lisa has been blogging for about a month now and writes at Lisa's Leben.  After getting tagged on the… Continue reading Guest Post: Why I Love My Church

C.J. Mahaney, Christian Marriage, Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, John Piper, Marriage, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement

Article Uses Olympics Pairs Figure Skating to Promote Roles of Husband and Wife in Complementarianism

* *** An article at John Piper's Desiring God website promotes "Biblical" roles of husbands and wives in complementarianism, using Olympic pairs figure skating as an example of how the roles work together. *** * *** Over at the Desiring God website, there is a new article, An Olympic Lesson for Husbands and Wives, by… Continue reading Article Uses Olympics Pairs Figure Skating to Promote Roles of Husband and Wife in Complementarianism

Reader's Prose, Spiritual Abuse

A Revised 23rd Psalm: From the Eyes of Someone Harmed by a Church Shepherd

*** What does an abusive shepherd or pastor look like?  How does it feel?  A spiritual abuse survivor shows us using the format of the 23rd Psalm. *** *** Today I was given permission to share very personal prose.  While the words of Psalm 23 and the Good Shepherd are normally very comforting, in this… Continue reading A Revised 23rd Psalm: From the Eyes of Someone Harmed by a Church Shepherd