Category: No-Talk Rule

Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Homeschool Movement, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Vision Forum

Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Part 1 – The Puzzle of Control

Julie Anne

*     *     * Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight:  The Puzzle, Types of Control by Church Leaders, Vision Forum, Boerne Christian Assembly, and a Characterization of Phillips *     *     * BEFORE WE BEGIN: In this series of articles on Doug Phillips and Vision Forum, I will… Continue reading Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Part 1 – The Puzzle of Control

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Homeschool Movement, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Recovery Process, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

When Your Religious Leader Falls Off the Pedestal

Julie Anne

*     *     * Cindy Kunsman responds to fallen spiritual leaders and spiritual abuse after the Doug Phillips scandal. *     *     * Note from Julie Anne:  This article, by Cindy Kunsman was originally posted at her blog,  Under Much Grace, and she has given me permission to post… Continue reading When Your Religious Leader Falls Off the Pedestal

BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Bloggers and Freedom of Speech, Harvest Bible Chapel, James MacDonald, No-Talk Rule, Spiritual Bullies, Street Evangelism

Facebook Comments Removed from Tony Miano’s Facebook Page When Commenter Asks About Donation $$

Julie Anne

*     *     * Tony Miano put out a plea for donations on his Facebook page,  however, Tony's admin guy, Chris H. deleted comments made by someone questioning about the money.  The commenter was accused of slander, defamation, and threatened to ban from posting on the Facebook page.  Bully, much? *  … Continue reading Facebook Comments Removed from Tony Miano’s Facebook Page When Commenter Asks About Donation $$

Calvinism, Doug Phillips & Vision Forum, Family Integrated Churches, Full-Quiver, Homeschool Movement, It's All About the Image, Mike Farris, No-Talk Rule, Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Patrick Henry College, Reconstructionist-Dominion Movement, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Stay-At-Home Daughters Movement, Vision Forum, Voddie Baucham, Women and the Church

Doug Phillips: His Power and Control Using “Godly” Patriarchy

Julie Anne

*     *     * Doug Phillips was a powerful man.  He used "godly" power and control to silence, to man the ship of his business, ministry, church, home, women, employees, and everything around him. *     *     * As we slowly watch the demise of the Doug Phillips empire,… Continue reading Doug Phillips: His Power and Control Using “Godly” Patriarchy

Christian Love, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Meetings with the Pastor, Misuse of Scripture, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Personal Stories, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

When Sharing Concerns or Asking Pastors Questions Leads to Spiritual Abuse

Julie Anne

*     *     * Questioning authority or raising concerns can be the litmus test to see if your pastor is spiritually abusive or not. *     *     * *     *     * Oh boy, is this a biggie.  I was really moved when this topic come… Continue reading When Sharing Concerns or Asking Pastors Questions Leads to Spiritual Abuse

Church Governance or Policy Issues, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Harvest Bible Chapel, James MacDonald, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Harvest Bible Chapel Files Complaint Against Blogger Paul Dohse, Resulting in Loss of YouTube Privileges

Julie Anne

*     *     * In a concerted attempt to control others, someone from Harvest Bible Chapel (HBC) filed official complaint with YouTube against blogger Paul Dohse's YouTube account, resulting in blogger's loss of YouTube privileges. *     *     * *     *     * I received an… Continue reading Harvest Bible Chapel Files Complaint Against Blogger Paul Dohse, Resulting in Loss of YouTube Privileges

Harvest Bible Chapel, It's All About the Image, James MacDonald, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Harvest Bible Chapel: #Spiritual Abuse 101 Tweets from Elder’s Letter

Julie Anne

*** Last week I posted a letter from Dave Corning who was a long-time elder at Harvest Bible Chapel (HBC), under Pastor James MacDonald.  I mentioned that Corning's letter would be my go-to letter for describing spiritual abuse because it described some of the most common tactics spiritual abusers use. Friday, I tore the letter apart… Continue reading Harvest Bible Chapel: #Spiritual Abuse 101 Tweets from Elder’s Letter

Calvinism, Doctrine as Idol, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, No-Talk Rule, Personal Stories, Shunning, Spiritual Bullies

Why Does Calvin’s God Feel Abusive to Me? I Didn’t Choose This!

Julie Anne

*     *     * The Lord works righteousness and justice for all who are oppressed.   Psalm 103:6 I have never, ever connected so deeply with someone else's spiritual experience as I have recently with reader, Oasis.  The tears . . . . oh, the tears.  This deep, gut-wrenching, sobbing pain is… Continue reading Why Does Calvin’s God Feel Abusive to Me? I Didn’t Choose This!

Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Meetings with the Pastor, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Should We Speak out about Our Spiritually Abusive Church?

Julie Anne

*      *      * This comment came in on an earlier thread and there are so many answers.  Because I spoke out against my former church, one of the most common questions in e-mails I get is:  "should I speak out about our abuse to current members?"    Here it is again:… Continue reading Should We Speak out about Our Spiritually Abusive Church?

No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Together for the Gospel

Statement from T4G: Mohler, Dever, Duncan in Support of C.J. Mahaney Was Altered!

Julie Anne

*     *     * Today I was disappointed to discover that the public statement released by  highly respected Christian leaders, Albert Mohler, Mark Dever, and Ligon Duncan in support of their friend, C.J. Mahaney, was altered.  The original statement which was posted on Facebook is not the same statement currently posted on… Continue reading Statement from T4G: Mohler, Dever, Duncan in Support of C.J. Mahaney Was Altered!

Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, It's All About the Image, No-Talk Rule, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Spiritual Bullies, The Gospel Coalition, Together for the Gospel

Just like that: T4G Statement of Support for Mahaney is Removed!!

Julie Anne

*     *     * UPDATE  AT BOTTOM OF POST!!**** This morning, I started to add a new comment to the Together for the Gospel statement released on Facebook yesterday and noticed the comment number decreasing.  When I refreshed the screen, the whole thing was GONE!  Zilch, Nada! I'd love to be a… Continue reading Just like that: T4G Statement of Support for Mahaney is Removed!!

BLOG INFORMATION, No-Talk Rule, Spiritual Abuse

Response to Apology – Trolls and Spiritual Abuse

Julie Anne

Last week, Fred Butler issued a public apology to the Smith Family on his own blog per my husband's request.  Comments on the post were closed, so I have copied Steve's words here (and sent Fred an e-mail):Fred, Concerning what you wrote about Hannah - your apology is accepted and I forgive you. Thank you for… Continue reading Response to Apology – Trolls and Spiritual Abuse

ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, LAWSUITS, No-Talk Rule, Spiritual Bullies

No Gossip Allowed in My Church!

Julie Anne

*** Great Is Thy Faithfulness Summer and winter, and spring-time and harvest, Sun, moon and stars in their courses above, Join with all nature in manifold witness To Thy great faithfulness, mercy and love. Great is Thy faithfulness! Great is Thy faithfulness! Morning by morning new mercies I see; All I have needed Thy hand… Continue reading No Gossip Allowed in My Church!

11 Hours of Meetings, ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Dictators, It's All About the Image, Meetings with the Pastor, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Creepy Pastors and Churches Using Creepy Stalking Control Tactics

Julie Anne

*     *     * There have been a few stories of spiritual abuse in the news lately.  A kind reader sent me this article from The Christian Post:   Spiritual Abuse: Shepherds – or Fleecers – of God's Flock?   This article starts by discussing the abuse of gaining members' funds through… Continue reading Creepy Pastors and Churches Using Creepy Stalking Control Tactics

BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, It's All About the Image, Meetings with the Pastor, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Additional Former Church Member Has Been Sued!

Julie Anne

*     *     * I'll get to the subject of the former church member sued in just a moment, but want to make sure this point is told:  I believe that suing former church members is just an extension of the spiritual abuse.  How can that be?  Let me explain.This is old… Continue reading Additional Former Church Member Has Been Sued!

BGBC Lawsuit, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Dictators, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Meetings with the Pastor, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

"Justice" Responds

Julie Anne

*     *     *      FrederickaMay 17, 2012 11:07 AM I must confess myself mystified as to the nature of 'Justice's' complaint, which seems to be lacking in a certain, shall we say, precision. What exactly is it that he or she is alleging was done to him or her? AnonymousMay… Continue reading "Justice" Responds

Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Leaving the Church, Meetings with the Pastor, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Dare to Leave: One Family’s Tragic Account

Julie Anne

*     *     * A couple of the earliest posts on this blog discussed how difficult it is to leave the church well. Meaning, it is nearly impossible to leave the church and remain in the local area without repercussions (church discipline, shunning, etc). Here are the links to those early posts:  Leaving… Continue reading Dare to Leave: One Family’s Tragic Account

ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, It's All About the Image, Misuse of Scripture, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Bullies

Guest Poster: Twisting Scripture to Legitimize Lawsuit

Julie Anne

*     *     *   My readers continue to provide excellent dialogue on the topic of the defamation lawsuit and whether the Bible condones lawsuits among Christians.  This one was worth a blog post.   Thank you, Anonymous!   To new readers:  Chuck O'Neal and Beaverton Grace Bible Church filed a defamation lawsuit against… Continue reading Guest Poster: Twisting Scripture to Legitimize Lawsuit

ABUSERS & THEIR TACTICS, BGBC Google Reviews, BGBC Lawsuit, Bloggers and Freedom of Speech, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, It's All About the Image, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Manipulating Reviews Yet Again

Julie Anne

*     *     * Look how fast the BGBC elves went to work.  It was brought to my attention that a new review up at the DexKnows review site, but it was shoved down so far that you have to click on "See All Reviews" in order to see it.  They appear… Continue reading Manipulating Reviews Yet Again

Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, It's All About the Image, Narcissistic Pastors, No-Talk Rule, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies

Evangelize When it Looks Good

Julie Anne

Beaverton Grace Bible Church is a church with a very strong emphasis on evangelism.  It is one of the primary reasons why my husband wanted to start attending.  We had evangelism classes for two hours each Sunday at "Grace Bible Institute".  Groups of people went out evangelizing on Friday nights to malls, canvassing neighborhoods, Portland… Continue reading Evangelize When it Looks Good