* * * In an effort to "raise up a child in the way they should go," some Christian homeschool parents are essentially kidnapping their daughters, only teaching "homemaking" skills, even denying and preventing them from getting a college education. * * * There are too many… Continue reading Homeschooled Adult Daughters Held Captive at Home, Prevented from Getting College Education
Category: Women and the Church
Wife Undermines Her Husband’s Authority in Front of Children, He Disciplines Her
* * * The Christian community has done a very poor job of treating women with respect. Some husbands have resorted to treating their wives as objects and even practice "domestic discipline" or wife spanking. This is wrong. * * * Men treating women/wives as objects they… Continue reading Wife Undermines Her Husband’s Authority in Front of Children, He Disciplines Her
What Does a Sheikh and a Homeschool Leader and Pastor Have in Common?
* * * * * * Just how close is the homeschool fundamental version of Patriarchy to Islam? I think it's pretty darn close. Check this out. Remember this from Christian Homeschool Leader and Pastor Kevin Swanson? * * * * … Continue reading What Does a Sheikh and a Homeschool Leader and Pastor Have in Common?
Can our Faith and Love Co-Exist with Extremism?
* * * Having been spoon-fed by my former pastor a form of extremism, or rigid, legalistic, black/white rules and practices, I have pressed myself to re-evaluate those rules and ideas and measure them with scripture using my own eyes and discernment. What freedom! The following article is by Brenda, a… Continue reading Can our Faith and Love Co-Exist with Extremism?
Financial Ramifications of Abuse: What’s a Church to Do?
* * * Survivors of abuse have to climb many mountains. The first mountain is acknowledging the fact that they are being abused. Then they have to decide what to do. They are left emotionally reeling and yet, have to survive, take care of their children, put food on the table,… Continue reading Financial Ramifications of Abuse: What’s a Church to Do?
BeenThereDoneThat and Flying Free: Spiritual Abuse, A Personal Story
* * * This story is a special one to me. Regular reader, "BeenThereDoneThat" (BTDT) has been commenting on this blog since the first weeks here. During that time, I have watched her in her commenting as she has been recovering through a very difficult spiritually abusive church experience. I had… Continue reading BeenThereDoneThat and Flying Free: Spiritual Abuse, A Personal Story
Is it Proper for Christian Wives to Initiate Sex?
* * * Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun. Ecc 9:9 * * … Continue reading Is it Proper for Christian Wives to Initiate Sex?
Discernment: You, Some Woman, or Phil Johnson?
* * * I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. Abraham Lincoln Today I read a comment on a blog that absolutely floored me. Early on in my lawsuit case, I contacted a couple of pastors from a well-known church. As I tried… Continue reading Discernment: You, Some Woman, or Phil Johnson?
Motherhood and Failure
* * * I read a really good article this morning and it is timely for Mother's Day tomorrow. Are Women Really Saved through Childbearing? During the anguished time when a woman from my church was trying to conceive, she asked for prayer from a Christian coworker. "She flat out… Continue reading Motherhood and Failure
CBMW: Christian Feminists, Complementarians, and Are Men Protecting Their Position of Privilege?
* * * * * * Last year when I started blogging and connecting with other blogs/bloggers, there were two big words that meant nothing to me: complementarian and egalitarian. In fact, at first the words just plain annoyed me and I didn't bother to look… Continue reading CBMW: Christian Feminists, Complementarians, and Are Men Protecting Their Position of Privilege?
Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Patriarchy, and Spanking of Adult Children
Does it seem like I'm picking on Sovereign Grace Ministries (SGM)? Is Sovereign Grace Ministries the problem? It's just a problem with those particular leaders in SGM, right? They are mostly located on the East Coast, so they have no effect on me and my church, right? This is where I say a resounding: NO!… Continue reading Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Patriarchy, and Spanking of Adult Children
10 Most Popular Articles of the Year at BGBC Survivors Blog
It's always fun to watch which blog posts are popular, so I thought it would be interesting to recap the ten most popular blog posts since the inception of the blog late February of 2012. So, here ya go: 1. Buh-Bye Pastor Edwin Young This was a huge surprise to me. I took a… Continue reading 10 Most Popular Articles of the Year at BGBC Survivors Blog
John Piper and the Church on Domestic Violence
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed. 9 Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice. Proverbs 31:8-9 In an earlier post, Domestic Violence: Do Pastors Know Best?, I posted a video of a question and answer… Continue reading John Piper and the Church on Domestic Violence
Complementarians Speak out about Violence Against Women
“Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.”Dietrich Bonhoeffer Today, Novermber 25, was the day designated as the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women:"Millions of women and girls around the world are assaulted, beaten,… Continue reading Complementarians Speak out about Violence Against Women
Spousal Abuse in Sovereign Grace Ministries Churches?
“Never be content with your current grasp of the gospel. The gospel is the life-permeating, world-altering, universe-changing truth. It has more facets than a diamond. It's depths man will never exhaust.” CJ MahaneyCJ Mahaney quoted above is the head of Sovereign Grace Ministries (SGM) and was recently named in a lawsuit along with several others by… Continue reading Spousal Abuse in Sovereign Grace Ministries Churches?
Single Women in the Church: Valued or Not?
Earlier when I posted about Patriarchal Movement in churches, I received an e-mail from Jennifer who shared her personal story with me. I have learned so much from my readers. When Jennifer shared her story with me, I was saddened and shocked that we, the church, have failed Jennifer and women like her.What can… Continue reading Single Women in the Church: Valued or Not?
Mike Pearl and Women in the Church
In the last post, I mentioned Mike Pearl of No Greater Joy Ministries. Mike and Debi Pearl are quite popular in the homeschool movement. Years ago, they published a book called "To Train up a Child". They practically gave it away, the price was so low. It was actually a pretty smart marketing tool because… Continue reading Mike Pearl and Women in the Church
The Patriarchal Movement: Who Owns Your Faith?
* * * I listened to Wade Burleson's eChurch at Wartburg Watch yesterday and was blown away by his sermon based on two verses of the Bible that he wrestled with. Hebrews 11:11-12: By faith even Sarah herself received ability to conceive, even beyond the proper time of life, since she considered Him faithful… Continue reading The Patriarchal Movement: Who Owns Your Faith?
A Pastor Speaks Out: The Church and Abused Women
The church, domestic violence, women, pastors, spousal abuse A couple days ago, I was informed about a note a pastor had written to another pastor regarding spiritual abuse. This spiritual abuse is specifically regarding women and how their role as women is regarded in the church - or perhaps I should… Continue reading A Pastor Speaks Out: The Church and Abused Women
Spiritual Sounding Board 