My Meeting with Heather Wilson to Discuss Doug Wilson & Sex Abuse Scandals

“Now where is the scandal in this?” ~Doug Wilson

Steven Sitler, Christ Church, Moscow ID, New Saint Andrews, Pedophile


When I was tweeting about my upcoming visit to Moscow, I received a tweet from Heather Wilson. At the time, I didn’t realize she was related to Doug Wilson, but later I received an e-mail from Heather and figured out she was indeed connected with Doug Wilson. Heather is married to Nathan, or ND, Doug’s son.

My first response was, “Cool!”  I wish I could have met with Doug Wilson in person, but at least this was an opportunity to gain some understanding from inside the Kirk. I loved that Heather not only tried once, but twice to connect with someone who has obviously spoken about her father-in-law in a negative light. (You can see a bit of her spunk in the tweet above.) She had no fear and wanted to give me an opportunity to ask questions. I looked forward to meeting her.

In full disclosure, I sent Heather a draft copy of the following summary to make sure I articulated her words accurately.

We met at a local coffee shop, Bucer’s Coffeehouse Pub, which coincidently is owned by Pat Greenfield, the mother of Natalie Rose Greenfield. As you may recall, Natalie has spoken out recently about how Doug Wilson and elders at Christ Church mishandled her sexual abuse case in which Jamin Wight sexually violated Natalie beginning when she was 14 yrr old.

Heather easily noticed me waiting at the counter. We sipped our drinks and conversed at an outside table on Main St. in downtown Moscow. We got to know each other a bit, compared family sizes, ages, school backgrounds, etc.  Heather was very easy to talk with and I thought if I had met her at my church, I could easily be friends with her. She’s just your normal easy-going mom raising her family just like we all do, with normal busy-ness, interruptions, etc.

We talked about a number of issues that have been part of the controversy, but Heather simply said that she wasn’t really up on the details, and was not in a position to talk about them. Fair enough.

We then moved on to the Steven Sitler case.  To quickly summarize the Sitler case, Steven Sitler was the pedophile who sexually abused several children in three different states. He was convicted for only one case (the parents of the other victims refused to report) and sentenced to life in prison; however, that sentence was later reduced in a plea deal. He served 20 months in prison, and was sentenced to a life term.

"Nineteen-year-old Steven Sitler arrives in Moscow, Idaho, to attend New St. Andrews College. Sitler enters NSA’s network of illegal boarding houses and moves in with a Christ Church family. The family has six children, all younger than 10-years old. Sitler immediately begins predation." Courtesy "Now where is the scandal in this?" ~Doug Wilson

“Nineteen-year-old Steven Sitler arrives in Moscow, Idaho, to attend New St. Andrews College. [He] moves in with a Christ Church family. The family has six children, all younger than 10-years old. Sitler immediately begins predation.” 

Doug Wilson was instrumental in the plea deal, having written a letter to the judge indicating he felt Sitler had fully repented and requested “that the civil penalties applied would be measured and limited.” Doug Wilson also officiated in the marriage of Sitler to Katie Travis and, to this day, defends his decision.

If you haven’t seen the timeline on the Sitler case, please do check it out. It is very helpful, easy to read, and the information is backed up with linked primary source documentation.

I had a few problems with the Sitler situation. No, big problems. I felt it was wrong for Iverson, an elder and trusted family friend of Katie’s, to match her up with Sitler. I told Heather that no one in their right mind who cared about and was acting as guardian for a young lady would ever match up a pedophile with anyone, let alone a young woman under his care. When you take the responsibility of caring for someone, you don’t put them in harm’s way. This was an accident waiting to happen.

I appealed to her as a mother and asked if she would be okay with someone matching up her daughter with a pedophile. She indicated she would not. We were in agreement on that point. However, she did say that she was not privy to the details that led to Katie being matched up with Steven, or how Katie fell in love with and wanted to marry him, so maybe there was information that might better explain things.

We moved on from that topic to another issue that deeply concerned me: that Doug Wilson officiated the wedding of Steven Sitler and Katie, knowing full well his pedophilia past, knowing full well Sitler wanted children, and knowing full well that if Sitler did anything wrong again, he would likely be sent back to prison for life.

I discussed that I didn’t believe there was wisdom in Wilson officiating the marriage. I also told Heather that Wilson was giving Katie and their future baby/babies a life sentence, meaning either Steven would end up in prison, or isolated from his children, or under strict supervision, 24/7. Additionally, Katie would bear a lot of the burden of keeping her children safe from their own father, and would even have to chaperone her husband. This was not a good way to start a marriage or for any marriage, for that matter, and I felt that Wilson failed his job as shepherd when he officiated the wedding.

From Heather’s understanding, Doug Wilson claimed that Sitler was repentant. Katie was an adult; they loved each other and consented to be married. There was nothing in the Bible that said they could not marry. There was nothing in civil laws preventing them from getting married. Wilson was their pastor, and while he counsels people, they were still free to make the own decisions, even if the decisions were foolish, and against Wilson’s counsel.

(Heather noted that it is ironic that people online complain that Wilson is very controlling and used this as an example to show that he doesn’t control people, even if they go against his advice – in general, not specifically referring to the Sitler scandal.)

I mentioned that Wilson could have told them it was not wise to get married, and Heather said we don’t know if he did or didn’t say that as Wilson refuses to discuss private pastoral counsel.  I told her that he could have refused to marry them based on the obvious projected outcome, and this might have helped them to reconsider getting married.

I mentioned that Wilson could have counseled Sitler to get a vasectomy in order to relieve the burden of Katie having to chaperone her husband. Heather replied that she did not know if Wilson counseled this or not to Sitler.

We then discussed the likelihood that Sitler would have gotten married anyway, and then the issue Heather presented was: who would care for this couple if they got married in a different church? Would the pastor understand the danger Sitler presented to the congregation? Would Katie get the support and help she needed?

So, in Heather’s mind, having Doug Wilson, Sitler’s current pastor, preside over the wedding meant that Wilson could have direct oversight of the couple, even knowing that this would be a difficult task for the elders and the church body to undertake. Wilson and elders could make sure that Sitler was attending church each week and have accountability. The women in the church could make sure Katie and baby would get proper support.

Heather continued saying that Christ Church body knows the Sitler case. Sitler can’t hide there, but he and Katie will be shown love and still be held accountable; whereas, if they were married and going to church elsewhere, it is believed that Katie and Sitler could slip through the cracks, possibly re-offending or be in inadequate physical, emotional, and spiritual care.

I’ve read a LOT of Doug Wilson’s comments regarding his handling of this situation and most of his comments are defensive, without much clear explanation. Even though I strongly disagree with how Wilson has handled this case and believe this couple never should have been married, at least Heather’s explanation gave me more insight to the thought process from Doug Wilson’s perspective, and I thought some might be interested to understand.

Our meeting ended well. We definitely disagreed on how Doug Wilson handles things, but on other topics, we are probably similar. If I go to Moscow again, I would be happy to have coffee with Heather again. I found Heather to be a very warm and caring individual.  I appreciated hearing things from Heather’s perspective and for the time – 3 hours! Thank you, Heather!



Related articles:

  • The Last Meeting, Natalie Rose Greenfield – “Doug sat with one leg crossed and intently told me I needed to stop seeing this guy, repent of my sexual sin and find the path of righteousness.”

Social Media is Presenting a Challenge to God-Given Authorities aka Pastors

Michael Kruger, The Gospel Coalition, Social Media, Spiritual Authority, Pastors, Criticism

pastors, authority, Michael J. Kruger, The Gospel Coalition, Spiritual Authority, Social Media

The Gospel Coalition published an article, 5 Warning Signs for the Church in a ‘Facebook Culture,’ by Michael J. Kruger, president of Reformed Theological Seminary’s Charlotte, North Carolina, campus. He is concerned about the influence of social media, specifically:

What effect does “social media” technology have on the way we view the church?

He covers 5 points in the article:

  • Short Attention Span/Limited Learning Style
  • Low View of Authority/Overfocus on Equality
  • ‘Surfacey’ Interactions/Artificial Relationships.
  • Lack of Physical Presence
  • Low Commitment/Accountability

The paragraphs under “Low View of Authority/Overfocus on Equality” caused me to read a little more closely:

One of the most often overlooked effects of social media is how we view authority figures. The internet is the great equalizer—everyone has a voice. We all have a platform to speak our mind, to say our piece. After any article or news story, anyone can offer an opinion. And certainly much of this is good.

But it can also lead to an “egalitarian” view of authority—that no one person’s opinion should be valued or weighted more than another’s. Needless to say, this presents problems for a biblical ecclesiology that understands the church and the pastors to have real God-given authority in the lives of its people.

His primary concern is: “we must be aware of the challenges it creates for ministry in our modern and postmodern world.”

Technology doesn’t necessarily create sin patterns; it exacerbates them. In response, we must do something we needed to do anyway: give our people a robust and vibrant picture of the church and their place in it. In other words, we need to give them a full-orbed biblical ecclesiology.

Evidently he believes social media has caused us to forget about biblical church structure. What he really means is hierarchy. Make no mistake about it.

Just this morning, I was preemptively blocked by a pastor I’ve never heard of. The guy is obviously afraid of negative publicity attached with his name. I’ve always been thankful for social media because it gives you and me an equal platform whereas in churches, we can be silenced. When I hear of abuse and see behavior on Twitter from pastors who are using their “position” in a way that harms people, I can directly and publicly ask them about it. If it seems they are like a loose cannon and nobody else in their church seems to be holding them accountable for their words, I figure that if they are posting publicly on Twitter, I have just as much leverage as anyone else to directly ask questions or share concerns publicly.

I seriously doubt that my tweets to a pastor on Twitter will cause any wayward pastor to change. But I do hope that in drawing attention to it,  others can see for themselves the public behavior and words so that they can be wise and discerning in whom they choose to follow.

I have some more thoughts referring to these two paragraphs. I’ll repeat them once again:

One of the most often overlooked effects of social media is how we view authority figures. The internet is the great equalizer—everyone has a voice. We all have a platform to speak our mind, to say our piece. After any article or news story, anyone can offer an opinion. And certainly much of this is good.

But it can also lead to an “egalitarian” view of authority—that no one person’s opinion should be valued or weighted more than another’s. Needless to say, this presents problems for a biblical ecclesiology that understands the church and the pastors to have real God-given authority in the lives of its people.

I’m probably doing exactly what he’s talking about, and right now I am going to challenge his words publicly using social media via this blog, Twitter (when I post the link to this article), and on the Spiritual Sounding Board Facebook page as I also post the link there. Here’s the deal. Michael Kruger is NOT my pastor. He is a pastor who has posted publicly via social media for all to read and for all to have the opportunity to critique. I am choosing to critique his words because I think he is crossing some lines of authority that are not his to cross.

God-given authority has nothing to do with others expressing opinions or criticisms of a pastor’s words. True God-given authority would expect to hear from all voices, both negative and positive feedback, especially if their words are posted/aired publicly. A godly shepherd would challenge themselves to see if there is any truth to the opinions/criticisms.

The second paragraph above is the most disturbing to me. Mr. Kruger appears to be getting on his spiritual authority high horse saying, if you offer an opinion, you are treading too closely to an “egalitarian view of authority” which is threatening his God-given authority.  He seems to be pulling the God card by saying that you are messing with God and the authority He placed in your life when you criticize “spiritual authority” on social media. 

He’s trying to silence people on social media, while he and others want to maintain a level of spiritual authority, even on social media.  Give me a break!


I guess he forgot this about ALL Believers:

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 1 Peter 2:9

Article was originally published here.

photo credit: A Word from the Cross via photopin (license)

The Blogger at “Biblical Gender Roles” is Taken To Task Proving that His Discipline Advice is Really Domestic Violence

How Biblical Gender Role’s Discipline Advice is Actually Abuse

by Kathi

This past weekend I may have caused some fine folks’ blood pressure to rise by sharing blogger, Biblical Gender Role’s “7 Ways to Discipline Your Wife” on the SSB Facebook page. I apologized for getting everyone’s Saturday mojo ruined, but I think we had some good discussion.

Since this is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I would like to tackle the seven ways Author (the author is anonymous, so we will call him “Author” ) claims wives can be disciplined. I question that idea. While Author claims that he does not condone Christian Domestic Discipline or physical violence, he fails to recognize how his examples of disciplining a wife are in fact, abusive.  In reviewing these examples, I will reference the Duluth Model Power and Control Wheel. This Power and Control Wheel is the standard used by counselors and educators when dealing with domestic violence. While the Biblical Gender Role’s Author does not condone violence (as seen on the outside of the wheel), power and control are the key ingredients in abuse. Power, according to Author, is given to husband by God and it is the husband’s duty to discipline.

duluth whell

#1 A wife may be disciplined for disrespect.

If your wife is speaking in disrespectful and demeaning ways in public in front of others (whether this is toward you or others) this might require a public rebuke of her tone and actions.

Publicly rebuking your wife would fall under the category of emotional abuse. A public rebuking would show that you are attempting to make her feel bad about herself for her words or that you’re trying to humiliate her. If your wife is speaking disrespectfully about you or others in public, it is best to address this in private, and explain how her words affect you.

#2 A wife may be disciplined for overspending.

If your wife is spending money against your wishes – this may require confiscation of her credit cards and ATM cards…..This does not necessarily mean she would have no money, but you could give her a cash allowance each week.

Taking away a wife’s ATM or credit card and giving her an allowance would fit under the category of financial abuse. This is one way that an abuser may hold power over a victim. When the victim has to rely upon the abuser for financial support, it is often difficult for her to leave a domestic violence situation. The wife is held financially captive by her husband.

#3 A wife may be disciplined for “failing to take care of children” or for “contradicting authority” over children.

If your wife is failing to do her duties as a mother toward your children or she is continuing to contradict your authority with the children then perhaps you might put off buying that new car for her and have her continue driving her older car for a while as long as it is safe for her to drive.

At least I can give Author some credit for making sure the wife has a safe car to drive (insert long eye roll). This would fall under the male privilege category of abuse. Here, the husband is told that he can be “master of his castle,” and he can make big decisions such as when to purchase the next car or dishwasher. The husband is the sole person to determine if his wife is not properly taking care of the children, or if he feels his authority is being undermined.

#4 A wife may be disciplined for watching too much TV.

If your wife is watching too much TV you could cancel the cable or satellite TV and just have antenna service.

Again, this is using male privilege to make a big decision. I want to know how the husband is going to know that a wife is watching too much TV if he’s at work all day. Better yet, what if the wife feels like the husband watches too much TV and doesn’t help enough around the house. Does she get to cancel the cable or satellite?

#5 A wife may be disciplined for too much online time.

If your wife is spending too much time online (like Facebook or other social outlets or online shopping) then if she does not respond to your warnings about this you could change your internet code on your router so that her devices will not have access to the internet.

Uh-oh! I’m in trouble here! This is the first example where the word “warning” is used. Are we talking about a child or an adult? Is this husband a police officer? Unless a husband is warning his wife about a potential safety danger, this would fall under intimidation. There is also the issue of social isolation if the wife relies upon use of the internet to connect with friends and family. Removing social connections also prevents her from seeking help.

#6 A wife may be disciplined for neglecting the home.

If your wife is being neglectful of her duties to care for your home then you might put off that new living room furniture set you have been talking about or those new window dressings she has been wanting.

As far as I can tell, a husband who might be able to withhold a new car, dishwasher, internet, cable, furniture or window coverings sounds like he’s got some money. How about hiring a maid to come once a week to help out around the house? I’ll say it one more time, he is exercising male privilege (he wants that castle clean!).

#7 A wife may be disciplined for denying sex.

If your wife is un-submissive in the sexual arena and chronically denies your sexual advances (without legitimate medical or psychological reasons for doing so) then perhaps that upcoming trip you were going to take her on gets canceled.

Even though sexual abuse on the power wheel is on the outside (physical and sexual abuse hold it all together), not providing something because your wife is not giving you enough sex is sexual abuse. If a husband tells a wife that he will not take her on a trip because she’s not giving enough sex, that husband is coercing her to get what he wants. I haven’t done enough digging around on the Biblical Gender Role’s website, but I wonder if Author acknowledges that marital rape exists.

In the end, Author states:

God not only give husbands the power to discipline their wives, but he also gives them to the duty to do this. Men should not discipline their wives out some sort of power trip or prideful arrogance. Instead men should discipline their wives from a place of love in order to bring about holiness and order in their homes.

Abuse is all about power and control. And, no, God does not give husbands power or control (duty) to abuse their wives. He states that men should not discipline out of a “power trip,” yet he states that God gives husband this power! Which is it – power or no power? Author confuses the husband’s showing of love in order to bring holiness and order in the home and does not even see how this borders abuse.

Love does not need the excuse of power and control. Love is patient, kind, not envious, not proud, not dishonoring, not self-seeking, not easily angered, and does not record wrong doing (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).

Image credit: Domestic Abuse Intervention Project

Please see SSB Helpful Resources for links and resources on Domestic Violence.

Doug Wilson’s Christ Church and Handling of Sex Abuse Cases to be Investigated by Insider?

Doug Wilson, CREC, Christ Church, Moscow Idaho, Randy Booth, Steven Sitler, Jamin Wight, Sex Abuse, Pedophile

Christ Church, Randy Booth, Doug Wilson, Moscow, Sex Abuse, Pedophile, Jamin Wight, Steven Sitler

Christ Church has posted an announcement on their website.

Inquiry into the Pastoral Ministry of Christ Church (Moscow, Idaho)
October 3, 2015

The CREC began a process a couple of weeks ago aimed at addressing the legitimate questions and concerns regarding some of the past actions and practices of two cases of sexual abuse. We take these matters seriously and seek to address them fully. In keeping with the CREC Constitution and our regular church order, the session of Christ Church, Moscow, ID, has invited the presiding ministers of each presbytery to inquire into the pastoral care and counseling ministry of Christ Church, with particular regard to their handling of sexual abuse cases, not excluding the two cases that have been the subject of some recent controversy. In short, are their practices in this area operating within a biblical framework and consistent with the law? Are they operating competently and in good faith?

This invitation means that under the direction of their chair, the committee is invited to ask any questions of members of the Christ Church session and pastoral staff, and they can have complete access to their minutes, records, files, etc. Christ Church is asking this committee to issue a public report in the next few months. Moreover, they have requested that the presiding ministers satisfy themselves as to the health and soundness of their pastoral care in such circumstances, and to provide them with their counsel and advice where they see any deficiencies.

Pastor Douglas Wilson is the current Presiding Minister of the CREC Council, and he has recused himself in this matter. As the current Presiding Minister pro tempore of the CREC Council, I will assume the role of Presiding Minister of Council in these matters and will chair the committee of the seven presiding ministers of our presbyteries, which I have appointed to this review committee.

Randy Booth
Acting Presiding Minister, CREC Council

The first question that should come to anyone’s mind about this inquiry is who is Randy Booth? What qualifications does he have to do such an inquiry? How much knowledge does he have of CREC and what are his connections with CREC? Will the Committee feel free to honestly answer the questions without repercussions? At what point, if ever, would they seek outside, independent help? The most obvious question is, is there a conflict of interest with Randy Booth performing this inquiry?  Is he an independent and unbiased person who can accurately and justly assess the situation?

The answer to the last questions is a resounding NO!

Randy Booth’s bio from his church, Grace Covenant Presbyterian Church, website:

Pastor Booth has been an ordained minister for 27 years. He has been married to his wife Marinell for 37 years, and they have three grown and married children and eleven grandchildren. Pastor Booth holds a Bachelor of Science degree in history and psychology, and has completed graduate studies in philosophy and apologetics. He is the director of Covenant Media Foundation, and is the author of several published articles and books. Pastor Booth has been actively involved in the pro-life movement and has worked with both home schools and Christian day schools for more than twenty-five years.

Did you notice the part of the bio in which it mentions that Booth is the author of several articles and books?  Well, blow me down, you’ll never guess with whom he authored a book:  Douglas Wilson.  Yup, Doug Wilson!

Conflict of Interest of Mammoth Proportions

Grace Covenant Presbyterian Church is a CREC church. Randy Booth is an insider at CREC. He is no outside, independent investigator AT ALL. In fact, he has co-authored a book with Douglas Wilson entitled, A Justice Primer (An excerpt of the book can be found here.), published by Canon Press (Doug Wilson’s gig). Do you see a conflict of interest here?

These two men have teamed up to write a book on how to handle cases just like the pedophile cases in which Wilson has found himself embroiled for the last several years. In writing this book, Randy and Doug are intimately connected with the content, they believe and endorse their interpretations and conclusions. These two men believe this book provides the answer to the cases that Wilson finds himself in today.

I believe that Wilson most likely has handled the pedophile cases just as he prescribes in his book. He staunchly defends how he has handled the cases, and somehow, by some weird coincidence, or as CREC folks might say, “Providence,” Randy Booth is now the person to look over the handling of these cases?


Here is the summary about the book (bolded for emphasis):

If God is just, and the Bible is his word, how is it that everyone is in such a fog when it comes to actually administrating justice? As a culture, we cry for mercy when we’re hurt, and lustily pound the gavel when tables turn. Civil tyrants regularly trot out the thumbscrews and red-hot pokers, but just as many petty gunslingers take pleasure in targeting whoever “the big guy” happens to be. Is that justice?

Randy Booth and Douglas Wilson bring their considerable pastoral experience to the question of scriptural standards for justice, and their observations — that almost nobody has a firm grasp of what justice is or how it functions — are sobering. This is because maintaining a strict definition of justice is essential for any community, great or small. In this much-needed exposition, Booth and Wilson unpack God’s requirements for witnesses, victims, due process, and the accused and accuser, and take to task some of our favorite injustices in churches and abroad: anonymous assertions, rattling off charges, double standards, and the ubiquitous Trial by Internet.

Notice the “trial by internet.” We’ve seen similar remarks, “internet mob, etc” coming from Wilson regarding the Wight/Sitler cases. In fact, there’s a whole chapter on “Trial by Internet” in the nearly 300-page book.

The ideas represented in The Justice Primer have been mentioned throughout Wilson’s blog for quite some time. In July of 2014, Wilson wrote a blog article, Social Justice, in which we read about his idea of justice. In it he claims that the world does not understand sexual sin the way Christians do:

Our establishment no longer knows what sex itself is supposed to be, and so cannot know what sexual justice is supposed to be. We therefore ought not to rely on their “wisdom” about sexual justice as it relates to children. They don’t have any wisdom.

Let me clarify for you:  Doug Wilson knows better than our civil courts how sexual crimes should be adjudicated.

The last thing in the world Christians should do is join in with any stampeding opinions about any of this from the secularists. They don’t know what sex is for, and they therefore don’t know what sexual justice is.

The article continues with other disturbing ideas, but ends with this announcement:

This post is going to be incorporated into a book on the principles of justice that I am working on with my friend, Randy Booth, hence the first person plural pronoun.

We see reference or promotion of the book here on September 7, 2015, The High Mountain Air of Public Calumny:

Those who believe themselves to be hep to my tricksy ways might have surmised that I orchestrated this entire recent flap about Steven Sitler because Randy Booth and I recently put out a book entitled A Justice Primer. But whether you are disposed to believe me or not, that was a total coincidence. In this book we address biblical principles for evaluating charges that are brought against someone, anyone. The book is, I believe, quite a necessary resource for good-hearted Christians everywhere — who regularly see defamatory information scrolling by in their Facebook feed. There is even a chapter entitled “Trial by Internet,” which concludes with this sage advice: “Never get into a braying contest with donkeys” (p. 160).

Even further back, in the article, Injustice and Empathy (May 2013), we see an example of Wilson-styled justice when it comes to defending a pastor who is being put on the hot seat about mishandled sex abuse cases in many of his churches. Wilson put his nose into the Sovereign Grace Ministries sex abuse scandal and responded to the open letter in support of Pastor C.J. Mahaney written by Don Carson, Kevin DeYoung, and Justin Taylor in support. In this article, however, Doug Wilson speaks out of the other side of his mouth regarding civil authorities and ::::gasp:::: supports them. I guess when it comes to a pastor facing legal consequences, it’s okay for the civil authorities to be involved:

The issue is that we do not know what the just response is until after a fair and just trial. Just sentences do not fall out of the sky — they proceed from just trials. And in order to have a just trial, it must be managed and conducted by just men, men who hate bribes, men who have a backbone, men who know the law.

This clearly is a man who not only cannot make his mind up about whether the civil court system is fair and just or whether it is an evil entity against Christians. So, it is astounding to me that he could write A Justice Primer with his flip-flop diatribes. Wilson does not know what he’s talking about when it comes to our judicial system. We’ve seen him meddle with the judicial process in both Sitler and Wight case, and he thinks he is the authority on sex abuse cases in his church and how they should be appropriately handled. The current-day status of the two public sex abuse cases shows: the victim in the Wight case has publicly said Wilson and church leaders did not care for her appropriately; and in the Sitler case, it has been reported by Sitler that he was sexually stimulated when holding his infant son. These cases have NOT been handled well.

The bottom line is that Booth in no way, shape, or form will ever find fault with Wilson’s handling of these cases. As long as Wilson followed his own rules in their book (which I imagine will be the measuring tool Booth uses), Wilson will come out on top.

Douglas Wilson is a very weak man. It takes a man with honesty, integrity, and humility to hire an outside independent authority to do investigations. Wilson has failed his congregation and the Body of Christ by this ridiculous charade. This inquiry means nothing to an outsider. It will only appease the Koolaid drinkers on the inside.

Side note:

Take note that with the exception of Bahnsen, the rest of those who endorsed this book also have connections with Christian Reconstructionism, which makes sense because Wilson has frequently mentioned and preferred Old Testament methods of responding to specific sins; ie, stoning, woman must cry out when raped to validate it, etc.

  • David L. Bahnsen, blogger and founder of The Bahnsen Group (Interesting article: The Three Things I Still Believe)
  • Gary DeMar, President, American Vision
  • George Grant, pastor and author
  • P. Andrew Sandlin, President, Center for Cultural Leadership

Related articles I found on a Google search related to Randy Booth:

SSB Gathering – October 4, 2015

Spiritual Sounding Board – This is your place to gather and share in an open format.

 by Kathi

long drive


Given that this month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I thought I would post verses that are often used to keep a person in a domestic violence situation. My intent in this is to focus on how the Bible can be and is used as a means of control by an abuser.

My hope is that this will open discussion about the real issue of domestic violence within the church family. As we have this discussion, I ask that words be used carefully and your mind be open and understanding. Everyone who has lived through or is currently in a domestic violence situation has different experiences. Sunday Gatherings are meant to be a place of support, and I ask that we use this space in that way.

Please take care while reading. If reading through these verses is difficult for you and brings back painful memories, please make sure  that you are taking care of yourself. Again, my hope and intent is to bring discussion about how the church responds to domestic violence. Please let me know if continuing this throughout the month is too difficult and I will stop this series. -Kathi


1 Peter 3: 1-7

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.


Ephesians 5:21

Submit yourselves to one another out of reverence for Christ.



May the peace of the Lord Christ go with you: wherever he may send you;

may he guide you through the wilderness: protect you from the storm;

may he bring you home rejoicing: at the wonders he has shown you;

may he bring you home rejoicing: once again into our doors.

Feel free to join the discussion.
You can share your church struggles and concerns.
Let’s also use it as a time to encourage one another spiritually.
What have you found spiritually encouraging lately?
Do you have any special Bible verses to share, any YouTube songs that you have found uplifting?


photo credit: Kathi – Washington

Long-Time Moscow, Idaho Resident Challenges Doug Wilson’s Claims and Provides Factual Information

Pastor Doug Wilson, Christ Church, CREC, New Saint Andrews, Moscow Idaho, Steven Sitler, Sex Abuse, Trinity Reformed Church

I went to Moscow, Idaho, recently to meet with people who have been part of Doug Wilson’s Christ Church and with people who have been negatively impacted by him. My first priority was to listen to and support those who had felt harmed by him. Secondly, I wanted to get a feel for the Moscow community: how were the people in town treated by Wilson and those connected with his church, college, and/or seminary? How did the long-time locals feel about the CREC presence in their community?

Yesterday, I came across a note written by Rose Huskey to an online group of people from Moscow, Idaho area.  The online group is called Vision 2020, and the group has been going on for quite some time. In fact, last night, I read archives from 2003, and even a dozen years ago, there were concerns raised from people within the community regarding Wilson.

While I typically cover stories from survivors who are part of a particular church, this is different. This is from someone who does not attend Christ Church, but who is airing her frustration of Doug Wilson publicly. She is a long-time resident and is concerned about the goings on in her community. Over the years, Rose has had growing concerns with what she has seen, and you will see from her note below, she has spent a lot of time fact checking to expose what she has found. I think Rose Huskey’s words need a broader audience than the online Moscow community. If a man is professing to be a Christian pastor is not only overstepping bounds in his church, but also his community, this behavior should not be hidden.

Note from Rose Huskey to Vision 2020 Online Group

Dear Visionaries,

Once again the self-appointed pastor of a homemade church, (yes, I mean Doug Wilson and Christ Church – and by extension, his “daughter” church, Trinity Reform, (aka The Fellowship of Grievance – FOG – as Doug used to refer to them) is garnering the negative attention that they so richly deserve. And, which, sadly, also tars our community by geographic proximity.

Rod Dreher of the American Conservative blogged yesterday on the decade old sexual abuse cases that still taint the Kirk (Doug’s feeble effort to pretend his church has connections to Scotland).  Steven Sitler and Jamin Wight, both convicted sexual felons, continue to live amongst us (albeit under the supervision of the Idaho Department of Corrections in Sitler’s case.)  Below is a letter I sent via email to Doug Wilson and Toby Sumpter (pastors respectively to Christ Church and Trinity Reformed) and the officers – who are named so that you will know the jackasses who support their “religious” efforts.  I urge you, to avoid any business whose owners and employee(s) attend and tithe to either church – unless, of course, you support their position on the harmony of ante-bellum slavery; the role of women in the church and home (silent and “always willing to be a garden” tended by their husbands sums it up);  “disciplines”children with whacks followed by prayer, father directed courtship, and glories in the inbreed nepotism of the Wilson empire.

I stand by my words, I sign my letters (Hey there toadie, “Dave” who lacked the balls to sign his last name when he called me a “non-Christian” hater (the remarks were removed from the Dreher website probably by the blog owner), frankly, you don’t know s*** from shinola about me, but I have a pretty good idea what your last name is.

Rose Huskey


Greetings Gentlemen:

Christ Church Pastors Douglas Wilson and Ben Merkle

Elders:  Csaba Leidenfrost, Gordon Wilson, Matt Gray, John Carnahan, Jeremy Bunch, Bill Church, Ed Iverson, John Grauke, Wes Struble, John Sawyer, Dale Courtney, Mike Lawyer, Francis Foucachon, Jonathan McIntosh, Matt Meyer, Dan Vis

Deacons: Nick Holloway, Gabe Rench, Tim Mortimore, Tom Garfield, Isaac Grauke, Rob Sentz, James Urquidez, Greg Ditton, Rusty Olps, Nethaniel Ealy,Row: Jim Crapuchettes, Andrew Crapuchettes, Phil McMurray, Marc Rust, Mark Wintz

Trinity Reformed Pastors Toby Sumpter, Pastor Joshua Appel

Elders: Chris Schlect, Patch Blakey , Roy Atwood (clearly in absentia), Elder in Training Timothy Van Den Broek

Deacons: Eric Burnett, Randy Cummings, Jacob Harding, Brendan O’Donnell, Rich Schumaker, and Joseph Schoolland,

(Rather than send individual email’s I send this email to the heads of your various organizations.  I trust (that is probably foolish, isn’t it?) they will forward it to those under their leadership.  Just in case someone decides not to share this with you I will be sending this message to Vision 2020 for the community to read, and perhaps one of them will be good enough to pass it along.)

When in the name of God and all that is holy will you separate yourselves from the self-serving lies Douglas J. Wilson continues to tell?  Recently the mishandled sexual abuse cases which plagued your church ten years ago have reached critical mass nationally.  Yesterday, Ron Dreher published a story about the abuse and graciously allowed Doug Wilson to respond. Doug offered many untrue or misleading remarks in his defense.  I’ll offer a few examples:

“Steven was caught in March of 2005. I counseled the father of the victim to turn Steven into the authorities immediately. That happened the following day, and Steven was arrested. He was immediately expelled from New St. Andrews College.”

The timeline that Doug describes is deliberately inaccurate.  Please read a report made to the Latah County Sheriff’s office by the father of the victims, four days after his heinous discovery. And, by the way, you might ask yourselves why Mr. X reported that Steven Sitler attended the University of Idaho and didn’t mention New Saint Andrews College?

Steven confessed to Mr. X in the late afternoon of March 10, 2005.  Later that evening Mr. X called Doug Wilson who asked the X parents to come to his office after lunch the next day.  Steven remained in their home until the morning of the 11th.  Authorities were not contacted.  The next morning –  after 9:00 a.m. Steven left for his home in Colville, Washington.  After lunch the parents met with Doug Wilson in his office.  He arranged for Greg Dickison, family friend and Christ Church member to contact authorities (after Sitler was safely across state lines). The X family left for a pre-planned family vacation.

Steven Sitler was never arrested as Doug Wilson must have known that.  An arrest warrant was filed but never served. He was taken into custody on September 26th 2005, (follow the clear direction to access Steven Sitler’s court record) more than six months after the molestations were discovered.

To understand how this issue was controlled and contained for several months amongst some (if not all) of the officers, please consider the religious affiliations of the principal players in this tragedy.

Victims and family = Christ Church members

Family Attorney = Greg Dickinson Christ Church member

Perpetrator = Steven Sitler, NSA student, Christ Church attendee, excommunicated by home church and joined Christ Church after hearing.  His father is now a church office at Holy Trinity Church, Colville, Washington

Perp’s  Attorney = Dean Wullenwaber, Christ Chruch member

Do you understand how this incestuous relationship casts doubt on everything surrounding the way Doug orchestrated this sickening mess?  You have a source for primary court documents do they conflict with what you were told?  What/who is more reliable, official court documents or your pastor who has spun, and continues to spin his own self-interested story?

It is the case that you gentlemen have chosen with your hearts and minds to follow Doug Wilson to hell and back – while pretending to proclaim Christ in your heart and lives.  For the sake of your souls, your family, and your interest in the community of Moscow, I beg you to turn your back on Doug Wilson and all he represents, with one exception.  As he formed his own church in the early 1990s you too can do the same thing.  You can worship God with joy and freedom without the specter of Doug Wilson, his dirty deeds and rapidly declining reputation infecting you and yours.  In the meantime, if I were on the faculty of NSA, Logos, or employed in any other business in Doug’s empire, I would begin to look for another position.  At some point his kingdom is going to fall into a thousand pieces (God is good and He is great) and you will need to feed and care for your families.

If Doug publicly repents then you might, (after a suitable and penitential exile) consider allowing him join with you in worship as a member, not an officer.  I beg you to read and meditate on Ezekiel 34 and I say sorrowfully, (not on your behalf but on the behalf of your families and congregations) and in truth to you, you are wicked shepherds, and there is a great cost associated with that behavior.

Ezekiel 3421st Century King James Version (KJ21)

34 And the word of the Lord came unto me, saying,

2 “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel, prophesy and say unto them, ‘Thus saith the Lord God unto the shepherds: Woe be to the shepherds of Israel that feed themselves! Should not the shepherds feed the flocks?

3 Ye eat the fat, and ye clothe yourselves with the wool, ye kill the ones that are fed; but ye feed not the flock.

4 The diseased have ye not strengthened, neither have ye healed that which was sick, neither have ye bound up that which was broken, neither have ye brought again that which was driven away, neither have ye sought that which was lost; but with force and with cruelty have ye ruled them.

5 And they were scattered because there is no shepherd, and they became meat to all the beasts of the field when they were scattered.

6 My sheep wandered through all the mountains and upon every high hill; yea, My flock was scattered upon all the face of the earth, and none did search or seek after them.

7 “‘Therefore, ye shepherds, hear the word of the Lord:

8 As I live, saith the Lord God, surely because My flock became a prey and My flock became meat to every beast of the field because there was no shepherd, neither did My shepherds search for My flock, but the shepherds fed themselves and fed not My flock,

9 therefore, O ye shepherds, hear the word of the Lord.

10 Thus saith the Lord God: Behold, I am against the shepherds; and I will require My flock at their hand and cause them to cease from feeding the flock, neither shall the shepherds feed themselves any more. For I will deliver My flock from their mouth, that they may not be meat for them.

Rose Huskey

*UPDATE from Rose Huskey 10/2/15 Yesterday I posted a note on Vision 2020 that was a copy of an email I mailed to Christ Church and Trinity Reformed Church.  I relied on the church websites to obtain the names of the church officers.  Matthew Breese was included in the named officers of Trinity Reformed.  I have learned that his name should not have been included as he is no longer a church officer.

JA has edited to remove his name.  ~ja

Related links:

  • The Truth about Moscow – this site contains primary source documentation, court documents, articles about Doug Wilson, pedophile cases, etc.
  • Doug Wilson Archive – this is a brand new site compiling articles and blog articles

Doug Wilson Responds to Rod Dreher Article, Defends Perpetrator, Shames Sex Abuse Survivor and She Responds Back

Doug Wilson, Christ Church, Moscow, Idaho, CREC, Jamin Wight, Natalie Rose Greenfield, Sex Abuse, Rod Dreher

Yesterday, Rod Dreher wrote an article about the Doug Wilson fiasco in The American Conservative. Today, he quoted Doug Wilson’s ‘Reluctant Response.’

In the beginning of the article, Doug Wilson refers to a timeline of events of convicted pedophile, Steven Sitler. Then Wilson complains Rod Dreher not contacting Wilson for appropriate sources. (If you want primary sources and facts on Wilson, here is the place to go.) About half way through the article, Doug Wilson discusses the Jamin Wight sex abuse case. Doug Wilson’s words are in block quotes, my commentary in green font (bolding added).

The Wight Situation

The other main object of attention in Rod’s post was the situation with Jamin Wight and Natalie Greenfield. We are in the process of reconstructing a detailed and documented time line for that situation as well. But in brief, Jamin was one of our Greyfriar ministerial students who was exposed in 2005 as having been engaging in criminal sexual behavior with Natalie Greenfield a few years before. His behavior was criminal, hers was not.

Ok, that’s the very brief background. Let’s watch Wilson as he pulls the woe-is-me card:

But since others have been spreading the hurt for me, and the letter that I wrote to the officer investigating the crime has now been posted online,

And now Wilson plays Superman:

it has now gotten to point where if I speak, I might be able to help minimize the hurt that is careening around the Internet.

Please, take note – – -whose “hurt” is he referring to?

Wilson continues:

As my letter makes plain, Jamin was guilty of sexual behavior with a girl who was below the age of consent. She was underage. Our letter acknowledged fully that Jamin was guilty of criminal behavior, and we wanted him to pay the penalty for that criminal behavior, which was a species of statutory rape.

Let’s cut to the chase. Natalie has already posted publicly that Jamin forced her to have oral sex with him. A penis forced in the mouth of a young teen is not consent. Natalie publicly stated that she had a crush on him. Let’s get a reality check – holding hands would be normal for a young crush, not forced oral sex.

In a letter to the victim’s father, dated September 15, 2005, I wrote, on behalf of the elders, that “Jamin is in no way justified . . . and we have no problem with his prosecution” (emphasis added).

But the question before the court was what kind of criminal behavior it was, not whether it was criminal.

Does he really expect us to believe that the court has difficulty deciding what kind of criminal behavior forced oral sex is on a minor? I’m sure this is not the first case of oral sex Latah County courts have seen.

We had instructed Jamin, who was professing repentance, that he needed to demonstrate it by taking full responsibility for what he had done. But what he had done was very different from what was potentially at stake in his trial. Our elders had no problem with him being charged for the crime of sexual behavior with a girl who was not capable of giving legal consent (she was 14 and he was 23). At issue was whether he was going to be charged as pedophile, and placed in the same category as one who was molesting little children. But we believed his crime was not in the same category as Steven Sitler’s crimes at all. Steven’s behavior was with young children and was simply predatory. Jamin’s crime was that of engaging in sexual behavior with an underage girl.

Oh, so now Pastor Wilson has decided that he gets to interpret civil law? Unbelievable!  It’s interesting that Wilson is so hung up on how the courts will define Jamin’s crimes.

The reason we did not want it treated as pedophilia is that her parents had bizarrely brought Jamin into the house as a boarder so that he could conduct a secret courtship with Natalie. So Jamin was in a romantic relationship with a young girl, her parents knew of the relationship and encouraged it, her parents permitted a certain measure of physical affection to exist between them (e.g. hand-holding), Natalie was a beautiful and striking young woman, and at the time was about eight inches taller than Jamin was. Her parents believed that she was mature enough to be in that relationship, and the standards they set for the relationship would have been reasonable if she had in fact been of age and if the two had not been living under the same roof.

Natalie’s response to the above is posted further in this article. She denies Wilson’s claims.

But please note well: Things like her height, apparent maturity, and parental knowledge of the fact of a relationship are simply irrelevant to the morality of Jamin’s behavior. They are irrelevant to the criminality of his behavior. They are irrelevant to whether Jamin was selfishly manipulating a young girl, preying on her for his own selfish ends. They are irrelevant to whether it was statutory rape or not. But such things were not irrelevant to whether it was pedophilia.

Once again, it is the court who decides such matters, not a pastor who has already shown lack of judgment in the earlier case of officiating the marriage of a serial pedophile, Steven Sitler. It seems most pastors would turn the case over to civil authorities, respond to the Court as needed, and let them decide.

What we wanted the court to know was simply this: it is simply not possible to have it both ways. If you are pressing charges of child abuse, you are saying that Jamin failed to respect the fact that Natalie was a child. But this was the same failure that he shared with her parents, who thought she was a remarkably mature young woman. That fact simply needs to be recognized on all sides. I do not argue this to intimate or hint that her parents were in any way aware of the crimes Jamin was committing. What they were unaware of, Jamin did need to go to prison for.

Nevertheless Jamin was brought into the house in order to make Natalie the object of his romantic intentions, and to do so more conveniently, out of the eyes of community accountability. The arrangement became public years later, and with much harm done. Jamin was trusted by Natalie and her father. He certainly abused that trust sinfully and grotesquely—and took terrible advantage of it. He abused it in criminal ways, and the time he spent in prison for it was no miscarriage of justice. However, the time he has spent on the Internet, characterized as a pedophile, by people who were entirely ignorant of the facts of the case, and whose only interest in it was finding a rock to throw at me, is the very definition of injustice.

The first letter that Natalie posted on line from me was addressed to her father, and it admonished him for failing to protect his daughter. There was outrage that I had dared to admonish the “father of the victim.” But the father of the victim had approved an extraordinarily foolish arrangement that left his daughter vulnerable. Two weeks later I wrote her father another letter on behalf of the elders, and this letter has not yet been published online. In this second letter I said, “We simply want to make sure that Natalie is protected by you in the coming months . . . What we are doing is exhorting you to make protection of Natalie your highest priority in the months to come, because we are convinced that she will need it” (emphasis added). Unfortunately, that did not happen.

We found out about the abuse of Natalie years after the fact. In the areas where we could act, we did act right away. Jamin was disciplined for it immediately (e.g. expelled from Greyfriar Hall). We supported his prosecution. We exhorted Natalie’s father repeatedly to protect his daughter. This is yet another situation where reasonable men could easily have made different choices. But it is also a snarl where it is possible to look back with a clean conscience.

Up until recently, Natalie’s account has been dangerously incomplete and misleading. We were letting it go for the sake of others. As things have spilled out, it is much closer to the full story now. The whole thing was tragic and grievous. The damage it has done should be clear to any observer, from sea to cyber sea. In the midst of all of this, it is our heartfelt prayer that Natalie will return to Christ—the only place where the kind of wounds she received can ever really be healed.

Ok, this shows Wilson’s true colors. First, we see an excessive amount of time defending a perpetrator. Wilson wants to show the court his perspective as if his account is the correct account. No, no, no!  This is why we have a court process, so that both sides get a fair hearing. Wight had his day in court and the court decided. Wight was convicted. Wilson should now be quiet.

What’s obviously lacking is his genuine support for Natalie. How does he show her love and compassion? Did you read that last line – – their prayer is that “Natalie will return to Christ?”  Natalie hasn’t been to Christ Church for some time and he is presuming to know her spiritual state? Or that she hasn’t healed?

I have met Natalie and spoken with her on the phone at length. One of the remarkable things about Natalie is she is not vengeful or vindictive. She has dealt with her abuse in healthy and productive ways. And now she is using her tragic story to help sex abuse survivors to have a voice, and also to challenge and encourage pastors to handle sex abuse cases appropriately.

Oh, one more thing. Remember where I said to take note earlier? Can someone please identify who the hurt people are/is he trying to protect here?  “I might be able to help minimize the hurt that is careening around the Internet.”  Is it Natalie?   

Ok, enough from me.  So now, let’s hear from Natalie who responded to Doug Wilson’s words above.

natalie rose greenfield, jamin wight, doug wilson, crec, christ church, sex abuse,


Where The Light Belongs

by Natalie Rose Greenfield

Once again the spotlight is being taken from the only place it has ever belonged. Once again accusations against my parents for allowing a ‘secret courtship’ to occur between my 14 year-old self and my abuser have been plastered all over the Internet. Comments about my physical appearance as a young teen are being used to redefine the nature of the criminal activity. A severe and dangerous contorting of my story by people who were not there is taking place and while this means a very uncomfortable re-shaming for myself and my family, the deeper concern is what it means for future victims. The marginalization of a serious and devastating crime does not bode well at all for others who will suffer abuse in the future.


The church’s lack of acknowledgment of mishandling the situation and causing further devastation to myself and my family and to the individuals my abuser would go on to hurt is disheartening and deplorable. It is tarnishing not only Pastor Wilson’s reputation but the reputation of every pastor in the CREC denomination and every last member of those churches, for that matter.


Another such pastor reached out to me earlier this morning, one removed from this particular situation, and he expressed his severe disappointment in how I and my family were treated and are continuing to be treated. He wanted me to know not everyone in the CREC feels this way and that there is serious questioning happening from within. I have heard from myriads of others, some within the denomination and some not, who are appalled at the way sexual abuse within the church is handled.

Personally, I have experienced a wide range of emotions concerning all of this but the overwhelming emotion recently has been sadness – sadness that a pastor’s gross misunderstanding of abuse, consent, and criminal behavior has resulted in such harm and shaming and will inevitably result in harm to others who are abused. I am sad that he cannot humbly admit wrongdoing and begin to rebuild a system which is broken, a system which perpetuates abuse and marginalizes victims, which in turn creates a ripple effect of devastation and pain.


Doug was not in my home when my parents discussed allowing Jamin to court me. Doug was not in the room when they spoke about whether or not we should be allowed to hold hands. I imagine he may have something in writing from them, perhaps asking advice or seeking guidance on the situation and this may shed light on the foolishness and naivety of some of my parent’s choices. The fact that my parents trusted a dangerous and conniving criminal to respect the boundaries they had set is no secret and yes, it’s embarrassing. They have sought my forgiveness heartily over the years and I have unconditionally given it. But I would like to also point at that neither was Doug in the room when my father said, No. I am not comfortable with this. There will be no courtship. There will be no hand-holding. Do not touch my daughter and do not foster a relationship with her. 


Doug was not with my father as time dragged on and he began to become suspicious of Jamin. He was not in the hallway with my father where he sat on a chair in the middle of the night watching my bedroom door to make sure I was safe and protected. If only he had known my father’s heart, and yet he is quick to place blame on two parents who were deceived and manipulated by a calculated criminal. The fact that my parents were deceived does not change the nature of Jamin’s crime. The fact that my parents had moments of naivety does not merit letters from a pastor requesting leniency for a man who the prosecuting attorney called ‘a textbook pedophile’ and place a massive amount of blame on a father already broken by the news of his daughter’s abuse. The fact that I was beautiful and stood taller than my abuser does not lessen or change the sickening nature of what he did to me. The fact that I was infatuated with him and lived to please him does not mean that I was asking for it. Nobody asked for it.


In a response published on the widely viewed Christian publication, The American Conservative, earlier today, Doug calls what happened ‘sexual behavior’. A conveniently softened term for the abuse that took place.


Doug says about he and the elders, “we wanted him (Jamin) to pay the penalty for that criminal behavior, which was a species of statutory rape.” What Jamin did was severe far beyond statutory rape, though it did include that. Jamin targeted, groomed, and molested me for several years while manipulating and deceiving every other person around him in order to cover his crime. Jamin is a sexual predator in every sense of the word.


Doug writes:


The reason we did not want it (the crime) treated as pedophilia is that her parents had bizarrely brought Jamin into the house as a boarder so that he could conduct a secret courtship with Natalie. So Jamin was in a romantic relationship with a young girl, her parents knew of the relationship and encouraged it, her parents permitted a certain measure of physical affection to exist between them (e.g. hand-holding), Natalie was a beautiful and striking young woman, and at the time was about eight inches taller than Jamin was. Her parents believed that she was mature enough to be in that relationship, and the standards they set for the relationship would have been reasonable if she had in fact been of age and if the two had not been living under the same roof.


This paragraph is so full of untruths it makes my head spin. I’m not sure if Doug is deliberately twisting the truth or if he is basing his version of events on incomplete information (my sincere hope is that it’s the latter), but these allegations are simply false. As I said before, he was not there for any of this. There were discussions of this nature but the truth is that Jamin and I did not develop and maintain a romantic relationship under the encouragement of my parents. It is false, and from where I stand it is dangerously close to slander. Additionally and most importantly, why the hell does it matter? These grandiose and desperate attempts to take the attention away from what matters and place it where it does not belong is truly frightening and it’s hurting real people.


Doug is spending an awful lot of time and energy saying things like this:


But please note well: Things like her height, apparent maturity, and parental knowledge of the fact of a relationship are simply irrelevant to the morality of Jamin’s behavior. They are irrelevant to the criminality of his behavior. They are irrelevant to whether Jamin was selfishly manipulating a young girl, preying on her for his own selfish ends. They are irrelevant to whether it was statutory rape or not. But such things were not irrelevant to whether it was pedophilia.”


when he should be spending time and energy saying:


“We messed up. We defended a really bad guy. I wrote to a judge and an officer on his behalf and it directly effected the outcome of the sentencing. We failed the victim, we didn’t extend to her the love of Christ and offer her the resources she so desperately needed. We blamed her parents disproportionately, we talked about her physical appearance and said it changed the nature of Jamin’s crimes. We are deeply sorry and we want to learn how we can educate ourselves and how we can do things differently in the future so that more innocent people are not hurt and shamed and subsequently driven away. We want to learn from this mishandled situation.”


Will that ever happen? I hope so very much that it will. I hope we can stop talking about the things that don’t matter and start talking about things that do, like how we can spot potentially abusive situations before they escalate and destroy lives, how we can educate our youth to have strong voices about their own bodies and sexuality, how we can create a system in which criminals are not readily trusted and given opportunities to re-offend, how we can foster an environment in which victims feel as though they are unconditionally supported and cared for, free of suffocating judgement and blame…This what truly matters.


Doug sums up the way he feels about his role in my situation “…it is also a snarl where it is possible to look back with a clean conscience.”


He has no regrets and clearly no intention of apologizing. He has twisted the truth. He has shone a light in a place where there is nothing of relevance to see, and in so doing has pushed into the shadows a hideous truth that promises to grow and swallow Lord knows how many more innocent victims.


That is the story we need to listen to. That is what we should be talking about.


Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month!

-by Kathi

purple ribbons

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and the color for this cause is purple. I’ve been busy making purple ribbons and would love to offer one to you! If you would like a ribbon, please send your address to the SSB email ( and I will send one off. If you have a preference for a lighter or darker purple, let me know. I have plenty of yarn!

The best thing you could do, though, is make yourself aware of resources in your area so you can help someone who is looking to leave an abusive relationship. A good place to start is the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You can also do a simple Google search with “domestic violence” and the name of your city or county which should bring up resources in your local area. Finally, you can follow the National Network to End Domestic Violence (#31n31) throughout the month to read survivor stories.

Now, if we could get NFL players to wear purple socks for part of the month….

10 Things The Bible Teaches About Women

I can’t remember where I came across this video, but Aric Clark made me think outside my evangelical fundy box when it comes to what the Bible teaches about women.  I couldn’t find anything about Aric except from his Twitter profile: Social Justice Cleric and he’s in Kathi’s area – Portland.

Edited to add:  I found Aric blogs at Two Friars and a Fool. Check it out!

Sex Abuse Victim Natalie Rose Greenfield, the Timeline, Doug Wilson’s Attempt to Shift Focus off the Real Story

Doug Wilson, Christ Church, CREC, Sex Abuse, Natalie Rose Greenfield, Timeline, Jamin Wight

With Natalie’s permission, I am once again cross-posting her most recent article which gives further clarification on her sex abuse case. Why? Because Pastor Doug Wilson is trying to push his narrative using his public platform which has a larger following than Natalie. What I do here at SSB is give survivors a platform and hopefully social media will even out the voices so that a survivor’s voice is heard and believed.

Here’s the deal. Why are we even listening to Doug Wilson? Why are we listening to his narrative? The court has already convicted Jamin Wight and we know that Natalie is telling the truth, so why is Doug Wilson speaking up now? It is not his story to tell. He mishandled the case and neglected care for Natalie and now Natalie is rightly speaking out so that others will not be afraid to do so.

Take a look at Doug Wilson’s replies on Twitter. On many of his replies, he is responding to Natalie’s case giving short, obscure answers from his perspective and trying to shift the focus off Natalie’s account and place blame on her parents or anything that holds him culpable of protecting and defending this young sex abuse victim. It is so important to note that DOUG WILSON WAS NOT THERE WHEN NATALIE WAS ABUSED! He doesn’t know what went on in her home, the involvement of her parents, the threats and pressure of Jamin Wight.

Notice how Doug Wilson changes the direction of the conversation to something entirely irrelevant.

Here’s an example of a recent exchange with me. Notice the diversion tactics:


Now we move on to Natalie’s timeline.  Thank you, once again, Natalie, for allowing me to share your story here. ~ja 

(***Trigger warning:  sex abuse***)

natalie rose greenfield, jamin wight, doug wilson, crec, christ church, sex abuse,

For The Sake Of Clarity – The Timeline

by Natalie Rose Greenfield

“It was a foolish parent-approved relationship which led to statutory rape, as was shown in the court.” – @douglaswils

This is a recent tweet from Doug Wilson concerning the long-term sexual abuse I experienced as a young teenager. In light of the level of blame that is being placed on my parents, I feel that a timeline of the events might be helpful in offering some clarity for those that were not directly involved in the situation.

Summer 2000: I met Jamin at a local nursing home where a group of church members were singing hymns for the residents. He introduced himself to me. I was thirteen years old. He was 23.

A few weeks later: I sat at a local coffeehouse and Jamin showed up, sat down across the table from me and asked if I wanted to play cards. He flirted heavily and tossed pretzels into my mouth.

Fall 2000: Jamin came to our house for dinner along with a couple of his roommates, who were longtime friends of our family. He played footsie with me under the table. Our whole family thought he was a pretty great guy and began to consider him a genuine family friend.

Winter 2000: Jamin was over for family dinner a second time and during a movie after dinner, when others had left the room for a moment, Jamin moved close to me, touched my cheek with his hand and told me I was beautiful.

Spring 2001: Jamin moved into our mansion on B Street and lived there along with 4-5 other boarders. At some point during this process Jamin expressed an interest in getting to know me. My parents discussed what they should do and ultimately my father told him he could wait around for me until I was older, if he wanted, and strictly forbade any development of a physical or romantic relationship. We were allowed to be friends. Two weeks later Jamin kissed me for the first time.

Spring 2001: Summer/Fall 2002: Jamin began more serious abuse, this included sexual, physical, verbal and emotional abuse. He was wildly jealous of me, he spied on me, he gave me a strict set of rules to follow regarding my behavior, dress, and social life, he forced me to perform oral sex on him on a regular basis, he oiled the hinges of the doors in our home and frequently snuck into my room in the middle of the night, he limited when I was allowed to leave the house and where I was allowed to go (he did this by privately bullying me, as far as anyone else knew the decisions were my own), he demeaned me constantly and convinced me never to tell anyone about what was happening because he said they’d all know I was a slut and no one else would ever love me, he told me I should not go to college or develop any career or interests because I was to be his wife and the mother of his children someday and would have no need for continued education or a career path, he lectured me constantly on my flirtatious, sinful, tempting ways and convinced me I was an abhorrent girl with few redeemable qualities

I was literally a prisoner in my own home. (I should mention that I was behaving like a textbook abuse victim throughout all of this – I was infatuated, obsessed with my abuser, and the single most important thing in my life was to please him.) To maintain the facade Jamin would occasionally approach my parents and humbly ask their forgiveness for something like squeezing my hand to comfort me or patting my shoulder. He’d promise it would never happen again. This helped him to maintain trust with my parents so he could continue living in our home.

Fall 2002: My father began to notice Jamin behaving in a jealous way around me, and caught him spying on me from outside in the bushes during a dinner party one night (he did this often to monitor my interaction with other people). He was asked to move out.

Late Fall 2002: Jamin no longer lived with us but still occasionally stopped by to grab belongings he’d left, and during these brief visits would rendezvous with me in the basement or in a car for sex favors. One time, I stopped him on the front porch and quietly asked him if I was still a virgin because I didn’t know if fisting constituted penetration. He laughed at me, then walked inside. This was one of the last times we ever spoke.

Fall 2002-Spring 2005: The abuse had finally ended and the effects began to set in. I experienced PTSD, nightmares, flashbacks, eating problems, difficulties with school, depression, insomnia, anger issues, stomach ulcers, social anxiety, and severe self loathing and shame. I graduated from high school during this and was attending the University of Idaho, my academic performance suffered, as did any friendships or relationships I had. The quality of my relationship with my parents was very poor as well.

Spring 2005: I told a friend a little about what had happened years earlier . She urged me to go to my parents or to the police and I told her she was crazy. Over the following month she approached me several times and begged me to tell someone else. She asked that I please do it before I turned 18 later that summer. Her words sank in over the weeks and one night I was overwhelmed with the need to say something, I nervously told my parents about the abuse. Knowing the police would be contacted, Jamin would be arrested, and a legal process would ensue, I was terrified but also hopeful that I could begin to find some peace as justice was carried out. The morning after I told my parents about the abuse they reported it to the police and Jamin was arrested on charges of sexual abuse of a child and lewd conduct with a minor.

Fall/Winter 2005: After an incredibly trying Summer of legal proceedings, multiple police reports and intense health problems, I began slowly phasing out of attending Christ Church. The support and resources that I so desperately needed were not offered to me. The silence was deafening and succeeded in magnifying my shame and sadness. I remember sitting at church week after week and longing to feel loved and supported, aching for something or someone to help me soothe the deep sadness and despair I felt, and it never came. Not everyone at church was aware of what had happened to me and I knew that. In reality, probably only a handful of people were aware at this point, but surely a couple of the elder’s wives must have known and if they didn’t they certainly should have so that I could be ministered to. Sadly, it didn’t happen. I didn’t leave the church angry or bitter, I left wounded. This was the church I’d attended for most of my life and leaving was one of the hardest and saddest things I’d ever done. I’ve written about the rest of this here, so there’s really no need to re-hash what’s already been said.

My story is not about my parents. And though some people are trying awfully hard to make it about my parents and not about the criminal and what he got away with and how people stood behind him and trusted him and welcomed him back into their circles while a girl wasted away in sadness and shame, it’s simply not plausible. The attempt to pin this on my parents isn’t just morally wrong, it’s based on twisted information. I may end up saying it a thousand times, but here it is again: I was not in a relationship with Jamin Wight. I was targeted by him, groomed by him, and abused by him for nearly 2 years, but I was not in a relationship with him. A relationship is something that happens between 2 consenting adults, not between a child and a man.

My goal in sharing my story of abuse is not to point out my parent’s naivety or to shame them for any foolishness they exhibited. We don’t need to discuss how close bedrooms were or how many boarders lived in our giant home or how many times my parents urged Jamin to respect me and interrogated him to make sure he was doing so. I know beyond all doubt that my parents loved me dearly and were doing so in the best way that they knew how. They didn’t have all the answers, but they did not wish for me to be hurt.

My story is about the man who hurt me and the church who defended him. It’s about him going on to hurt more innocent people because no one believed I was telling the whole truth. And within my story are parallels to countless other eerily similar stories that haven’t been told because it’s really hard to tell them, but they need to be heard anyhow so I’ll give them a voice.

That’s all this has ever been about. I’m still waiting to be heard.

Further reading:

SSB Gathering – September 27, 2015

Spiritual Sounding Board – This is your place to gather and share in an open format.

 by Kathi

mountain goat


Luke 6: 37-49

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

He also told them this parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A student is not above his teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, firtst take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

“No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thorn bushes, or grapes from briers. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.

“Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say? I will show you what he is like who comes to me and hears my words and puts them into practice. He is like a man building a house, who dug down deep and laid the foundation on rock. When a flood came, the torrent struck that house but could not shake it, because it was well built. But the one who hears my words and does not put them into practice is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. The moment the torrent struck that house, it collapsed and its destruction was complete.”


Remembering those suffering in war-torn Syria.


May the peace of the Lord Christ go with you: wherever he may send you;

may he guide you through the wilderness: protect you from the storm;

may he bring you home rejoicing: at the wonders he has shown you;

may he bring you home rejoicing: once again into our doors.

Feel free to join the discussion.
You can share your church struggles and concerns.
Let’s also use it as a time to encourage one another spiritually.
What have you found spiritually encouraging lately?
Do you have any special Bible verses to share, any YouTube songs that you have found uplifting?


photo credit: Brian – The Enchantments – Washington

Friday Poem Therapy from a Survivor Sexually Abused by Her Pastor

Mike Sperou, Sex Abuse, Jennifer, North Clackamas Bible Community


I saw this poem show up through my Facebook news feed.  This is from Jennifer and you can read more about her here. Folks, this is the aftermath of sex abuse, of what it’s like when your parents abandon you because they are brainwashed and defend their guru cult leader (my opinion). This poem is raw emotion and pain. And this is why we continue to fight these battles and demand that churches get their acts together to protect children. I’m leaving the language as is. If you are sensitive to strong language, you have been forewarned. Thank you, Jennifer, for letting me share this with the community here.  You are loved! ~ja


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Friday Poem Therapy

by Jennifer, September 25, 2015


There are pictures on Facebook
of the man who molested me.
Young women, church members, my father
are standing next to him
with their arms around each other
smiling at the camera
in front of the dark grey backdrop that they use
in prison


People “like” the photos:
People I’ve never met
People I went to high school with
People who are friends of friends


I wonder what they know.


I know
that I spent years clinging to the edge of his bed;
trying to get as far away as possible while others
endured hands, fingers, breath, lips
I know that he reached for me when some of them weren’t available


I know
that I was rejected by my parents
Greg and Cindy.
“You’re just not an important part of our lives.  You know that.”
They reminded me often that I was never important
Not worthy of protection
Not valuable enough to be considered
And then lied
with everyone watching
and returned to their lives
without me.


I wonder what they know.


Also, fuck them.


Street Preacher Tony Miano Yells to Woman, “You’re Acting Like a Man. STOP IT!!!”


Street Preacher, Tony Miano, member of John MacArthur’s church, Grace Community Church thinks this is how to stop abortions and win people to Christ.

Tony Miano, Street Preacher, misogyny, grace community church, john macarthur

Tony Miano yells at two women outside an abortion clinic. They are not happy and use colorful language in response. How should a Christian respond?


But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.  Galations 5:22-23


Around the :55 mark in the video, Tony yells to one woman:

“Why do you set aside your femininity to act like a man? You’re acting like a man, STOP IT. YOU’RE ACTING LIKE A MAN STOP IT! STOP IT!!  Man, you just have a trashy mouth, don’t you?”

(Language warning)


Romans 2:4 Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?



Doug Wilson Series: Introduction, Christ Church Celebrates 40 years and Background

Doug Wilson, Christ Church, CREC, Greyfriars Hall, Association of Classical & Christian Schools, Canon Press, New Saint Andrews, Steven Sitler, Jamin Wight



To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it. ~G.K. Chesterton

Last night, I returned home after a 1-1/2 day trip to Moscow, Idaho, home of Pastor Douglas Wilson and Christ Church. Coincidentally, today members of Christ Church celebrated the church’s 40th anniversary, so today is the perfect day to introduce a series of posts related to Doug Wilson and Christ Church. I will be writing articles and others will be contributed.



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Christ Church, Doug Wilson


During my trip, I spent most of the time talking with people connected in some way or another with Doug Wilson or Christ Church. These people were either former members, acquaintances, interested parties, business people, all affected by Doug Wilson in some way, shape, or form, some negatively, and some positively.

I spoke with one person within the church and one person outside of the church asking about the recent social media coverage of two sex abuse cases involving pedophiles under Doug Wilson’s watch and how that has affected the community. Both said that people in the community are indeed talking about the scandals, and they also realize it has reached far beyond the community of Moscow with just under 25,000 people. The news of Doug Wilson defending pedophiles, Jamin Wight and Steven Sitler, have not gone unnoticed. People are upset, and rightly so.

Before I begin discussing various issues, it’s important to have some background. On Wilson’s blog, Blog and Mablog, he tells us a little bit about himself and his theological and political beliefs:

I want to advance what you might call a Chestertonian Calvinism, and to bring that attitude to bear on education, sex and culture, theology, politics, book reviews, postmodernism, expository studies, along with other random tidbits that come into my head. My perspective is usually not hard to discern. In theology I am an evangelical, postmill, Calvinist, Reformed, and Presbyterian, pretty much in that order. In politics, I am slightly to the right of Jeb Stuart. In my cultural sympathies, if we were comparing the blight of postmodernism to a vast but shallow goo pond, I would observe that I have spent many years on these stilts and have barely gotten any of it on me.

Now let’s take a look at the mission statement for Christ Church:

Our mission at Christ Church is summed up by the phrase “all of Christ for all of life.” Under the grace of God, this means that our desire is to make Moscow a Christian town through faithful and robust covenant renewal worship on the Lord’s Day, through proclamation of the gospel to unbelievers, while training additional evangelists who will continue proclaiming that gospel, through teaching men and women how to live together in harmonious Christian marriage, through establishing a family-friendly culture of Christian education in which well-loved and well-disciplined children will learn to stay the course, through outreach that brings people to church, accommodating them where they are while seeking to bring them into maturity in a structured way, through genuine cultural engagement that provides Christian leadership in the arts, in business, in education, in politics, and in literature, and through a regular series of church plants on the Palouse as we have gifted, trained and ordained men, willing congregants, adequate resources, and available facilities. And we seek to do all of this in gladness and simplicity of heart, as we pursue love for God and love for our neighbor.

Tuck away the key points from the mission statement. I think you will be able to connect some dots as I and others share more of the goings on around Moscow, Idaho. The pedophile scandals have been horrific, but there are other issues that have been going on for years that are not making the local news, yet they are damaging lives, spiritually, emotionally, financially, etc.

Stay tuned!





photo credit: Zorionak! via photopin (license);

Note: I’ve had several people contact me privately and send information. I greatly appreciate it. If you have a personal story to share about Doug Wilson, Logos, New Saint Andrews, Greyfriars Hall, Association of Classical & Christian Schools, Center for Biblical Counseling, Canon Press, Communion of Reformed Evangelical Churches (whew, I think I got most of them), please contact me at

SSB Gathering – September 20, 2015

Spiritual Sounding Board – This is your place to gather and share in an open format.

 by Kathi



Psalm 46

God is our refuge and strength

an ever-present help in trouble.

Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way

and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,

though its waters roar and foam

and the mountains quake with their surging.

There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,

the holy place where the Most High dwells.

God is within her, she will not fail;

God will help her at break of day.

Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall;

he lifts his voice, the earth melts.

The Lord Almighty is with us;

the God of Jacob is our fortress.

Come and see the works of the Lord,

the desolations he has brought on the earth.

He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth;

he breaks the bow and shatters the spear,

he burns the shields with fire.

“Be still, and know that I am God;

I will be exalted among the the nations,

I will be exalted in the earth.”



May the peace of the Lord Christ go with you: wherever he may send you;

may he guide you through the wilderness: protect you from the storm;

may he bring you home rejoicing: at the wonders he has shown you;

may he bring you home rejoicing: once again into our doors.

Feel free to join the discussion.
You can share your church struggles and concerns.
Let’s also use it as a time to encourage one another spiritually.
What have you found spiritually encouraging lately?
Do you have any special Bible verses to share, any YouTube songs that you have found uplifting?


photo credit: Brian – sunrise on the larches – Washington

A Note to Doug Wilson and Friends and Foes of Doug Wilson


I have two things to share, first the following invitation. Some may have seen this on Twitter or Facebook, but I want to make it more public here so more eyes can see and have an opportunity to meet:


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Okay, now the second issue. For the last two weeks I have shared publicly (tagging Doug Wilson several times on Twitter) that I would like to meet with Doug Wilson. He never took me up on the offer or even acknowledged it, for that matter, even though he was very actively posting on Twitter, blogs, etc.

When I could see that Doug was clearly not interested (and then later found out he had a speaking engagement elsewhere), I still wanted to make the trip to meet with others to have an opportunity to have a time to share, encourage, support those who have been harmed by Wilson.

I have been blessed beyond measure by such supportive and caring people, and have received quite a few private notes from people sharing their deep concern about me going to Moscow.  Many have said that I should NOT do this trip alone, I should let law enforcement in my area, be very alert, etc.

As I’ve had conversations with people about this, I find myself getting angry. I’m not angry about people contacting me. Not at all!  I’m angry that so many in the city of Moscow have such a fear of one man and his cronies.

Can you imagine your home and your community which is supposed to be a place of safety, security, refuge, for some, is a place of fear, terror, and uneasiness.  I am angry about this.

There is NOTHING godly about a man who uses his assumed position of authority and far-reaching influence in the community (including civil authorities) which causes people to live in fear if he perceives anyone is saying or doing anything against him. This is how spiritual bullies behave, not godly pastors. Enough, already!


I am going to Mosow, Idaho, with my head high, not because of physical stature, but in confidence that God is in this.

The LORD is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me? Psalm 118:6

If there are any who would like the opportunity to meet tonight or tomorrow, it’s not too late.  Contact me at and I will give you the details.  Thanks!

Legal Action Threatened against Blogger Reporting on Doug Wilson, Christ Church, Jamin Wight and Steven Sitler Pedophile Cases


Legal Action Threatened against Blogger,, Doug Wilson, Steven Sitler, Daniel Foucachon, Christ Church, Steven Sitler, Pedophile, Jamin Wight, Copyright

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The new website,, which hosts primary source documents related to Doug Wilson, Christ Church, and the ongoing sex abuse cases, has run into legal issues.  No surprises here. This is a common tactic used by those who want to shut bloggers down for exposing pastors who do not behave well. There is a concerted effort to shut down, malign, or ruin the reputation of anyone who challenges these spiritual bullies.

A word to the wise to Doug Wilson et al:  we know we’re on the right track when we get legal threats, when our blogs are mysteriously knocked offline (The Wartburg Watch has had “tech” issues for the last 2 days).  It only compels us to keep going.  

Another word to the wise:  I won my defamation lawsuit and my former pastor had to pay his attorney fees, my attorney fees, and court costs.  I know that my words are not defamatory because I understand this law.  Don’t try it with me. 

I have been given permission to cross-post the article from explaining what has happened there. It’s very important that the public understand what is going on behind the scenes in an effort to shut bloggers down.


The Christ Church Playbook, page 1: Quash the Message

“Unmarketable Positions” may go dark for a few days, but not for long. We have received legal notice that Daniel Foucachon, who owns Foucachon Media, LLC, and Roman Roads Media, LLC, claims copyright ownership of screenshots from videos that he placed in the public domain; he claims copyright ownership of a video on which he enabled a “download” button after he uploaded it to the web; he claims that profits from these things; he claims defamation, though he has not identified any defamatory content; and he makes these claims “under the perjury laws of the United States of America.” This complaint, like all his others, has no merit, but that doesn’t matter. As long as he submits the complaint according to federal guidelines, Team Truth must remove the content or the host must shut us down. And Daniel Foucachon submitted his correctly.

The legal department wrote,

Unfortunately, we are not able to make determinations as to the validity of a DMCA notice. If the notice is properly submitted, we are required by US Federal law to take action. The notice was properly submitted.

Daniel Foucachon games the system just like Steven Sitler games the system. Foucachon knows a simple complaint with the correct language will shut us down, even though he must lie to achieve his goal. Ditto for Sitler. The state wires him to the polygraph and as long as his answers don’t self-incriminate, he knows the law cannot touch him. “Have you molested your son?” “No.” Needle shreds paper.

How appropriate that they attend the same church.

This is page 1 of Pastor Doug Wilson’s playbook. Stop the message at all costs. He loves publicity as long as he controls the message. Then he can congratulate himself, as he did with Christianity Today:

I decided that if fire fell on Moscow, as upon Elijah’s altar, I wanted it to fall on an altar doused with water. I made a point of adopting certain unmarketable positions. I’m a televangelist with a blacked-out tooth — so if something happens, it’s God’s work.

Pastor Douglas Wilson of Christ Church, Moscow, doesn’t point to the altar where he officiated the marriage of a serial pedophile to a profoundly naïve student from New Saint Andrews College. He points to an imaginary altar that doesn’t exist. And he stomps when we point to the real altar where he performed the abomination.

Therefore, in order to comply with US law, we have removed our images that we own according to the FAIR USE Act. But not for long.




pool Anderson Springs Middletown


Sorry I’ve been MIA.  It seems I get to publicly thank CON once again. If it weren’t for him, I wouldn’t have the skills that I have now to help my childhood community, Anderson Springs, which was nearly destroyed in the “Valley Fire” in California. My great-grandmother and grandparents bought the cabin probably in the late 40s or early 50s and it’s been a wonderful place for our family and extended family to gather over the years.

As I was frantically searching for info on our family’s cabin, I saw others also searching for info on their property, too, on various news sites, Twitter, message boards. No one was getting answers and so I looked and found that there was only one private group on Facebook about Anderson Springs, so I created a new public page and used social media to spread the word.

With the few connections I have, we have been able to get answers to about a dozen people who their homes/cabins were destroyed, and also spread the good news that one person’s home remained.  Only 9 of the 80 or so homes were unharmed.

Can you imagine these folks not being allowed back to their homes/cabins (fire is still active in that area), and not knowing? This is the fourth day.  Please pray for this community and those affected by the fire. Back in the day, most of the cabins were primarily used as summer vacation homes. Now the majority are used year-round and many are primary residences. Many lost everything.  The one reported death was an elderly disabled woman from our community.  There is currently one man missing from Anderson Springs.

This video has gone viral. It shows an #AndersonSprings resident who had heard about the fire, but lost all outside communication as they were packing and getting ready to leave. He checked outside and the sky was clear and he could not smell smoke, so he thought he still had more time. He was shocked to drive out of his area and encounter this raging fire as he exited the community.  There is only one way out and he had to risk it.  Some of my favorite memories as a child was being with my grandparents on this road as we walked around the “Springs.”  As we walked around the Springs, there were houses we used as landmarks to know how far we had walked. Those landmarkers are gone.  It was devastating to watch.




Currently, Cal Fire is reporting that the ‪#‎ValleyFire‬ is now 70,000 acres with containment remaining at 30 percent. The fire started on Saturday and spread with unprecedented speed because of the years of drought and high winds.

SSB Gathering – August 13, 2015

Spiritual Sounding Board – This is your place to gather and share in an open format.


 by Kathi



Ezekiel 34

The word of the Lord came to me: “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy and say to them: ‘This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Woe to the shepherds of Israel who only take care of themselves! Should not shepherds take care of the flock? You eat the curds, clothe yourselves with the wool and slaughter the choice animals, but you do not take care of the flock. You have not strengthened the weak or healed the sick or bound up the injured. You have not brought back the strays or searched for the lost. You have ruled them harshly and brutally. So they were scattered because there was no shepherd, and when they were scattered they became food for all the wild animals. My sheep wandered over all the mountains and on every high hill. They were scattered over the whole earth, and no one searched or looked for them.

“‘Therefore, you shepherds, hear the word of the Lord: As surely as I live, declares the Sovereign Lord, because my flock lacks a shepherd and so has been plundered and has become food for all the wild animals, and because my shepherds did not search for my flock but cared for themselves rather than for my flock, therefore, O shepherds, hear the word of the Lord: This is what the Sovereign Lord says: I am against the shepherds and will hold them accountable for my flock. I will remove them from tending the flock so that the shepherds can no longer feed themselves. I will rescue my flock from their mouths, and it will no longer be food for them.

“‘For this is what the Sovereign Lord says: I myself will search for my sheep and look after them. As a shepherd looks after his scattered flock when he is with them, so will I look after my sheep. I will rescure them from all the places where they were scattered on a day of clouds and darkness. I will bring them out from the nations and gather them from the countries, and I will bring them into their own land. I will pasture them on the mountains of Israel, in the ravines and in all the settlements in the land. I will tend them in a good pasture, and the mountain heights of Israel will be their grazing land. There they will lie down in good grazing land, and there they will feed in a rich pasture on the mountains of Israel. I myself will tend my sheep and have them lie down, declares the Sovereign Lord. I will search for the lost and bring back the strays. I will bind up the injured and strengthen the weak, but the sleek and the strong I will destroy. I will shepherd the flock with justice.

“‘As for you, my flock, this is what the Sovereign Lord says: I will judge between one sheep and another, and between rams and goats. Is it not enough for you to feed on the good pasture? Must you also trample the rest of your pasture with your feet? Is it not enough for you to drink clear water? Must you also muddy the rest with your feet? Must my flock feed on what you have trampled and drink what you have muddied with your feet?

“‘Therefore this is what the Sovereign Lord says to them: See, I myself will judge between the fat sheep and the lean sheep. Because you shove with flank and shoulder, butting all the weak sheep with your horns until you have driven them away, I will save my flock, and they will no longer be plundered. I will judge between one sheep and another. I will place over them one shepherd, my servant David, and he will tend them; he will tend them and be their shepherd. I the Lord will be their God, and my servant David will be prince among them. I the Lord have spoken.

“‘I will make a covenant of peace with them and rid the land of wild beasts so that they may live in the desert and sleep in the forests in safety. I will bless them and the places surrounding my hill. I will send down showers in season; there will be showers of blessing. The trees of the field will yield their fruit and the ground will yield its crops; the people will be secure in their land. They will know that I am the Lord, when I break the bars of their yoke and rescue them from the hands of those who enslaved them. They will no longer be plundered by the nations, nor will wild animals devour them. They will live in safety, and no one make them afraid. I will provide for them a land renowned for its crops, and they will no longer be victims of famine in the land or bear the scorn of the nations. Then they will know that I, the Lord their God, am with them and that they, the house of Israel, are my people, declares the Sovereign Lord. You my sheep, the sheep of my pasture, are people, and I am your God, declares the Sovereign Lord.'”



May the peace of the Lord Christ go with you: wherever he may send you;

may he guide you through the wilderness: protect you from the storm;

may he bring you home rejoicing: at the wonders he has shown you;

may he bring you home rejoicing: once again into our doors.

Feel free to join the discussion.
You can share your church struggles and concerns.
Let’s also use it as a time to encourage one another spiritually.
What have you found spiritually encouraging lately?
Do you have any special Bible verses to share, any YouTube songs that you have found uplifting?


photo credit: Kathi – alpaca at 16,000 ft. elevation in Peru – I know today’s verse is about sheep, but when I knit, I prefer alpaca.

Pastor Doug Wilson Accuses Sex Abuse Victim’s Father of Dereliction of Duty as Father – The Jamin Wight Pedophile Case


Natalie Rose Greenfield, Pastor Doug Wilson, Christ Church, Pedophile Jamin Wight Sex Abuse Case*



Doug Wilson, sex abuse, pedophile, Jamin Wight, Christ Church, Steven Sitler


Natalie Rose Greenfield has given me permission to repost her article which follows the background information below.

Natalie is the victim of sexual abuse by Jamin Wight, both whom attended Pastor Doug Wilson’s church, Christ Church, in Moscow, Idaho. Before getting to Natalie’s post, it’s important to summarize the background of Natalie’s story and I’m grateful for R. L. Stollar of Homeschoolers Anonymous, who covered this story so well, The Jamin C. Wight Story: The Other Child Molester in Doug Wilson’s Closet. The following quote and other information in this background comes from this article:

Between the years of 2000 and 2003, Wight — who was 24 years old at the time — groomed and sexually abused a young girl who was only 13 years old when the abuse began. (Wight was only charged for abuse that occurred over 1 year, from 2001 to 2002, but the abuse survivor today says the abuse actually happened over a span of 3 years, from the time she was 13 until she was 16.) Like Wight, the 13 year old girl was also homeschooled. Wight was a boarder at the home where the girl lived, the home being part of Wilson’s student boarding network among Christ Church’s parishioners.

The abuse wrecked havoc on the abused girl. She began experiencing insomnia, stomach ulcers, and panic attacks; she suffered serious behavioral problems, mood swings, and painful flashbacks. In 2004, when she was 17 years old, she confided in a friend about the abuse. That friend convinced her to go to her parents and the police and press charges. This began a long and difficult process for the abuse survivor, a process which reached fruition on August 17, 2005. On that day, after receiving word of the abuse, the girl’s mother filed a criminal complaint against Wight. A warrant for Wight’s arrest was issued the next day. On August 24, 2005, a search warrant was issued the Latah County, Idaho district court for Wight’s personal possessions that provided evidence of the abuse. Court documents show that on October 28, 2005, Wight was arraigned and informed that three charges were being brought against him, one count of Sex Abuse Against a Child and two counts of Lewd Conduct With a Child Under Sixteen Years of Age. Wight pled not guilty to all three charges. Then on May 12, 2006, Wight’s charges were reduced to a Felony Offense of Injury to a Child. Wight pled guilty to that much-reduced charge and was able to made a deal such that he only had to serve 4-6 months in the North Idaho Correctional Institution.

Where does Wilson come in? Here are some important complaints that Natalie has raised and important issues raised in the Homeschoolers Anonymous article:

  • “I was offered little to no support from the church I attended”
  • “on the day of the sentencing my former pastor and my abuser’s pastor sat on *his* side of the courtroom”
  • “We were encouraged to go to mediation rather than to trial, and at the last minute the visiting judge decided the sentence/label of ‘sexual offender’ was too harsh”
  • Wight remained a member of good standing at Christ Church, which understandably presented a very uncomfortable environment for Natalie. Natalie and her father left Christ Church
  • Wilson and Christ Church placed blame on Natalie, saying she consented (at the age of 13!!!)
  • Natalie was placed in church discipline
  • After Natalie left, she received an e-mail saying they would withhold communion until meeting with elders

The common factors in this case and the convicted pedophile case of Steven Sitler, also a Christ Church member are apparent:

Doug Wilson and Christ Church’s actions and words show that he defends pedophiles before victims. “Repentant” pedophiles remain in good standing.

Doug Wilson and Christ Church’s actions show victims and potential victims are not defended, protected, and supported well, if at all.

Below is Natalie’s recent blog post after Wilson has once again been in the public spotlight due to recent updates on the Steven Sitler sex abuse case. I think it is very clear to see that Natalie is not an angry, bitter, vindictive person. She wants the truth to be exposed to prevent it from happening again.  I applaud her for her bravery and honesty in speaking out. ~ja

(I have added paragraphs for easier readability, the content remains entirely unchanged.)


When Doug Wrote To My Father

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged here. My general sentiment when it comes to blogging about my experience of sexual abuse within the church is to ‘write when the spirit says write’ and it’s been over a year since I’ve felt the need to do so. This was my last post, if you’re a first-time reader here you can fill yourself in on my backstory there. But in light of the recent and rather broad coverage of the Steven Sitler situation (and tangentially the Jamin Wight situation) I feel the need to issue a current statement of my own and do a little dismantling.

There seems to be a sentiment shared by many of Doug Wilson’s supporters that I am something of a banshee – bitter, angry and screaming lies and slander about the way Christ Church handled the abuse and everything that followed. Only the thing is, I’m not. I desire change, not vengeance. I’m not even worried about getting some personal apology from the church for the pain inflicted on me. Is a mass apology warranted? Absolutely. Are drastic changes in the way the church at large handles sexual abuse called for? Most definitely. But my own personal agenda actually has very little to do with me and everything to do with other innocent women and children in the church.

Every aspect of my story is true, insomuch as it is my perception of the way things happened and unfolded. While I’m pretty certain I know exactly what was in the heart of the criminal who took my innocence and broke my spirit, I can’t pretend to know what was in the heart of Doug and the elders when they stood behind him, and I certainly can’t pretend to know the reasoning behind leaving me out in the cold with no support, no love, compassion, or empathy, not even so much as a consoling pat on the back for all I’d been through. But I have my own theory.

There’s a couple of ideas about this lack of support I received floating around and I’ve heard them over the years – one of them is that the church leaders didn’t feel they were in a position to reach out to me because my father had expressly told them to stay away from his family and reaching out to me would be disrespecting his position as head of our household, which may be true, except there’s a problem with that theory, one that thickens the plot. In the letter pictured below from Doug Wilson to my father, Doug, writing on behalf of the elders of Christ Church, clearly places a great deal of blame on my father for the abuse I suffered and treats him with a coldness and severity that I find heartbreaking.

I truly cannot image being a father who’d just found out his daughter was horrifically abused for years under his roof and then being told his “sin and folly” of not protecting her is equally as distressing as the sins of the criminal who molested his little girl for years. My father was a destroyed man when I came out about my abuse, and what father wouldn’t be? His tears of sadness and broken-ness went on for years, and still to this day he breaks down on occasion and begs my forgiveness for the hurt I suffered, and I always tell him the same thing: It’s not your fault. Because it wasn’t.

I was taken advantage of by a predator who carefully calculated and carried out his crime and he was good at it. He knew how to not get caught and boy was he a master liar. While he lived with our family we had a joke that Jamin Wight could “Wight Wash” things because he was so skilled at successfully shifting blame away from himself in any given situation. The Prosecuting Attorney on the case stated that based on the psycho-sexual evaluation Jamin completed during his short stay at Cottonwood Prison, he was a ‘textbook pedophile’ and at high risk to re-offend with crimes of violent and sexual nature, which of course he did, not with a child as far as anyone knows but with his (now ex) wife.

How my father could be placed at a similar level of blame to this monster is completely unfathomable to me. My father’s response was shock and injury, and while I know there were many previous instances of him realizing this church was not a place particularly well-versed in exhibiting the love of Christ, I believe this was something of a nail in the coffin for him, as would be expected.

I recently spoke with my father about the details of his additional communication with Doug concerning my abuse and it is true that my father told them to stay away from his family, but not until after he saw the despicable way the situation was being handled. In hindsight, perhaps it’s a good thing I wasn’t much ministered to. I knew I was being blamed for a good deal of the ‘sexual sin’ in my abuse from Jamin (not strictly from Doug but also from many other individuals in the church, mostly men and many of whom I had previously considered to be like older brothers to me, who wrote to the judge citing varying degrees of unladylike behaviors and temptress-like qualities I possessed as a 13 year old girl), and while the damage the deafening silence did to my psyche was extensive, it’s now clear to me they had no idea what they were doing. Not a clue. Doug’s daughter, Rachel, admitted as much when we met for coffee late last year to discuss her father’s involvement and my misgivings. She wasn’t privy to many of the details surrounding the situation but her general impression was that nobody really knew what to do for me.

Considering their utter lack of knowledge in dealing with sexual abuse, I shudder to think of what support would have looked like, had I received any. In all fairness to my father, it seems to me that if the church’s version of ‘support’ for him was any indication of the nature of what might have been extended to me, I’d have told them to stay the hell away, too. Isn’t it plain to see? My father was protecting me from what he perceived as potential further harm. From the beginning, Wilson’s intention was not to support me but rather to deflect any blame or responsibility for what had happened. After all, it wouldn’t look good that a member in good standing with the church and attending Greyfriar’s Seminary (and very close to being placed as a pastor of a congregation, I might add) had abused a young girl for the duration of his studies toward a career in pastoral work. Blame the father, swiftly and disproportionately, and perhaps people would be distracted. Defend the criminal and plead for mercy on his behalf and perhaps his crimes wouldn’t seem quite so horrendous. Believe his cries of repentance, welcome him back into the fold, and everybody goes home happy.

Except the family ripped apart by abuse. Fortunately for Wilson, several problematic members of said family left the church hastily and with gaping wounds, making it that much easier to paint them as impulsive crazies, embittered and wayward, unwilling to stay and talk it out like big kids.

So Doug’s current reasoning of respecting the privacy of church members who have confessed sins to him and confided secrets in him during sessions of pastoral counseling doesn’t hold much water from where I stand, not in this case anyway. Yes, my parent’s marriage crumbled and yes, it was messy and of course it had to do with all the shenanigans surrounding the abuse. But that’s no secret. The relentless shaming and mud-slinging my father experienced afterward that in his own words brought him “to a lower place than any man can go to and still be alive”? That might have been a bit of a secret, but not anymore.

No more lies. No more cover up. No more face-saving. It’s time for the church to admit wrongdoing.

We are all human and we make mistakes and sometimes they’re really big ones that hurt a lot of people, and after that happens it’s time to say ‘I’m sorry’ and figure out how you can do things differently in the future so nobody else gets hurt. That’s how I’d explain it to my children, anyhow. Even they understand how to stand up for the small kid on the playground who can’t defend himself against the bully. That’s what Christ would have done, that’s what the church needs to do.

And while this post is not specifically about how we can do things differently in the future to prevent the rampant sexual abuse that takes place in churches worldwide (that’s a topic for another post altogether) let’s please start by doing one thing: Stop writing letters to the judicial system requesting leniency for and lauding the character of sexual criminals. Resounding support from men in positions of leadership and with good reputations among their followers are bound to have quite an effect on a judge’s opinion of a defendant’s character. Especially when the victims are children and teens scarred by abuse and who cannot yet speak for themselves and adequately tell their own stories. Young people who have been shamed into silence from every direction.

This is where I stand: I am not bitter but I am earnest and unashamed. I have nothing to hide, I have told my story and will continue to do so and not because I love telling it, I hate telling it. Believe me when I say it hurts and it dredges up all kinds of old pains that I would love to be rid of forever, but I have to tell it. Because if there is even the smallest chance that telling my story means another little girl doesn’t have to someday, then I will tell it everyday for the rest of my life.

Here’s the letter from Doug to my father:

Natalie Doug Wilson letter 1
Natalie Doug Wilson letter pedophile

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Important Blog Articles Related to Doug Wilson, Christ Church, and Convicted Pedophiles: Steven Sitler and Jamin Wight


Doug Wilson, Christ Church, Moscow, Pedophile, Steven Sitler, Jamin Wight, Sex Abuse


Note:  This article is a community work in progress.  I’d greatly appreciate your help.

There is a website currently online which has posted the key primary source documentation of sex abuse cases in which Pastor Doug Wilson of Christ Church in Moscow, Idaho has been involved. (  It’s good to have these key documents in one place.

I’d like to compile some of the recent key blog articles which have come out recently. If there is an important comment posted on the blog article, I’d also like to get a copy of that.

If anyone is interested in helping me compile this, please feel free to post the link to the article, and quote the comment (and time stamp) This could be time consuming, but I think it’s important for people searching these cases to have access to important information, especially from those involved in the case, witnesses, whose voices are typically squelched in high-controlling church environments. 

I have started below so you can get the idea of the information important to gather.  Thank you in advance for your help!  ~Julie Anne

Doug Wilson, sex abuse, pedophile, Jamin Wight, Christ Church, Steven Sitler


June 14, 2006

Two Child Molestation Scandals Break Over Moscow’s Christ Church: – This is a very old news article done by a local reporter. She discusses why other media outlets minimized the story as a scandal, but not criminal. Be sure to read the comments from locals who share more added info.

September 4, 2015

[Updated 2] Pedophile Supported by Doug Wilson ‘Allegedly Sexually Abused** a Baby. Christians: There Is No Excuse. This Must Stop! – The Wartburg Watch: Gives background information on the Sitler case and recent developments, including court updates involving quotes from Latah County Prosecuting Attorney Bill Thompson:

“shows (Sitler) has had contact with his child that resulted in actual sexual stimulation”


“In some extent the state’s worst fears appeared to be realized by some of the recent disclosures in the polygraphs” Thompson said.

Pastor Doug Wilson, A Serial Pedophile, and the Real Victims – Spiritual Sounding Board: History of Sitler case, recent court updates, and a look at Katie Sitler’s (Steven’s wife) perspective as a victim who asked trusted a church leader to find an appropriate husband for her. Discusses the life sentence Katie was given when she married Sitler, the betrayal of trust by her church leaders, etc.

September 8, 2015

THE JAMIN C. WIGHT STORY: THE OTHER CHILD MOLESTER IN DOUG WILSON’S CLOSET – Homeschoolers Anonymous: This article gives the history of the Jamin Wight sex abuse case and recent comments by Natalie Rose Greenfield.

September 10, 2015

When Doug Wrote To My Father – Natalie Rose Greenfield – Sex abuse victim, Natalie Rose Greenfield publishes note sent to her father from Doug Wilson on Christ Church letterhead.

The letter on Christ Church stationery – Katie Botkin:  In this article, Katie posts a copy of the letter written by Doug Wilson wrote to Gary, the father of Jamin Wight’s abuse victim 10 years ago. In this letter, Wilson puts responsibility on Katie’s father for her abuse.

September 11, 2015

Doug Wilson’s Failure to Safeguard Children – Mike Sloan and Beth Sloan Hart:  This article takes a look at Doug Wilson’s inappropriate responses the Sitler case both directly with those involved and public responses. The article then gives a plea for pastors to have a better understanding of what to do and how to respond appropriately to sex abuse cases.

Dealing with sexual predators: objections answered… – Bayly Blog

Notable comments:

by Doug Wilson

Joseph, you have changed my mind on at least one point — I was laboring at not interacting with you guys directly because I did not want to give more fodder to our mutual adversaries, and I did not want anyone to think that a fight had broken out between us. But I appreciate how you all have sought to express your love for us and for our work in the midst of this disagreement, as we love you all. And I also realize that you don’t believe that you are undercutting us in the long run. Even if we are initially unhappy with what you say, in the long run you hope that we will see the point of it.

But here is the problem — first in a comment above, and then with what I think is the source confusion for all such comments in your post. Somebody said in the thread above that Steven Sitler re-offended. But there is no reason for saying this. He has not re-offended. That is a factual error that is now in wide circulation, and it is a factual error that is doing real damage to real people in real time. The disagreement before the judge is over whether certain possible indicators are worrisome enough to more strictly define or restrict the terms of Steven’s probation. It is not whether he should go to prison again for a re-offense. A large problem is created when many people are talking about a particular case like this and they don’t have the facts.

Now here is why I think this error is grounded in the reasoning of your post. You write as though we have the definition of sex offender on an on/off switch when what we really have is a very big dimmer switch. There is a category of offender out there that would cause me to amen everything you say above. The fifty-year old creeper hanging around playgrounds for thirty years is an easy case. There are cases where I would absolutely refuse to perform a wedding. But there is also a thirteen-year-old boy who got his sister to lift her shirt for him three times. Let us postulate that this is all that happened, no more than that. Now can this boy marry? His sin was serial. It was incestuous in spirit. It was definitely sexual. It was truly sinful.

The problem is that when you use words like predator, grooming, serial, and the like, you have to define your terms and establish the line between those definitions and cases which are similar, but not the same.

Now let us agree — as I assume we would — on two cases on either end of this dimmer switch. Nobody on your session or ours would perform a wedding on one end, and everybody would on the other. Factors to include would be age at the time of the offense, the number of victims, the heinousness of the sexual violation, time clean since repentance, etc. There is a line somewhere in between where we would all have to make a judgment call, and we might differ about that call. But when we differed, we would all agree on where the line was precisely, and we would know the nature of our disagreement. We would likely be able to come to that agreement because we would be talking about a hypothetical case, with the stipulated facts equally understood by both sides of the question.

But in the Steven Sitler case, I don’t think you all have your facts right. I believe that you all, if you were confronted with an identical case, would do something very much like what we have done. You are saying you wouldn’t, but I don’t think that is true.

When you say you wouldn’t perform a wedding that had 7x troublesome factors in it, one kind of disagreement would be if we said that we would totally do a 7x wedding. But a different kind of disagreement — the kind we are currently in — is a difference where you say you couldn’t see doing a 7x wedding, and we say that we couldn’t either, but that this is a 4x case.

When Bayly Blog first published a very nice statement of support for us, that was great. You weren’t saying that you knew the case, or the details of the case. You were saying you knew us. Such deference is an orderly and biblical way of proceeding. But when you reversed course and differed with our handling of this particular case, this can no longer be a matter of deference. Now you have to be in possession of the facts. You say this was a 7x, we were on the scene and say it was a 4x. When that kind of situation arises, it is the facts that matter. When we are discussing a hypothetical, it is the reasoning that matters, and we have no advantage over you. When we come to a particular case, the facts matter very much, and we have a great advantage over you. Why? We have the facts. We were there. We lived through it. We are up to speed.

So then, I would want to start asking you questions. What is the name of the judge, and was it the same judge who first sentenced Steven? Why didn’t the other victims testify? After he was first busted, how many of the victims were revealed by Steven, and how many came forward themselves? Under the terms of his probation, how often does Steven have to take a polygraph test? What are the terms of his probation? When did his offenses first begin and under what conditions? Did Steven in fact re-offend? What do these periodic uproars do to the victims and their families? I could go on for quite a while, but you get the drift. Now let us assume the possibility that these and other such questions could move the 7x in your mind down to a 5x. Is that possible? Could we conceivably find ourselves in a 5x/4x disagreement?

If that is possible, and I think that it manifestly is, then I would question the wisdom of publicly reversing course the way you did. As Keith pointed out above, it has provided a goodly amount of ammo for use against us. We are now seeing people praise Bayly Blog to the skies, people who would ordinarily rather be dead in a ditch than do that. Why? Because it harms us.

So there it is. We wouldn’t mind a necessary rebuke, even in the midst of battle, if we had erred grievously and were about to commit a disastrous mistake. And I know that you thought that this is what you were doing. But it wasn’t. And that means that we have to say something to you all about it, even in the midst of battle.

We love you guys. But because we all care about such things, I say this in the manliest spirit possible.

The Wittenburg door – By Katie Botkin: Katie questions if Doug Wilson has ever publicly apologized for anything as he expects others to do.

Key paragraph:

So, given all of this: is Wilson the kind of demigod who actually never does anything wrong, or is he the kind of demigod who deflects his wrongdoing, bad decisions and poor pastoral choices onto other people and other situations?

September 12, 2015

On Rape – Articles points out the glaring discrepancies on the word rape. Public response on the case on Twitter has claimed Sitler raped his victim. Wilson claims this is untrue, yet using his own definition from 2012, it’s very clear that Sitler did indeed rape his victim.

An Open Letter To Doug Wilson Who Is Yet Again Seeking To Impose Harm Upon The Innocent – joypeacehope: Written by Gary Greenfield, father of sex abuse victim, Natalie Rose Greenfield, discussing how the church harmed his marriage:

Meeting with Doug and Peter which I did solely to pacify my wife to try to mend what was quickly falling apart was a last ditch effort out of desperation to try to win my wife back and fix the brokenness. Ultimately meeting with Doug and Peter did just the opposite in that they securely hammered the final nails into the coffin suffocating what life was left in our marriage.


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Doug Wilson’s Failure to Safeguard Children


Mike Sloan and Beth Hart on Sex Abuse, Pedophiles, Church Response, Doug Wilson, Steven Sitler

This is a fantastic article written by Pastor Mike Sloan and his sister, Beth Sloan Hart. Mike is a PCA (Presbyterian Church in America) pastor, and Beth’s husband is also a PCA pastor. They are advocates for victims of sexual abuse and have written Faithful Protection: Developing Your Church’s Child Protection Plan and other articles and work to help the church understand more about sex abuse and how to respond appropriately. This article is cross posted by permission and was originally published here. I highly recommend bookmarking this article. We see so much confusion on what repentance looks like and how to treat a pedophile. There is much wisdom here, backed with Scripture.

Thank you, Mike and Beth!  ~ Julie Anne

Doug Wilson’s Failure to Safeguard Children

by Mike Sloan and Beth Hart



[Authors’ Note: Even before we wrote this article, ink has been spilled over the language “sexual stimulation” with regard to Sitler’s interaction with his baby. These words could be taken to imply molestation or rape, but not necessarily, and not in our opinion given the current evidence. It seems what was intended is that Sitler was himself sexually stimulated by thinking about his baby. And yet we stand by our labeling this “alleged sexual abuse”. It stands to reason that this was more than simply a fleeting temptation given the state’s response. It seems most likely they were an intentional indulgence by Sitler. So while this is not a criminal act in the state of Idaho, by a Christian moral standard this is horrific child sexual abuse, as Sitler was allegedly using thoughts of his own baby to gratify himself sexually. Using a baby as an object in this way is a disturbing act of abuse. Whatever the case this has no bearing on the truth that Sitler should be no where near any child, even his own.]

Doug Wilson’s leadership decisions directly led to the endangerment and alleged sexual abuse of a baby. In August, 2015, the baby’s father, a convicted sex offender and clinically diagnosed pedophile, Steven Sitler, failed a polygraph that revealed “heinous” violations of his probation with regard to his own infant child such that the Idaho Department of Correction ordered him to have no contact with the baby.

Wilson has come under criticism as he provided pastoral care for Sitler who is a member of Wilson’s church. Why should Wilson suffer criticism when Sitler is the offender? The criticism has merit because abuse happens through the actions of abusers as well as through the negligent actions of adults who do not properly safeguard children.

In three critical arenas, Doug Wilson acted irresponsibly, and his actions allowed a serial pedophile access to a vulnerable baby. This access led to preventable endangerment wherein Sitler used his baby for “sexual stimulation.” In the first arena, Wilson advocated for limited legal accountability for Sitler’s crimes when he was originally tried and convicted in 2005. In the second arena, Wilson officiated Sitler’s ill-advised wedding in 2011. In the third arena, Wilson’s public responses to Sitler’s most recent legal trouble reveal his teachings about pedophilia, accountability, child protection, and grace that create a culture where children are exposed instead of protected.

Despite Wilson’s dereliction of pastoral duty, the evangelical and Reformed church community remains silent on this issue of child sexual abuse. Silence in the face of child sexual abuse only helps to maintain the status quo, a status quo that led to a pedophile’s easy access to a vulnerable baby.

Arena #1: Wilson Advocates for “Measured and Limited” Legal Accountability

Two measures of genuine repentance for pedophiles is their awareness of the damage their actions cause and their ability to own full accountability for that destruction. Offenders typically only confess when they get caught, like Sitler. When pedophiles are caught (as opposed to them proactively seeking help before they have offended), they display an extreme lack of awareness about how their attitudes and actions bring incredible harm, and their repentance must be judged with great care and wisdom. Offenders are masters of deception and manipulation, often saying what people want to hear so that they attract attention and compassion toward themselves and away from their victims.

Moreover, regardless of anyone’s judgment about their repentance, people who have abused a child show they are capable of harming children and must never be allowed access to children again. Never. Full stop. Not once. No exceptions. Children are too vulnerable, and pedophilia is too serious a crime for exceptions. There are no measures too drastic in order to keep a child from the evil of sexual abuse. Repentant offenders will realize their danger and will insist on strict accountability, including no access to children. Sitler originally received a fair and just life sentence for his crimes.

In 2005, as Sitler was being sentenced, Wilson wrote the judgeasking for leniency in the realm of civil penalties, arguing that he believed Sitler was genuinely repentant. Among Wilson’s evidence for this assertion was Sitler’s willingness to sit through a handful of sessions with Wilson, including the completion of assignments (which included reading books). Wilson also assessed that Sitler was “completely open and honest” with him and that Sitler was growing in his awareness of his problem. In other words, Sitler confessed to certain wrongs, and Wilson believed that this confession was the whole story, demonstrating Sitler’s change of heart.

Wilson, in the letter, does not explicitly factor into his assessment how Sitler was caught in his crimes. Sitler, nonetheless, has been deceiving people since he was a young man, serially abusing children (a court document filed by his defense references Sitler’s“volume of offenses over the years”). With training, Wilson would know that offenders typically only admit to as little of their crimes as possible. Offenders also know the language that pastors expect to hear. No doubt Wilson would agree that repentance is more than words, and yet, in this case, he seems to have accepted these few talks with Sitler as establishing enough repentance to advocate for “measured and limited” punishment. The Bible is clear that, at best, words are only the beginning of repentance, and that repentance is a heart change that must bear fruit over time in actions (Luke 3:8-14). In fact, a repentant pedophile would not argue for a limited punishment, but instead, accept the full legal consequences of the crimes.

Doug Wilson has no professional licensing or accreditation in treatment for sexual offenders. Wilson founded a church, denomination, college, and minister training school, but evaluating a pedophile’s repentance is beyond his expertise. The professional evaluation of Sitler is that he is a “high risk” offender. A few sessions of pastoral counseling with a high risk offender should not be used to judge the genuineness of repentance. Sitler’s subsequentviolations of his probation and failed polygraphs demonstrate how Wilson prematurely judged Sitler.

With more training in the dynamics of abuse as well as a dose of humility, Sitler could still be in jail instead of free to harm children. With training in the dynamics of child sexual abuse or consultations with an expert, Wilson could have recognized that Sitler was not demonstrating actual repentance, a costly failure on Wilson’s part. Pastors have a responsibility to protect the sheep in their flocks from dangerous wolves (Ez 34; Acts 20). The current publicity surrounding abuse and abuse dynamics makes it impossible for pastors to claim the excuse of ignorance. This is not just a mistake or oversight, but a grave dereliction of pastoral responsibility.

In 2005, excellent resources were available to understand from experts how predators deceive and how we can see through their deception and manipulation. Anna Salter, in her book, Predators, shows that 93% of convicted offenders identify as religious. Sexual offenders are common in the Christian environment because in churches they typically find easy targets. Offenders groom not only their victims, but their churches to see them as caring people, masking their true agenda. Christians tend to just trust that the people around them are wonderful people (because most of the time they are!). At the same time, this environment is also a recipe for abuse if Christians are not trained and following best practices in child protection.

Without informed training, pastors will not recognize pedophiles’ false repentance. The fruit of Sitler’s repentance is absent. Within months, the bad fruit in his heart resurfaced, including violating his probation and, most disturbingly, demonstrating the classic offender attitude of hubris and entitlement: “Mr. Sitler continues to do things his way, and continues to make disclosures and still fails the polygraphs, to which leaves one to think of how much he is not disclosing (emphasis added).” Despite these latest reports of Sitler’s deception and “heinous” violations, Wilson still holds on to the notion that Sitler is repentant as of Saturday, September 5, defending himself and Sitler, saying, “since Steven’s conviction and conditional release from prison and jail, Steven, as a penitent Christian, has been welcome at Christ Church, and has worshiped regularly with us since that time.”

Wilson should never have advocated for leniency because there is no solid foundation to claim Sitler is repenting. Advocating for a “measured and limited” civil penalty does not protect children in the community or help pedophiles walk in repentance.

Arena #2: Wilson Officiates Sitler’s Wedding

Before Sitler’s wedding in 2011, the Idaho Department of Correction did not support this marriage, and Sitler’s probation officer testifiedin court that if Sitler’s marriage produced children, he should be forced to live separately from his children. Although the judge allowed the marriage to go forward, this was against the advice of the Idaho Department of Correction. The Department of Correction knew that having Sitler in the home with his own child would pose a danger to the child. The representative from the Department of Correction correctly pointed out that if Sitler lived in the same home as his future child, there would be times when Sitler was unchaperoned around the child because his wife would have to sleep. Wilson had the opportunity to intervene on behalf of any future little children’s safety. Instead, he officiated the wedding.

As a pastor, Doug Wilson had a moral obligation to go above and beyond the protection that the state can provide. Despite the judge’s ruling, Wilson must answer to Jesus through whom God will judge the world, and who speaks strongly against anyone who harms a child, saying, “whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea” (Matt 18:6). In these words, Jesus acknowledges the inherent danger of anyone who has abused a child and the urgent need to guard children against these abusers through physical and permanent separation between the abuser and any child. Jesus never minimizes the danger an abuser is to children or risks exposing children to harm.

Jesus shows the church what grace looks like when responding to child abuse: children take priority. Grace rescues the vulnerable and oppressed (Ps 82:1-4). The church must immediately and permanently remove access to children for anyone who has abused a child.The church must diligently guard potential victims by ensuring that people who harm children never have access to children again.Such actions display God’s grace and kindness. The gospel of grace leads Christians to defend sheep from wolves.

If an admitted and diagnosed serial pedophile like Sitler is walking in repentance, he would demonstrate that repentance by renouncing the possibility of having children and thus marriage. Instead, Sitler proposed on the second date to his future wife and, according to the Department of Corrections, Sitler said having children was very important to his religion. Wilson, as a spiritual authority in Sitler’s life, should have intervened to hold Sitler accountable to his repentance. The most loving and gracious action toward Sitler himself would have been to seek to stop the marriage so Sitler would not be put in the potential position of harming another child. Wilson had a moral obligation to intervene for future victims and Sitler, but he did not.

Arena #3: Wilson Responds Publicly

Wilson’s public responses have displayed no awareness of the damage his leadership has caused victims. In “An Open Letter from Christ Church on Steven Sitler,” Wilson places 100 percent of the blame for the situation upon Sitler’s shoulders. No doubt Sitler bears full responsibility for his actions, but Wilson played a key role in exposing children to a dangerous man. In the statement, Wilson denies the risk Sitler poses to his own child, and the part he has played in orchestrating the risk, saying, “Our ministry to Steven, in other words, has not been conducted at the expense of any children in our church community, or in a way that puts any of them at risk.” However, the church and Wilson have put Sitler’s baby at risk, so much so that Sitler has been ordered not to have any contact with his son until reliable chaperones can be secured. Then, moving forward, this child can only have contact with his father under a chaperone’s direct line of sight. This scenario is the very definition of high-risk as children cannot protect themselves from predators. Instead, they rely upon the adults in their lives to advocate for their safety. Wilson has been in a position to advocate for this baby’s safety but has not. It is also been noted that Wilson failed to inform his congregation in a timely fashion that Sitler was a danger to their children. Without raising any suspicion, Sitler could have easily gained access to their children because of Wilson’s failure to notify them. Wilson’s actions have put children at risk.

Wilson continues to defend himself by saying it is the church’s job to minister to sinners. Wilson writes, “the task of ministering to broken people is one of the central glories of the Christian church. For us, there are two causes of rejoicing in this. The first is that Christ came into the world for the sake of the screwed-up people.” However, not all sins have equal repercussions in this present world. A pedophile in the church is best described as a wolf in sheep’s clothing. People who sexually abuse children prey upon vulnerable lambs as wolves do. If the church treats pedophiles like any other Christian who struggles with any other sin, then it will sacrifice all its precious little lambs to the wolf. The church must not minister to wolves at the expense of the sheep. Children pay the cost when leaders do not respond appropriately to pedophiles. Pastors commonly mistake child sexual abuse as just another sin. Doing so removes the urgency from proactive child protection and demands a high cost in children’s lives.

Furthermore, Wilson’s responses are a failure of empathy. In the five public statements (statement 1, statement 2, statement 3,statement 4, statement 5) Wilson has issued in the past few days, never does he mention sorrow for this vulnerable baby who has been the victim of his pedophile father’s “heinous” behavior. Instead, Wilson’s public statements argue that he is one of the victims, saying, “This is because he [Sitler] provides an easy way for enemies of our ministry to attack us.” Instead of showing empathy for the victim, Wilson claims persecution. He sees himself as a victim. Such a posture is hurtful to true victims and discourages true victims from coming forward.

It needs to be investigated whether other victims have not come forward in the Sitler case or others, because Doug Wilson has blamed victims (for example here, here, and here), and supported offenders in court (see public testimony here). Also discouraging victims from coming forward is Wilson’s minimization of Sitler’s crimes as only one count of lewd conduct: “The twittermob has been circulating numerous untruths, among them that Steven Sitler is a child rapist. He was actually convicted of one count of Lewd Conduct with a Minor under 16 years of age (Idaho Code 18-1508).” This is an inexcusable minimization of child sexual abuse. You can read the awful reality of what constitutes Lewd Conduct with a Minor in Idaho here. You can also read an account of a victim’s family in court records describing how Sitler lured their two year old into an isolated situation and forced the toddler to kiss his erect penis.

Without proactive leadership on child protection, kids in any setting are vulnerable. Leaders must speak strongly on behalf of victims. Ecclesiastes 4:1 captures the dynamic well, “Again I saw all the oppressions that are done under the sun. And behold, the tears of the oppressed, and they had no one to comfort them! On the side of their oppressors there was power, and there was no one to comfort them.” Doug Wilson’s public statements defend himself; they fortress his power instead of humbling owning his errors, learning from experts in the field, and making changes for the future. When shepherds use their power to protect themselves, sheep are exposed.

Child sexual abuse hides in an environment of silence, shame, and fear. When leaders do not speak out and name these sins, offenders easily find victims, and most often children suffer in silence. Leadership must combat the silence, shame, and fear with vocal advocacy for safeguarding children and vocal support for victims.Wilson has failed to lead his people to this place of safety. Wilson helped create and lead this culture. He must own up to its failures and resolve to help change it.

A Plea to Leaders in the Reformed Community

As dismaying as Wilson’s actions have been, perhaps even more upsetting has been the silence from the Reformed corner of the evangelical church. There has been no outcry, no call of urgency for child protection, and no lamenting over yet another victim of preventable abuse. There are no voices taking up the cause of the voiceless (Prov 31:8-9). There are no rescuers to deliver the weak and afflicted from the hand of the wicked (Ps 82:1-4). There are no comforters for the oppressed. The oppressors have power, but victims have only their tears (Eccl 4:1). Victims in our churches are still waiting for those with power and influence in the Reformed corner of the church to come in on the side of the vulnerable and the oppressed.

Children would be spared the horrors of child sexual abuse if leaders would use their voice to call for child protection in our churches with urgency. Even though the powerful are not themselves at risk, are we willing to look beyond our own needs to the needs of others, even the little lambs that Jesus places at the center of his Kingdom (Phil 2:4; Mark 10:13-14)? Where are the voices of the leaders of Reformed churches and Reformed networks who can gain a hearing from Doug Wilson and influence thousands of other pastors in their denominations and circles of influence? Where are the voices from The Gospel Coalition? Crossway, why are you giving a voice to a man who will not use his voice for voiceless? Who is asking Wilson, “Where is your grieving heart for this baby and the other victims?What child protection training are you putting in place or experts are you consulting so this does not happen again?”

God calls all of us to use our power to protect the weak and asks us, “Is this not what it means to know me?” (Ps 82:1-4; Jer 22:9). No matter how small the church we can choose to safeguard children. There is a silent epidemic of child sexual abuse in the church and those sitting in darkness are waiting for leaders with a voice to speak for them. How long will they wait?

Debriefing and Processing Recent Church Scandals


The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. Psalms 18:2



My place of respite.


These last few weeks with never-ending stories of pastors mishandling sex abuse, celebrity pastor behaving inappropriately and then blaming wife, celebrity Christian caught on the Ashley Madison site, Patriarchy and women who are trapped in a system, has gotten me emotionally drained. I find myself feeling fatigued, needing more sleep, down, and sometimes weepy.

I want to scream, I want to drive to Moscow, Idaho and rescue Katie Sitler. I want to call Anna Duggar and tell her it’s okay to leave Josh. I want to rescue the victims and show them there is another way, that not all Christians treat women like this.

I’ve heard from some of you who are trying to make sense of these troubling church scandals, so I’m opening up this post for that purpose.

How are you doing?  How are these stories affecting you?


Pastor Doug Wilson Has Been Involved in Another Disturbing Pedophile Case: Jamin Wight

Pastor Doug Wilson, pedophile Jamin Wight, and Christ Church

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Jamin C. Wight and Doug Wilson

Please note:  the following article was written by R. L. Stollar, of Homeschoolers Anonymous and posted here. Ryan has given me permission to cross-post it at SSB.  Thanks, Ryan!

Pastor Doug Wilson Has Been Involved in Another Disturbing Pedophile Case: Jamin Wight

Content warning: sexual abuse of children, physical and sexual abuse of an animal.

Over the last few days, Doug Wilson and Christ Church have received mounting attention and criticism over the case of Steven Sitler. Sitler, a homeschool alumnus who attended New Saint Andrews College as a student and Christ Church as a parishioner, was sentenced to life on September 26, 2005 for molesting children. Sitler had a long history of sexually abusing and preying on numerous young children, allegedly including children at R.C. Sproul Jr.’s Highlands Study Center in 2003. You can read a comprehensive timeline of events and evidential documentation here, though be warned that the court documents contain detailed descriptions of child sexual abuse.

Despite Sitler’s crimes, Doug Wilson — who served as Sitler’s counselor and petitioned Sitler’s judge for “measured and limited” civil penalties — continued to welcome Sitler in his church after his sentencing. Furthermore, in spite of Wilson becoming aware of Sitler’s history of sexual predation on March 11, 2005, it was not until eight months later, in November, that Wilson informed the leaders of Christ Church about Sitler’s crimes, and not until nine months later in December that he informed the families of Christ Church in general.

On May 8, 2007, Sitler was released on probation. A mere one month later, Sitler was arrested again for violating his parole due to using binoculars to spy through an underage girl’s bedroom window. He was again released on probation. Four years later, Doug officiated a wedding between Sitler and a young woman in their community, even though the two became engaged after only their second date. Wilson apparently considered it prudent to bless the union between a serial child molester and a young woman who barely knew a serial child predator — and against the wisdom of a court judge, who determined that it would not be wise for Sitler to “reside with his wife and child in the future if in fact they have children.”  Nonetheless, Sitler and his new wife became pregnant and had a child, a young boy.

Tragically, Sitler’s situation resurfaced this last week and the concerns of that judge appear newly justified. A news report by the Moscow-Pullman Daily News revealed that Sitler cannot have unchaperoned contact with his infant child. This is because of new disclosures that, when Sitler had contact with his son, “actual sexual stimulation” occurred. From the Moscow-Pullman Daily News:

A Latah County 2nd District Court judge ordered Tuesday that a convicted sex offender, Steven Sitler, must continue to have an approved chaperone present, within his direct line of sight, at all times he is around his infant child in the wake of new disclosures of “contact resulting in actual sexual stimulation.” …The incidents in question occurred while Sitler was chaperoned. “In some extent the state’s worst fears appeared to be realized by some of the recent disclosures in the polygraphs,” Thompson said. “The actions that he has engaged in and disclosed are a compelling basis that he cannot have anything close to a normal parental relationship at this time with his child,” Thompson said. “Everybody would love for Mr. Sitler to become a normal person, but the fact is he is not. He is a serial child sexual abuser.

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This new information has rightly brought revived attention to the role Doug Wilson and Christ Church played in handling revelations of child molestation within their community. Everyone from GRACE’s Boz Tchividjian to Spiritual Sounding Board’s Julie Anne Smith to Love Joy Feminism’s Libby Anne has raised important points and questions concerning Wilson and Christ Church’s severe and horrific mishandling of abuse (as well as continued refusal to own up to their mistakes). However, while it is important that we revisit and bring new light to the case of Steven Sitler, it also important that we shine new light on a less-known child molester who was similarly aided and abetted by Doug Wilson, Christ Church, and New Saint Andrews College: Jamin C. Wight. This is particularly necessary because one of the Wight’s victims is now an adult and has spoken out publicly about her abuse and how cruelly Wilson and his community treated her as a victim and survivor.

Like Sitler, Jamin C. Wight was a homeschool alumnus. Wight was attending Greyfriars Hall, a ministerial training program founded by Doug Wilson that, according to the program’s website, “consists of approximately three years of study with two colloquia a year under the oversight of the board of elders of Christ Church.” Between the years of 2000 and 2003, Wight — who was 24 years old at the time — groomed and sexually abused a young girl who was only 13 years old when the abuse began. (Wight was only charged for abuse that occurred over 1 year, from 2001 to 2002, but the abuse survivor today says the abuse actually happened over a span of 3 years, from the time she was 13 until she was 16.) Like Wight, the 13 year old girl was also homeschooled. Wight was a boarder at the home where the girl lived, the home being part of Wilson’s student boarding network among Christ Church’s parishioners.

The abuse wrecked havoc on the abused girl. She began experiencing insomnia, stomach ulcers, and panic attacks; she suffered serious behavioral problems, mood swings, and painful flashbacks. In 2004, when she was 17 years old, she confided in a friend about the abuse. That friend convinced her to go to her parents and the police and press charges. This began a long and difficult process for the abuse survivor, a process which reached fruition on August 17, 2005. On that day, after receiving word of the abuse, the girl’s mother filed a criminal complaint against Wight. A warrant for Wight’s arrest was issued the next day. On August 24, 2005, a search warrant was issued the Latah County, Idaho district court for Wight’s personal possessions that provided evidence of the abuse. Court documents show that on October 28, 2005, Wight was arraigned and informed that three charges were being brought against him, one count of Sex Abuse Against a Child and two counts of Lewd Conduct With a Child Under Sixteen Years of Age. Wight pled not guilty to all three charges. Then on May 12, 2006, Wight’s charges were reduced to a Felony Offense of Injury to a Child. Wight pled guilty to that much-reduced charge and was able to made a deal such that he only had to serve 4-6 months in the North Idaho Correctional Institution.

During his court hearings, documents reveal that Wight and his legal team attempted to argue that the 13-year-old girl he had groomed and abused had consented to their sexual activities. Wight also tried to publicly make a case that a conviction for his crimes would put a damper on his plans to become a Christian youth minister. The prosecuting attorney had to file motions to prohibit both of those lines of argumentation.

Joan Opry, a Moscow, Idaho-based reporter for the digital newspaper New West, attended the sentencing hearing. Opry reports that, “The judge spoke at some length about the immaturity of many of the home-schooled young men of his professional acquaintance — men in the loosest sense of the term. Men in age only.” This remark by the judge has more chilling implications, as Wight’s victim, now an adult survivor, puts the remark in a different context:

Sadly, my story did not have a just ending. My abuser, who was originally charged on 3 counts of “child sexual abuse”, “lewd and lascivious acts”, and “forced sexual contact”, was convicted of “injury to child”- the same term that would have been used had he slapped a child on Main Street. We were encouraged to go to mediation rather than to trial, and at the last minute the visiting judge decided the sentence/label of ‘sexual offender’ was too harsh. He equated what had happened to a “homeschool teenage love affair”, despite the fact that my abuser was 10 years older than me. As a result, rather than being labeled as a sex offender (which was the only outcome I desired), his charge was lowered and he was sentenced to 4 months in Cottonwood prison and a few years on probation (which he was released from early a few months ago).

Court documents show that both Doug Wilson and Peter Leithart, New Saint Andrews College’s Dean of Graduate Studies and writer for First Things, were aware of Wight’s crimes no later than August 2005. At the time of the crimes as well as the court hearings, the victim and her family were members of Wilson’s church Christ Church and Wight was a member “in good standing” at Leithart’s church, Trinity Reformed Church. (Yes, even after Wight’s crimes were made public, Wight continued to be “in good standing” at Leithart’s church.) Yet it was not until November or December (at least two months later regarding Wight and eight months later regarding Sitler) that Wilson alerted his congregation about the predators in their midst. Furthermore, court documents also reveal that Wilson and Leithart fought to keep their conversation with Wight about his crimes out of the court records. This is perfect example of what not to do, as Boz Tchividjian points out:

A church that cares will inform its members of the allegations knowing that sexual offenders often have many victims. It will also encourage them to immediately report any suspected abuse to the police. A church that cares will not limit its efforts to only current members. It will reach out to those who previously attended the church and had interactions with the perpetrator and may have been targeted for abuse. A church that cares will not sleep until each and every person victimized by the offender has been found.

In the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC)’s October 19, 2006 Intelligence Report on Doug Wilson and Steve Sitler, entitled “Idaho Pastor a Hard-Liner, With an Exception or Two,” Wight’s case makes a brief appearance. In that article, after describing Wilson’s mishandling of Sitler’s case, SPLC mentions an anonymous father and daughter and the abuse they experienced and how Wilson also mishandled their case:

Five months after Sitler’s confession, another man who had been boarded by a Christ Church family while he studied to become a minister there was arrested and ultimately pleaded guilty to lewd conduct with an underage girl. When details of the matter came up on a local blog run by a disgruntled Wilson follower, part of the pastor’s response was to liken the blogger to “a sucking chest wound.”

The father of the girl in the second incident told the Intelligence Report that church officials tried to keep that quiet as well. At one point, he said, they threatened to bring him under church discipline for failing to protect his daughter. “It would be like me getting robbed and the police coming over and arresting me because I didn’t have five locks on the door, only one,” he said. “It was just bizarre.”

After SPLC wrote about the Wight case, Wilson took to his blog one month later on September 19, 2006, to publicly attack the father of the abused child. Wilson claimed the father was “neglecting” his daughter because the father dared to make public Wilson’s mishandling of Wight’s abuse:

Let’s just say that I have never seen quite so striking an example of a father neglecting his daughter. But this is not one that you have to take my word for. Just look at the previous paragraph. This is a father who was willing to talk to Intelligence Report about this particular incident because he doesn’t believe his daughter has been through enough. And the ghouls at SPLC were willing to print it.

Fortunately, we can easily resolve this question — was the victim’s father or pastor more neglectful? — because the daughter has publicly spoken up about her abuse. And her account is chilling proof that Wilson, not her father, is the one who made truly horrific errors.

The young girl groomed and sexually abused by Jamin C. Wight is now an adult. As an adult, she began publicly blogging under the name Natalie Rose in 2010 about Wight’s abuse and Wilson’s mishandling of that abuse. Her first post was on July 29, 2010. Rose writes,

I was molested as a young teen. A man living under my parent’s roof, paying his rent by helping with the remodeling of our home, in training at Greyfriar’s Seminary to become a pastor, groomed me, sexually abused me, and molested me from the time I was 13 until I was 16 years old. He was 10 years older than me. A true monster; I was made to feel worthless, as though no one but he would ever love me… I was forced into sexual acts time and time again that no young girl should ever be subjected to.

Rose began to break free from Wight’s grip when she confided in a friend about the abuse. Rose explains that,

When I was 17 years old, a friend whom I had confided in (and who I am forever grateful to) convinced me to go to the police and press charges against my abuser. After much persuasion from her, I went to my parents and to the police. 

Tragically, while Rose received the support of her family, she received little support from her pastor and church: Doug Wilson and Christ Church. In fact, the actions taken by Wilson and his church only added salt to the wound, as they chose to abandon Rose and her family and instead stand by Wight. According to Rose,

The process that followed was long, painful, traumatic and awful. During this time, I was offered little to no support from the church I attended, in fact, on the day of the sentencing my former pastor and my abuser’s pastor sat on *his* side of the courtroom, successfully compounding my own feelings of guilt and shame. I felt terribly alienated and many times regretted [ever] saying anything about the abuse. Sadly, my story did not have a just ending. My abuser, who was originally charged on 3 counts of “child sexual abuse”, “lewd and lascivious acts”, and “forced sexual contact”, was convicted of “injury to child”- the same term that would have been used had he slapped a child on Main Street. We were encouraged to go to mediation rather than to trial, and at the last-minute the visiting judge decided the sentence/label of ‘sexual offender’ was too harsh [emphasis added].

Yes, you read that right. The child abuse survivor’s pastor, Doug Wilson, sat on her abuser’s side of the courtroom during the trial. And Wight’s pastor, Peter Leithart, similarly joined the abuser’s side. I cannot think of a better example of what GRACE’s Boz Tchividjian himself experienced as a sex abuse prosector as described in Kathryn Joyce’s American Prospect article, “The Next Christian Sex-Abuse Scandal”:

“When Tchividjian requested to take on all the district’s child sex-abuse cases, the other prosecutors happily obliged. In time, he established a sex-crimes unit that handled hundreds of cases over eight years. All too often, he says, a pastor would come to court in a supportive role, almost always sitting on the perpetrator’s side of the aisle, not the victim’s. The Wisconsin case made Tchividjian think back on those pastors. He began to realize that he had a calling of his own: to teach the Protestant church to be part of the solution, instead of part of the problem.”

But Wilson, Christ Church, Leithart, and Trinity Reformed Church didn’t just sit on Wight’s side. They also allowed him to remain in good standing at and continue to attend church. This understandably forced Rose (as well as her father) to feel she had to leave. Rose tells Homeschoolers Anonymous in a comment that, “My father left the church after everything that had happened. I also left. My mother and younger sister are still active members of the Christ Church.” Despite her mother and sister staying, Rose says that she enjoys “a full and loving relationship with both of them.”

Furthermore, Wilson and Christ Church believed that Rose was just as much at fault for the sexual relationship as Wight (they believed Rose, at 13 years old, consented to the relationship). They consequently placed Rose under church discipline. Wilson emailed Rose and said he would have to withhold communion from her until she meet with the church elders to discuss why she left the church. However, as Rose tells Homeschoolers Anonymous in a comment, “I wouldn’t do so. I was so traumatized and averse to the idea of interacting with the leaders of the church I don’t even think I responded to any of his emails.”

Meanwhile, since Wight “repented,” he was welcome with open arms. Rose writes,

Rather than being labeled as a sex offender (which was the only outcome I desired), his charge was lowered and he was sentenced to 4 months in Cottonwood prison and a few years on probation (which he was released from early a few months ago). After serving his sentence he was free to go. Free to live and roam wherever he pleased, which just so happened to be right back to Moscow, back to his lovely old church, back to MY town, where he now lives a normal life, owns his own construction company, and eats at his favorite downtown restaurants… Now I see him once every week or two and though I no longer attend the church in which it all took place, many of the friends I still associate are friends with he and his family. While on facebook today I received an invitation to attend the baptism celebration for his most recent child. Years ago, I received letters from the church after I left telling me I was under church discipline and could no longer take communion there, meanwhile my abuser was welcomed back into the fold with open, loving arms…And people wonder why I left.

In the decade since Wight abused Rose, Wight has run into trouble with both his church as well as the law numerous more times. In 2013 Rose wrote that,

The criminal [Wight] is now under church discipline for abusing his wife and children. I’ve also recently found out the girl to whom he was engaged when I went to the police about the abuse (2 years after the abuse ended, right before I turned 18), was also abused by him for the duration of their relationship, which ended promptly after I went to the authorities. Who knows who else he’s abused in his life. I once watched him hold a dog by the neck and smash its head repeatedly against a concrete wall because it didn’t lie down when he commanded it. Minutes later he embraced the dog and madly licked its mouth and tongue.

Katie Botkin, cousin to Geoffrey Botkin’s famous “stay-at-home” daughters Anna Sofia and Elizabeth, also makes reference to Wight’s later crimes:

Doug Wilson’s denial of the realities that made such a situation possible [another Christian Patriarchy and homeschooling advocate, Doug Phillips, sexually assaulting his nanny, Lourdes Torres-Manteufel] only ensures that such things will continue to happen, perhaps even in his own community. They already have, of course. I’m thinking specifically of the case where a young teenage girl was molested, and Wilson saw fit to accept the abuser’s “repentance,” and refused the girl communion because, naturally, she wasn’t a victim either; she was a fornicator, and her refusal to admit to such a charge meant she was unrepentant. Unshockingly to probably everyone but Doug Wilson and those who think like him, the same abuser, who for a long time was a member in good standing at Wilson’s church, has now been charged with various domestic violence suits in Latah County, and his own children are being sheltered from him by the courts [emphasis added].

In light of these recent revelations, Rose reminds readers that these later crimes could have been prevented. If Wilson and his church had not thrown her and her family out of fellowship, if Leithart and his church had listened to her cries and warnings, these other victims could have been protected. Rose writes,

I think this might be the part where I say – I told you so. And not to the innocent individuals who trusted and were consequently in a position to be harmed by the criminal, but to those who I so desperately reached out to, those who I begged to protect others from the horrors I suffered, those who told me it was my fault for not saying no, or my father’s fault for not knowing better, or my mother’s fault for not teaching me to be more ladylike. To those who wrote letters to the judge presiding over the case heralding the character of the criminal and requesting leniency in the sentencing, to those who wrote letters on behalf of the criminal and in them criminalized a young girl, to those who welcomed the criminal back into society whilst shunning and scorning the victim, to those who found it more convenient to close their eyes to something they did not want to see rather than face the truth and take a stand, the sad fact of the matter is that you, each of you, perpetuated abuse.

It is sad, and it is a fact. Doug Wilson, Christ Church, Peter Leithart, and Trinity Reformed Church, by failing Rose and her family, perpetuated abuse — and consequently failed another woman and another family as well. While Rose cannot change what happened to herself or what happened to this other woman and her family, she hopes that by speaking up now, she can save others from future harm:

For speaking out about my abuse I’ve been told that I’m ‘hungry for drama’, ‘living in the past’, ‘sensation seeking’, and a ‘pot stirrer’. I’ll bear each of those labels if it means one hurting girl will read this blog and know that her value is greater than what she’s been made to believe by an abuser and that she, too, can speak out, or if it means that one man in a position of power will look closely at his own motives and make the changes necessary to, insomuch as he is able, ensure the safety and well-being of those who look to him for guidance.

What happened to Natalie Rose is a tragedy. And how Wilson, Leithart, and their churches responded is not only an atrocity; it’s also a sin. It is an atrocity because their response only caused a young woman more pain and trauma, and no justice. And it is a sin because Wilson, Leithart, and their churches refused to follow the path of Jesus by caring for a hurt and wounded sheep. Instead they welcomed a wolf back into their fold and slammed the door on the wolf’s victim. What this communicated to that victim, now a brave survivor, is clear. As Rose asks, “How can an army of people turn away a young girl who needs their love more than anything?” 

How indeed. That is a question that Doug Wilson, Peter Leithart, and every member in their churches and communities who failed a broken young girl will have to answer before God.

To conclude, I’d like to share Natalie Rose’s courageous declaration of fearlessness and freedom. (And Natalie, if you’re reading this, know that we here at Homeschoolers Anonymous stand in solidarity with you and respect your amazing courage. You are always welcome to join the private Homeschoolers Anonymous community; just send us an email.) I hope Natalie’s courage in sharing her story can inspire other survivors to bravely speak up, too:

I will say it now; I am not ashamed, I will not keep quiet, and I care not what anyone thinks of me – I have only myself to answer to… My daughter will know my story and I will equip her with the tools to protect herself.

UPDATE, Wednesday, September 9, 2015, 1:30 pm PT:

Several corrections were made this story after Natalie Rose, the abuse survivor bravely speaking up about Jamin Wight, pointed out inaccuracies. First, we stated that that Doug Wilson and Christ Church refused communion to Rose; however, they actually withheld communion until Rose was willing to meet with the church elders, something she refused to do as a result of the traumatizing nature of the whole ordeal. Second, we stated that Rose and her family left Christ Church. This is only partially true. While Rose and her father left the church, her mother and younger sister stayed. Our story has been changed to reflect these clarifications. You can read Natalie Rose’s comment in full here. Accuracy and truth in reporting is important to us at Homeschoolers Anonymous, so we are grateful to Rose for helping us meet these standards.

We are all a bunch of hypocrites

Julie Anne:


I think I’ve hit the “reblog” button just one other time. Rebecca’s post is so good and really identifies what I’m struggling with.

Each week I try to plan out articles for the week, yet it seems each week celebrity Christians never fail to give me too much to write on.

Thank you, Rebecca, for this excellent article! and bringing me back “home.” when so much of Christianity fails us. ~ja

Originally posted on Prone to wander...:

OK, maybe not all of us, but far too many of us. The internet is full of our hypocrisy.

We preach conservative family values and wave our brand of Christianity like a triumphant banner guaranteeing success — and, when caught actively pursuing adulterous affairs and paying for sex, we cry that we are poor, helpless addicts in need of rehab.

We amass a following and enjoy our status as theologians — and, when our names are found listed on a website of those seeking adulterous affairs, we cry that we are lonely widowers, overcome with curiousity, and that we stopped short of physically fulfilling our lusts.

We preach grace and, when forced to admit our adulterous affairs, blame our wives for being unfaithful first, and thus forcing us to find solace in the arms of other women.

But it’s not a new thing, this hypocrisy. It’s ongoing.

We preach against homosexuality…

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Pastor Doug Wilson, A Serial Pedophile, and the Real Victims

Pastor Doug Wilson and Ed Iverson encourage marriage of Pedophile Steven Sitler, Christ Church

Sins are like grapes; they come in bunches. ~Doug Wilson

Doug Wilson, Steven Sitler, Pedophile

I read a disturbing article yesterday that sent me reeling. I think we always want to hope for the best in people, but after having seen this pattern taken place so many times, those who were familiar with the story could see the inevitable train wreck before it took place. Our fears were in fact confirmed this week, and I am heartbroken.

Many times when we hear of breaking scandalous stories, the focus is on the perpetrator and those who enabled the abuse. The background to this story can be broken down into several important topics, and I hope other bloggers will cover some of the other aspects to this story. (A little bird told me that The Wartburg Watch will also be covering part of this story later today.) But for this initial post, the victims will be the primary focus, as they should be. They are the ones we need to protect and defend.

Background Information

In Fall of 2003, Steven Sitler moved from Moscow, Idaho to attend New Saint Andrews College (NSA). Sitler attended Christ Church, pastored by Doug Wilson. When he came to Moscow, ”No one knew at the time, however, that Steven Sitler was also a serial pædophile who preyed upon boys and girls, ages 2–12, and who left a trail of victims in at least two other states prior to his arrival in Moscow” (Source).

In March of 2005, the parents of one victimized child notified Doug Wilson, who advised them to retain the Christ Church’s attorney to accompany them as they notified legal authorities of the crime. This marks the beginning of Sitler’s legal issues.

About this time, Doug Wilson began counseling with Steven Sitler. To make a very long story short, Sitler was convicted, served time, took a plea deal, and will have supervised parole for the rest of his life.

A note of interest is the letter that Doug Wilson sent to the judge essentially defending Sitler and asking for leniency. Yes, you read that correctly – leniency for a serial pedophile! Doug Wilson told the Judge Stegner he had been providing counseling to Steven Sitler for only SIX times, gave him some books to read, and assignments to do between sessions. He stated that at the beginning of their counseling sessions, Sitler didn’t know the nature of his problem, but was later convinced that Sitler was open and honest when he confessed his thought life and behavior.  The final paragraph of Wilson’s letter reads:

I am grateful Steven was caught, and am grateful he has been brought to account for these actions so early in his life. . . . At the same time, I would urge that the civil penalties applied would be measured and limited. I have good hope that Steve has genuinely repented, and that he will continue to deal with this to become a productive and contributing member of society.

Ed Iverson and Doug Wilson Encourage Courtship and Marriage of Steven Sitler

Fast forward a few years and time served, and now a young lady is on the scene. Let me introduce you to Katie Travis. Katie had posted her personal story online, but it has since been taken down. But it is possible to piece together her story from others who have quoted the words from her online journal.

Katie moved to Idaho to attend New Saint Andrews College from Fallon, Nevada. She lived with the family of Ed Iverson whom she had known several years before arriving at NSA. Mr. Iverson was NSA’s librarian and also an elder at Doug Wilson’s church, Christ Church.  Reports are conflicting as to their relationship, whether he was her grandfather by blood or acted as a father figure, but it is clear that she looked to him as a respected father figure, and he readily assumed that trusted role in her personal life.

At the age of 23, Katie was at the prime of life, single, and ready to find a husband and start a family like all young ladies who are brought up in Patriarchy. In Christian Patriarchy circles, women are encouraged to marry young, so 23 years was pushing it. Several reports indicated that Katie felt the pressure to find a husband in short order because most of her friends were courting or married. She asked Mr. Iverson to assist her in finding a spouse, and he eagerly agreed.

Are you picking up on this culture? Katie asked a family friend to find someone to court. He was to choose for her, not the other way around. And this was normal and what Katie wanted.

On August 18, 2010, Mr. and Mrs. Iverson invited Steven Sitler to come to their home for dinner. This dinner was set up for the express purpose of introducing Steven and Katie for the possibility of a future courtship. “Ed Iverson’s description of Katie was that, though NSA was tough for her, she persevered through and she was, “pretty good looking, too” (Source).

While Doug Wilson and Ed Iverson were obviously fine with this possible courtship and marriage, it’s important to note that the Department of Corrections did not support the idea of marriage for Steven Sitler at all.

Steven posted his account of their joyous meeting on the internet:

“We met on August 18th, 2010 at the insistence of Mr. and Mrs. Iverson. One week later we were writing emails like it was going out of style. On Katie’s first visit back to Moscow in October, we had our first date, after which I asked her father if I could start courting her. I got the pleasure of spending Christmas break with Katie’s awesome family and decided on a whim to ask her to “merry” (misspelling intentional, more on that later) me on our second date. Of course it wasn’t really a whim, I had been meticulously planning it for months. She was shocked… and speechless, but finally she said yes, and the rest, as they say, is history. I love you., Katie” (The Real Doug Wilson Encouraged & Presided Over the Marriage of a Serial Pedophile).

Katie and Steven wed on June 11, 2011.  At one time, there was a video of the wedding posted online. It has since been removed, but here is a screenshot of the video. [Note: I was asked to remove the screenshot here.]

Breaking News for the Sitler Case

Yesterday, reported (my bolding):

“A Latah County 2nd District Court judge ordered Tuesday that a convicted sex offender, Steven Sitler, must continue to have an approved chaperone present, within his direct line of sight, at all times he is around his infant child in the wake of new disclosures of “contact resulting in actual sexual stimulation.”

This was the train wreck we feared. The article stated that Katie was now disqualified as a chaperone “for failure to report disclosures related directly to the couple’s son and Sitler was required to move out of their home” (Source).

Ok, this is just sad for all involved.  I have a lot to say about Doug Wilson but I’m biting my tongue for the moment. What I’d like to discuss is Katie.

Katie’s World as Wife and Mom

Katie and her infant son are victims of her husband’s criminal behavior. Imagine Katie being in a town away from parents and her own pastor and trusted father figure selected a serial pedophile for a husband. They had to convince her that Steven had repented. Who was she to second guess Mr. Iverson and Pastor Wilson?  They wouldn’t do anything to harm her, right?

In these circles, Katie would be expected to serve and submit to her husband and bear his children. But how does that work when the State says he can’t be around children? Doug Wilson knew this before he married them. Professionals warned that marriage was not a wise idea, but the State had no laws to prevent it from happening.

The article states that “the Idaho Department of Corrections would try to remove his wife and parents as chaperones.” This suggests to me that Katie and parents were not responsible in guarding the baby. Do you see this never-ending conflict? Katie of course wants her husband to have a relationship with his son, but yet she also has to police him? How does this work in a home where she is to obey her husband as head of the home? What an awkward position to put grandparents in, watching Steven like a hawk. There is no relaxing in this home, there is always a threat if Steven is in the premises.

but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin,
it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.  
Matthew 18:6


Life Sentence

When Ed Iverson and Katie’s parents agreed to the courtship of Katie and Steven, and then Doug Wilson agreed to officiate in this fiasco of a wedding, they pronounced a life sentence on Katie and her child, and extended family.  She will never be able to live as a normal wife and mother. This infant has already been sexually violated. Imagine the emotional stress in the home, always looking, trying to be vigilant, yet also trying to find a sense normal. There is no good thing in this situation, and Doug Wilson as pastor failed this young woman and her child. This is shameful behavior for a pastor who is supposed to be shepherding and protecting. What kind of shepherd intentionally puts sheep in harm’s way?  One who is arrogant to think he can determine whether a serial pedophile is repentant or not.

The actions by Doug Wilson, I believe, also constitute as spiritual abuse. Katie put her trust in her spiritual leader to guide her and protect her. He asked for leniency for Steven – that is not protecting her. Wilson married them. That was also not protecting her. How might this affect how she trusts spiritual authority? If her pastor told her this, will she be upset at God for allowing it to happen? There are so ways this could lead to a real crisis of faith. I pray it doesn’t.

I sure hope Doug Wilson apologizes to this family for the harm he has caused them. What a disgrace not only to this family, but to the world as they once again see how Christian leaders mess up so badly.
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