Attention Homeschool Moms: A Potential Homeschool Mom Asks about Agenda-Free Christian Homeschool Curricula


Christian Homeschool Curricula:  How can we find safe and agenda-free material to use?



On the SSB Facebook page, I posted a link to an article, Duggar Family to Homeschool with Alpha Omega Publications). The Duggar family, as you may be aware, is the quiverfull family on the very popular TLC show, 19 Kids and Counting. The Duggars are a homeschooling family and previously supported and aligned with Bill Gothard and his teachings and used his ATI program for homeschooling. Lana Hope has a great article, The Duggar Family and ATI, which might help give a glimpse into this “curriculum.” It really is not curriculum, but character-based Gothard rules.

Although the Duggars have not spoken out publicly against Gothard or his teachings since his public sex scandal, they are starting to use new curricula this year.

Alpha Omega Publications is excited to announce that the Duggar family from the TLC reality show 19 Kids and Counting has chosen AOP as its choice for quality homeschool curriculum.

When I started homeschooling in the early 90s, I went to listen to Christian homeschoolers speak and they would often sell curricula in another room. But one thing I didn’t consider was this: those running the homeschool conventions had an agenda and they only sold curricula which matched their agenda. At that time, I did not know about Reconstructionism or Patriarchy. Slowly, I found myself following and adopting some of the dangerous ideologies which I believe contributed to my family getting involved in a church that functions like a cult.

Interestingly, the path of ideologies took me away from what my original intent of homeschooling: academics, but instead focused more on extra ideologies. What is strange is that I didn’t realize I had gotten on board this train until it was too late.

Now there are a variety of homeschool conventions. But those who are starting out are rightly concerned when they hear of Patriarchy and some of the dangerous ideologies.

A future homeschooling mom wrote a great comment on the Facebook page which is the basis of this post:

I have a question. I’m considering homeschooling next year and I want Christian based material but I also want to stay far far away from the creepy patriarchy stuff. Any recommendations towards a general direction would be helpful for materials. Thanks so much!

So, I thought it would be good to have a post dedicated to homeschool curricula. Let’s use this post to identify curricula that has bad ideologies and ones that are free from ideologies. I’m going to start of with a few examples of older homeschool material and how to dig deeper to find those ideologies which may be hidden.


Bad Homeschool Material



It’s important to be very careful with history. David Barton is a prime example of one who has infiltrated the Homeschool Movement with his revisionist history. His materials were sold at homeschool conventions and he has been a popular speaker as well. The article, Why you need to know about David Barton, will help explain what might not be so evident by simply picking up his curricula.

Watch for words like prov historyProvidentialgenerational, or visionary.  That language is used by Reconstructionists.  An example of this is in the book, America’s Providential History, which is used in Beautiful Feet materials.  I loved Beautiful Feet guides and the selection of reading materials they used in studying history; however, when combined with America’s Providential History, it then becomes tainted with Reconstructionism. So, if you use Beautiful Feet materials, look carefully at the assignments and ditch the America’s Providential History portion.

This is an example of how you can pick and choose material. The bare bones of Beautiful Feet is good, just throw out the junk. Homeschool moms have the freedom to do that.






photo 1Light and Glory for Children (See negative reviews) It’s a good idea to check out reviews. Amazon is a good place to get both positive and negative reviews. You might be getting the idea that your search for good curriculum is going to be a time investment. :)


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These are materials which were sold by Vision Forum (Doug Phillips). Phillips seemed to want to find historical stories which he could use to push his agenda, a money-making agenda, which sounded godly and biblical and had elements of truth which encouraged people to jump on board. He made his money by pushing Patriarchy and elevating men as heroes. Interestingly, a lot of moms (like me) were the ones who promoted Phillips’ empire and bought his materials for their husbands. He made a big deal about the Titanic and godly men coming to the rescue of women and children. Yea, we saw the sinking of his Vision Forum ship when he used his position of authority and violated a young woman. If you see someone trying to add a Christian story into an historical story that you don’t remember, it likely was never there to begin with.

History is a difficult subject to find objective material. The best way to determine someone’s agenda is to research them first.  Who do they promote and endorse? Who promotes and endorses them? Follow the money and campaign trails. I’m not just talking about campaign trails – some who push certain kinds of history books are indeed in the political arena pushing a political agenda as well.

Somewhat related with history, a popular interest among homeschooling parents is Christian worldview seminars.  Again, I would definitely research the key people involved and see what their agenda is. Because someone identifies as Christian does not mean they promote your ideologies.



Reading is an important part of learning.  I remember at homeschool conventions, they’d make a big deal about the content of the books our children were reading – telling us to make sure they were godly, pure, etc.

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Elsie Dinsmore is an example of a book that made the homeschool circuit bandwagon in a big way at Patriarchal Homeschool Conventions (no, they didn’t have Patriarchy in the title, but that’s what they were). Is it any wonder that this book was sold and promoted at Patriarchal Homeschool Conventions and also at Vision Forum?  I’m not sure what book is now being pushed, but I think this is a great example of one that certainly pushed a dangerous ideology that many of us were unaware of when we jumped on the bandwagon:

Take a look at this Amazon Review:

This is quite possibly the WORST children’s book ever written. Why?

1) The heroine is saccharine sweet and endlessly willing to let everyone in her family trample all over her. In fact, she seems to take some martyr-like glee in accepting every kind of scorn and injustice her family heaps on her with nary a complaint. Yeah, way to be a role model for today’s girls, Elsie – unless you think the proper social role for women is a sacrificial victim for…

2) …emotionally and physically abusive men. Yes, that would be her crazy father. The one who insists that his every irrational demand be met instantly and who also doesn’t see the value in showing any love whatsoever towards his (incredibly needy) daughter. This relationship plays out like a bad Lifetime movie. He’s the King of the Castle, and isn’t content to just let Elsie crucify herself in every chapter – he wants to tell her what kind of hammer to drive the nails in with. My bet: poor, sweet Elsie grows up and finds another domineering tyrant to marry (undoubtably a man chosen carefully for her by her father), which will allow her to be suitably emotionally abused the rest of her life. And let’s not forget the subtle eroticism between father and daughter (and other male friends of the family). It was very creepy in places. I found myself wondering several times while reading this book if he was going to start sexually abusing her when she got into her teenage years. And that’s not the right thing to be thinking about when you’re reading a children’s book. Ick, ick, ick.

3) Her disgusting, spoiled, racist, classist, sexist family. In one of the very first chapters, we find Elsie’s sweet “Mammie” discussing how even though she’s not white, she still can get to heaven. Well, isn’t that nice. But do you suppose Jesus will make her come in through the servant’s entrance? And every single one of her relatives is dreadfully spoiled and treats her abominably in every chapter (lucky for Elsie-Please-Make-Me-A-Martyr). Really, not suitable in any way for modern sensiblities. I wouldn’t let my daughter read this book just because of the racism alone. Yes, it was written in 1850 something. But that’s no excuse.

4) The over-the-top Christianity. Half this book is a religious tract. I found myself skipping entire pages just to try to find the plot again amidst the saccharine preaching.

5) Meekly accepting evil or injust behavior from others is NOT a good thing. That’s another message I would never want my daughter to learn. Regardless of one’s religious beliefs, the right thing to do in this world is to stand up for what one believes in, and stand up against injustice and unrighteousness, whether those acts are perpetuated against you or others. Frankly, the only admirable thing Elsie ever did in this book was to stand firm in her religious convictions against the disapproval of her family (falling off the piano stool and all that). On Sundays she was a heroine worthy of emulation. Too bad she was a meek little abused mouse the other 6 days of the week. (Source)

Character Studies

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I hope this picture doesn’t trigger anyone.  These are Bill Gothard’s materials. Some homeschool gurus have downgraded the importance academics and instead pushed character traits as the most important aspect of homeschooling. I disagree with this. I say to live your day teaching character traits while living, working, doing school, and your character training doesn’t need to come from some dude like Gothard. We all know right from wrong and the Bible has enough info on character.





I’ve written about homeschooling and science before.  Here is my $.02 on the topic. In the Homeschool Movement, they push literal 6-day earth creation.  In fact, if you are a curriculum vendor who sells anything but Young Earth Creationism, you may be banned from certain homeschool conventions.

Are you a believer in Young Earth Creationism?  That’s fine and dandy; however, that is a secondary doctrinal issue. Let me rephrase that: you do not have to believe in 6-day earth creation to get to heaven. The Bible does not say that we must believe in Young Earth Creationism to get into heaven, does it?

What happens if you only teach 6-day creation and then you send your student off to college, even a Christian college, where 6-day earth creation is challenged? Will that compromise their faith? Ken Ham and others are so gung ho about 6-day earth creation, it’s an all-or-nothing deal.  Here’s an example:

The majority of Christians in churches probably aren’t sure whether God really created everything in six literal days. Many believe it doesn’t matter whether it took six days or six million years. However, it is vital to believe in six literal days for many reasons. Foremost is that allowing these days to be long periods of time undermines the foundations of the message of the Cross. (Source)

Ham’s claim above is simply not true for me. I really am not a science buff, and frankly do not care how old the earth is. When the Bible says God created the heavens and the earth, I believe it – no matter how long it took, whether those 6 days were figurative or literal. And, I absolutely believe in the message of the Cross.

Now, you tell me, if you are a young earth believer and you want your children to also be young earth believers, what is more important to you, their faith or that they believe in 6-day earth creation? Yup, I thought so.

I think a better way to handle this is to show our children both young earth creation, and old earth creation, and even evolution. Show them what you believe from Scripture.  This should not be a salvation issue, but it became one in my family and many others (despite what Ken Ham would want you to believe).  I have a bit of personal angst about this topic because of this: Ken Ham, Young Earth Creationism, Young People Abandoning Their Faith: My Daughter’s Story. Yea, that’s my daughter’s story. Dang tears.

Be smart. Educate your children with a wide range of topics. Show them the love of learning. Show them a relationship with Jesus Christ. Show them how to read Scripture. Show them how to listen to the Holy Spirit. And then let them fly. Entrust them to God.  This notion of controlling our children through curriculum backfires. Learn that from me.  Please.  

Ok, I’ve done enough talking about some dangerous ideological traps in homeschool curricula, and I would like to solicit your help for other homeschool moms as they are trying to sort through the myriad of curriculum choices no available.

I would like to open the discussion to specific homeschool material currently on the market (not my old-school stuff – lol).

If you know of some questionable curricula, please let us know and explain why in the comments.

Can you recommend agenda-free homeschool material?  That would be helpful as well.

Thanks in advance for your participation.


Insurance Company Files Legal Complaint against Doug Phillips, Vision Forum, and Lourdes Torres-Manteufel


Assurance Company of America files legal complaint against Doug Phillips, Vision Forum, Inc., Vision Forum Ministries, and Lourdes Torres-Manteufel

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Doug Phillips Update, and Beall Phillips Publicly Responds to Michael Farris’ Recent Statement

Doug Phillips and family-integrated churches, his family’s new church, and Beall Phillips’ response to HSLDA’s Michael Farris’ statement

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Fallen Patriarchy Leader Doug Phillips Leaves Former Church and Becomes Member of New Church without “Letter of Transfer”


Vision Forum’s fallen patriarchal leader, Doug Phillips, has become a member of another church without obtaining the required “letter of transfer” from the church he established and formerly led, Boerne Christian Assembly

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The Family-Integrated Church Movement is Getting Some Much-Needed Heat from Critics


The Family-Integrated Church movement is getting some heat by critic, Pastor Shawn Mathis. Pastor Kevin Swanson is forced to make a choice: OPC or National Center for Family-Integrated Churches (NCFIC)

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Which “Attorney David Gibbs” Leads the Lawsuit of Lourdes Torres-Manteufel vs Douglas Phillips – the Father, or the Son?


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There are two Christian lawyers named David C. Gibbs – Jr. is the father and III is the son. This post seeks to halt the ongoing confusion about which Gibbs serves as lead attorney for Lourdes Torres-Manteufel in her civil suit against Doug Phillips and Vision Forum.

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Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part III (Raised in a Totalist Institution)


Using Katie Botkin’s lifeboat analogy, Cindy Kunsman explores the “Second Generation Adult” and Lourdes Torres-Mantefeuel’s alleged sex abuse by Vision Forum’s Doug Phillips

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Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: Part I (An Illustration)


After reading the account of the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel abuse by Vision Forum founder, Doug Phillips, Cindy Kunsman reflects on her own sex abuse story.

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Doug Phillips’ Vision Forum Revisionist (Art) History


Did Vision Forum revise (“photochopped,” as opposed to Photoshopped) art history to promote their Patriarchal agenda?

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Crumbling Foundation: How Do We Move on after Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard, our Spiritual Leaders, Have Failed Us?


How do we move on spiritually when we have based our lives around the teachings of spiritual leaders like Doug Phillips or Bill Gothard who have fallen?

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Queen Bees of Homeschooling Stacy McDonald and Kelly Crawford Don’t Like the “Victim” Word in the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel vs. Doug Phillips Lawsuit


Well-known homeschooling moms Kelly Crawford and Stacy McDonald comment regarding the “victim” word with regard to the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel vs. Doug Phillips lawsuit.


Doug Wilson comments as follows regarding Doug Phillips’s sexual sins against Lourdes Torres-Manteufel:

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(Trigger warning for survivors of victimization by sexual abuse or assault, and/or spiritual abuse.) There has been a heated discussion at Doug Wilson’s blog on an article entitled Vice, Victims, and Vision Forum.

Wilson discusses why he thinks Lourdes Torres-Manteufel should not be called a “victim,” that it is prejudging the case to do so, especially because she was an adult when the sexual incidences occurred.

Here is this classic response from Wilson – someone who has no clue as to how sexual abuse victims respond:

But if his attentions were entirely unwelcome to her, and she was freaked out by the creepster, then we have to ask why she wasn’t down the road at the first opportunity — that night or the next morning — with Doug Phillips receiving notification of her opinion of what transpired via the sound of sirens. That’s not what happened, on anyone’s account, and so I don’t think we should identify her as a victim.

Presently there are 163 comments. I found the comments that affirmed Wilson’s stance repulsive – just as repulsive as this: The Real Doug Wilson Encouraged & Presided Over the Marriage of Serial Pedophile.

I think what was most infuriating to me were the comments from well-known women who are part of Christian Patriarchy Movement. Let’s start with Kelly Crawford. In a few days, she will be speaking fairly near me at a homeschooling conference. Look at the lineup of Patriarchs: Ken Ham, R.C. Sproul, Jr., Scott Brown, Israel Wayne, Marshall Foster. Doing a simple Google search of Doug Phillips’ name with any one of these men will yield multiple results and their connections together in “ministry” work.


Kelly Crawford, Scott Brown, Israel Wayne, Ken Ham


I couldn’t find much of a bio on Kelly. She is a homeschooling mom of 10. She is a speaker and blogger who once had Vision Forum affiliate ads on her blog’s sidebar. Let’s read what she has to say on Lourdes as “victim”:

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Kelly Crawford

April 18, 2014 at 2:58 pm

And finally, I breathe a big sigh of “amen” for the first, that I’ve read, of real discernment over the situation, and a wise call to hold adults responsible instead of perpetuating a “victim” culture. [Emphasis added.]

Since the first pieces started popping up on the scandal, I’m saying, “why is she a victim?” We are talking, by the way, about a confident, assertive young woman and *nothing* like the mousy allusions I’ve read. Don’t ask me how I know.

“We cannot accuse Vision Forum of treating all women like little girls, and then turn around and treat all women as little girls who can’t be expected to say no to a cad at Vision Forum.” [JA note: This sentence she quotes is from Doug Wilson's article.]

I can’t thank you enough for saying this.


Here are two more comments on Doug Wilson’s article from another well-known woman in Christian Patriarchy Movement, Stacy McDonald. (Incidentally, this week her husband, Teaching Elder – another way of saying “pastor” in family-integrated churchesJames McDonald has jumped on the popular defend-the-Patriarchy bandwagon with his own article, The “P” Word.)


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Thank you, Pastor Wilson! You nailed it! I’ve tried to say the same thing and was accused of not having sympathy for the “victim,” which no one can prove she was at this point.

However, I absolutely DO have sympathy for the fact that she was used by a man in power – a man she had respected and revered. She was seduced into a sinful relationship by a “religious” man who represented godliness to her. I agree there is no excuse.

She said she was told that he would marry her. She said she was told that his wife would die soon and they could be together. Sickening. She said she was in love him. Why would these words have even been significant unless she felt deceived by his promises – deceived into going along with it in some way? And then realized it was never going to happen – she was being used.

Any time an insecure young woman is cajoled into a sexual relationship by a man – especially a married man, she is being used and taken advantage of. The impact is multiplied when “religion” is involved.

But, it happens all the time with men in the business world. If she was a 23-29-year old secretary for the CEO of some big corporation, it would be similar. Or perhaps an intern to the president…

That is part of the reason men are called to protect women, which makes this disgraceful thing all the more tragic.

I realize that the fact he was a Christian leader compounds the influence he had over her emotionally, but she still owns her own sin. And I still maintain that the truest victims here are his wife and children. [Emphasis added.]

And that says nothing of the public spectacle it’s become inside and outside the church or the smug satisfaction oozing from every anti-patriarchy blog out there.

Thank you again.

“By this deed you have given great occasion to the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme.” (2 Samuel 12:14)


More from Stacy McDonald:

April 19, 2014 at 9:33 am

I guess I’m confused as to how asking for $10 million dollars from him and his victimized family is a cry for help. And, if she had not gone to the media, but instead sought Christian arbitration; and, if her family, her church, and the people in her community all wound up believing her, wouldn’t that be enough? Besides, “everyone” is not going to believe her anyway.

I’m not saying there shouldn’t be some sort of restitution if her claims are proven true. But the way it is being handled is causing God’s name to be slandered among the heathen (and the church).

I think if it were me, trying the case in the court of public opinion would hardly be satisfying anyway. Everything decently and in order. Isn’t that part of why we are Presbyterian? This is chaos.



Ok, a lot of people reading articles here at Spiritual Sounding Board are connected with the Torres-Manteufel versus Phillips lawsuit. This issue of how the public views Lourdes Torres-Manteufel is important.

These two ladies – Kelly Crawford and Stacy McDonald – are highly respected in Christian Homeschooling networks, so people who adhere to Patriarchy will be inclined to follow their voices.

  • What are your thoughts on their words?
  • What do you see in their comments?
  • Is Patriarchy a safe environment for women who’ve been sexually violated?

Try putting yourself in Lourdes’ shoes and consider taking a look at the entire Doug Wilson article for yourself – Vice, Victims, and Vision Forum – and the range of comments there. (Repeat: Trigger warning for survivors of abuse.) What words of support and encouragement would you have for Lourdes here, in response to the comments about her there?


Patriarchy: Doug Phillips, Bill Gothard, Doug Wilson and Damage Control


Media and blogosphere are abuzz with sex abuse stories coming from Patriarchy proponents, Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips. Gothard releases a statement, other Christian leaders defend Patriarchy.


I tell you what, my head is spinning this week with so many items of news regarding scandals by Christian leaders, especially within Christian Patriarchy.  But one thing is very clear, Patriarchy is under the spotlight. Patriarchy defenders will be quick to blame this attack on feminists (or women bloggers), or from a society who has turned its back on “proper Biblical gender roles”, etc. This is to be expected. But there is indeed damage control going on these past months and will likely continue as investigations and court cases continue.

A couple of newsworthy items:



Bill Gothard

Image from my old Basic Seminar Textbook (teachings by Bill Gothard)


Bill Gothard recently issued a statement. Here is an excerpt from the middle of the statement which addresses boundaries he crossed with young ladies. Be prepared to yawn.

My wrong focus produced a further consequence. Families were made to feel that they must “measure up.” This resulted in some parents putting undue pressure on their sons and daughters in order for the family to be accepted. When there was a lack of love or consistency, sons and daughters saw this as hypocrisy and rejected it. Also, many felt that the expectations where so high that they could never measure up to them. This resulted in a feeling of deep defeat.

This emphasis on outward appearance was also manifested by bringing selected young people to serve at the Headquarters and causing others to feel rejected and offended by my favoritism. My actions of holding of hands, hugs, and touching of feet or hair with young ladies crossed the boundaries of discretion and were wrong. They demonstrated a double-standard and violated a trust. Because of the claims about me I do want to state that I have never kissed a girl nor have I touched a girl immorally or with sexual intent.

Ahem, Mr. Gothard, “touching of feet,” the kind of accounts I read from personal testimonies is not normal behavior:

Foot fetishismfoot partialismfoot worship, or podophilia is a pronounced sexual interest in feet. (Source)



Thanks to for use of this image.  Quote refers to this article by Wilson.


Doug Wilson, the  pastor who said this about marital sex, “A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts,” shared a few words about the Lourdes-Manteufel vs. Phillips case in this article:  Vision Forum and Confessing Your Virtues.

What’s interesting is in the first paragraph, he uses the word “affair.” Does this refer to “extra-marital affair” or “affair ” meaning an event:

Lourdes Torres-Manteufel was 15 when she met Doug Phillips, leader of Vision Forum, back in 1999. On her account, she was an adult when the relationship became sexual. The whole tangled affair is now in the courts, and it looks to become even more tangled and tawdry before we are all done.

It’s important to consider Wilson’s views on sex (the conquer/surrender) issue as we continue digging through his article. Now, keep in mind, that conquer quote had to do with marital sex. Phillips and Torres-Manteufel were not married, so how does he look at this issue for Torres-Manteufel as a single young woman who was an employee of Phillips, one of his church members under his spiritual guidance? (Bolding is done by me for emphasis.)

Now, with brazen threats of suits, Doug Phillips is disobeying the Word in a flagrant way (1 Cor. 6:1-8), and all to avoid paying consequences that he brought down on his own head. The Pauline injunction does apply to Torres-Manteufel also, but Phillips is the one was a teacher for many years, and who professed to understand this principle, and who should be willing to pay every dime he has to prevent this from becoming a greater laughingstock than it already has.

Wilson then goes on to defend Patriarchy and tells us to not view Patriarchy as the issue – that many people get abused without Patriarchy. Patriarchy is Wilson’s core belief, he must defend it. But Wilson claims it was the wrong kind of Patriarchy that caused this problem, not Patriarchy, in general.

Now, what’s interesting is this statement:

But the tell that the wrong kind of patriarchalism was operative in this (along with wrong notions of forgiveness, elder qualifications, etc.) was that after the first incident there was no insistence that Torres-Manteufel be moved to safety.

Moved to SAFETY?  Wait a minute. He just said that the Pauline injunction implies to Torres-Manteufel. If she needed to be moved to safety, that implies a risk involved to her. Oh, so this wasn’t consensual and she should have been moved to safety? Did he forget himself for a minute?  Which one is it?  Is she responsible for her part or not?  Keep in mind in the State of Texas there is a clergy ethic law that says there is no consensual relationship between pastor/church member when sex is involved, regardless of the age.

There were a couple of interesting comments in the article.  The first came from K. Swanson.  Could this be the Kevin Swanson (of Womb Tomb fame)?


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Michael Farris, founder of Homeschool Legal Defense Fund Association (HSLDA) and founder of Patrick Henry College has now come out against Doug Phillips. Doug Phillips at one point was an attorney working at HSLDA. It was after his work at HSLDA that he moved to San Antonio area and started Vision Forum.

I appreciate the fact that he is now coming out against Phillips, but it’s a little late. Farris’ primary place for promoting HSLDA has been at homeschool conventions which were essentially a Patriarchal Pleasure Party. This has been going on for over two decades now. So, I suppose again Farris has problems with Phillips’ brand of Patriarchy, but the rest of Patriarchy is okay? (And I haven’t even touched the rape culture at Patrick Henry College which does not receive Title IX funding, so they are exempt from reporting alleged sex abuse cases.) I am concerned when a college that is heavily into law, seems to sneak around the Title IX issue, leaving young women more vulnerable if they are sexually violated on campus.



Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard have wreaked havoc on Patriarchy. Proponents of Patriarchy will be quick to say that these two men were in sin and believed in the wrong kind of Patriarchy, because when Patriarchy works the right way, it is beautiful, yada yada.

It’s not a matter of what kind of Patriarchy, or the wrong kind of Patriarchy, or substituting a nicer word. When women are treated as objects, as personal property, when they are not allowed to question, to think for themselves, that is wrong. When a woman has to surrender to a man who uses sex to “conquer” her, that is wrong. When a woman must go through her husband as mediator to get to God, that is wrong.

If you haven’t had a chance to read Pastor Jeff Crippen’s article, Attitudes that Promote Abuse in the Church: Major System Flush Needed, he touches on Patriarchy and legalism which is something that were in both Phillips’ and Gothard’s teachings. Jeff brilliantly shared about abuse in the church with an illustration of his hot tub needing maintenance. I think you will appreciate this brief article and the simple truths he presented.

Consider the following kinds of unhealthy, disease-breeding germs that inevitably start growing if we neglect the regular maintenance of the application of God’s truth:

  • Patriarchy: the notion that men, by virtue of being men, are superior to women (who are inferior, more faulty beings by virtue of being women),
  • Legalism: the teaching and practice that announces (overtly or covertly) that faith alone in Christ alone is not sufficient to be justified and loved by God. Works on our part must be added to Christ’s work.  This is a particularly nasty spiritual bacteria that doesn’t get flushed out easily. We need regular doses of a loud and clear announcement that Christ is our righteousness! Perhaps banners by the front door of the church, behind the pulpit, on the….well, all over the place.




Lourdes Torres-Manteufel vs Doug Phillips Lawsuit Informational Resource Page

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This is an ongoing reference post following the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel vs. Douglas Phillips lawsuit. It includes key information on the case, court documents, background story, key individuals, links to news articles, etc.

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Lourdes Torres, Alleged Victim in the Doug Phillips (Vision Forum) Sex Abuse Scandals Files Lawsuit



Lourdes Torres, alleged victim in sex abuse scandal with Douglas Phillips of Vision Forum, has filed a lawsuit against Douglas Phillips

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Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Part 3 – The Timeline


This is an account of the Douglas Phillips’ sex abuse scandal as told by sources close to Phillips’ former business and ministry, Vision Forum, and church, Boerne Christian Assembly. It chronicles when people discovered the depth of his adulterous relationship and describes actions they took.

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Homeschool Mom Responds to the Doug Phillips Scandal and His Influence in Patriarchy, Christian Homeschool Movement and Conferences


A homeschool mother responds to the influence of Doug Phillips in Patriarchy, in the Homeschool Movement, in Christian Homeschool Conferences, and how it has affected her family and her faith.

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Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Part 2 – The Victim


The Account of Doug Phillips and the Victim

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BREAKING: Doug Phillips Threatens Lawsuit Against Former Vision Forum Associates Who Had Earlier Confronted Him about His Sexual Sins


Months after issuing public apologies, Doug Phillips threatens legal action against three former Vision Forum associates, Jordan Muela, Peter Bradrick, and Bob Renaud.

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Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Part 1 – The Puzzle of Control

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Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight:  The Puzzle, Types of Control by Church Leaders, Vision Forum, Boerne Christian Assembly, and a Characterization of Phillips

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Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight: Introduction


Attempting to Set the Doug Phillips Record Straight:  Introduction

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What is a Husband’s Role in His Wife’s Spirituality?


What is a husband’s role in his wife’s spirituality?  Is he responsible for sanctifying her?

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How Influential Was Doug Phillips and His Teachings?


Taking a look at Doug Phillips’ strong influence in the Homeschool Movement and Family-Integrated Church movement

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Restoring What the Locust Has Eaten: Two Years of Blogging Milestone Today and Gratefulness


Two years of blogging, two years of growth, hope for those hurt by church abuse

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Learn to Discern: Response to the Doug Phillips Sex Abuse Scandal

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Learn to discern – taking a closer look at a response to the Doug Phillips sex abuse scandal

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How do you warn someone about a dangerous spiritual group? What if that person is your spouse?


How do you warn someone about a dangerous or spiritually abusive leader or group?  What if that someone is your spouse?

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Christian Patriarchy is Alive and Well: NCFIC Director Scott Brown Moves into Position to Fill the Void Left by Doug Phillips/Vision Forum


Scott Brown of NCFIC is posed to fill the void left by Doug Phillips and Vision Forum to further the Christian Patriarchy Movement among homeschool families and family-integrated churches by promoting Reconstructionist and Patriarchal agendas. Continue reading

TW Eston, Co-Blogger at Jen’s Gems blog is a Rushdoony Fan and a Kinist?

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TW Eston blogs with Jen at Jen’s Gems blog who has been exposing Doug Phillips of Vision Forum.  It’s been pretty obvious that he is a fan of Rushdoony, but he’s also Kinist?

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Christian Patriarchy Movement Pressures Stay-at-Home Daughters to Choose Whom She Will Serve First: Daddy or God

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Who is benefiting by keeping grown adult daughters at home and single?  A look at Christian Patriarchy espoused by Doug Phillips; Steve and Teri Maxwell and their daughter, Sarah; and Geoffrey and Victoria Botkin and their daughters, Anna Sofia and Elizabeth.

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Disturbing Reconstructionist Connections with Oscar Nominee Film, “Alone Yet Not Alone”


The “Christian” film, “Alone Yet Not Alone” has received a nomination for Best Original Song, sung by Joni Eareckson Tada, but what questionable activity propelled it to that spot and who are some of the people connected with this film and the Christian film industry?

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The Christian Patriarchy Movement’s Dark Secret of Wife Spanking

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As Doug Phillips and his Vision Forum ministry is sinking, stories of abuse among Christian Patriarchy are surfacing:  domestic violence, wife spanking, etc, among other well-known circles such as RC Sproul, Jr., etc.

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