ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Clergy Misconduct, Domestic Violence and Churches, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Failure to Report Crimes, Legalism, Mandatory Reporting, Misuse of Scripture, Narcissistic Pastors, Paige Patterson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Southern Baptist Convention, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

BREAKING NEWS: Dr. Paige Patterson Terminated, Effective Immediately: No Title, No Housing, No Ongoing Compensation

Paige Patterson, Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, SBC, #Churchtoo, #ChurchToo, #MeToo   *** A new statement was just released at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary: During the May 30, 2018, Executive Committee meeting of the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (SWBTS) Board of Trustees, new information confirmed this morning was presented regarding the handling of an allegation of… Continue reading BREAKING NEWS: Dr. Paige Patterson Terminated, Effective Immediately: No Title, No Housing, No Ongoing Compensation

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Doctrine as Idol, Learn to Discern, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Troubling Tweets

What Does Responding Biblically Really Mean?

*** This will be short and sweet. I'm in the final crunch of school with only 2-1/2 weeks until graduation (woohoo!!). Responding Biblically seems to be thrown around a lot. I just tweeted this because I was thinking about a recent debate on Twitter (which I will write about when I get more time). ***… Continue reading What Does Responding Biblically Really Mean?

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, K.B. Davies, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse

K.B. Davies Says Domestic Violence is No Excuse for Divorce Even in Case of Death

-by Kathi *** K.B. Davies frequently comments on Lori Alexander's Facebook page, The Transformed Wife. Lori allows his comments to stay and doesn't challenge them. Why Lori leaves comments from men like K.B. and Trey unchallenged is mind boggling. Personally, I would distance myself as far away as possible from someone who uses the Bible to… Continue reading K.B. Davies Says Domestic Violence is No Excuse for Divorce Even in Case of Death

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Lori Alexander, Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife

Lori Alexander, Advocate of Women Staying Married to Their Abusers

  -by Kathi Lori Alexander at The Transformed Wife continues to advocate that there is no room for divorce for a spouse experiencing physical abuse. A commentor at her post, For Those Considering Divorce - Stop!, speaks about her mother's best friend who would show up with bruises and black eyes. With valid reasoning she… Continue reading Lori Alexander, Advocate of Women Staying Married to Their Abusers

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, CHURCH GOVERNANCE & POLICIES, Church Governance or Policy Issues, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Failure to Report Crimes, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Meetings with the Pastor, Personal Stories, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Sovereign Grace Ministries Lawsuit, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies, Troubling Tweets

Sovereign Grace Church Leaders Remove Wife from Women’s Small Group Leader Position after Couple Asks Questions

*** Both Jeff Owens and his wife Sarah recently sent out a thread of tweets regarding a recent experience they had at their former (unidentified)  Sovereign Grace church. I think these tweets deserve a wider audience. What you will read is not healthy at all, and people need to understand the dismissive and bullying behavior… Continue reading Sovereign Grace Church Leaders Remove Wife from Women’s Small Group Leader Position after Couple Asks Questions

Christian Marriage, Complementarianism, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, John Piper, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse, The Transformed Wife, Uncategorized

God Loves Victims More Than Saving an Abusive Marriage

Lori Alexander, John Piper, Christian Marriage, Divorce -By Kathi It is no surprise that Lori Alexander at The Transformed Wife is pushing John Piper's words on marriage and divorce. Lori continues to show that there is no room for divorce when a woman is in an abusive marriage. Women in abusive marriages who go to Lori… Continue reading God Loves Victims More Than Saving an Abusive Marriage

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Calvinism, Christian Marriage, Clergy Sex Abuse, Domestic Violence, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, Failure to Report Crimes, James Dobson, John MacArthur, Legalism, Mandatory Reporting, Mental Health and the Church, Personal Stories, Recovery Process, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Spiritual Abuse, SURVIVOR STORIES, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Personal Story: What Did the Church Teach You about Yourself?

Spiritual abuse, sex abuse, patriarchy, domestic violence, Sovereign Grace, Desiring God, CJ Mahaney, John Piper, Mental Health *** *** Part of recovery from abusive churches is coming to grips with what you were taught and how it affected you. Sometimes, and very appropriately, the ability to see this clearly results in anger. Jennifer Michelle posted… Continue reading Personal Story: What Did the Church Teach You about Yourself?

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Frank Page, President of SBC’s Executive Committee, Resigns and Later Discloses Moral Failure

Southern Baptist Convention, Frank Page, Sexual Misconduct *** Today, Frank S. Page, President of the SBC Executive Committee, announced his retirement on Twitter: https://twitter.com/frankpagesbc/status/978624415452880896 https://twitter.com/frankpagesbc/status/978624415452880896 https://twitter.com/jdgreear/status/978628734059196416   Many people thanked him for his good service to the Lord, along with ordinary  sentiments, but he left out something that was kind of important - that he was… Continue reading Frank Page, President of SBC’s Executive Committee, Resigns and Later Discloses Moral Failure

Christian Marriage, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Spiritual Abuse

The Dynamics of Spiritual Abuse Within Domestic Abuse

Lori Alexander, Domestic Abuse, Spiritual Abuse     -by Kathi I have the privilege of volunteering with a local police department as a victim advocate. I consider it an honor to work with the officers at this department because I find them to be kind and compassionate toward victims of domestic abuse. During my training,… Continue reading The Dynamics of Spiritual Abuse Within Domestic Abuse

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Survivor Emily Jaeger Responds to Bill Gothard’s Reactions to Her Revealing She is “Jane Doe III”

Bill Gothard, sex abuse, cults, lawsuit, Emily Jaeger, freedom, IBLP *** A note of introduction from Julie Anne: Emily Jaeger is one of the sexual abuse survivors and plaintiffs in the Bill Gothard/IBLP sex abuse lawsuit. Her official statement about the lawsuit was posted on Spiritual Sounding Board a few days ago. Then someone close… Continue reading Survivor Emily Jaeger Responds to Bill Gothard’s Reactions to Her Revealing She is “Jane Doe III”

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BREAKING: Lawsuit against Bill Gothard and The Institute in Basic Life Principles Dismissed

Bill Gothard, IBLP, Sex Abuse, Lawsuit *** I have received the following statement from the plaintiffs in the lawsuit against Bill Gothard and The Institute in Basic Life Principles. *** *** The statement reads: Our Statement Due to the unique complexities of this case, including the statutes of limitation, we have made the difficult decision… Continue reading BREAKING: Lawsuit against Bill Gothard and The Institute in Basic Life Principles Dismissed

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, C.J. Mahaney, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Disturbing Trends, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Dr. Albert Mohler, Failure to Report Crimes, John MacArthur, John Piper, Justin Taylor, Mandatory Reporting, Mark Dever, Mark Driscoll, Owen Strachan, Phil Johnson, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Tullian Tchividjian, Voddie Baucham

Will Those in the Real Gospel-Centered Churches Please Stand?

Gospel-Centered Movement, TGC, YRR, Calvinists, Jared Wilson *** Over at The Gospel Coalition website, Jared Wilson has published the Top 125 Influences of the Gospel-Centered Movement. Now, I admit at first, I had assumed that he was talking about all influential Christians. As I read more of his intro, I saw that he was really… Continue reading Will Those in the Real Gospel-Centered Churches Please Stand?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Church Discipline Process, Complementarianism, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Patriarchal-Complementarian Movement, Personal Stories, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Women and the Church

BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

Mike Lawyer, Counseling, Abuse in Marriage, Abuse of Authority I have been in contact with a woman named Gen, who has agreed to let me post this letter she received from Mike Lawyer, "on behalf of Christ Church Session." Christ Church is Doug Wilson's church in Moscow, Idaho. If you would like to learn more… Continue reading BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Sex Abuse, Ravi Zacharias, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Guest Post: My Dinner With Ravi: An Atheist meets the “Great Apologist of our Time.”

Ravi Zacharias, RZIM, Steve Baughman, Apologist, lawsuit, sex scandal *** This article was originally posted at the blog, Ordinary Times on culture and politics and was reprinted by permission. It is written by attorney Steve Baughman who has spent the last 2-1/2 years trying to get Ravi Zacharias to come clean with his exaggerated academic… Continue reading Guest Post: My Dinner With Ravi: An Atheist meets the “Great Apologist of our Time.”

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, It's All About the Image, No-Talk Rule, Ravi Zacharias, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority

Two Posts Containing Ravi Zacharias’ Personal Emails Were Removed: Why? (Updated)

Ravi Zacharias, RZIM, Clergy Sexual Misconduct *** NOTE: This post is updated. The earlier version is at the bottom of this post. When I began blogging, I did so to tell my own spiritual abuse experiences. There were no rules. I followed my heart. I still do the same today. I probably do things that… Continue reading Two Posts Containing Ravi Zacharias’ Personal Emails Were Removed: Why? (Updated)

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Failure to Report Crimes, It's All About the Image, Leaving the Church, Mandatory Reporting, Meetings with the Pastor, Mental Health and the Church, No-Talk Rule, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Bullies, Statute of Limitations

First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

#MeToo, #ChurchToo, Sexual Abuse, Harassment, Church *** The hashtag #MeToo has been trending for quite some time on Twitter. Women who have been sexually harassed or abused have been identifying themselves as survivors of sexual harm, indicating it with the hashtag, #MeToo. But now, there is a new trending hashtag, #ChurchToo. The stories that you… Continue reading First #MeToo, Now #ChurchToo: Sexual Abuse, Harassment, and Mishandling in the Church

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: Know Your Resources

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Resources -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. This month I have asked the church to become educated about… Continue reading Domestic Violence: Know Your Resources

Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Desiring God, Divorce, Doctrine as Idol, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Gender Roles, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Beliefs -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence.   The church can be incredibly helpful to victims of domestic… Continue reading Domestic Violence: A Call to the Church – Reevaluate Your Beliefs

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Spiritual Abuse, PTSD, and the Aftermath

Spiritual Abuse, PTSD, Recovery, Beaverton Grace Bible Church, Chuck O'Neal *** When someone deals with spiritual abuse, it can have lasting consequences. One popular response is making the decision to no longer go an institutional church. I get that. I'm pretty sure I relayed the story either in a post, or in comments, that one… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse, PTSD, and the Aftermath

Desiring God, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Doug Wilson, John Piper, Lori Alexander, Mark Driscoll, Spiritual Abuse, The Gospel Coalition, Women and the Church

Domestic Violence: Education is the Key to Better Church Response

Domestic Violence, Church Response, Education -by Kathi I am pausing our Sunday Gatherings for the rest of October. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I would like to take this time to talk about how the church can effectively respond to domestic violence. The first time I was educated about domestic violence was in… Continue reading Domestic Violence: Education is the Key to Better Church Response