ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Personal Stories, Safe Churches, Single and Christian, Small Groups, Well Done, Church Leaders!

We are Image Bearers of Christ in Our Marriages and in Our Singlehood

" . . . unless the church treats all individuals as image bearers of Christ, we will not be the Body of Christ as the church was intended to be."


My Personal Mental Health Journey

So..right now I am living life to the fullest....camping with my kiddo and friends. Bike Bubba made a comment regarding getting off my meds and it reminded me that I forgot to give an update on that part of my life, too. I posted about it on my Facebook page and on Twitter, and once… Continue reading My Personal Mental Health Journey

Biblical Counseling, Christian Marriage, Divorce, It's All About the Image, Julie Anne's Personal Stories, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab., Mental Health and the Church, Personal Stories

A personal update from Julie Anne:

Today is my birthday. This morning I woke up happy, smiling, and very excited to be alive and well with a great home, a great job, and great family and friends. But I’d like to give you a window into what it was like this time last year. I was not well.

Christian Marriage, Divorce, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab.

What is in a Name: When Your Spouse Refuses to Call You By Name

...Yet into the third decade of our marriage, he chose to call me by a name I despised, yet forgot my given name. Or did he really forget?


Blog Update

I indulged in this bouquet from my local farmer's market yesterday. Admin note: well, if it weren't for Kathi posting her Sunday posts, this blog would probably be officially dead. THANK YOU, Kathi!!!! I didn't plan for the silence from me. It just happened. I'll explain more later (sooner, rather than later). It will all… Continue reading Blog Update

Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Ravi Zacharias

Ravi Zacharias Dies; More Lies Uncovered

The two former Ravi-colleagues both clearly remember that Ravi did not preach at the graduation. That was a role reserved for the college president. So they checked the program from that day and then shared it with me.

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Ravi Zacharias

Before Evangelicals Canonize Ravi Zacharias, will they learn from Jean Vanier and L’Arche?

The evidence against Ravi Zacharias is, after all, serious and compelling. If evangelicals ignore it they will show the world that they do not take their Holy Bible seriously (1 Timothy 5:20).

Open Blogging, Personal Stories, Safe Churches, Self-Care, SPIRITUAL SOUNDING BOARD

Checking In: How Are You Holding Up Under the COVID-19 Lockdown?

So . . . how are you doing with this pandemic? How is it affecting you emotionally and spiritually? Are you staying connected with people? What kinds of things are you doing at home? Are you doing anything differently?

Clergy Misconduct, Crazy Things Church Leaders Say & Do, Disturbing Trends, Extra-Biblical Nonsense, It's All About the Image

Christian Music Artist and Pastor Steve Camp Puts God to the Test with #COVID-19

But the people who went to the church may or may not have been infected with the virus. Why was this necessary? Oh yea, it wasn’t.


The Ravi Zacharias Legacy: Fans, Falsehoods, and Yet Another Troubling Question — by Steve Baughman

Investigating a suspect who exercises his right to remain silent can be a challenge. The suspect provides no information, so one can spend loads of time pursuing hunches that lead nowhere, or worse, to egg on the face. But with Ravi Zacharias it’s been easy. Almost every one of my hunches has led to evidence of significant deception by the man Chuck Colson called “the great apologist of our time.”

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Council for Bibl. Manhood & Womanhood, Gender Roles, Owen Strachan

Owen Strachan’s Logical Conclusion: Jesus Must Have Been Buff

But still - what a bunch of malarkey. And what in the heck does it mean for a man to be "willfully soft physically?" Does this mean that anyone who doesn't work out is not spiritual?

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Bill Hybels, Clergy Misconduct, Egalitarianism, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Willow Creek Church/Willow Creek Association, Women and the Church

Bill Hybels’ Mentor, Dr. Gilbert Bilezikian, Accused of Clergy Sexual Misconduct: A Personal Story

I’m writing to tell the story of my victimization by Dr. Gilbert Bilezikian, who was Bill Hybels’ professor and mentor, and was very influential in the development of Willow Creek Community Church. This is a story I take no pleasure in telling.

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Abuse Systems and Transformation Tools, Leaving the Church, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Spiritual Bullies

When “O Holy Night” Becomes a Nightmare to Someone Whose Faith Has Been Harmed

"This performance is so sincere and heartfelt, shows a high level of skill, and may be the very one you love best of all. I think it is just awful, the perfect expression of a particular culture that I used to think was just distasteful and now believe to be rotten to the core."

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Christian Marriage, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Dr. Wayne Grudem, Marriage, Marriages Damaged-Destroyed by Sp. Ab.

Domestic Violence Survivor Responds to Wayne Grudem’s Change of Opinion on “Allowing” Divorce for Abuse in Marriage

Next time you meet a divorced survivor, look in her eyes with kindness and ask yourself how bad it had to be to risk all she did.

Clergy Misconduct, Clergy Sex Abuse, Failure to Report Crimes, Sexual Abuse/Assault and Churches, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Authority, Youth Groups

Update on Dr. Wes Feltner of Berean Baptist and Clergy Sexual Misconduct

At the very least, we should have seen Feltner take responsibility for his clergy sexual misconduct. That never happened...

ABUSE & VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence and Churches, Misuse of Scripture, Women and the Church

Pastors and Church Leaders: do you know who is in your audience? Well-intentioned sermons may be harmful to survivors.

Please preach and communicate as if one in three women listening in your audience are victims of domestic violence.