It's always fun to watch which blog posts are popular, so I thought it would be interesting to recap the ten most popular blog posts since the inception of the blog late February of 2012. So, here ya go: 1. Buh-Bye Pastor Edwin Young This was a huge surprise to me. I took a… Continue reading 10 Most Popular Articles of the Year at BGBC Survivors Blog
Category: ABUSIVE FAITH & PRACTICE
John Piper and the Church on Domestic Violence
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; Â Â Â ensure justice for those being crushed. 9Â Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, Â Â Â and see that they get justice. Proverbs 31:8-9 Â Â In an earlier post, Domestic Violence: Â Do Pastors Know Best?, I posted a video of a question and answer… Continue reading John Piper and the Church on Domestic Violence
Spiritual Abuse: Verses Pastors Twist and Misuse to Control
 7 For an overseer, as God's steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain, 8 but hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined. 9 He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction insound[f] doctrine and also to rebuke those… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Verses Pastors Twist and Misuse to Control
Music and Madness
'Tis the season and my kids and I have been playing a lot of this:    and singing in Christmas programs.  There are two final music events this week.  Music is so wonderfully healing and was certainly a nice distraction from some heavier subjects. But hey, did you happen to read about Westboro Baptist Church's website getting hacked… Continue reading Music and Madness
The Homeschool Movement: Its Reconstructionist Roots and Rushdoony’s Influence
"We are authorized by God to challenge all that is not godly!" Rushdoony thundered. "God is angry with the wicked every day, and the sins of the wicked deserve the infliction of God's wrath in this life as well as the life hereafter!" RushdoonyI know the title of this post seems dry and boring. If… Continue reading The Homeschool Movement: Its Reconstructionist Roots and Rushdoony’s Influence
The UnMarried Movie: Singleness as a Result of Rigid and Controlled Parenting
I'm still getting comments on the UnMarried movie posts (More Background Info on the Movie: UnMarried and UnMarried Movie: Is Staying Single Sabotaging Chr... ) and today while looking through my Twitter feed, I noticed quite a few tweets on the topics of modesty and purity. In case you missed the brief movie trailer, here it is:I've discussed… Continue reading The UnMarried Movie: Singleness as a Result of Rigid and Controlled Parenting
More Background Info on the Movie: UnMarried
There is a slice of heaven on earth when we can relate to one another in the church, regardless of the form our family takes, as individuals equal in worth, significance and value. ~Wade BurlesonThe other day, I posted about a new movie coming out called UnMarried. I really appreciated the contributions in the comments. Just… Continue reading More Background Info on the Movie: UnMarried
UnMarried Movie: Is Staying Single Sabotaging Christianity?
WARNING TO SINGLES: You just might blow a fuse after reading this. Brace yourselves.Yesterday I was reading SGMSurvivors.com blog and read this comment:Jenn Grover November 28th, 2012 at 11:06 pmPersona -- don’t even get me started on that line of thinking about singles. CJ got that straight from Mohler. “There is no biblical category for enduring… Continue reading UnMarried Movie: Is Staying Single Sabotaging Christianity?
A Courtship Story: Chryssie Rose
* Â Â * Â Â * Over the past couple months, I've been sharing bits and pieces of the homeschooling movement as it ties in with abuse in churches. Â I've connected a number of times with Chryssie Rose who reads here and is also a blogger and asked if she could share her courtship… Continue reading A Courtship Story: Chryssie Rose
Courtship: The Background and Negative Outcomes
Soon I will begin posting personal courtship stories, so it might be helpful to get a little background of the history of courtship. The courtship model is unquestionably a part of the culture of many conservative churches, conservative Christian groups, and promoted by leaders in the homeschooling community. Some groups who have embraced the courtship… Continue reading Courtship: The Background and Negative Outcomes
Hannah’s Purity Ring Story
After posting the article, Fathers and Daughters: Who Owns a Daughter's Heart?, it opened up a can of worms for Hannah, my 25-year old daughter. For new readers, she's my daughter who was also named in the defamation lawsuit by our former pastor (you can read her story from her perspective: Hannah's Personal Story in Her Own… Continue reading Hannah’s Purity Ring Story
The Offering Plate
I don't usually do this, but this article is just beautiful and . . . radical. It comes from Wade Burleson who pastors Emmanuel Baptist Church in Enid, Oklahoma. You can hear his sermons each week at EChurch at the The Wartburg Watch blog. Thankful for Giving at Thanksgiving Emmanuel Enid receives offerings in our four… Continue reading The Offering Plate
Creflo Dollar Says I’m Bringing A Curse on Myself for Exposing Pastors
What do you think? I don't know a whole lot about Creflo Dollar, but I've heard similar teachings. Am I cursed for exposing "appointed leaders?" This video clip is less than 3 minutes long. I'm not sure I will be able to sleep tonight. I'm so scared, Brother Creflo! Transcribed from the video:We got… Continue reading Creflo Dollar Says I’m Bringing A Curse on Myself for Exposing Pastors
A Word of Encouragement to Abuse Victims Who Use Civil Litigation
My heart really goes out to victims and their families in abuse cases (domestic violence, child abuse, and sex abuse) and I have a huge amount of respect for those who, when realizing that the problem is much bigger than their own personal situation, risk so much by taking it to a new level by… Continue reading A Word of Encouragement to Abuse Victims Who Use Civil Litigation
Fathers and Daughters: Who Owns a Daughter’s Heart?
 “Daughters aren’t to be independent. They’re not to act outside the scope 
of their father. As long as they’re under the authority of their fathers, fathers have the ability to nullify or not the oaths and the vows. Daughters can’t just go out 
independently and say, ‘I’m going to marry whoever I want.’ No.… Continue reading Fathers and Daughters: Who Owns a Daughter’s Heart?
Church Lingo? Do They Have Their Own Language?
When I lived on the East coast and in the South and after some confusion, I figured out that barbecue was not a verb, but a noun. I lived in California and Oregon as a child and in those states, we barbecued "cooked" steaks, chicken, hamburger, hot dogs, etc, on the barbecue. I can hear… Continue reading Church Lingo? Do They Have Their Own Language?
Christians: Happy Halloween or Not?
Pumpkins carved by my two youngest boysLast night I sent Hannah (my eldest daughter, age 25) this text:Your 3 youngest siblings are trick-or-treating. Don't faint.Within seconds, my phone rang and I answered it.Hannah responded, "Who has my mother's phone and where is she?"Many Christians believe that making the day a harvest day or calling it… Continue reading Christians: Happy Halloween or Not?
Homeschool Movement and Abuse? Introduction
 The lawsuit from my former abusive church has come and gone and I have been doing some deep thinking - - trying to figure out what brought us to that particular church - - - what made that church appealing to us?  I had to acknowledge that this church, like other prior churches,… Continue reading Homeschool Movement and Abuse? Introduction
Single Women in the Church: Valued or Not?
Earlier when I posted about Patriarchal Movement in churches, I received an e-mail from Jennifer who shared her personal story with me. I have learned so much from my readers. When Jennifer shared her story with me, I was saddened and shocked that we, the church, have failed Jennifer and women like her.What can… Continue reading Single Women in the Church: Valued or Not?
A Pastor Speaks Out: The Church and Abused Women
The church, domestic violence, women, pastors, spousal abuse    A couple days ago, I was informed about a note a pastor had written to another pastor regarding spiritual abuse.  This spiritual abuse is specifically regarding women and how their role as women is regarded in the church - or perhaps I should… Continue reading A Pastor Speaks Out: The Church and Abused Women
Spiritual Sounding Board 