* * * Questioning authority or raising concerns can be the litmus test to see if your pastor is spiritually abusive or not. * * * * * * Oh boy, is this a biggie. I was really moved when this topic come… Continue reading When Sharing Concerns or Asking Pastors Questions Leads to Spiritual Abuse
Category: Misuse of Scripture
Beaverton Grace Bible Church and Pastor Chuck O’Neal – A Year after They Lost the Defamation Lawsuit
* * * But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blpasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a… Continue reading Beaverton Grace Bible Church and Pastor Chuck O’Neal – A Year after They Lost the Defamation Lawsuit
Good Friday and Dangerous Traditions of Men
* * * My 22-yr old son and I went to a Good Friday service in which the choir performed, John Stainer's oratorio, "The Crucifixion: A Meditation on the Sacred Passion of the Holy Redeemer." The congregants were invited to join in some songs, while other songs were sung by the choir only. In addition,… Continue reading Good Friday and Dangerous Traditions of Men
Partnering with Unbelievers = Unequally Yoked?
* * * While the comments on the recent Homeschooler's Anonymous article have pretty much subsided, e-mails have not stopped. For those who didn't follow the previous thread which now has over 400 comments, a commenter, "R.D.," whom we later found out was a retired pastor, challenged me on whether I, as a… Continue reading Partnering with Unbelievers = Unequally Yoked?
Spiritual Abuse: Verses Pastors Twist and Misuse to Control
7 For an overseer, as God's steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain, 8 but hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined. 9 He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction insound[f] doctrine and also to rebuke those… Continue reading Spiritual Abuse: Verses Pastors Twist and Misuse to Control
A Word of Encouragement to Abuse Victims Who Use Civil Litigation
My heart really goes out to victims and their families in abuse cases (domestic violence, child abuse, and sex abuse) and I have a huge amount of respect for those who, when realizing that the problem is much bigger than their own personal situation, risk so much by taking it to a new level by… Continue reading A Word of Encouragement to Abuse Victims Who Use Civil Litigation
False Teachers Who Mark and Avoid Church Members
I received an e-mail from a missionary today who was involved in a church whose pastor used similar tactics with church members as my former pastor. He sent me a link to look at and I realized I could easily replace his pastor's name with my former pastor's name; he said the same thing… Continue reading False Teachers Who Mark and Avoid Church Members
The Big Elephant: Contend for the Faith or Not!
Note to Fred Butler: My husband and I discussed this post at length, gave me his approval, and also said that if you want to call him, he knows you have our number. Here is the big reveal. What is the big elephant in the middle of the room that so many pastors and… Continue reading The Big Elephant: Contend for the Faith or Not!
All Smoothies are Good, Sermons Suck
** Admin note: This is part of a series of posts that are a bit, well, unconventional. To fully grasp the message and emotions of the series, please be sure to read from the beginning: It's the Same Message No Matter How you Mix it!. *** We like a lot of smoothies in our home. … Continue reading All Smoothies are Good, Sermons Suck
Guest Poster: Twisting Scripture to Legitimize Lawsuit
* * * My readers continue to provide excellent dialogue on the topic of the defamation lawsuit and whether the Bible condones lawsuits among Christians. This one was worth a blog post. Thank you, Anonymous! To new readers: Chuck O'Neal and Beaverton Grace Bible Church filed a defamation lawsuit against… Continue reading Guest Poster: Twisting Scripture to Legitimize Lawsuit
Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here, Part 4
** This post will wrap up the Korah series. Earlier, I highlighted some "Korah" comments in the comment section. The commenter identified as "Korah" and I made light of the Korah reference. I want to give a little background to that situation. I know who "Korah" is and know what this particular family experienced. When… Continue reading Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here, Part 4
Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here?, Part 3
** We are currently in Part 3 of the Korah theme. In Part 1 we discussed pastoral authority and how the Korah scripture was used to exert the pastor's "imagined" authority over people. Part 2, the issue of "do not question authority" was discussed. In Part 3, we will continue to discuss the pattern… Continue reading Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here?, Part 3
Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here?, Part 2
** This is Part 2 of the Korah series. In Part 1 we discussed pastoral authority and how the Korah scripture was used to exert imagined pastoral authority over people. Another pattern I saw when the Korah scripture was used (or abused) is: what happens when congregants ask questions. We've touched on this subject… Continue reading Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here?, Part 2
Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here? Part 1
** One recurring theme that continued to resurface in our time at BGBC was the "sin of Korah". I've heard this used a number of times when congregants asked questions or shared concerns with the pastor. It was brought up again recently in communication with someone privately and also in the blog’s comment section. It’s… Continue reading Just Who is Acting Like Korah Around Here? Part 1
The Bully Pulpit
* * * "Pulpit", from the eyes of my 9-yr old son * * * According to Wikipedia.org, a bully pulpit is: "An older term within the U.S. Government, a bully pulpit is a public office or other position of authority of sufficiently high rank that provides… Continue reading The Bully Pulpit
Obey Those Who Rule Over You and Be Submissive, Part 2
* * * In Part 1, I shared my story about how Hebrews 13:17 was used with me as I questioned an elder about the firing of our personal friend. I discussed the feelings I had when it felt like the elder was lording over me the idea that it was… Continue reading Obey Those Who Rule Over You and Be Submissive, Part 2
Obey Those Who Rule Over You, and Be Submissive, Part 1
* * * One of the last Sundays at the church, I arrived only to discover that our long-time personal friend who was also on staff at the church was fired. We were shocked and deeply saddened. I had arrived early for praise and worship practice as normal, but was obviously… Continue reading Obey Those Who Rule Over You, and Be Submissive, Part 1
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