The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Birth Control, Submission
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Chapter 10 – Birth Control and Having Children
This short chapter is essentially this blog post disguised as a book chapter. I would like to ask that we not debate whether or not women and families should use birth control. That is a decision that should be made individually and between couples. With that, are you ready?
Lori starts off the chapter with:
The possibility of conceiving and bearing children can happen early and often in a loving marital relationship because men are almost always ready for sex.
It’s a good thing men are always ready to get things going because:
Women usually love sex when they are ovulating and their body is preparing to become pregnant.
Again, men are nothing but walking sex machines where women seem to enjoy it once a month. You poor women with high sex drives are not doing it right! Let’s not get into how sex may change as you age. We’re talking about making babies here!
Lori moves on to talk about different birth control options and chooses to only look at the negative side effects (which are not accurate, in my opinion). There are some positive benefits to using birth control, but since Lori is all about making sure you have all of the children God wants you to, obviously there is nothing positive about birth control.
Even though Lori has strong thoughts about birth control, she tells readers that it is up to each couple to decide what to do about birth control and to stay out of couple’s decisions about how many children to have. If it’s nobody’s business about a couple’s choice of birth control and number of children they want, then why is this chapter in the book?
I am assuming that this chapter is in the book because she admonishes women that the husband has the final decision about birth control, stating,
“A woman who goes against her husband in this decision will suffer the consequences.”
What in the world does “suffer the consequences” mean?! How does Lori have any authority to make a statement such as this? My concern with this thought is that there are husbands who are adamantly opposed to birth control even if pregnancy, labor, and delivery is harmful to the wife.
Don’t worry women if your husband wants you to use birth control even if you don’t want to. You are off the hook because:
Husbands will be the ones to stand before the Lord to account for the decisions they made in their homes. We will only have to give account for the way we lived our lives and our submission, or lack of it, to our husbands authority.
Exactly where is this in the Bible?
I don’t know about you, but I happen to notice one very obvious issue left out of this chapter: the fact that there are many women who are unable to conceive children. Did this even cross her mind when she wrote this chapter? I can’t even begin to think of one empathetic or compassionate response that Lori can offer women who are unable to have children so it’s probably best that she not mention it.
Lori ends this chapter with a blog post that is a “funny story.” Lori was working when she had her first baby and Ken told her she could stay home when they had their second. Lori decided she was ready to stay home so she poked a hole in her diaphragm. She was so happy when she got pregnant and was able to stay home again. Lori tells readers not to do this, however, she is able to get away with turning being deceptive into a “funny story” because she was not a submissive wife at the time.
In the end Lori did get what she wanted. Isn’t that what it’s really all about?
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