Tony Miano, Social Media, Doctrine, Salvation, Spiritual Abuse
Tony Miano is a street preacher who is also a member of John MacArthur’s Grace Community Church. Earlier, he claimed he was going to take a break from social media until the first of the year because of his poor behavior (by the way, the above photo is a screenshot from a YouTube video he posted only 3 days ago):
To be frank: social media has been a thorn in my flesh since its inception. While I believe I have accomplished much positive ministry online, and I hope to accomplish more for the glory of Christ, social media has provided me with far too many opportunities to sin. Regrettably, over the years I have taken advantage of too many of those opportunities. At times, through social media I have engaged in narcissism, false humility, instigation, provocation, attention-getting, and other sinful behavior.
During a time of prayer this morning, it became very clear to me that I must hack Agag to pieces (1 Samuel 15:1-34). This is to say I have to stop coddling and toying with my social media sins. I have to kill them–hack them to pieces.
Today I deactivated my Facebook and Twitter accounts. I will not consider reactivating them until after January 1, 2016. At that time, I will confer with my pastors, ministry advisory board, and other men whose counsel I trust to determine if I should venture back into the social media waters. (Source)
Did his elders and pastors and ministry advisory board (including my suing pastor Chuck O’Neal) determine it was okay for him to get back into social media waters? He’s been back into social media the whole time he claimed he was taking a break. He did deactivate his “personal” Twitter and Facebook Account. However, he’s still been busy on Instagram, YouTube, his “ministry’s” blog, and his “ministry’s” Twitter account.
The following is an excerpt from a post in which Tony Miano publicly and spiritually shames his own wife, Mahria. My heart goes out to Mahria who certainly must feel pressure to meet her husband’s spiritual approval and assure him she is saved.
Please read the article, When Confronted by Holiness to get the full context.
Here are some excerpts:
For Mahria, things came to a head on Saturday night–our last night in Iowa. As we sat on the edge of our bed, through tears cried into her hands, which covered her face, Mahria confessed a besetting sin. As she wept, she confessed sin that has likely plagued her since her profession of faith in Christ more than 27 years ago–one that she may not have realized, prior to Saturday night, she allowed and coddled in her life. , , ,
Mahria is now examining herself anew. She is testing herself to see if she is in the faith. She is struggling with a lack of assurance of salvation.
If she is just realizing sin that has plagued her, why does that discount her salvation? What kind of doctrine is Tony adhering to that says if a Christian sins, they lose their salvation?
As her husband, I would love to declare Mahria born-again. Everything in me wants to tell Mahria that she has no cause for concern. In my bones, I want to point Mahria back to the night she responded to the gospel. I want to point her back to the moment we were baptized together. I want to point her to the more than 27 years of love, care, and support she has given me through a career in law enforcement and more than 16 years of full-time ministry.
Oh, how easy it would be to act like an Arminian and tell Mahria all she has to do is “rededicate” her life to Jesus. But I can’t. The Word of God keeps getting in the way.
I cannot and will not be Mahria’s Holy Spirit.
Your actions prove otherwise, Tony.
Whether Mahria is not yet born-again or she is saved and struggling with besetting sin, my plea to Mahria is the same: “repent and believe the gospel.”
I find this post so, so offensive. Tony is putting himself in a position as spiritual judge of his precious wife’s salvation. And then he is parading before the world on social media that she has had some hidden sin for 27 years.
If I could speak to Mahria, this is what I would tell her:
Mahria, it took me a long time to learn this, but you do not need your husband’s approval. Your husband does not get to decide for you whether or not you are a Believer. That’s God’s job. Tony claims he is not your Holy Spirit, but he is acting like he is. Having sin in your life does not mean you are an unbeliever. If you’ve had sin that you didn’t realize for 27 years, and you repent and confess it, your work is done. Christ did the rest for you. You can walk in that grace and confidence. I am so sorry that your husband has decided to use you to further his “ministry.” You should not be used like this. You should be cherished, loved, and respected.
Ideally, I would like to tell Mahria to seek help from her church elders/pastor. Sadly, I’m not so convinced they would see things her way. I understand this kind of pain and abandonment. It is horrible.
Of course Tony would say there is nothing more loving than to encourage his wife to repent and believe the gospel. However, he shows no discretion, no respect, no decency, no respect of privacy. My heart literally ached when I read this. This it not love in action.