Lori Alexander, John Piper, Christian Marriage, Divorce
It is no surprise that Lori Alexander at The Transformed Wife is pushing John Piper’s words on marriage and divorce. Lori continues to show that there is no room for divorce when a woman is in an abusive marriage. Women in abusive marriages who go to Lori asking for help will hear this:
You made a covenant before God which cannot be broken.
God hates divorce. You must change your behavior to win over your husband.
Marriage is a representation of Christ and the church. Christ did not abandon the church therefore you must not abandon your marriage. If you decide to leave your husband you will tarnish the reputation of the church.
You must do everything in your power to save your marriage. Your salvation and the salvation of your husband depends upon this.
What Lori and John Piper fail to miss is:
Jesus treated women with respect.
Not once did Jesus command a woman to stay with an abusive spouse.
What God hates more than divorce is found in Proverbs 6: 16-19: “There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.” These are actions that can often be found in abusive marriages.
God is always on the side of the abused and condemns the abuser.
Since Lori Alexander has women who come to her asking for advice, it would be far better for her to be Christlike and show love, compassion, and care toward a victim of domestic abuse. If an abuser is unwilling to change and get help it is not the victim’s responsibility to save her marriage.
If you are in an abusive relationship and are ready for help, please feel free to email us and we will help you find resources in your area. Or, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help at 800-799-7233.