Learn to Discern: Is it better for a Christian woman to marry a kind and gentle unbeliever or an abusive Christian?
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
Over at Karen Campbell’s blog, she’s having a series of articles on dating/courtship/marriage and as I was reading the following, I about had a flippy fit. Quick note: missionary dating refers to young ladies having unsaved boyfriends and hoping to get them converted before saying “I do.”
In more recent years, I am seeing even more of an acceptance of missionary dating, even among homeschoolers and for any number of reasons. Pastors are hesitant to preach about this from their pulpits and those who have been badly burned within the patriarchy movement, in their zeal to run away from the extremes of betrothal and courtship, have swung the other direction and say “Whatever! We rejoice in our Christian liberty.” Some even go so far to say, as I have heard more than one homeschooling mom exclaim, “Well, I would rather have my daughter marry a kind and gentle unbeliever than an abusive Christian man.” Where is the logic in that statement? And even one very conservative and long suffering Christian widow I once knew declared, “I tried being married to a Christian man the first time and I was miserable. This time I will marry an unbeliever.” Source
Ok, folks. Have at it.