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Have you seen this video? I liked it enough that I posted it on my blog’s Facebook page. The person who recommended it, Denny Burk, is one who has publicly given his support to C.J. Mahaney. Just a bit ago, a reader sent me a link to Kevin DeYoung’s blog which features the same video. DeYoung also issued a public statement of support for C.J. Mahaney. Hmmmm
When I originally saw the video, I was focusing on the typical husband/wife relationship in which the wife complains of a problem and the husband tries to “fix” it. It’s a great video to illustrate this common communication challenge in marital relationships.
But let’s take it a step further. I watched the video again in light of the fact that this video is being spread among The Gospel Coalition folks and this time it struck me differently, as it did reader who sent me the link. When watching it, think of the SGM story. Think of the SGM Survivors who have been saying time and again, “Yo, there’s a problem here!!!”
What was the response from SGM church leaders when confronted with issues of abuse in their churches? It was their sin problem. Oh no, not the leaders’s sin, but the sin of ones trying to say there is a problem. The victims have the problem of sin because there is no problem at SGM. Aren’t TGC and T4G folks essentially doing the same thing with regard to their support of C.J. Mahaney? Aren’t they saying, “there’s no problem?” And instead they blame divisive people, women bloggers, etc.
Sharing this particular video within the ranks of TGC gives one the impression that these guys are all about having good communication in marriages. By sharing it, they seem to be publicly saying they really want to be good husbands by being sensitive and sympathetic with their wives. That’s fine and dandy. While it’s nice that the people sharing it are acknowledging a common communication problem within marriages, it’s too bad the ones who are spreading it are unable to see that it’s not about the nail with the SGM survivors.