Purity Gone Too Far?

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Turn your fans on, folks, Song of  Solomon is hot with passionate love and it isn’t of the Puritan kind:

With great delight I sat in his shadow,
and his fruit was sweet to my taste.

His left hand is under my head,
and his right hand embraces me!  (JA still vividly remembers a marriage class at an old church on this particular verse  – – they told us it was a “different” kind of embrace – haha)

Let my beloved come to his garden,
and eat its choicest fruits.

::::Whew, it’s hot in here, crank that fan on high:::::

“Open to me, my sister, my love,
my dove, my perfect one,
for my head is wet with dew,
my locks with the drops of the night.”

We’re like a yo-yo here.  One article, I discuss the full-quiver ideology – – that Christians leaders are telling their people that they need to be having as many babies that God will allow (no birth control, no barrier method, just a propagation free-for-all).   And then I saw this . . . . . . .

      Christian couple maintains abstinence through first two years of marriage

TOPEKA — Jon and Darla Crocker, who dutifully abstained from sex during their 14-month courtship, have remained abstinent after marriage and plan to do so indefinitely.

“If it was holy before, it must be double-holy afterwards,” Darla says.

They have now completed 25 months of marriage without any sexual contact, going about their normal lives, jobs and social calendar with no hint of relational strain.

Sometimes after dinner they will kiss in the kitchen and “start having bedroom thoughts,” Darla says, but they never fail to pull back. Darla breaks away to spray cool, misted water on her face. Jon eats a whole raw potato to take himself out of the mood.

They don’t know when they’ll finally break the pledge, and they feel no pressure. After abstaining so long before marriage, “a few extra years is nothing,” says Darla.

“Of course, we don’t lord it over any other couple who decides to have sex after marriage, but for us it’s about staying faithful to the abstinence message and the holiness involved with that,” says Jon who seems unbothered. “For us, true love waits, and waits, and waits.” •


*****Please be sure to read the comments!!!!

19 comments on “Purity Gone Too Far?

  1. haha, I saw that story a few weeks ago. The whole site is supposed to be like the Onion for Christians. I do know of an actually, real life story of a couple who had waited a year after getting married to consummate the marriage. I think, in this particular case, it was due to ignorance about how one’s body works and what a couple is supposed to do together.


  2. Yes, it is a spoof – lol. I laughed my head off at the eating a raw potato part. But you and I who have experienced the Homeschool Movement can easily see how someone would fall for this.

    Caleigh, I have difficulties comprehending a couple sharing a bed and not being able to “figure it out.” The priest who married us gave us pre-marital counseling and told us of a story where a couple couldn’t conceive and he figured out that they didn’t know how to connect those male/female connecting parts – lol. He wanted to make sure we knew how things “connected.” I think we got it figured out.


  3. JulieAnne

    That may not be what I have in mind of an ideal passioniate relationship but passion or lack of passion between a married couple should be private.

    Why they went public is beyond my imagination, but again its something they did and exposes the opportunity to consider further discussion to what the Bible says about passion.

    If they truly Love each other and choose to abstain and stay loyal to each other and enjoy each other’s company and still enjoy a passioniate kiss and eating raw potatoes to fend off intimacy, I find their intensity rather passioniate and somewhat humorous. As they appear to be attracted to each other.
    (kind of like Lois Lane and Clark Kent in “Smallville”)

    Hopefully, they will spend the rest of their lives together and explore everything the Father in Heaven, wants them to do in life with each other.

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  4. Thankfully, Mark, this is a spoof article. The Larknews.com site is similar to The Onion and pokes fun at various topics. The sad thing is that you and me and so many others know of Christians who might buy into this kind of idea as appropriate and good. Is this couple following biblical principles in marriage of having children, not withholding unless for a particular time of praying/fasting and then coming back together? Nah, this is just crazy made-up stuff. The reality is that anyone can make up any kind of stuff, try to find some verses to back it up and get a following.


  5. 1 Corinthians 7:5: Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.


  6. Julie Anne,

    I never heard of the Larknews.com. I’m a little naive when stuff like this pops up for the first time. (mainly because in this case, its a new one)

    I’m in a profession where hardly anybody tells the truth so it is even difficult to know the cryptic ways people talk to you in avoiding telling the truth whether they go to church or not. (I admit to being cryptic myself)


  7. Mark – I totally pulled your tail. I actually posted this link on the SSB Facebook page earlier and it got some response. After posting that it was a spoof, someone asked me (and rightly so): so how can I believe anything you post now?

    My response was: “You can’t blindly believe anything anyone says. People in positions of trust fail you. I may fail you. We cannot rely on anyone but God.”

    There were so many elements of this story that could ring true that people might decide there is enough truth to follow this. A lot of what my former pastor taught was true – so much of it was true that it was hard to dismiss the part that wasn’t. We must stand on our own two feet and learn to sift through the muck. We must get that pure milk and not blindly follow those who are in positions of trust.

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  8. JulieAnne,

    The reason why I felt this spoof was somewhat believable was because I knew of a certain couple that abstained.
    (I’m not even sure if they were Christians or if they followed some kind of Eastern Asian religion or anything at all)


  9. Call it the Song of Songs or the Song of Solomon – either way it’s erotic and represents similarities between the fertility of earth and her dependence upon the sexual encounter of the male and female of any given species. In her dreams, the maiden dreams that her lover comes to her as King Solomon….I’ve always wondered if that was really a dream or was she fantasizing? I guess we’ll never know.


  10. Julie Anne,

    I was getting ready to dig out some old early Smallville episodes for me and my wife to watch, as it was her one of her favorite shows. I will review the “Homeschool Movement” thread later on.

    I sent a response to your daughter on how I dealt with Hypocrisy @ 8:56 on the your most recent 4/26/13 “Christian Love” post. I’m not suggesting that everybody (Christian or Not) is hypocritical and that going to church alone will help deal with hypocrisy.

    Being the Doctrinally naive person that I am, did make me vulnerable to Spiritual Abuse that was ignited by failing to recoginze the many different Biblical Interpretations and Methodologies among the Pastors, who proclaim to be Baptist. (some of which lack people skills or a gentle spirit consumed in their Methods rather than the Message)


  11. I’m with Mark. Until I started reading the comments, it never occurred to me that the spoof is a spoof. In fact, I’m still not convinced. I’m wondering if the real spoof isn’t that we’ve been convinced that the “spoof” is a spoof, when it really isn’t.


  12. That’s funny, Ed. I think the whole of US might have wondered the same thing. I’m trying to remember – – was it the Brady Bunch that showed a couple (Mike and Carol were their names- – more useless info my brain has retained for no good reason – lol) sleeping in bed together for the first time on tv?


  13. There was a show in the late 40s called “Mary Kay and Johnny” where the couple shared a bed but like Ozzie and Harriet, they were a real-life couple. Before Mike and Carol though there were Herman and Lily Munster and Darrin and Samantha Stephens.

    I thought the couple in the post was real until the last sentence “for us true love waits, and waits, and waits”. There are just too many goofy ideas out there that people embrace.


  14. We had a wedding planned in another state, but got out of an apartment lease on an apartment that was too small for two, so moved in together, staying celibate. Then we went and got the license and the pastor married us in his study on a Tuesday evening. I had work and she had to be in class. And we hadn’t gotten married b/c of sex in any case. So we waited until that Friday.

    And we went ahead and had the wedding in her home church and did not tell anyone we had already gotten married a couple of months earlier. Made for a relaxed wedding. And we have two licenses!


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